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writes: hi wonderng if anyone will help i'm 17 gonna be 18 soon, and i like this guy i work with. i know he likes me back because his spoken to a friend that works with us. the only problem that is stopping him telling me is the fact hes 21 and is worried about the age gap?! can you help?
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reader, helpful girl  +, writes (12 September 2006):
 well maybe explaining some ones story to him will help him, and ill let you use my story if you want, tell him that i was 17 when i first met my feller he was 38, 21 years older than my self i had a tough life id been beat up in previous ralationship cheated on used and even got told what to do when to by a ex boyfreind i was even raped i turned depressed suicidal and had an eating disorder so i basically lost all my trust in men, so when i met my feller i didnt want to know so he chased and chased me untill finally i though ok ill give it a try so i was just under 18 when i got with him and here we are nearly 16months later happy and due to get married my feller gave me life again just as i thought it was over. so even though his 21years older than me were still happy and managed to get past the age gape. or if you dont want to explain that story to him then maybe giveing him time he cant hide his feelings forever hell come round to the fact age is nothing but a number and hell admit to your face he likes you and maybe your end up getting together.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (12 September 2006):
 Hi, why dont you approach him first and speak to him. Nowadays that is not a big age gap at all. You will find that most girls go out with blokes a few years older than themselves. I am twenty and my boyfriends twenty-six and we love eachother very much. We dont even notice that there is an age gap because we are so compatible. Age is nothing but a number hunny. Girls mature a lot faster than men so that is why we prefer to date blokes a few years older than ourselves because we are at the same mental age as them. Take him to one side and explain your feelings for him and say you know he feels the same. Reassure him that it doesnt matter what other people think and when they realise how perfect you are together they wont even think twice about it. Go on girl, go and get him. Good luck
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