I had a gay encounter while my new girlfriend was away. Now she is back I don't know how I move on with her?
Q. Hi everyone. I hope you can help me. I'm so depressed at the moment. I've been really confused about my sexuality. For a long time I've been turned on by gay porn and I fantasise about it a lot. One day fives months ago, I made the stupid m...
A. 18 September 2007: It was something you needed to do at the time, you did it, and now it's behind you. Lots of people experiment. Don't worry about it. Why do you feel so guilty about it? Was the girl in question actually your exclusive girlfriend at the time? Put ... (read in full...)
Should I take advantage of my youth, taking the advice of my friends?
Q. Today I spoke to my friends about my break-up with my girlfriend earlier this summer. I hadn't seen a lot of them since it happened back in June. I was with her for 2 years, and she broke things off with me. Summer has been very hard to bear wit...
A. 14 September 2007: Ah, don't sleep around just because your friends tell you to! They're right about one thing - youth is a good opportunity to sleep around, but if you don't want to, what's the point? Not everyone has to do the same thing. Enjoy your youth in whate... (read in full...)
oil NO!!!!!!
Q. Hi all, I had a friend who was going through some sexual difficulties and wanted some advice on how to spice things up, so I told her to light some candles a few incense sticks, make it all sexy, lights down low and soft music... Dress wonderfu...
A. 14 September 2007: Heheheheheh. The A&E doctors must have had a laugh about that one.... (read in full...)
I am beginning to wonder if he sees me as a booty call but that could be my lack of self-esteem.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. I really feel like I am falling in love with him. He is physically very affectionate which I love; always holding my hand, hugging me, etc. He is laid-back, very gentle and yet very passionate ...
A. 14 September 2007: He could just be very shy. Some people prefer not to ask a lot of questions in relationships, thinking that they will be seen as prying and nosy - they prefer the other person to just come right out and tell them all the things they want to know.
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I wonder where I would stand if I hadn't been a year behind my friends. What do you think?
Q. Perhaps it's wrong to dwell on the past, and something that I cannot change, but something has recently occured to me. 2 years ago, just before I first met my girlfriend face to face after chatting online for about 5 months, I had exams to sit. Th...
A. 14 September 2007: Grandmother quote: If ifs and buts were candy and nuts, we'd all be very fat (I don't think my Grandmother quoted it correctly, never mind).
To put it another way, what's done is done. You can't change anything, so there's no point in dwelling... (read in full...)
Should my bf be able to set the rules for my 14 year old daughter?
Q. Im a widow, parent of a 14 yr old girl and my boyfriend and i just bought a house together. should he have say so in what my daughter's punishments should be or and should he be able to set rules for her?...
A. 14 September 2007: I think he should have some imput, but this should be discussed between the two of you when your daughter is not around. Decide rules for her together, and then you should be the one to tell her. At fourteen she will probably be wary of the new ... (read in full...)
It got worse after a while and he started cutting me and raping me!!
Q. I'm 16 and I've been going out with my boyfriend for about a year and a half now. At first he was really nice and treated me really well. A few weeks into our relationship he started asking me if I wanted to have sex with him, I wasn't ready at ...
A. 14 September 2007: Oh my God. Get out of there. It's going to go downhill from here. Tell your friends, tell your family, get therapy, cut off all contact with him. Tell the police, and tell him that you told them. If he contacts you after that, call the police - ... (read in full...)
Attracted to pretty women physically but it seems I don't get excited sexually. Men I like in both ways. Am I bisexual or gay?
Q. Hey guys! im 17 male and i believe i am attracted to men since i was a kid. I grew up normally like a usual straight guy would. I have lots of friends on both genders. I fell in love with my best friend (a girl) when I was 15. I had some weird ...
A. 12 September 2007: Some gay men fit into the effeminate stereotype, most of them don't. They're tall, short, butch, girly, thin, fat, charming, obnoxious - you name it. The only thing they have in common is that they like men.
