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Well I wish I could claim that I waited until I was older and wiser before deciding to share my advise with others but the truth is that I have been handing out my version of the unvarnished truth for as long as I can remember.
I can clearly recall myself at 13 years of age telling my girlfriend's mother that she was raising her daughter all wrong and screwing her up in the process. The funny part is that she stood there crying and actually listened to me and never held it against me. Looking back now, I find it pretty amazing because these people were well educated and rich. And I was nobody special, just a friend that cared enough to open my mouth.
And that never changed, over the years people came to know they could come to me for truthful advise and I would give it to them straight, no sugar coating.
I have been married for 23 years to a wonderful man. I have 3 sons and 2 grandchildren, they call me GeeGee, which is short for groovy grandma, hence the agony aunt name, lol.
I have a degree in the allied health field and have worked as an EMT and as a beautician. So I have heard a lot of sad storied in my day and my heart goes out to all of them.
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17 March 2011: So you are young and in love, that is so sweet and romantic. I am happy for you. I really am, there is nothing better then being young and in love. It is a very special time for all of us. But what happens when it is over?? Maybe you have ...
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Three months pregnant and he gets on my nerves all the time
Q. I am three months pregnant and ever since I have lost complete interest in the father/boyfriend. He gets on my nerves ALL the time and is always loveydovey and sensitive and it pisses me off. i feel like our relationship will fall apart through this ...
A. 10 March 2011: That's a low blow when I guy screams at you that he doesn't even beleive it's his baby when you both know it is. That to me is a sign of big trouble ahead. Either he is to immature to be a good husband and father. Or he is a real jerk. Niether ... (read in full...)
Should I confess that it was me who sent him the anonymous rose for Valentine's Day?
Q. He used to show interest in me for a year, but I was shy and ignored him even though I liked him too. The next year he started ignoring me back, but he was nice when I was nice to him (last day of school last year I sent a friendly Facebook ...
A. 10 March 2011: Maybe he has changed his mind about liking you, or maybe he is confused about why you sent him a rose when you basically acted like you didn't like him for so long.
Hopefully you will get another oportunity to give him the second part of the mess... (read in full...)
Three months pregnant and he gets on my nerves all the time
Q. I am three months pregnant and ever since I have lost complete interest in the father/boyfriend. He gets on my nerves ALL the time and is always loveydovey and sensitive and it pisses me off. i feel like our relationship will fall apart through this ...
A. 28 February 2011: How long were you dating him before you got pregnant?... (read in full...)
What can I do about this? My BF is always so sad
Q. I need help, My boyfriend is Always sad! he cant spend too much time with me without just being like "ok i want to go home now i've had enough for one day" he said he loves me but i dont feel it and when i tell him that, he doesnt try to show me it, ...
A. 27 February 2011: Confusedlover 10 could very well be right. Before you do anything else I suggested please just ask him if he's been wanting to break up with you but was afraid to hurt you. ... (read in full...)
He was awful to me, so why do I want closure from his abusive ways as badly as I do?
Q. Why do I miss someone who was abusive? I met this guy a few months ago. He came with a lot of "issues"---he was an ex-con, has multiple kids, possible anger issues. However, I try not to judge people, and when I first met him, I thought he was t...
A. 27 February 2011: Dear lady, you are not a naive young girl anymore. So you should have known better then to get mixed up with an ex con with domestic violence in his background.
And you are never going to get closure form this man. Why? Because an ex con doesn't ... (read in full...)
We want to leave this judging, lying town and head for the states
Q. Hey guys, recentley I've had alot of BS in my life. Only way to put it. So me and my girl went camping in the woods for a bit, just wanted to leave everything for a while. I really realised a lot about myself, and about why i am depressed. As soon ...
A. 27 February 2011: Can you please tell us a little bit more about what has been going on. Other than the fact that you are very young to be planning to run away with your girlfriend it's hard to give you an honest opinion.... (read in full...)
That cliche of being hot for teacher...
Q. I met him in August of my sophomore year, when I first sat in that desk in his class room, he called our names, learning who we were. He got to mine, last on the list of the twenty or so kids in my class. My last name being German, he spouted off ...
A. 27 February 2011: I understand how confused and alone you must feel right now, but you must not go any farther with your teacher or your right, it will ruin his life! And mess you up in the process.
If anyone ever finds out he would lose his job and never be able ... (read in full...)
Can't forget about wife's past lovers
Q. Before my wife and I were married she was close friends with my sisters and I would occasionally meet her with her boyfriends or hear stories through my sisters. I personally met three of her ex-boyfriends. She also had a brief couple night stand ...
A. 27 February 2011: Maybe you should have thought about all this BEFORE you MARRIED her. Its a little to late now don't ya think???
