A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My ex and I dated for a few years, he told me he wanted to be alone and didnt want a relationship. Ive recently found out he is actually seeing another girl now, I dont know what to do. I am so angry but mostly confused and I want answers from him but i know he wont answer my calls. Everyone is saying to get over it and find someone better but its just not that easy. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
You're completely right. It isn't that easy. It takes time to heal when you've been hurt, especially when there's no explanation and the guy you liked is suddenly seeing another girl.
But focus on that. He's with another girl. He lied to you.
That's the first step. He wasn't right for you. So delete his number so you can't call him.
Next just give yourself time. Go out with your friends and soclialize. When you're ready, you'll find another guy who will be for you!.The important thing is to just give yourself time. Lots of luck.
A
female
reader, Beemo +, writes (28 September 2009):
The best advice anyone can give a friend whose recently been through a break-up is always "get over it". The thing they always forget to say is that IT TAKES TIME. Chances are he probably said all those things because he didn't want to hurt you. Try not to play the game every guy wants a girl to play, and that's asking for them back.If it's meant to be, it will be. If not... Well, there's plenty more guys out there.Sure, at the moment, you probably feel awful that he could have done this to you. You want to hate him but no matter how hard you try you know you don't hate him, you just miss him. But day by day it does start to get easier. Keep yourself occupied. Go out with friends. Have fun. It might not even be easy to enjoy yourself much to start with, you just need to break the habit.
...............................
A
male
reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 Who said it was easy?
But do you plan to spend the rest of your life moping about him? He ain't intrested and is with someone else.
So, you got to get over it. Cry out your heart, accept that it is over and go on with your life.
It is like any wound, it will heal, just not at once.
...............................
|
