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writes:This guy and I used to date a while ago but we were never official. He was my first and basically, I wanted a commited relationship and he wanted to be free and party. But when he blew me off for a party one time, I finally had enough and stopped talking to him, despite his efforts to contact me. He tried once again after a year and said he was truly sorry for the way he treated me and asked if we can be friends. I agreed but in my heart, I always had feelings for him and still do. I know that he is still immature even at 24 but he has grown up a little since the last time I saw him because he told me that he realized sleeping around wasn't the most effective way to meet someone and is keeping his eyes open for a great girl. We have a lot in common and it seems he is sexually attracted to me. He likes strong women and I think I showed him that by calling him out on his own sh*t. I really want to show him that I'm a great friend and would make an awesome girlfriend and he already knows the sex is amazing lol How can I open his eyes and win him over?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
Sounds like you're a friend, nothing more. He's single and looking for someone but isn't interested in you. I fancied a girl and she wasn't interested in me at all, even though I knew I'd be a great boyfriend. But I moved on and found someone I really like. You will too. Move on from this guy and find a guy who wants an awesome girlfriend!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 September 2009):
 He has told you he is looking for someone.
He has seen you.
He is still looking.
What more could you do? He has seen what you got to offer and he ain't intrested, or at least not as intrested as you want him to be.
People tend not to change much. What this really means is that if we get used to seeing a person in a certain way, we keep seeing them in that way. He didn't see you as long term material and so he probably never will.
Oh, you can do all the girly stuff but I doubt it will work out. My advice is to move on. Take it or leave it.
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (28 September 2009):
You are strong and I commend you for it. You need to be real clear with him. Tell him your like him "that way" and if he does then you would like to be with him. But if he doesn't then it would be best to stay apart because it wouldn't really be a friendship, it would be unrequited love. (don't say it that way, obviously) Just tell him your not looking to be F'buddies. If he's a man he'll step up. Careful, if he's still a boy he'll try to use you.
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