I mean come on.. what brought all this up again for you anyways??... (read in full...)
He told my uncle he wants sex with me?
Q. What are your views on men who want sex from you ?. I'd like to get different opinions on this. I met a guy tonight who my uncle knows. I was out with my uncle. He came over to say hello to my uncle , and obviously he saw me. When my uncle went to ...
A. 27 February 2011: Ok As an adult I know how men talk to each other when no women are around. But this is cheap disgusting behavior. I mean this guy walked up to an older man who was obviously with you and just announced to him that he wanted to have sex with yo... (read in full...)
I've never gave a handjob before.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 months. He is my first proper relationship and we really havn't done anything sexually. He has fingered me twice, but I want to return the favour and give him a handjob. Problem is I've never done anything...
A. 27 February 2011: "And would it be weird to ask if he could guide me with his hand at first. Like hold mine below his and then let go and let me finish once I've gotten the hang of it?"....
Thats an excellent idea for your first time. Only I'd put my hand righ... (read in full...)
What can I do about this? My BF is always so sad
Q. I need help, My boyfriend is Always sad! he cant spend too much time with me without just being like "ok i want to go home now i've had enough for one day" he said he loves me but i dont feel it and when i tell him that, he doesnt try to show me it, ...
A. 27 February 2011: Sweetie, Nobody can make someone else happy. Happiness has to come from inside yourself.
Has anyting happened to your BF in the last 6mths to a year? A death, lose of job in his family, has he quit any sports teams or stopped doing other things... (read in full...)
Three months pregnant and he gets on my nerves all the time
Q. I am three months pregnant and ever since I have lost complete interest in the father/boyfriend. He gets on my nerves ALL the time and is always loveydovey and sensitive and it pisses me off. i feel like our relationship will fall apart through this ...
A. 27 February 2011: Hold on until the baby is born and see how you feel then. Besides all the hormones you have surging through your body you're both just in very different places right now.
You liked him well enough when you were both happy go lucky teenager... (read in full...)
7 years together and torn apart by her parents...
Q. Hey there Dear Cupid, its been a long time. The question I have to ask is one that has been on my mind the last few weeks (Since around Valentines day). My girlfriend and best friend of 7 years and I were split up in late December by her ...
A. 27 February 2011: Sorry about the talking her to death comment, was just trying to make sure you weren't over burdening the girl with all these thoughts and feeling at once when you did get a chance to speak with her. It was pretty lengthy.
As for your second q... (read in full...)
Broke up with my BF. He calls to say I miss you/nice things but wont apologize or invite me out.Why is he being like this?
Q. I recently broke up with my bf (On wednesday the 23rd). Today would be the 6 mo. mark. The last few mo (ever since he was put on suspension w pay from his job (he still has income from the military tho) - hes been diff. Also we started school last ...
A. 27 February 2011: Yes you are very right, he is trying to manipulate your emotions don't fall for it. Actions speak louder than words.... (read in full...)
I want to go out with him again. How do I make it happen?
Q. So basically, two years ago I dated this boy- we broke up after two months because my friends didnt like him and they were making up rumours and I stupidly listened to them. Apparently when I broke up with him he was 'heartbroken'. But although...
A. 27 February 2011: Just grab his hand and say come here a minute. Pull him into a hallway or a dark corner and kiss him. You'll know in about 5 seconds whether or not he stills likes you.... (read in full...)
Why would he meet up with a woman he says he doesn't like?
Q. I'm so confused about my boyfriends behaviour.We have been going out for 2 yrs.I liked him because he wasn't controlling,he didn't demand anything off me.Sex is amazing,and he is the perfect gentleman.We are both individual and both have male and ...
A. 26 February 2011: For some strange reason it seems like he chose to go out with this woman because he knew how much it would bother you. Maybe he was jealous that were going to be out "having fun" with your ex...
Or maybe he was just at lose ends the night of... (read in full...)
My ex-best friend hates my boyfriend
Q. I just don't know what to do here. My Ex-Bestfriend and me are now on talking levels after I found out she doesn't hate me she hates my boyfriend. She hates him because she swears he purposely touched her boob well play fighting with her one day. ...
A. 26 February 2011: Thats a tuff one. Because while I strongly believe that a girl should never drop her friends over a boy it the girlfriend here is the one that is making waves.
Maybe you should just explain to her that he is sorry but it was an accident and whil... (read in full...)
Why isn't he returning my calls or acknowledging my texts?
Q. I have been talking to a guy for a little over a year and a half now. We waited 8 months to even have sex. We decided we wanted to take things slow. Well about 7 months ago things weren't going right....mostly a lack of communication and we quit ...
