Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 17 May 2013: Hi again, I really don't think it's worth it. Writing and sending a quick email takes what, 1 minute? Meaning that he can only spare you one minute every 3 weeks. Is that really what you want? He is stringing you along. Don't try to analyse his b... (read in full...)
How do I ask him in a nonchalant way what he expects from our next date?
Q. I have been on 3 dates with this guy and things are going smooth,he suggested our next date should be at his 'apartment'..we haven't had sex or made out yet we r just in 'getting to know each other' phase..he sent me a text earlier today saying 'so ...
A. 1 May 2013: He wants sex, end of. He will try it on and you'll have to say no and things may be awkward and uncomfortable after that. If you've been on some nice dates on public then tell him you're enjoying yourself and would like to carry on dating him. In ... (read in full...)
Sister in law friendship dilemma
Q. I have a dilemma regarding my sister in law. We used to be best friends and when her abusive boyfriend dumped her, I let her move in with me and my husband. I looked after her, helped her get back on her feet etc....like you would for a friend. ...
A. 1 May 2013: You don't owe this woman anything. Like you say, she is only contacting you because she is having a hard time. If you let her onto your life again she will only take advantage of you until either her abusive ex confess back into the picture or she ... (read in full...)
From the sounds of things is this still worth pursuing?
Q. A couple of months ago, I met a guy via online dating and I have not felt this excited about someone in such a long time. I have been single for 3 years. In the early stages, we mentioned about the idea of meeting up and seeing what happens. He ...
A. 1 May 2013: It sounds like he's lost interest to be honest. He may have met someone else. I know how disappointing it is when you've been single for a long time and think you've met someone and then it doesn't work out, especially when you haven't even had the ... (read in full...)
Should I feel guilty? My ex-husband and I live together and take care of our kids, we haven't had sex in over 2 years, and I have started seeing someone!
Q. my ex-husband and I live together and take care of our kids we have had no sexual relations in over 2 years he hasn't even tried. he doesn't kiss me or tell me he loves me. He doesn't even touch me in anyway. I have talked to him about it. he said ...
A. 1 May 2013: You refer to him as your ex-husband but at no point mention a divorce. You say you separated for a while then got back together but more you realise it's not going to work. That's confusing for everyone. You can't call him your ex-husband if yo... (read in full...)
Anyone know a good way in which I can shave daily and not bleed to death and tear up my skin?
Q. Wondering if anyone else has experienced this and can give advice. I have PCOS and as a result of that I have rather bad hirsutism, lucky for me though I am red headed and my hair isn’t exactly dark but I do still have to shave. Everyday I sha...
A. 30 April 2013: Have you looked into getting electrolysis to remove the unwanted hair permanently? I'm not too sure how well it works with PCOS because from what I understand PCOS is a hormonal imbalance so new hairs might keep coming. You would have to ask an ... (read in full...)
She moved on, why did he succeed where I failed?
Q. I broke up with my ex of 2 years because the relationship was very toxic. She treated me very badly and I didn't respond in kind. She had a very tough past and kept remnants of it. After 2 prior breakups, I realized that this one was for good and ...
A. 30 April 2013: You absolutely did the right thing. Recognising a toxic relationship and ending it takes courage and maturity. You tried and it didn't work. I know that from the outside it must look like they're having a successful relationship but come on, they ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend borrowed money and then lied about paying me back. What is going on with him?
Q. Hi I've been with my BF for 3 years. About 6 months ago he borrowed some money and promised to pay it back the following month. It hadn't appeared so I casually asked if he had paid, he said yes, I thought it was just taking a few days but 2 weeks ...
A. 30 April 2013: You need to learn your lesson this time. He is not going to change. If he doesn't pay you back the first time and lies about having paid you back, that means that's the kind of person he is. Anyone can get into financial difficulty but it's how you ... (read in full...)
I feel too ugly to be a bride!