For the rest of it, I can't tell you... (read in full...)
Is my guy gay or Bi??!!
Q. Help! Is my boyfriend gay, bi or what?? I started seeing someone 3 months ago ( I am female, he he a male). We are both in our late 30's. From Day 1, he told me has never been in love, while I, on the otherhand have been in love a few times in my ...
A. 10 September 2007: It sounds as though you are very honest with each other. He has told you things about himself that are very difficult for him to deal with. Keep being open and honest with him, treat him with respect, and it will work out. It sounds to me as if he ... (read in full...)
Am I the only teen girl that masturbates?
Q. help! i feel like i'm the only teen girl who masturbates. i know it's not true but all my friends think it's dirty. when they talk about it like it's evil i get so embarrased...
A. 24 August 2007: Your friends are just embarrassed. I think that it's probably a lot more abnormal NOT to masturbate. Anyway, what goes on in the privacy of your own bedroom is your business... you don't have to tell anyone what you do. Just have a good time ;)... (read in full...)
Am I gay or or bi?
Q. hey, i am questioning the fact of me being bi or am i lesbian? cause i have noticed i tend to notice chix alot more than guys. i also have never had a "sex" dream about a guy it has always been girls. and idk if maybe this is just curiosity since i ...
A. 9 August 2007: You seem to be asking yourself good questions. Don't be in a hurry to label yourself, just keep an open mind. Maybe you'll fall in love with only girls for the rest of your life, maybe you'll fall for girls and boys, maybe you'll stop noticing girls ... (read in full...)
I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that?
Q. I'm an 18 year old and a porn model. Most people look down on me. Why is that? What is so wrong about it? What is everyone's opinion on me? ...
A. 9 August 2007: As the other posters have said, it's because you're selling your body and people equate it with prostitution. It's not even so much that people look down on you: they probably think "Why isn't she doing something better with her life?" Are you happ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to make love but my ex wants mad sex! Who do I choose?
Q. hey i need advice how do i decide between my boyfriend and my ex??? i'm a virgin n i really love my boyfriend n my ex. i think i'm ready to go all the way but the problem is i want them both to b my first...i kno its not possible but i cant decid...
A. 18 July 2007: If you can't decide between two boys, maybe you're not ready to lose your virginity. Wait until you're in a strong, loving relationship with only one person and then get it over with. It probably won't be great the first time - long passionate love ... (read in full...)
Could I have caught HIV from biting my tongue in a restraunt???
Q. Today I went and ate at a buffet restraunt with my family and friends. While I was eatting I bit my tougue by mistake and blood was coming out. It looks a bit puffy now. Since I bit my tougue, could I be expose to any diseases since this took place ...
A. 18 July 2007: I very much doubt it. The chances are minimal, unless someone with HIV happened to be bleeding into your mouth at the second that you bit your tongue. If you were just eating, don't worry. Your tongue is puffy because it swelled up from the pain - ... (read in full...)
I have a bf, but I have very strong feelings for my female friend. I don't want to detroy relationships or hurt anyone! What do I do?
Q. Ok, im 18 and at uni. Ive had a boyfriend for 6 months who is really great but im not sure if I wanna be with him cos I think ive developed feelings for a friend. I met a girl at uni in September and we got along so well. When we had to move she ...
A. 11 July 2007: Don't try to label yourself at this point, it's not the most important thing. Relationships happen between people, not between body parts.
It sounds as though your friend is attracted to you too. Now you have to make a decision. Cheating on your ... (read in full...)
It's our anniversary next Saturday, what can I do to get her in the mood and have the best night of her life?
Q. Hi me and my wife are both happily married and been together since we were 16 and always had a good sex life. It's just we really want to try new things like new places to do it that are more exciting and more passionate and romantic. I want this to ...
A. 9 July 2007: CLEAN THE HOUSE. Now that's what I call foreplay.
No, but seriously, make some nice gestures like that. As for the sex part, I'm guessing you know what your wife likes better than I do.... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I think I've got the first sings of pregnant. Do you think I am?
