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writes:my is love marriage,iam 30yrs and having 9 monhts baby girl,i got shock when i came to know that my husband and my elder sis having a relationship since one and half year in my 2yrs of marriage.i consider her as mother and she knew about it even though she taken the advantage of it and i loved my husband very much i trusted him like anything.they used to have regularly and she undergone for an abortion once.even my husband use to tell me that he is gng office but he used to meet her at someplace and take lodge for it.she having 12yrs baby boy and jiju stays in abroad.i don't understand were i was wrong ? what to do? but when i asked my husband he first denied for it ,but later on he himself only confessed that and begged front of me to give one more chance to marriage.my sis is not ashamed for it.when i was pregnant i being to mother place at that time my mother was not well for that my elder sis and husband with mother used to stay together and they used to live like husband and wife.please suggest me i am going into depression i dont understand what to do she elder in the family and iam younger in the family we are five sister? should i tell everthing to everybody or should i tell to my jiju ? should i give one more chance to my relationship because my husband says that i wont be repeat again in life and he is guilty for it.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (23 December 2012):
I disagree about leaving your husband. I agree that you shouldn't just automatically trust him. He didn't make "a mistake", he deceived you for a period of time with the worst possible person to cheat with. What he did was very wrong and showed a lack of morals.
He's sorry because he got caught. He obviously wasn't sorry when he was with your sister.
If you really want to be with him, don't just forgive him, make him earn your love again, make him earn your trust as well. Don't tell him you forgive him. Tell him you don't know if you can forgive him, that you don't know if you can be with him. That will make him imagine losing you and how bad that will feel, then (if he really loves you) he'll do whatever it takes to win you back.
Good luck. Don't give him a second chance!
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (22 December 2012):
 No, you should absolutely NOT trust your husband. Infarct, you should find a way out of this relationship as quickly as possible.
If telling the rest of your family will help you get out of this relationship, then do it.
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