He really has ruined this girl emotionally. What can I do please I don't want to not be with her, why wont she let me in! Any advice would be helpful?
Q. I've been dating this girl for the past few weeks, not long I know but I like her so much and the more I get to know her, I'm sure of it already I want to be with her as my girlfriend. But last night I was left crushed at what she told me, that I'm ...
A. 21 April 2013: You sound like a good guy and it's a shame that she feels so damaged that she doesn't want to try again. I can understand her in a way. After several really bad dating experiences I met a wonderful guy. I was reluctant to try again but he managed to ... (read in full...)
Does colleague's behaviour suggest he is interested or is it just professional courtesy?
Q. I met this guy for the first time through work a few months ago. Initially, I wasn’t attracted to him. I found him to be arrogant and annoying. Over the months, he’s grown on me. I have noticed that he craves attention. And he sulks when I talk to ...
A. 21 April 2013: Honestly I'm not sure. You haven't got very much to go on and you could be reading into things. Also the fact that you don't work in the same office and your communication is largely by email or telephone means that things can very easily get ... (read in full...)
My friend decided to move to Spain this June from here in the US. I have feelings for him. Should I confess that before he moves, and I lose contact with him?
Q. We're 2 guys. Weird as it seems. Both of us are also in high school. We've been friends since school started last year, in September. Funny thing is, I'm gay--if you asked me on the street, it's what I say (truthfully, I don't label myself--bu...
A. 20 April 2013: I pressed send too soon. I wanted to say, stick to what you believe in and what's important to you. Let this guy. Go to Spain. A couple of years down the line you'll barely remember him. That's the thing about crushes, especially when you're a teen... (read in full...)
My friend decided to move to Spain this June from here in the US. I have feelings for him. Should I confess that before he moves, and I lose contact with him?
Q. We're 2 guys. Weird as it seems. Both of us are also in high school. We've been friends since school started last year, in September. Funny thing is, I'm gay--if you asked me on the street, it's what I say (truthfully, I don't label myself--bu...
A. 20 April 2013: If you are trying to get someone to like you, someone you've obviously known for a while and shared intimate conversations with, then that person is not the person you are meant to be with. Three person you are meant to be with should be someone who ... (read in full...)
Does he like me JUST as a friend or something more? I can't read him!
Q. He emailed me that he wanted to ask me one of those awkward ones and yet funny at the same time type of questions. He's been wondering for quite sometime so he just wanted to throw it out there. Already knew what he was going to say, but put "Su...
A. 20 April 2013: It sort of reminds me of the classic, when A asks B out, B says no, A says I was only joking anyway. He was testing the water and he got rejected. Unfortunately we all have to deal with rejection from time to time. Leave him alone for a while to ... (read in full...)
BF told me today "You'd better not come back home until after 6pm" I pay rent & it's MY home too!
Q. Background info: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We moved in together for the first time last August. We attend the same college(as full time students) which is only a few minutes walk from our apartment. So, as the title say...
A. 17 April 2013: Please please please follow janniepeg's advice and go straight to the police while the bruise is still there. The guy is a violent, disgusting bully, even more so for trying to blackmail you into staying with him. You NEED to report him. Otherwise ... (read in full...)
Should I consider an open relationship or break with my boyfriend even though I love him?
Q. I've posted on here before and found the answers to be helpful, so I'm back. My boyfriend of about seven months and I are in love with each other despite our differences, which I don't mind since I actually like him as a person. He doesn't believe ...
A. 16 April 2013: Don't take a break, just dump him forever. Really. He sounds like a total loser. And stay well away from people who say they don't believe in monogamy.good luck.... (read in full...)
How does my friend interpret my smiley use?
Q. Hello. I have a good online contact that I generally interact with, every day. My inquiry is very important to get insight on. When I talk with my friend, I put the :) smiley for anything I answer. One time, he asked me to read some old li...
A. 14 April 2013: Probably in the same way that most people interpret LOL, i.e. it doesn't mean anything at all because of overuse. Maybe you could stop using it unless there is something that actually makes you smile. Familiarity breeds contempt and all that. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is becoming more annoying!
Q. hey (: okay basically me and my bf have been together for nearly 9 months we are absolutely perfect together, but recently he has been more annoying around his mates he brings up stuff like when I texted him quite late at night ages ago but he ...
A. 27 March 2013: If you read back through your own OP, it doesn't sound like you are perfect for each other. He's annoying you, talking about you to his friends, your friends are trying to split you up (why? Tell them to butt out) and you think he's annoyed with you ... (read in full...)
Will you let go of your cat you love if your mate has a terrifying phobia?