Q. I don't want to sound conceited or like I'm being an attention seeker but I'm due to get married in 1 year and i feel as though I'm too ugly to be a bride. I hate having my photo taken and I even discussed with my fiancé about not having a ...
A. 30 April 2013: Hi there. I'm really sorry that you feel this way. It may seem like a silly problem to some but feeling fat or ugly can be devastating. We live in a sad, materialistic world that is completely obsessed with surface beauty, and those who don't ... (read in full...)
Important interview tomorrow. Help! How do I create a good impression? What are the points to take into account when being interviewed?
Q. Tomorrow I have a very important career interview for Aviation, Hospitality, Travel and Tourism training college. Tomorrow is going to be my first interview and I have no idea how things go and how to make an impression. Please tell me all the dos ...
A. 29 April 2013: Dress smartly and look smart overall. Nice hair, clean, ironed clothes. Arrive a little early so you have a chance to sit down, take a few deep breaths and calm your nerves. Be friendly and polite with everyone. Make eye contact, smile but be pro... (read in full...)
Need advice! Is he genuinely interested or just wants sex or some action?
Q. This a guy I met at a party who's going to the same school as me next year, and we started talking on facebook. We would talk for 3~7 hours a night and we have really entertaining conversations. I can't tell what his intentions are, and I'd really ...
A. 29 April 2013: I think that he is looking for some action. None of what you mentioned, including the things you say might indicate that he's genuine, makes me think that he wants anything other than sex. He hasn't asked for your number and hasn't asked you... (read in full...)
Should I take my nephew's advice and contact this man?
Q. 5 weeks ago my car was vandalised and a policeman came to my house to take a statement. This was a Wednesday. We started chatting and realised that we had lots and lots in common. I am 53 and he is 49, I am divorced and he has been separated f...
A. 28 April 2013: I don't know. I would be wary. He had no problem hanging out at your house for several hours, chatting you up while he was working, so I don't know if it's about professionalism. And dropping a DVD off at someone's house is hardly crossing a line if ... (read in full...)
My friend hurt me. Should I give her the chance to do it again? Or should I send her packing?
Q. My best friend hurt me really badly about a year ago it started suddenly for no obvious reason. She seemed to be constantly going out of her way to hurt me and said some terrible things behind my back. Including playing mind games and making nast...
A. 28 April 2013: Why would you want to be friends with her? She treated you terribly and you did the right thing taking a step back. Now she is trying to pin this on you, saying you were the one to desert her. She doesn't even see that she did anything wrong.
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I know my ex needs comfort. How do I tell him he can always come to me?
Q. Ok. My kids fathers mom and dad died and I need some advice, I know that it is killing him, how do i comfort him? His current girlfriend and I don't really get along. I know he needs someone to talk to and he usually comes to me for comfort. I have ...
A. 28 April 2013: I know you want to help him and be there for him, but imagine if the boot was on the other foot and you were trying to be there for and comfort your boyfriend who was grieving over a horrible, life-changing event, and his ex-girlfriend and baby mama ... (read in full...)
Why the comments on my shorts this year?
Q. I live in Michigan and it is starting to warm up out here. On Saturday I wore my shorts (they are a short athletic style) and a t-shirt. I had some errands to run and some of the looks and comments I got were very strong like Hey Baby nice ass! and ...
A. 28 April 2013: I agree with Sage Old Guy. There is no need to wear really skimpy clothes. I'm not a prude but I like to cover my ass in public. Most girls who wear skimpy clothes do so because they want the attention, then get "annoyed" when guys comment (but even ... (read in full...)
He calls me immature for questioning his relationship with his ex
Q. I have a serious problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for five years and have a three year old twins. His ex girlfriend, who is also his other child mother is a serious problem in our relationship. He cheated on me with her multiple ...
A. 28 April 2013: "I told him we need a break this morning.He told me be an adult for once."
This just goes to show that he is incredibly immature and unreasonable. You did something mature (suggesting a break, although if it were me I would be suggesti... (read in full...)
