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What are male preferences for girls hair and height?
Q. teenage male advise - do you prefer a girl with their hair up in a pony tail or down? second question - curly, wavy or straight hair? third question - do you prefer a girl that is tall or average height cos my mate is very tall and all the boys loo...
A. 1 June 2006: I'll help.
Hair. Straight or curly not too worried so long as it shines. Do not scrape it back from your head (that's for chavs). Two pony tails one each site is cute and sexy, but only save for special occasions (sex and clubbing). Hair should b... (read in full...)
What does beauty is in the eye of the beholder mean?
Q. what does 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' mean?...
A. 31 May 2006: Girlspeak, usually said to someone who's ugly. What it means is that they's an ugly guy somewhere out there who'll "make do".... (read in full...)
Should I call my Spanish Guy ?
Q. i just back from ibiza,while i was out there on the last night i met this spanish guy,he was 25 i', 43 we got on well but he couldnt talk much english.he gave me his number,now back in the uk i'm thinking should i give him a ring or not and what ...
A. 24 May 2006: Surely you've seen Shirley Valentine?... (read in full...)
Would nude photos of me, given to my boyfriend, be considered "child porn"?
Q. I'm 15, my bf is 18. He wants naked photos of me, which I'm up for 100%, but would it be illegal, considered as child porn?...
A. 23 May 2006: When someone asks you to do something and you're not sure, it's best to make a list of what GOOD stuff and what BAD stuff could happen.
GOOD (but only for him)
1. He'll get to jerk off over your nudie pics.
2. He'll think he can influence you... (read in full...)
What turns on teenage boys to girls?
Q. just wondering. can i have some boys opinions. what turns a 16 year old teenage boy on about a girl?...
A. 23 May 2006: Shiny black hair, nicely brushed. Smiley face. White teeth. Small feet. Slim waist. Delicate hands. Fresh smell.
Maybe that was just me.... (read in full...)
What is oral sex?
Q. what is oral sex?...
A. 21 May 2006: To be clear.
Girl, makes like she's slurping on a curiously tasty ice lolly, with his "wee willy winky".
Boy, makes like he's a cat licking at milk (or a bulldog gorging on custard, depending on the mood) at her front-bottom.... (read in full...)
Do boys prefer the natural look or makeup on girls
Q. ello i am 15 years of age and just wondering, do boys prefer the natural look or girls that wear make up?...
A. 21 May 2006: You're a little too young for make up lady. There used to be an old poem that went *something* like this:
When roses are red
They're ready for PLUCKING
When girls are 16
They're ready for MAKE UP
Or something like that.... (read in full...)
Should I shave it, or not?
Q. I am about to start having oral/full sex with my boyfriend, we have both talked about it and started to experiment but I always stop him before it gets to far, because I always focus on 1 thing. Vaginal pubic hair, I know alot of girls shave it off, ...
A. 21 May 2006: The other aunts give sensible advice but I shall cut to the chase.
Forget shaving.
You should get a wax, but leave a neat little "landing strip" of pubes up top to keep you looking feminine. It will look lovely, feel soft and you won't get al... (read in full...)
These are my vitals. Am I hot... or not?
Q. Hey guys Do you think iam attractive basicslly these are my vital stats iam 28 years old 5ft inches tall dark skinned dark eyes asian origin short to medium length hair my dress size is size 6 to 8 but mainly an eight my shoe size is 4 Pl...
A. 15 May 2006: A little too much makeup... a little too short a dress... and you'd be all "me love you long time".
But seriously young lady, you sound hot for any male who is into their cute asian poonani.... (read in full...)
What makes good oral sex for a guy?
Q. Hey guys how are you I want to know how I can give a good blow job to a man and how to be good with men and be a good lover so that men can't resist me please guys give me some ideas thanks...
A. 15 May 2006: Oral.
ONE Deep and slobbery to begin with.
TWO Long build up but not too long
THREE You'll need to use your hands and mouth at the end: hard with the hand, sloppy with the mouth.
FOUR don't forget the wide open "blowjob eyes" (important!)
... (read in full...)
He wants to give me a "pearl necklace" but I'd prefer some pretty ear-rings!!
Q. Hiya I'm 17 and from Newcastle in the uk, studying art and design. My boyfriend and me have been going out for a few weeks now and he keeps promising to give me a pearl necklace at the weekend, but he has yet to come round with one. I love my j...
A. 7 May 2006: Oh sweet-heart, you sound like an innocent little geordie angel who would, in all honesty be better off with a pair of bandy ear-rings than a pearl necklace. You're certainly correct that they are old-fashioned nowadays in fact the last person I ... (read in full...)
What is my "sweaty" date doing in the toilet?