Q. I am interested in pursuing a relationship with a good friend of mine. We were once in a romantic relationship that ended because of the distance but now we realize we can't do without each other. He is planning to move down here with me so we ca...
A. 24 March 2013: Just hearing the crock of crap he came out with about cat spirits and bad luck would have been enough to put me off him for life. The guy sounds like a total moron. Keep the cat.... (read in full...)
He keeps saying he'll come see me, but it hasn't happened. He only works 2 days a week, couldn't he find time?
Q. So, I've been talking to this guy for 3 months now via text/couple of phone calls. We met during Christmas break, in person and started talking in a friendly/flirty way, by the end of January/beginning of February, things got a little bit more ...
A. 23 March 2013: I totally understand what you say about not meeting many guys that you connect with and where the attraction is mutual. I am exactly the same and this makes me try to cling on to relationships for as long as possible and put up with things that a ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my science teacher and I think me might like me too?
Q. i have a huge crush on my science teacher mr m....... because, his irish, his only 23, he has nice blue eyes and brown hair, and he is really nice to me. i think that he might have a crush on me too because everyone else who he teaches has that his...
A. 23 March 2013: I'm sure he likes you - as a student, nothing more. I'm a teacher and I like lots of my students. I am not attracted to any of them. I don't know any teacher who is attracted to his or her students. He appreciates the fact that you're on time and ... (read in full...)
He keeps saying he'll come see me, but it hasn't happened. He only works 2 days a week, couldn't he find time?
Q. So, I've been talking to this guy for 3 months now via text/couple of phone calls. We met during Christmas break, in person and started talking in a friendly/flirty way, by the end of January/beginning of February, things got a little bit more ...
A. 22 March 2013: He is wasting your time and I think you know deep down that he's not going to come. By waiting for him like this you are not being fair to yourself. You're emotionally tied to him and you might miss out on meeting someone else just because you are ... (read in full...)
Should I keep seeing this guy? He doesn't contact me for 4 days and then addresses me by my friend's name?
Q. Not sure if I should see this guy again. (Or maybe I expect too much) I have been seeing this guy for about a month now. It is very casual. He has shown interest in me. He would text every two days or so which is fine with me. This week he didn't ...
A. 22 March 2013: I think you should go with your instinct and not see him again. It sounds like he likes you, but he's not looking to be with you. Otherwise he would be trying to actually see you rather than making excuses. The fact that he had your friend's number ... (read in full...)
Should I completely drop it or is it possible that he will come around?
Q. hey everyone... well this is very short and i honestly want to know your honest opinions and what you guys think.. anyways I have this guy friend who I have been talking to for a while.. we met in the begining of the school year in August an...
A. 19 March 2013: I think you've asked this question several times before because I recognise the details. Listen, I'm sorry to be blunt but I think it's what you need to hear right now, so here goes: You need to FORGET IT AND MOVE ON. You are not going to hear from ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is calling me selfish because I have no emotional connection with my biological son. It's not even her child so I can't understand why she's bringing this issue up
Q. My girlfriend is calling me selfish because I have no emotional connection with my biological son. I told her about the situation 3 weeks into the relationship but now over a year later she is bringing it up and pressuring me into getting back in ...
A. 19 March 2013: Maybe your son is on her mind because she is thinking about having children, but the fact that you could turn your back on your son is making her question your suitability as a father to her child so she is desperately trying to change you. To be ... (read in full...)
Swept off my feet to be dropped on my butt
Q. Am I insane? I met a guy on match.com. We messaged eachother at the same time. He was stationed in afghanistan and would be home in two months. He was in special forces (i won't say what but it is pretty badass). we exchanged texts and emails d...
A. 19 March 2013: I totally agree with the other answer. Be very, very wary of a man who behaves in this way (sending roses and making plans before you've even met) as it is fake. If he had been interested in getting to know you as a person, he would have taken it ... (read in full...)
What is it about a short man that women find so disgusting?
Q. I have been rejected by a few girls and have lost heart. My track record keeps me from trying as I have no reason to believe I will succeed. I have been aware that women do not find short men attractive and recently i have been following "expos...
A. 19 March 2013: Stop reading about heightism on Twitter. It will give you temporary satisfaction to know you're not imagining things, because yes, people do sometimes discriminate against short men, just as they do tall women, overweight people, ethnic minorities, ... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy with the lack of support from my g/f. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hey guys, My father is suffering from some serious medical issues that came up suddenly and there is a chance that he may not ever come out the same again. He is in the hospital and has been for a month, and we're not sure how long he'll be th...
