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writes:My best friend hurt me really badly about a year ago it started suddenly for no obvious reason. She seemed to be constantly going out of her way to hurt me and said some terrible things behind my back. Including playing mind games and making nasty comments about my weight looks and life in general and also passing info about me to my ex and constantly telling me what he was up to as though she was trying to make me jealous. I wasnt but I didnt want to know at the same time and felt hurt that she wanted to make me feel like this. For this reason i backed off and left her to get on with her life. Now since then she accused me of disserting her but says she wants us to be close again.i'm a new mum and lonely but im not sure i can deal with her mind games. Should i tell her why I backed off, send her packing or let it go and allow her back into my life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): Yes give her a piece of your mind and send the bitch packing. It is not your fault she is just a bad person by the simple definition. Don't give it a second thought. Move on ASAP....
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (28 April 2013):
Tell her what she did so she can see that her actions have consequences, then tell her you don't think a real friend would have treated you that way, so you don't consider her your friend anymore.
Don't be surprised if she tries to hurt you again for doing so. That's just the type of person she is. You should know that, as they mature, most people can spot these types of people pretty easily. So what she says will carry little weight and she'll slowly find herself with very few friends.
After you tell her what she did you need to goblins some new friends. There are many mother's groups out there since it's very common that new moms find themselves lonely.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (28 April 2013):
 Why would you want to be friends with her? She treated you terribly and you did the right thing taking a step back. Now she is trying to pin this on you, saying you were the one to desert her. She doesn't even see that she did anything wrong.
Whether or not you take her back is up to you. I wouldn't personally. What kind of friendship did you have before she acted that way? It's easy to mistake people we have a good time with for genuine friends. I have fallen out with friends on occasion and the two who were true friends before we fell out found their way back into my life, while I can honestly say I barely remember who the others were.
Honestly I think she sounds like more trouble than she's worth and I think you know this. If you want to give it a shot then by all means do, but don't invite her back into your life just because you're lonely. Get involved in life, if you have a baby then why don't you try something like a mother and baby group? There are loads of lovely people who would make far better friends than her and you're just a step away from meeting them.
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