He calls me immature for questioning his relationship with his ex
Q. I have a serious problem with my boyfriend. We have been together for five years and have a three year old twins. His ex girlfriend, who is also his other child mother is a serious problem in our relationship. He cheated on me with her multiple ...
A. 28 April 2013: You need to leave him ASAP. He is a total waste of space and is obviously cheating on you. He gave you an STD and you didn't leave him? While you were PREGNANT? Come on.
I know what it feels like to have low self-esteem and want someone to love ... (read in full...)
I feel hurt by his remarks -- am I wrong?
Q. I'm slightly upset and I should not know if I should be. It was my boyfriends birthday. I was laid off, but I had saved some money for this occasion. He knows this, and he is aware of my financial situation. Firstly, he wanted something v...
A. 28 April 2013: Um, you're not the one who's acting spoilt here. Most mature adults I know wouldn't ask for anything for their birthday and would be very happy and grateful for anything they got. At the same time, I think it's fine to ask if you want something ... (read in full...)
I can't get over boyfriend's betrayal! Should we stay together because we care about each other?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having trouble with our relationship for about four months. We've been together for around 4 years. We care about each other very much, but sometimes I wonder if this is enough. There was an incident where he was dis...
A. 27 April 2013: If his betrayal is having this effect on your relationship, it might be better to leave him. Different people have different definitions of cheating. For me, emotional involvement with someone else is a form of cheating.
You've been together... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is this slightly older guy at work just trying to be nice?
Q. I just want to know if he's just trying to be friendly. There's this guy at work, he's a bit older than myself. I've noticed him around the office but never thought much of it. He sits a few rows in front now and everytime he goes back to his seat...
A. 27 April 2013: Maybe he does like you. Or maybe he's like that with everyone, but you don't notice because you're always looking at the floor. If you are attracted to him and think you would like to get to know him, the only way to do that is to stop looking away ... (read in full...)
Yes she is married. At the last minute she ripped up the divorce papers.How can I be friends with her?
Q. I’m in a sticky situation. I’m in love with a married woman and she’s my first love. It’s really hard. See they were getting divorced but still sleeping in the same house(different rooms and beds}. She had the papers and everything suit ...
A. 27 April 2013: Right now you are moping over her, feeling like she is your love and you want her back. Well, she never did anything nice for you. She lied to you, she tricked you, she cheated on her husband, she made fun of you and she dumped you. She doesn't ... (read in full...)
His answer to me standing up for myself is to break up
Q. Dear Cupid My bf broke with me cause i called him more than twice today. I had some money problem, i called him for his help, he got angry that im calling more than im supposed to and broke up with me in phone. I know i have to m...
A. 26 April 2013: Hi, I don't know how long you've been together but it's not really relevant. You need to break up with this guy, who is manipulating you and playing on your weaknesses, because I'm afraid you ARE the weaker one in this relationship. He gets to call ... (read in full...)
What does he mean he 'doesn't want drama'?
Q. Hi , so there is this guy at my work that I like so much but he is m y boss. I knoe he likes me too because of the way he act. But he never tells me that he likes me so last night I told him I like him very much and all he said was he is much ...
A. 26 April 2013: He's your boss. Do not go there. ... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 26 April 2013: Sorry if my judgement of him was harsh, it just sounded like he was putting her on a pedestal, comparing you with her, and refusing to take responsibility and deal with something that should have been dealt with a long time ago. By the sounds of it ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and my parents are strict. I want to get birth control but if I do my parents will judge me. What should I do?
Q. Okay I'm 18, and with having strict parents i sometimes feel like they don't understand me. Ever since i started dating my boyfriend i feel like he is the only one here for me. We have been together for almost a year now and we have started ...
A. 25 April 2013: Being 18, you don't actually have to tell your parents about anything you do. But you should probably hold off on the sex for a while until you know what's what because some of the things you say sound worryingly ignorant and I don't think you soun... (read in full...)