Q. Everytime me and my new bf go on a date to a restaurant he does the same thing. Well as soon as were seated; he looks uncomfortable and then excuses himself to go to the bathroom. He's usually in there for about 10 minutes; and then we he comes ...
A. 3 May 2006: Jerking off?
Real nervous?
Snorting coke?
Shooting up?
Have you asked him?... (read in full...)
My sister in law is obbsessed with my husband and now im attraced to her husband. What should I do??
Q. Hi: I am a married woman wih an 18 month old daughter. I am pretty unhappy in my marriage in large part due to my overbearing know-no-boundaries inlaws, especially my sister in law. She is obsessed with her brother, my husband. As a conseque...
A. 26 April 2006: You should both swap.... (read in full...)
Housemate and my crush betrayed me, How can I make them pay?
Q. Recently I was screwed over by my housemate when I found out that he had slept with a girl that he knew I really liked. All he ever did was bitch about her, saying she was fat and ugly. She had a similarly low opinion of my housemate saying he was ...
A. 23 April 2006: "how can I make them sorry" - wtf ?!
Sorry kidda but what's done is done and you're gonna have to be MAN enough to move on and not let this eat away at you and become some bitter, sad, twisted old man (who is lonely).
So some chick you like g... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is catholic and won't sex before marriage because of it. I don't feel the same.
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and i (both 20) have been together for just over 3 years now and we've hit a pretty big problem. She is Catholic and has a problem with sex before marriage. I am not Catholic so right now in the relationship my feelings are tell...
A. 23 April 2006: PS. don't forget, if you want an alternaive, sex done "round the back" way, "A-level" style doesn't mean she loses her virgin status - it's true I checked (the bible).
HBF... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is catholic and won't sex before marriage because of it. I don't feel the same.
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and i (both 20) have been together for just over 3 years now and we've hit a pretty big problem. She is Catholic and has a problem with sex before marriage. I am not Catholic so right now in the relationship my feelings are tell...
A. 23 April 2006: I like a lot of what Martini writes but I feel his response here is pure BS.
You are an adult. Your girlfriend is an adult. You are in an adult relationship. Within a developed, healthy adult relationship there should be a desire for sex on both ... (read in full...)
This is graphic and gross but I need to know if it is WRONG - we get married in a month!
Q. OK... now, this might get a bit graphic (and gross!), sorry. But, I really want to know if this is common with men. I'm 24 and by boy friend is 25. We are in a relationship for the last one year. We are going to be married soon (in a month or so). ...
A. 21 April 2006: Have you TOLD him you like it/don't like it.
Maybe he thinks it's cool - whereas if it isn't tell him... (read in full...)
Is it just me that after my cork has popped - don't feel in the mood anymore :-(
Q. I often masterbate whilst texting sexual things to boys. It feels great!! However, once i have finished, i suddenly feel not in the mood for talking sexualy anymore and i often stop texting. I have tryed many diffrent things to keep me horny fo...
A. 21 April 2006: I'm not sure WHY you'd want to keep being horny after you'd masturbated. The world would come grinding to a halt if we didn't... So what you describe is perfectly normal for girls and guys.
I know that oftentimes I've been desperate for a f*** a... (read in full...)
I'm an "incel" an not very happy about it... It it because I lack status?
Q. A simple question. I am a 32 year old boderline virgin( 2 drunken one night stands) and also an incel* who has never had a girlfiend. I am also a terciary educated picker and packer who hates his job of course and hence will not discuss it(anoth...
A. 18 April 2006: I think it sounds like you're on the right track.
You need to meet women in a "friendship" environment and let things progress from there. Dancing events like salsa can be tough for guys and it's almost like speed dating with dancing.
Try mor... (read in full...)
I'm an "incel" an not very happy about it... It it because I lack status?
Q. A simple question. I am a 32 year old boderline virgin( 2 drunken one night stands) and also an incel* who has never had a girlfiend. I am also a terciary educated picker and packer who hates his job of course and hence will not discuss it(anoth...
A. 18 April 2006: Ok. The answer is "no".
It has nothing to do with your lack of experience. It has everything to do with your negative outlook on life and lack of confidence.... (read in full...)
I'm an "incel" an not very happy about it... It it because I lack status?
Q. A simple question. I am a 32 year old boderline virgin( 2 drunken one night stands) and also an incel* who has never had a girlfiend. I am also a terciary educated picker and packer who hates his job of course and hence will not discuss it(anoth...
A. 18 April 2006: No.
There are two reasons, both interlinked.
ONE: You have no confidence whatsoever
TWO: You have "excusitis" - rather than seeking solutions to the problems, you are looking for excuses and explanations for why you don't have a good job an... (read in full...)
