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*all6
writes:So I met this single mom from a dating website. Things were going great. Until I began to be unsure about dating her. I thought she would be better off dating someone that was on her level(career wise, ect.). She replied to me by saying "I'm not going to force you to meet me, but when you're ready I'll be here".. I told her that I was ready now. We met up had some coffee, and it turned out to be a good meeting. As I walked her to her car she said we should gave dinner next week. She's a teacher and she was transferred to another school and was stressed out. I suggested that we could go another day, she agreed and said" how about Saturday?". Thursday rolls around and I got dumb asking her hypothetically will i see her every other week if we were boyfriend and girlfriend. She replied with "wow! You're going way too fast for me". She ends up ignoring me until Saturday. She writes a long message says she wants to be friends and maybe in a year or so we can try again.A little information about her. She hasn't dated in several years, she has stress attacks when it comes to men. She has cancelled in me once before and explained it to me.As of December I messed up.She told me to "do whatever I wanted to, date whoever" .. she told me to not wait for her because It's not fair to me. I told her we can be friends. Then 5 hours later she goes if I didn't live with my parents there would be something between us.. were not in high school anymore." That really confuses me.She also says if you are single we can date and start over or if you're in the dating pool... I'm trying to forget her , but It's hard.
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reader, tall6 +, writes (22 December 2012):
tall6 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just find it to be weird that..when we don't speak for a while she'll ask a silly question through texts, then I won't hear from her for a while. Thanksgiving came around and she says Happy Thanksgiving. Which I reply the same, then I tell her I wish things were different between us. She says "things can be, we will see."
She's 26 and I'm 27.
Then a hour or two she says "you rushed things, and You would say have a good life.. can you not do that?"
Yea I'm going to move on. It's making me sick to be honest. I have another girl that I'm talking to.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Yes... forget her and date other women, as she suggested....
Good luck....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Women who have issues with men, like being afraid of them, feel more comfortable with younger men they can control. That's why she even talked to you at the first place. Career has nothing to do with it. Everything has to be casual, at her pace, on her terms, otherwise it stresses her out. I do think too you should date other women because you are going to be continuously frustrated with her.
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (22 December 2012):
 Looking back, you probably shouldn't have asked her the hypothetical question, but you know what they say about hindsight.
She sounds like she may be just a little too high maintenance. Don't even try to figure her out, I would just back away and go ahead and date other women.
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