Involved with a married woman. So why is she acting this way? Why is she treating me like this?
Q. hey guys i need advice. ive been involved with a married woman for about 7 months. i know its wrong but hear what i have to say please. we started off as friends good friends. talking everyday spending a few hours together. and i started falling ...
A. 25 April 2013: You posted about the same problem just a few days ago and got some excellent advice from a number of people, with a lot of practical steps that you can take to make your life better, and it makes me sad that you seem to have just completely ignored ... (read in full...)
Any reason as to why he's being like this? Or is it that he's just too busy?
Q. Around 3 months ago, I went to the pub for a few drinks with a few friends. One of them I had previously met before and had tried flirting with me but i wasn't interested. I ended up getting slightly drunk and he walked me home and ended up kissi...
A. 25 April 2013: He might be busy but writing a text takes, what, 30 seconds? If we consider the kind of games that many people play with each other when dating, especially at the beginning, I think the key is that you've started finding him more attractive. He ... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 25 April 2013: Yeah I would also try talking to his mum, without him there, to hear her version of events. Only a complete psycho would deface someone's grave because they were jealous of a dead person, so unless he briefly dated a psycho, I find it quite ... (read in full...)
I found a sex toy in my boyfriend's room.
Q. Hi, Today I visited my bf in his house. We don't live together yet. It was a little mess, so I started to clean his place a little. Then I founf this, a sex toy, quite like a simple hole cup. Maybe it was there before, I just didn't noticed? ...
A. 24 April 2013: This is totally normal and nothing to worry about, but your reaction to it (it's a little disgusting - why is it disgusting?) and the fact that you are in your mid-to-late twenties and haven't done anything sexual together yet indicate some sort of ... (read in full...)
Due to be married in two weeks. But I get slightly jealous about his deceased fiance. Is the problem my jealousy or the grief he's never resolved from the past?
Q. Okay, my fiancé and I are set to be married in two weeks. We own a home together and have two beautiful, amazing kids. We have what many consider a "perfect" relationship, as no one has ever seen us argue/fight/be upset with each other, etc. We'...
A. 24 April 2013: I know that never fighting must seem like a "perfect" relationship but in my eyes that's a bit of a red flag. Even people who love each other and have things in common disagree about things and if a couple never ever fights, it means that someone is ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to have a baby with another woman. He's says I'm making this out to be a big deal. Am I over-reacting like he says?
Q. Im 20 years old and have 2 kids. My oldest is 4 and she is from a past relationship. Im now married and we just had our son in February. Recently my husband has been talking about having a baby of his own with another woman. I thought he was k...
A. 24 April 2013: Wow. I've never heard anything like it. Disgusting. How can you even ask whether you are overreacting? You are underreacting.
Sit him down, say to him that you are going to say this just once and then you never want to hear about it again. N... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 24 April 2013: Like Tisha says, James is a loser. His friends call him psycho so there is obviously some sort of issue with anger. He uses hard drugs. He doesn't have a job or a home and he constantly asks you for money and favours. He just generally doesn't ... (read in full...)
She says I don't act as in love as I say I am
Q. My gf and I have been together for two months. It had some bad times at first, but I've realized after that first month I am deeply in love with her, but she's said I don't seem to be acting as in love as I "say I am." We are gamers so... we'll go ...
A. 23 April 2013: Sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but things are unlikely to get any better because this girl sounds manipulative and selfish. It's one rule for her and another for everyone else - including you. So she can flirt with people online but ... (read in full...)
Why is she treating me this way? Did she ever love me? I can't deal with this!!!
Q. Hi guys my girlfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago a 6 month relationship. The thing is she's married and older 10 years she’s 28 I'm 18. Things were great I was moving closer to her she was making it clear it was over with her hubby. To make i...