Q. Im 15, Ive had alot of the first signs of pregnancy like morning sickness, thrown up twice, sick stomach feeling, tiredness, backaches and headaches, Could I be Pregnant?? Please reply soon, I need all the advice I can get!! ...
A. 21 June 2007: Only one way to know for sure - take a test. If you don't do it, you're going to stress yourself out completely over this - and a lot of the symptoms you described could also be down to stress.
Honestly. Pee on a stick, find out, and then dec... (read in full...)
Got my first proper date with an older guy on Friday... don't know what to wear or how to behave!
Q. i have my first proper date on friday night,and i am reali nevous i dont have a clue what to wear as i usually dress quite casually, and i dont wanna come on to slaggy either.i am very nervous aswell becuz hes a older than me and im not quite sure ...
A. 5 June 2007: What's the date? Are you going to dinner, the cinema, meeting up for a drink? Just dress as you normally do, unless he's taking you out to an incredibly expensive restaurant or something. He likes you the way you are, don't go and change on him just ... (read in full...)
I'm feeling homesick and unsettled in this new country - I have lousy jobs and am not enjoying myself! If I go home, I feel people will see me as a failure - Help!
Q. Hey, Every1. I left for Austria Saturday and I'm missing home or feeling very unsettled at the moment. Wish I didnt have the job that I'm doing here which is waitressing and housekeeping but now I dont know what to do because I want to stay in ...
A. 5 June 2007: Welcome to the ex-pat wall. You slam into it after your arrival in a foreign country and it can be hard. I promise you, things get better. The beginning, though, it can be so horrible. You just sit there going "What have I done?" and wanting to go ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get over my fear of flying?
Q. Help needed. I was on a plane when I was one when adopted from Russia. on friday we are leaving for CA and im am scared to death and not becuase of previous things. Im scared of take off and landing and my ears popping....plus im scared of heights. ...
A. 4 June 2007: When your ears start feeling funny, hold your nose and close your mouth and act as if you're trying to blow out hard without actually exhaling the air. Your ears will pop out just fine. Don't leave it too late otherwise it's harder to do. You could ... (read in full...)
She didn't want a one night stand, so I said fine. Now she's asking me on a date and I don't know if I should go!
Q. I slept with a girl I had met earlier the same night. We had been in a bar with others, got smashed, missed the last bus and she kindly let me share her taxi (and bed!) and started giving me the come-on, so I thought "Why not?" Just as we were get...
A. 4 June 2007: You shouldn't really have told her you'd like to see her again then... but never mind, what's done is done. I don't see any harm in seeing her for a coffee or something. A date isn't marriage, after all. However, it sounds like you've already made ... (read in full...)
I am wondering whether I need to find someone financially stable to share my life with regardless of the deep love we share for each other.
Q. Hello Everyone! I am 22 years old and have been engaged to my best friend David for two years now.We have dated for 7 and a half. We love each other more then words can express. Two years ago he asked me to marry him. Immediately, he wanted to plan ...
A. 4 June 2007: Ah, honey, I'm sorry. Financial reasons are tricky... on one hand, you say to yourself that it's not important, and isn't it shallow to marry for money anyway? But on the other hand, you can't live without it. It's just impossible.
If you love the... (read in full...)
I am wondering whether I need to find someone financially stable to share my life with regardless of the deep love we share for each other.
Q. Hello Everyone! I am 22 years old and have been engaged to my best friend David for two years now.We have dated for 7 and a half. We love each other more then words can express. Two years ago he asked me to marry him. Immediately, he wanted to plan ...
A. 3 June 2007: Hm, tough one. I don't think you should leave him over it, but maybe this isn't the right time to be living together. You love him, and at the end of the day, that's the most important thing. Sit down with him and make a plan. Work out a budget and ... (read in full...)