A. 19 March 2013: I'm sorry about your dad, and your mother's health problems, too. I can understand that that is very hard and stressful for you, and I'm sorry also that you don't feel you have so much support. How long have you been dating this girl? Maybe I mi... (read in full...)
What can I text to him to keep the conversation going and get asked out on a date?
Q. A few months ago I had a one night stand with a guy I met at a bar and it sounds stupid but I felt like we had a connection and he said he'd call but never did. I forgot about it and didn't think anything of it but I was out on Saturday and I forgot ...
A. 19 March 2013: I agree with everyone else. He was polite but distant and the conversation fizzled out. Leave it at that. Contacting him again will only make you look desperate, so save yourself the rejection and delete his number. Want better for yourself.... (read in full...)
Is there the slightest chance that my deployed exboyfriend with a pregnant ex will contact me or want to get back with me?
Q. 4 years ago I met this guy who I really liked, sadly we lost contact and even though I use to think about him loads i accepted it wasn't meant to be. 3 months ago I had a friend request from him on Facebook, I accepted and we got chatting. I went t...
A. 18 March 2013: I'm really sorry this has happened to you. A very similar thing recently happened to me. After a number of really bad relationships, I met a wonderful man and we started dating. It was going really well, we liked each other so much, and then all of ... (read in full...)
I know it's weird to have your tongue in someone's ear, but is it weird when you're making out with your gf?
Q. So this girl and I have been dating for about 4 months now. One day after spending the whole day together, we went back to her dorm. We were alone, so we talked for a bit and then started making out on her bed. I guess I just wanted to try ...
A. 17 March 2013: My ex used to do that. The first time I was very surprised because I couldn't imagine why someone would want to stick their tongue inside another person's ear, but it was a nice sensation, if a bit strange, and I did find it to be a big turn-on. ... (read in full...)
I have needs too, and they are not being met!
Q. BACKGROUND: I have been with my BF for over a year now. We don't live together yet, but we see each other at least 3 times a week. Every time we see each other, I give him at least 1 blow-job, some times even 2. A quadruple amputee could count ho...
A. 17 March 2013: I have been in a similar situation. My ex, who was a selfish person in many ways, went down on me the first couple of times (perhaps to make me think he was good in bed?) and then just stopped, while still expecting, or rather, demanding blowjobs. ... (read in full...)
Do other people think we are too young? Or that we don't count as a real couple?
Q. Well my boyfriend of 5 years wants to marry me, I no he won't propose this year as my sister is getting married so it will more than likely happen when I'm 21. [Mod note: the posters age is 19] I feel like we have been through a lot and last Aug...
A. 16 March 2013: Everyone is different. Some people meet when they are children and go on to marry and stay together for the rest of their lives. Others do not. All I can tell you about my experience is that I am not the same person at 29 asI was when I was 19. My ... (read in full...)
Ideas on how to best support my friend who just been through a break up?
Q. My friend put on her facebook status that she was upset so i asked her what was wrong, turns out she had broken up with her boyfriend of 15 months. I asked why and she said its a long story so i said i would go round and have a chat with her over ...
A. 15 March 2013: You sound like a good, considerate friend. Definitely bring her stuff, it will cheer her up. As for what to say, I don't think there are right and wrong things to say. Personally, if I break up with someone, the last thing I want to hear is... (read in full...)
Should I break up with him? He tried to force himself on me, but I refused. Does he love me or is he just interested in sex?
Q. I'm 22 plus my boyfriend is 27plus we had been dating getting to 4 years now we both love each other but now I can't tell if he still loves me. Any time I pay him visit now he does things that I felt are not right for us. Now like touching my...
A. 13 March 2013: You should definitely break up with him. I would never normally say that to anyone but in this case I believe it is the only solution. If you have been together for four years, and your refusal to have sex is not due to religious/cultural reasons, ... (read in full...)
My Bf claims a supportive girlfriend would stay awake with him everytime he can't sleep, How can I best support him?
Q. Hi all, my problem is simple I need to know how to stay awake even when I'm really tired. My boyfriend has trouble sleeping and I really don't understand it because he says he can never sleep but by the time I wake up he's swaying back and forth a...
A. 13 March 2013: This guy is being ridiculously selfish. I used to go out with a guy who had similar problems sleeping. He wasn't very nice and treated Me horrendously in many ways but he would never have asked me to stay awake to keep him company when he couldn't ... (read in full...)
Met ex at a beach and received flowers. Are we meant to be?
Q. My ex saw me driving along as i was on my way to the beach. Then he turned around and found me at the beach and asked if I wanted to go for a walk. It was really nice, and I was going surfing, so he went back home and got his board and we were both ...