A. 23 April 2013: I can't really add anything to the amazing advice the other aunts have given you because they are so right. It's probably not what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear, so please please listen to them and follow their suggestions. ... (read in full...)
Am I worrying too much about this since it's been so many years since he was my teacher?
Q. I currently am separated from my husband and we are in the middle of a divorce. It has not been finalized but we have not seen or spoken to each other in over 5 months, my attorney just sucks and is really slow. Anyway, I recently ran into my form...
A. 23 April 2013: Because the teenage years are very intense and formative, I think that many of the ideas we have as teenagers stay with us as we grow older. I left school 12 years ago but I still remember most of the teachers' names and faces. Honestly, if one of ... (read in full...)
Confession on face book has let people know who my crush is!
Q. I'd posted a very embarrassing personal confession in a confession group on FB, and then shared it on my profile to keep it in view.It was about an incident about a senior at college and how I had developed a crush on him. A classmate saw the shar...
A. 22 April 2013: People you are friends with on Facebook (not necessarily the same as being friends in real life) probably started reading it because you had linked to it and then realised that it might be about someone they knew and so it became juicy gossip. If ... (read in full...)
He seems to be overreacting -- could there be more to the story?
Q. i met this man online almost two weeks ago and after exchanging phone numbers we clicked instantly. We were both smitten by each other texting all day calling every night telling each other how much we missed each other it was crazy we had such good ...
A. 22 April 2013: Like others have said, he is cheesed off because he didn't get laid. A similar thing happened to me, also with a policeman, incidentally. He pursued me, we kissed, then when he tried to take it further and I said no, he went cold and tried it on ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he tell his potential new boss that he got married since the last time they talked?
Q. My husband recently had lunch with a potential new boss. He met him a couple years ago, when we had just moved in together (not married yet). Now, my husband and I are expecting our first child. He's very proud to talk about it with everyone he's ...
A. 22 April 2013: Does it matter that much? The fact that he talks about it with his current workmates means he's not trying to hide anything or pretend to be someone he's not. If he didn't mention the baby, he probably didn't mention the marriage for the same ... (read in full...)
Is this strange for a FWB hook up?
Q. I have been hanging out with my guy friend a lot more lately, and we have become 'friends with benefits', I think, can't really think of a better term right now (I usually don't have casual sex like that so it's kind of throwing me off). Anyway, I ...
A. 22 April 2013: What Cindy said. Absolutely spot on.... (read in full...)
How can I get him to pursue a relationship with me?
Q. I used to be "building a relationship" with this game named "James". I liked him a lot in the beginning, but over a few months of me waiting to be in a relationship, I found him less and less attractive with everything he did. He always asks me for ...
A. 21 April 2013: You could always ask him how he feels. It's the only way you'll know for sure. If he is worried about James's feelings then you have to respect that and not try to put pressure on him.
And stop giving James free tattoos. If he has racked up a gra... (read in full...)
How do you help someone who doesn't want help?
Q. My sister is in her mid-20s. Five years ago, she was in a relationship for 3 months. When it ended, she fell into a depression, which she has allowed herself to remain in ever since. This means that she has spent 20 times more grieving the end of ...
A. 21 April 2013: Thanks for all the replies, I really appreciate them and will try distraction techniques instead, as talking about it isn't helping and I don't think I can convince her to see a doctor. Cerberus, you make a very fair point, albeit without tact but ... (read in full...)
He really has ruined this girl emotionally. What can I do please I don't want to not be with her, why wont she let me in! Any advice would be helpful?
Q. I've been dating this girl for the past few weeks, not long I know but I like her so much and the more I get to know her, I'm sure of it already I want to be with her as my girlfriend. But last night I was left crushed at what she told me, that I'm ...
A. 21 April 2013: You sound like a good guy and it's a shame that she feels so damaged that she doesn't want to try again. I can understand her in a way. After several really bad dating experiences I met a wonderful guy. I was reluctant to try again but he managed to ... (read in full...)
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