Why is it that most (well nearly all) paedophiles are men?
Q. Why is it that most (well nearly all) paedophiles are men?...
A. 2 June 2007: I think macboy is right. Men seem to be almost trained to ignore all their purer emotions - they're not allowed to cry, or be painfully in love, but looking at a pretty girl and saying "Check out the tits on that!" is something that Real Men are ... (read in full...)
Why is it that I can't have an orgasm?
Q. hi im a 19 female ive never done this before but i was just wanting some advice.i was wondering why is it that i can never have an actual orgasm. my friend said that shes only had one and shes 20 and she was kinda wonderin too why she cant have ...
A. 1 June 2007: Are you talking about on your own or during sex? I have a funny thing - during sex, I find it a lot harder to have an orgasm. The more turned-on I am, the less likely I am to have an orgasm. Why? No idea. But there you are. It doesn't mean I don't ... (read in full...)
I am crazy about my cousin, should I tell him?
Q. Dear agony aunt I love my own cousin who lives abroad whereas i live in the uk i have been to his country twice for a holiday and a personal reason i have got to know him through his family but the thing is he or i have never had the guts to talk...
A. 31 May 2007: If you've never had the guts to speak to him directly, how do you know that you're so in love with him? Do you meet him a lot? I can't really tell from your question, but it sounds like you have only met him twice...? Are you sure that you're really ... (read in full...)
Touching Skin
Q. TOUCHING SKIN This is playfull and gives u a special bond with your partner. Take your partner lay her on the bed with only underwear, know the secret is not to touch your partners skin with your hands. (ex. use feathers),then start by ...
A. 31 May 2007: AHHH! Sorry, that brought back memories. Once one of my exes stroked me all over with a feather. It gave me the heeby-jeebies, I had to jump out of bed and scrub myself all over with a towel to stop the tickling!
Uh, sorry. I agree with the idea... (read in full...)
A question for the agony uncles... Can breasts be tooooo big???
Q. Hey... This is a question for the guys i suppose. I was wondering if breasts can be tooo big? I have huge breasts but have heard that more than a handful is too much and theres much more than a handful. Im small in proportion to them. Hmm its been ...
A. 31 May 2007: Everyone likes different things. The expression "More than a handful is a waste" was invented to console girls who think their breasts are too small, not to insult larger-chested chicks. I don't know if there's an equivalent for girls who think ... (read in full...)
How do I hint to my ex's dad that I'm not interested?
Q. I am abit worried my ex's Dad fancies me and I am not sure what to do. My ex and I split nearly 6 months ago and contact with him has petered out; my ex wanted to stay in contact but I didn't since I don't think he treated me at all well. Anyway, ...
A. 27 May 2007: I don't think you should say anything too blunt, because he could be perfectly innocent of any less-than-fatherly thoughts about you, and it could hurt his feelings. Just make it very clear that you're not interested. Steer the conversation away ... (read in full...)
Jealousy, physical fights...will he ever change?
Q. I,ve recently split with my partner again for the 4th time. I gave up my job and friends 4 him he promised he change, we've had loads of physical fights cause of his jealousy now he's promising yet again he change. I've heared it all b4 but this ...
A. 27 May 2007: Ugh. I recognise that situation. I'm just getting out of it myself.
So, either the person can't change, or they won't. If they can't, then you can't stay with them. If they won't, then you can't stay with them.
Listen, honey, he'll tell you a... (read in full...)
When a guy you know says he won't kiss you because you are drunk, what does that mean?
Q. Hi, i'm a bit confused. I know there are lots of guys who will gladly kiss a girl when she's drunk becuase i suppose it's easier for them to be taken advantage of and all that... however, when a guy you know says he won't kiss you because you are ...
A. 26 May 2007: That's good. People tend to do things they regret when they're drunk, and your friend probably saw it in that light - especially if he's just a friend. When I'm drunk, I get quite kissy, and sometimes end up kissing people I shouldn't.
