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Why do so many girls have sex so early in life and become promiscuous when many don't even orgasm through sex?

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Question - (9 May 2013) 9 Answers - (Newest, 10 May 2013)
A male Albania age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I'd like to hear here from girls how often they reach orgasm during sex.the reason why I'm asking is because I've read on internet that only 30% or girls/woman reach orgasm, this makes me a bit confused because girls are having sex more then in past and also they're losing virginity a bit earlier, so if they don't enjoy why they start having a sexual life so early,sleeping around etc.

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A female reader, largentsgirl89 United States +, writes (10 May 2013):

largentsgirl89 agony auntI don't have to have an orgasm to enjoy sex. As long as I know I'm making my bf feel good and we're enjoying and exploring, just the chance to get close and to have something so intimate with someone I love makes it enjoyable for me.

My bf is very well versed in the bedroom and I have no complaints whatsoever.

Most women feel empowered to do what they want. Promiscuous, are men considered promiscuous, because they can have all the sex they want and they get high fived for it. If a woman does the same thing she is a whore or "promiscuous". Women have found their sexual liberation and aren't afraid to show it now. I don't know the statistics, but I do know a lot more girls in my town are losing their virginity early in life. There were 32 girls pregnant in the JUNIOR HIGH last year. In the JUNIOR HIGH, that's 13-15 year old girls. It's a lack of education, parental guidance or some probably just feel alone and think sex will fix it. Or having a baby will give them someone to love. Some do it to keep their boyfriends around which never works. Some do it because of peer pressure, because being a virgin makes you a freak.

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A male reader, JustHelpinAgain Canada +, writes (10 May 2013):

Most young women who have sex and end up "sleeping around" as you put it do so because they are courted by older guys who are primarily after sex. The girl is in love, wants to be grown up and lets the guy do what he wants. This often repeats itself until the young woman learns to be more in control of what happens. Often they start to feel used and mistrusting of guys but at the same time want the attention and still hope for a loving relationship. IMHO the hope and desire for orgasms and sexual satisfaction is a seperate issue and for most young women it is not the motivating factor (maybe it is when older).

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2013):

Are you the expert on woman and her orgasm now? Can I ask you what are your qualifications? Let me correct you on a few of your statements. Actual figures state that less young women are having sex early in life contrary to what you say. That is quoting noted university experts in this country based on the latest data dated mid 2012. As far a becoming promiscuous where or who told you that. I grew up in a town of around 300,000 people. I was very active and social but according to you I was screwing my brains out when I turned 14 or 15 and just kept going. Now according to you I never had a orgasm while I was humping and pumping my brains out. Now let me bring you back to reality. I and about 150 women I know personally as we grew up together and kept in close contact did not do or perform the acts we claim we did. Out of those 150 women only 5 admitted or talked about multiple relations. And face it you cant hide something like what you describe forever. Today I know for sure that only one woman practices being promiscuous. The other four started at sixteen and stopped at around nineteen years old. The four graduated undergraduate college and now are in single monogamous relationships and will be entering grad school. It is almost certain that these four women will be marrying once their finished grad school. These are one of the many weddings I will be a brides maid at. Let me address your last statement that many of us don't have orgasm through sex. False again, do you think we are dummies? I have access to the internet and I see how its done. I have a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend and he just doesn't pump the crap out of me. I want oral sex and that goes with the package. I want to orgasm and if my boyfriend doesn't he is not going to get any oral sex from me. Again there is nothing like the internet to be a teacher to a shy guy. I also disagree when having sex young they don't orgasm. The five girls I knew who were active participants new what it was and they also wanted the whole package in there sex rampage according to you. Sorry to disappoint you again. My only question to you to? Do you realize it is 2013 not 1989? Good-luck...

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (9 May 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyour information is partially correct.

less than 30% of women orgasm from penetrative intercourse.

but many women orgasm from proper oral or manual stimulation that their partner properly provides either before (preferred) or after his orgasm.

In addition, your belief that an orgasm is required to enjoy sex is a bit misguided. You equate YOUR orgasm with enjoyment of sex... most women I know enjoy sex due to the foreplay and afterplay. And that, is inherently dependent on the skill of the partner.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013):

I think most women and girls, promiscuous or not, don't find an orgasm to be the sole focus of sex or the only point to having it. It's an act of closeness and intimacy with one's partner, and if you care about a partner there is pleasure simply in the knowledge that you have given pleasure to that person. Personally I am almost always more interested in my partner's orgasm than my own and I would imagine many other women feel similarly. To be perfectly honest, I achieve stronger orgasms through self pleasure than I ever have with a partner, so that's really not my focus during sex, and it's not important to me that I come every time we have it. But if we had sex less frequently I would miss that closeness and that intimacy, because those are things I can't give to myself. Hope that makes sense :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013):

Don't listen OP to old farts who think women are always after money. If I don't like a guy who hits on me in a bar I won't even let him buy me a drink.

I agree with you that I also don't uunderstand why women do especially one night stands. May be they want to feel close with a guy through sex, but I think it's a very wrong approach. It takes me awhile to reach orgazm, sometimes as long as 20 minutes. A stranger will not spend time on me, and only will care about his own. So I really never understood these one night stands and sleeping around thing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2013):

I can only speak for myself but I find sex enjoyable and luckily me and my partner have great chemistry and very rarely don't orgasm as he takes the time to make sure I do. If you orgasm or not it' brings couples closer intimately and is a bonding experience.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (9 May 2013):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI can't speak for ALL guys..... but I CAN tell you that women routinely put out for me because they think I am extremely wealthy, and they think that if they do so (put out) that I will take them on exotic vacations, buy them expensive jewelry and see that they dine in the finest places in-town.

Truth is,.... I have a friend in the bank who makes up phoney "bank statements" on their stationery... which "statements" I "just happen" to leave out, in plain sight, on my desk...for anyone at my home to see... See....I'm really quite a pauper... BUT, each month, when my Social Security check arrives, I DO have a few bucks to spare..... so I usually suggest that we go over to a local casino "to double my S/S check"..... then, I feign a headache - about the time that my S/S check runs out... and we go home and do you-know-what.....

.... and the cycle goes on.....

I never did understand women.... and don't understand them any better - or, any more - today than I did when I was in college, 40 years ago....

Good luck.... Hope this helped...

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A female reader, R1 United Kingdom +, writes (9 May 2013):

R1 agony auntWith girls sex isn't all about physical pleasure it's about intimacy, being close to someone. When you are young you thing sex equals love and commitment. Girls do it to keep boys happy, because their friends are, because society is like that these days. Orgasms aren't even in consideration at that age!!

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