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writes:Hi, I am happily married and my husband is a great guy. I just had a pregancy test and it is positive, however I am a bit worried because we did not plan to have a baby for another year or two and I have just got a job offered for a week and I am afraid my pregnancy will effect my employment. My husband will never let me do anything to the baby and we have agreed we keep the baby but how am I going to tell the employer since I have just started work? - Will that effect my employment? I am stressed and need your advise.Thank you very much.Camoz Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): I don't think there is any law on the books that says you are obliged to inform your employer that you have become pregnant, especially if you feel such information would cause your immediate dismissal.
DO NOT SAY ANYTHING. When it becomes apparent see how they react. I hope by then you are more comfortable at work and know the lay of the land as far as your rights and obligations are concerned..
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 You don't say what the job involves - if it is of a clerical nature then I don't think there is any real reason to tell your employer. I didn't tell my employer until I was about 3 months pregnant and needed to think about antenatal appointments. Most respectable workplaces would like to do a health & safety assessment to make sure there is nothing about your job that would harm you or the baby. It is illegal to dismiss you on the grounds of pregnancy, but some employers can use subtle methods of getting rid of would-be mothers. Therefore, I would say don't tell until you have to - unless there is something about your job that presents an immediate problem to your health.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 Job offer for a week? A 1(ONE) week job and you are worried?
Anyway, check your local labor laws. It is in most modern nations illegal to discriminate on gender exactly for this reason. As a society we need women to have babies, so women have to be able to lead a normal life while waddling around creating the next generation.
Mind you, not going to pretend their might not be problems, but that is life. Planning life, what a concept.
Good luck with the baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): Sshhh.. this will sound irresponsible, but it's how we gotta do things sometimes.
You don't have to tell her. She will see it in about five months or so, after you've already got the job and i'm pretty sure she's not really allowed to fire you for being pregnant. Once you're far enough along, you can take maternity leave and get back to work before too long. No harm done. you may not want to lie, or withhold information, but what's more important to you? Your complete honesty or getting the job? It's up to you i'm just giving you another option.
~Sy.
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reader, malteser +, writes (25 July 2009):
 uUnfortunately in life we are faced with issues and unplanned events. This is an unplanned event that you dident expect. I feel the same way i have just finished a 2 year cookery course payed for by my employer and now i am going to leave as i am haveing a baby. My baby wasent planned but it is here and i am going to do the best thing for it.And i am glad that you are going to keep the child eventhough it wasent planned. You dont need to tell your employer right away you can legally wait up to 4 months untill you tell them your news. You may be feeling like crap with morning sickness and other related illnesses. You should wait a while untill you tell your employer unless your job is a danger to your and the babys health then you relly should say something. You need to put into writing your pregnancy, your due date and the date you expect to start maternity leave. Dont be affraid of how they will act as you are protected by LAW and this will help when deeling with matters. So pick the right moment and just tell them good luck to you and your family to be.
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