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anonymous
writes:Hi all. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He has been talking to his friends ex girlfriend lately. Not to sound mean but I honestly don't like this girl much because she's just one of those girls who is always starting drama and trouble and I personally don't want to be involved with it. She started rumors about me a couple months ago for whatever reason and she did things to really upset me on purpose so we're definitely not friends. The other part of the problem is the things she does and says to my boyfriend just really bothers me. She will spam him with hearts and always tell him that she loves him and will even flirt with him sometimes. My boyfriend has even said that she can be annoying. I've always heard it's good to get rid of negativity and all the negative people in your life and I consider this girl to be under this category. It's not a trust issue but I would rather my boyfriend not talk to this girl so much because every time she is around me she will start bothering me and upsetting me on purpose.Would it be a good idea to tell my boyfriend that I would rather him not talk to this girl? I'm not sure what he will say or how he will react to this.
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (28 April 2013):
 To me it sounds as if she wants your boyfriend for herself and hence, the making you upset and starting rumors about you.
If I were you, I would sit down with my boyfriend and talk with him. Tell him that you are uncomfortable that he is talking to her, especially with her telling him she loves him and sending him hearts and everything. It's inappropriate. She is has spread rumors about you and purposely makes you upset.
If he is reasonable he will see where you are coming from and will agree to discontinue contact with her. You aren't trying to control him, she is genuinely unwelcome and rightfully so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): If this girl is purposely being rude to you and causing problems for you, I don't see why your boyfriend would continue to associate with her. Anyone that is mean to you should not be a friend of your boyfriend's in my opinion. If he agrees that she's annoying it shouldn't be a problem then.
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reader, loony10 +, writes (27 April 2013):
I think talking to him and logically stating your points like you've done so nicely here, would be a great idea!! Try not to come off as if you're giving him an ultimatum or that you are demanding it, and explain it has nothing to do with trust. She has spread rumors about you so she has already disrespected you personally for no apparent reason. On top of that, she sends hearts and "i love yous" to your boyfriend???? I'm sorry, but she is over-stepping all kinds of boundaries and he even agrees that it is unwelcome. She upsets you and puts you in a bad mood, with reason, so it's not just a "because i said so" things. I hope the talk goes well and if he's a reasonable guy, he will most definitely see where you are coming from. good luck!
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