A. 3 March 2013: I would be quite worried about the fact that he knew where to find you at the exact time the flowers were delivered to your house. That's a pretty big coincidence. If he was jealous and controlling then I don't think the two of you were meant to be, ... (read in full...)
Why is my friend's boyfriend being so mean to me?
Q. one of my friends has recentally got a boyfriend who i think is very aggroant. he has only talked to me twice and both were mean things. him and my friend constantly give me nasty looks. and today he was telling his friends how ugly and fat i am. ...
A. 28 February 2013: I agree with CaringGuy, why on earth are you friends with someone who treats you so badly? You should never have to put up with nasty looks and bullying behaviour from one of your friends. I really think you need to ditch this girl. Have you got ... (read in full...)
Did she end our friendship (again) because she likes my husband and cant stand seeing us happy?
Q. So I've been best friends with a woman for 15 years. The first 5 we were inseperable. We met husbands around the same time 5 years later but after the birth of my son, she dropped me. I called and left messages but never heard from her again for 5 ...
A. 6 February 2013: It's glaringly obvious that she is jealous. She is unhappy with her own life, as many people are, but some choose to change the things they don't like or work with the things they can't change, whereas others try to make themselves feel better about ... (read in full...)
How can I break up with my internet buddy? Shall I just tell him the truth, even if he thinks I used him?
Q. Hi there, my problem is that I started internet dating and met this guy and slept with him on our first date because I wanted to show my ex-bf that I could and had moved on. This guy is nice but now he is still around, he told me he loves me and w...
A. 20 January 2013: You do sound awful to be honest. Sorry if these are harsh, but the words that spring to my mind are weak, deceitful, spiteful and dishonest. You used this guy to get back at your ex-boyfriend, you have strung him along and lied to him, and now you ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to expect any future girlfriend not to have more experience than me and to not have dated a "bad boy" then?
Q. I am very inexperienced, and am still a virgin at 19. I want a girlfriend who will be loyal, loving, beautiful and giving. I have some confidence issues when it comes to girls. The few compliments I ever get, other girls tell me about a girl talking ...
A. 20 January 2013: I know many girls/women who are loyal, loving, beautiful and giving. They are also not virgins and have almost inevitably had experience with "bad boys". Which usually means, they have been hurt by "bad boys". I've never consciously gone for someone ... (read in full...)
Online comments from girls: should I take notice? Does a guy's personality change girl's opinion or perceptions about a guy?
Q. When I asked girls (online) to rate me, the majority of them said I was okay but I wasn't their type of guy. One girl said I was okay but no panty dropper (kinda hurt my feelings). and a couple said I wasn't good looking. I wanted to hear the trut...
A. 12 January 2013: "Also how can a girl say I'm not her type by just looking at a photo of me?" That's what you asked the girls to do. ... (read in full...)
He's older, but his financial issues make it difficult. Is this a fair enough reason to finish this relationship with him?
Q. I dated a man much older for almost two years. I was a student going to school full-time. He paid for many things and I pitched in when I could. I gave him my education checks that came in monthly to buy food, rent, etc. During the last few mon...
A. 11 January 2013: I think you made a very mature decision that says a lot about your strength and will to survive. He shouldn't even be thinking about having children if he doesn't have a steady income. Why didn't he want you to work? If you had had a job, you coul... (read in full...)
Is a brazilian wax worth the pain?
Q. So i'm really nervous now, I've booked myself in for a full Brazilian wax in a few days. But my friends have made me really nervous saying the pain is terrible!! I have a bad pain threshold, but I think of it as deal with the pain for something that ...
A. 11 January 2013: I've had it done in the past and, although I found the pain tolerable, the ingrown hairs I suffered with afterwards were not worth it. I followed the advice I was given: I exfoliated before, kept the area clean, used the expensive cream they sold me ... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 7 months and no sex!
Q. I am dating the guy for seven months now.. and we didn't have any sex! he didn't tell me I love you.. he is 23 years old and I am 40.. I feel his love but he didn't want to admit it! should I continue?...
A. 10 January 2013: I used to live with two gay men and met several of their friends and heard a lot of their stories. Sorry to generalise, but all the men I know, gay or straight, like sex, and the gay men that I've known definitely would not hang around for four ... (read in full...)
Does he have a mental disorder?
Q. Hello, this might seem a bit random but i'm just wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this? My boyfriend is like no one i've ever met before, hes 21 near 22 we have been together for near 2 years and ive known him for 10. He has su...
A. 10 January 2013: Am I right in thinking that you have a child together? Sorry if this sounds rude, but why did you decide to have children with him? There's nothing wrong with being a little bit strange, but he sounds like he is unstable and potentially dangerous ... (read in full...)
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