Wait ... (read in full...)
My BF was sexually abused when he was 6, he is now 17 and we want to have sex but I'm scared he will panic and those feelings will come back again...
Q. Hi i am 15 in 2 weeks, i live in the uk and have been going out with my boyfriend now for 17 months and he is 17. i love him. i never felt like this before and i reali want to settle with him and be with him forever. i really want to have sex with ...
A. 25 May 2007: Let him know how much you love him. Let him know that you can trust him - and no faking it, he has to actually be able to trust you (I'm sure he can, but I've seen so many situations where people trust people, sleep with them and get dumped ... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him and not moving on. Is it because he was my first?
Q. my ex boyfriend and i split up a just over a year ago. our relationship had been very serious and we were both deeply in love with each other. he ended it because he felt too young to be so serious, but left the option open for the future. there has ...
A. 25 May 2007: Oh, honey, I'm sorry. First love is always hardest. All the other loves that come after it are pretty hard too, but with the first time, you don't have anything to work with, experience-wise. It's like being lost in a cloud.
My advice would be... (read in full...)
I'm 18, virgin, and furious!
Q. Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...
A. 24 May 2007: For goodness' sake, don't sleep with your friend just to get your virginity over and done with! It'll happen when it happens. You're only 18, that's completely normal.
As for the experience thing, do you really think someone who has had sex twic... (read in full...)
Is his watching porn caused his lack of sexual interest in me?
Q. My 30 yr old bf likes to watch porn featuring 50 yr old women. He said it has nothing to do with how attracted he is to me, but lately has not been able to perform sexually. Im really afraid he doesn't find me sexually attractive and is just with me ...
A. 23 May 2007: It might be that the older women thing is just a fantasy that he indulges in his imagination, but wouldn't want to do in real life.
Are you having problems in your relationship which could explain the lack of sex? Is he tired, stressed? How's th... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I tried drugs while in Amsterdam?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship now for 6 months. we have a healthy relationship. there's just one problem. i'm 23 now and back when i was 19 i went backpacking around the world for 6 months. 2 months were in europe which included...
A. 23 May 2007: A few puffs of pot, four years ago? Why is this eating away at you? If that's the worst sin you have, it's not a very big one. If she asks, tell her. If she's angry about it... then she's crazy. It's not like you're an ex-junkie with a prison ... (read in full...)
Can you tell me why I view any sexual partner this way?
Q. Hi... this is a weird one I guess. I have a secret I've never told anyone: Although I'm an intelligent, well-spoken, well-off man from a very upper-middle-class family, I am only really sexually attracted to women I can't stand. I've heard of ...
A. 22 May 2007: Are you seeing sex as a negative thing? It sounds like it. This is more common than it's made out to be, but I know a lot of people who have a scission between love and sex. Love is the ideal, for the perfect person who comes into their lives. Love ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my family that I want to spend the rest of my life with my girlfriend? She is a bit older and I'm afraid they might not approve?
Q. Hey everyone! Iam a 21 male and my GF is 24! We are already talking about spending the rest of our lives together. Her family knows about me but my parents do not know about her. Only my sister does. I want to tell my parents about her but I dont ...
A. 22 May 2007: Well, to start with, just introduce your parents to your girlfriend. Don't drop the "I want to stay with her forever" bombshell beforehand - they'll have that in their heads otherwise, and will judge her based on it. Just introduce them, say "this ... (read in full...)
Been in a lesbian relationship for 4 years but now I don't think I'm actually a lesbian! Help!
Q. I have been with my partner for 4 years. We are both females and is the first same sex relationship either of us have had. A year ago I would have said I love her more than anything but now im not so sure. I have had alot on my mind recently. Im ...
A. 22 May 2007: Maybe the relationship is just winding itself down. If a year ago you were madly in love with her, this probably isn't due to your sexuality (otherwise you would never have loved her in that way). But when the passion dies out, you start asking ... (read in full...)
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