I can't control my urges, especially when we're having sex!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 34 year old guy who has a very loving young woman as a partner. She is the first partner that I have ever had. The problem is that when we make love, I have serious problems ejaculating and have never been able to do this when ...
A. 6 April 2006: I think you mean you can't come when you're with your chick? And that this may be caused by masturbating during the week when you're on your tod.
If this is the case, each time you feel the urge during the week, DON'T. Do something else. Go for a... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my bf takes photographs of strange women in skirts?
Q. My boyfriend takes photographs of strangers (women) going to work, because he likes women in skirts? Should I be worried, he also looks at women on the internet in nice underwear, that i was not so bothered about until i found the other photographs ...
A. 6 April 2006: If these are "intimate" photos i.e. panties, he may be breaking the law by taking them without consent, depending on where you live. So, he should bear that in mind.... (read in full...)
First she said I needed a lock on my door, then she said she won't if there are people in the house, now she needs a drink before we do it... What's her problem?
Q. hello people i aint been on for some time but i'm back and needing some advice my girlfriend is really leaving me confused. I've been with her for 1 year and 7 months and still not slept together, now she has already said by 8-9 months of being ...
A. 5 April 2006: How old is this chick?
Whatever, this girl sounds like she will mess with your head. You don't mention anything else about your relationship. Is it good, bad, indifferent, or just a source of sexual frustration for you? Sounds kinda like the latt... (read in full...)
Our son wants to work at McDonalds for the rest of his life!!!
Q. I am worried about my 18-year-old son. He is at university, and I am worried about his lack of ambition after he leaves. He is doing very well academically; however, when I asked him what he wants to do when he leaves, he said he wants to work at M...
A. 4 April 2006: He'll soon wake up after a year or two of the misery of it... I wouldn't pressure him too much.... (read in full...)
Is getting tanned the way to get attention from the guys?
Q. A question for the men: do you prefer women who are pale or women who are tanned? I ask becuase I find that women with tans always seem to get the attention from men and I have pale skin and I often go unnoticed....
A. 29 March 2006: Don't forget that tanning (especially artificial i.e. sunbed tanning):
1. Causes skin cancer, which can kill you (in Australia 1 in 2, yes one in TWO people will develop skin cancer because of sun exposure).
2. Causes your skin to age.
Pale ... (read in full...)
I'm fat, average looking, unemployed, 21 and have only had one girl interested in me... Ever! (and she was 14)
Q. What's wrong with me?? I'll admit, I'm not the best catch, im overweight (who isnt these days??) im average lookin not striking and at the mo im unemployed. Throughout my life, ive obviously had crushes, fallen for even fallen in love with som...
A. 27 March 2006: Rather than beating yourself up over this, make a list of 10 positive things you can do to meet a girl and then stop moping. Look, I'll even help.
1. lose weight and get healthy (joing a gym, ride a bike, go for a walk, do some pressups, eat heal... (read in full...)
Golden Showers don't sound very appealing to me...should I take a chance?
Q. i was sitting with my boyfriend the other night when he asked if i'd be interested in giving him a golden shower. i was taken aback considering that i had never heard of it until he explained. i dont know if i'd enjoy doing THAT on a mans chest! ...
A. 24 March 2006: You've got nothing to loose... Well, bar your dignity.... (read in full...)
He lied about looking at porn for 3 1/2 years!!!
Q. Sorry this is a little long, but I am desperate for advice!!! I didn’t find out my husband looked at porn until after we got married and lived together (he lied to me about it for the 3 1/2 years before we married). I am 21 (still get hit on by ...
A. 23 March 2006: Sounds to me like there is more to this than just your husband watching porn. So if your marriage is good in all regards you would leave him over him watching porn? Or are there other problems.. ? A followup would be useful, to understand.... (read in full...)
My husband's always off with his male friend, what should I do about this?
Q. Hi, I am a 32-year-old woman and my husband is 35. We've been married 8 years. Recently my husband has been off on trips with a male friend of his - who I've never met in person, or even spoken to on the phone. If he's not golfing in Manch...
A. 22 March 2006: I'm sorry to have to break this to you but in all honesty your husband's male friend is a woman. And he's not playing golf in Manchester or sailing in the South, but snuggled up in a little, initimate hotel in the lake district making love to his ... (read in full...)
Why do guys stare and laugh?
Q. Hi, I'm just a little confused about something. I find that sometimes guys will stare at me or when there is a group of guys they will stare at me, and there sometimes smiling and talking. And when I walk past I hear laughing. Does this mean they ...
A. 10 March 2006: This is all in your mind. I sometimes walk round thinking that everyone is laughing at me because I have a booger hanging off my nose or something... But it's just your mind playing tricks.
If you ever start doing drink or drugs you can say hell... (read in full...)
This is pretty confusing. He won't go "exclusive", despite holding me and making love!
