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My boyfriend forget my birthday and I'm ok with it but what should I do for his birthday?

Q.   So, my boyfriend(23) forgot my birthday. I(20) forgave him because we had only been going out for a couple of months and I know he's terrible with dates. I'm not the kind of girl who believes in soul mates and gets all hung up on one guy. I'm ...

A.   1 August 2015: Did your boyfriend know when your birthday was? Or did you not mention it and hope that he would remember? In the early stages of a relationship you can't always assume that your new partner knows the dates of significant events. So if y... (read in full...)

How can I tell him that his clothes are putting me off him?

Q.   I met a very nice man online and we've been on a few dates and have got on really well. Nothing physical has happened between us. Before we actually met we chatted a lot online and he ticked a lot of the boxes in what I'm looking for - we share ...

A.   1 August 2015: Thank you both for your responses. WiseOwlE, your no-nonsense reply made me laugh and I do agree with you that everyone should make the effort, especially if they want to make a good impression. He is very clean and tidy - shaved, smells nice, ... (read in full...)

My gf is never interested in sex and I am starting to miss my ex. How should I deal with this?

Q.   My girlfriend seems to never be interested in sex. We've been together for eight months now and only had sex TWICE, two months ago. It's getting to the point where I can't handle the frustration anymore. I take her out, I buy her gifts, flowers, ...

A.   27 May 2013: As you are sexually frustrated at the moment it is not surprising that you feel attracted to your ex girlfriend who is obviously a sexual woman. But that doesn't mean you have to act on it or get back together with her. Don't do anything with your ... (read in full...)

I broke up with my bf of 7 years but I miss him so much. Please help?

Q.   Hi .i recently posted about my bf not speaking to me 2-3 months at a stretch after a fight. I broke up with him. But im not able to forget about him. I miss him every single moment. I have not eaten for a week and a half. I feel like calling him and ...

A.   27 May 2013: How long ago did you break up? If it was recently, then don't contact him, just let things calm down for a bit. If the break up was 3 months ago or more, then send him a brief note - email or text - and ask him to clarify exactly why he broke ... (read in full...)

My bf is cold and hurtful after I had a miscarriage. Any advice please?

Q.   Hi i was just wondering are these the actions of a man who loves me. My boyfriend said he needed space after i had a miscarriage. The next day after this i was very upset as i could not understand how he could turn so cold towards me. He came back ...

A.   27 May 2013: I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage - I know from personal experience what a horrible and distressing thing a miscarriage is. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is also grieving, but his grief is showing by him rejecting those around h... (read in full...)

I don't want to wait for an emotionally unavailable man

Q.   I have been dating a lot since my divorce. I am meeting all types of guys but not the right one.. It has been a long, lonely road..A friend told me about a single guy and gave him my number. I waited a few weeks and he did not call. So, I called ...

A.   27 May 2013: You have made it clear to him that you're interested and have put the ball in his court. He knows that you would like to see him again. Right now there is nothing you can do but wait to see if he contacts you. If he's interested and wants to see ... (read in full...)

How do I engage myself on weekends so I wont have time to think and mope and call him and get humiliated by him?

Q.   Hi My abusive bf dumped me a week ago and im still struggling to move on. I havent contacted him from the day he dumped me. I had work the whole work, hence i didnt have much time to mope on, but since its friday and i have no plans for t...

A.   18 May 2013: Diatraction is the key. And getting out and about will be a good distraction. Also, being physically busy will help lift your spirits far better than staying at home. So, if you don't have a ready made circle of friends you need to (a) find so... (read in full...)

He didn't want a relationship, so why has he contacted me after 2 months of no contact?

Q.   I had a relationship with a man for 5 years. in the beginning we had sex, but after 6 months it became just friends as he didn't want a relationship with me. For the next 4.5 years I struggled with being just his friend as I loved him deeply. ...

A.   18 May 2013: Hi There Just to update you all. My friend came round two evenings ago to collect his book. He stayed for about 2 hours and we had a good talk. He's really upset that I ended the friendship even though I explained (again) my reasons why... (read in full...)

How do I ask him in a nonchalant way what he expects from our next date?

Q.   I have been on 3 dates with this guy and things are going smooth,he suggested our next date should be at his 'apartment'..we haven't had sex or made out yet we r just in 'getting to know each other' phase..he sent me a text earlier today saying 'so ...

A.   1 May 2013: You don't need to ask - he is hoping for sex. All you need to do is say that you're not ready for dates at his place and would rather you went out for a meal, to the cinema, or wherever. You can say this very nicely and you don't have to even men... (read in full...)

Why does the girlfriend of my boyfriend's friend act this way? It makes me very uncomfortable!

Q.   Hi. My boyfriend and his friends are like most guys these days. They're young, horny, flirty, like to play xbox and pc games, party, etc. One of my boyfriend's friends has a new girlfriend now and she is really beautiful. I don't wanna sound arro...

A.   1 May 2013: Despite her good looks, this girl seems to be very insecure and flirts and acts the way she does to get attention from guys which then makes her feel more attractive and popular. It's a shame that her flirting has started to cause people to call ... (read in full...)

He didn't want a relationship, so why has he contacted me after 2 months of no contact?

Q.   I had a relationship with a man for 5 years. in the beginning we had sex, but after 6 months it became just friends as he didn't want a relationship with me. For the next 4.5 years I struggled with being just his friend as I loved him deeply. ...

A.   28 April 2013: thank you both for your thoughts which are really helpful. I don't think he's contacting me for sex as that hasn't happened for over 4 years, but I do agree that he probably wants an ego boost. ... (read in full...)

How to get my boyfriend to gain his feelings back ?

Q.   So once again my boyfriend and I are having issues. He told me he Lost feelings and interest in me .. He said he wants me to make him get those feelings back. I have no clue how to do that :( I feel that after I see him tomorrow I will be a single ...

A.   28 April 2013: If he is unsure of his feelings towards you, he needs to decide for himself what they are - no-one can do this for him. The best thing you can do is to give him some space to decide what his feelings are for you. If you see each other regula... (read in full...)

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