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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:What kind of flirting by women do men really like? I mean, what types of things get a man's interest going in a good way, getting him intrigued and attracted, and interested emotionally and physically. I mean as opposed to the stuff that just makes a woman seem like she's trying too hard. I'd welcome anyone's opinion, but I would especially love to hear from q1605!
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reader, q1605 +, writes (3 October 2009):
 As underwhelming as it sounds, just be who you are. An approach that is scripted or calculated, tends to come off as, .......scripted and calculated. You guys are hell bent on distancing yourself from his last love, and I don't know how to tell you follow a tough act, when the tough act is you. Overkill is selling him an intensity that can not be maintained.
Barring that you can shove him to the floor while you unzip his fly with your teeth. Men like instant gratification, and I promise you your signals will not be confused with any other intention.
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male
reader, LazyGuy  + ♥, writes (3 October 2009):
 Depends on the guy.
But on the whole, whatever you do, don't overdo it.
Perfume makes you smell nice but you should not set the sprinklers off.
Smile at his jokes, but only the funny ones, fake smiles are fake.
Look up at him but don't make him look down on you.
Whatever you do, don't make him think "What the fuck does she want of me" or worse "wow an easy one!".
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (3 October 2009):
 "offer your time to help them with regard to ironing, dry cleaning runs and things like that"- Huh? Sorry, Sarcy, I don't think most men are turned on when you act like "mommy".
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reader, sarcy24  + ♥, writes (3 October 2009):
 I too would love to hear the views of q1605!
Listening as Caring Guy said is imperative especially about work issues and then give informed non judgemental replies that always make his actions appear to be the right ones. This is truly really boring but it does work but can go on for ever. Being sweet and caring is also important, never say anything bad about anyone and offer your time to help them with regard to ironing, dry cleaning runs and things like that. Being a lady, demure and with limited swearing also works. That will build a relationship and keep them attached and attracted to you.
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reader, old-spinstah + ♥, writes (3 October 2009):
I'm currently struggling with the same issue myself, dear! I shall read your replies with interest. I have never been able to find the happy medium. Too little flirting and the guy doesn't even notice. Lay it on too thick and he either thinks your a slut only fit for sex or a psycho husband-hunter and he's off!
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (3 October 2009):
Ask him about himself and listen. Listening is one of the best ways to get someone interested in you! Also, flutter those eye lashes, act a bit girlie at time (bot too much) and smile and laugh at his jokes.
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