Q. Hello everyone, My name is JD. I'm a 36 yrs old female and dating a 40 years old fireman, RA. We found each other on the on-line dating website. We have been seeing each other off-line since 12/1/2005. We see each other 1 time a week. Two...
A. 10 March 2006: Yes, I can help to explain. He wants to have his cake and eat it.
All that has been shown is he likes to make love to you. He may even love you, too! But he also loves all those other ladies he is seeing.
If he was truly in love he would go... (read in full...)
Don't have a car... Don't know any magic tricks... Feel like I can't compare with my girl's fun and amazing ex
Q. my girlfriend used to date this guy a few years ago. apparently she says they never "went out" as a couple, she only seeing him. i guess there is a difference between dating and going out. well to make a long story short, she told me about her ideal ...
A. 10 March 2006: Great question.
1) Your girl sucks for saying that she's comparing your dates with her ex. She sounds stuck up and sometimes a "not-stuck-up-guy" won't satisfy these types of women. Until that is they marry their "dream" guy and end up screwing... (read in full...)
I think he spiked my drink and now I'm pregnant!
Q. I am 16 and I started going out with boys when I was 14. Up to about 3 months ago I was a virgin although I did not mind boys doing anything else to me, I would not let them go all the way. Anyway, last December I went out with a new boy to a dis...
A. 7 March 2006: I want to rebuff the absolute diatrabe of religous crap that an anonymous, bible quoting Christian has posted.
Rather than relying on an out of date text that is increasingly irrelevant, you need to rely on YOUR OWN judgement and logic, not thos... (read in full...)
Any tips on talkin' dirty for a shy girl?
Q. hi, i want to talk dirty to my man while giving him head but i dont know what to say or how to say it , im a very shy person and during sex i just moan and tell him what i like and dislike but i want to give him a suprise with some dirty talk but i ...
A. 7 March 2006: Dirty talk is just embarrasing unless done correctly. Even I was cringing and red-faced, to come up with the following suggestions
"wanna do it the 'nasty' way for your next birthday?"
"think I'd look cute with a pearl necklace?"
I have a be... (read in full...)
Why does he look at porn? I sneaked a look and it's just gross!
Q. Hi, iv been dating my guy for almost 9 months, we have always been very close but one time when i went to his house to visit we where in his room then he left the room and i noticed his pc was on so i moved the mouse the screen saver shut off and i ...
A. 5 March 2006: To the chick who asked this question. Porn does something different to a guy's brain than to a girl's. It releases a FLOOD of chemicals that tell the guy "get a hardon", "become aroused" - and that *high* can become addictive. Plus, it then lets ... (read in full...)
My partner wants to cum on my face but it makes me feel violated!
Q. I've been in a relationship for over four years, we love each other madly and have a child together. However, my partner wants to come on my face during sex and is unhappy (which I find unbearable to live with) when I refuse to let him. I feel vio...
A. 5 March 2006: This is a pure porn fantasy.
Maybe suggest that he comes on your boobs could be a compromise.
Actually he sounds like a jerk anyway sweetie.... (read in full...)
Should I be angry that he spanks the monkey?
Q. Should I be angry that my boyfriend openly admitted that he would enjoy masturbating to porn? Should I also be angry that he has masturbated while I am home?...
A. 4 March 2006: The answer by Bev below is probably the best I have ever read on this site... We may have disagreed about my suggestion to one question-asker to steal a penguin, but I like to think we are best of friends again!... (read in full...)
Do I keep or terminate this pregancy... The baby's dad still lives with his mom - she even runs his bath for him!
Q. i have just fell pregnant to my partner,problem is he lives with his parents and seems a mammys boy.his parents do everything for him,even run his bath! he is so huffy and moody constantly,i can never tell when he is happy or sad as he always has ...
A. 4 March 2006: Split the two problems and deal with them seperately.
Sounds like you don't give a care for the father so I'm amazed you got pregnant by him.... (read in full...)
I'm pretty and nice..my friend is ugly. So how did she get a bf and I didn't?
Q. Not boasting, just being confident, but im dead pretty and nice, and my mate is dead ugly and can be really horrible, then how did she get a bf and i didnt? im lonely and i want a bf because now shes left me for her new guy. ...
A. 3 March 2006: This is too easy. It's because you're a bitch and she has a heart.
(going from what you wrote).... (read in full...)
Two women! One likes sex... the other one doesn't. Who do I choose?
Q. hi ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years and we planned to buy a house and settle down together, the only problem was there was little or no sex, ive recently met someone and ive fallen for her and the sex is amazing. i could make a life with ...
A. 28 February 2006: Easy, the girl with the sex. Anything else would be foolish, and you will cheat on your no-sex girl.... (read in full...)
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