A. 26 February 2011: He already gave you the answer to your question...
He isn't ready for a relationship and he wants you to move on without him.
We as woman seem to have a big problem truly hearing what the men in our lives are saying to us. Why do we keep taki... (read in full...)
7 years together and torn apart by her parents...
Q. Hey there Dear Cupid, its been a long time. The question I have to ask is one that has been on my mind the last few weeks (Since around Valentines day). My girlfriend and best friend of 7 years and I were split up in late December by her ...
A. 26 February 2011: Dear B.A.S I suggest you send her a message or a note saying something like this...
Hey you know it was never my idea to break up in the first place. So if you've changed your mind for any reason, all you have to do is let me know. THE END.... ... (read in full...)
Too wet during sex?
Q. I'm having a problem with my sex life - I'm a pretty tight girl but i get extremely wet during sex to the point where my boyfriend complains that it doesn't feel as good! Does anyone know what I can do?...
A. 26 February 2011: Keep a small towel near the bed. Or a pack of wet naps.
If that still doesn't suit him, find a new bf, because a mature man would take it as compliment.... (read in full...)
Broke up with my BF. He calls to say I miss you/nice things but wont apologize or invite me out.Why is he being like this?
Q. I recently broke up with my bf (On wednesday the 23rd). Today would be the 6 mo. mark. The last few mo (ever since he was put on suspension w pay from his job (he still has income from the military tho) - hes been diff. Also we started school last ...
A. 26 February 2011: Stick to your guns girl you are doing the right thing. I think he is testing you to see if he can get you back without having to do any work or make any changes in himself. In short he is being lazy and taking you and the entire relationship for ... (read in full...)
Friends getting negative impression of my guy because he always cancels out on meeting them!
Q. A few times in the last 2 weeks I have invited the guy I have been dating (for a month) to come out to dinner with my friends and myself. We have done dinner with his friends a few times and are on friendly terms and while he has met a few of my ...
A. 26 February 2011: I'd try it one last time letting your boyfriend choose the time and place. Maybe he is afraid of meeting them or maybe he was broke the last times and embarrassed to tell you. Most guys are more comfotable hanging out with their own friends. It'... (read in full...)
Should I confess that it was me who sent him the anonymous rose for Valentine's Day?
Q. He used to show interest in me for a year, but I was shy and ignored him even though I liked him too. The next year he started ignoring me back, but he was nice when I was nice to him (last day of school last year I sent a friendly Facebook ...
A. 26 February 2011: Well it would be one way to break the ice and get the ball rolling again. And he seems to like you too so I think its worth a shot.
He probably would have talked to you more and maybe even asked you out by now if you had given him more encourag... (read in full...)
We're in financial trouble and have been offered money for sex, should we do it?
Q. I am currently engaged and still studying, which means I don’t have much time to work. Money for us is quite tight between paying for our house and other expenses. My fiance had lunch with a man who we have known for a little while and brought ...
A. 26 February 2011: Having a threesome with a married couple when your bf doesn't approve of it is dicey enough.
Getting paid to do it would haunt you for the rest of your life and most likely destroy your self esteem.
I vote don't do it.... (read in full...)
When I tell her I want to help she gets more upset!
Q. my girlfriend is having trouble with her family and is always upset and wants time to herself what should i do i want to help her through but when i tell her i am here to help she gets more upset ...
A. 26 February 2011: Maybe she is embarrased by her family troubles. Maybe she doesn't think its fair to get you involved. It really doesn't matter why.
All you need to know and understand is that she is asking you for the space she needs to deal with it on her own ... (read in full...)
He flirts but doesn't want a relationship!
Q. Why would a guy flirt heavily with a girl, tell how awesome she is and about how they think it'd be nice to kiss and cuddle but then say that they are not interested in a relationship? And how do I get him to want a relationship w/ me?...
A. 26 February 2011: I don't understand your confusion...
It's really quite simple. He is telling you that he would like very much to sleep with you at least once.
As to "how do I get him to want a relationship w/ me?"
The answer is you don't.
... (read in full...)
B/f thinks we should break up till I finish my studies
Q. My bf and i have been going out for almost two years. For 5 1/2 months he was in Austria and we stayed together. He was back for a week before he had to leave for uni. Everything was fine for that week. Two days after going to uni we get into a ...
A. 26 February 2011: I don't think he is trying to hurt you, I think he just doesn't feel like he will be able (or willing) to keep up with his studies and make sure you don't feel neglected at the same time. Cindycares is right it could work if he were willing to set ... (read in full...)
How can I gain clarity about my situation?
Q. This is my life. I live with my girlfriend. I get up for work at 6am everyday and return around 7pm. My girlfriend does odd jobs and persues her creative work. We have not had a sexual relationship for well over a year. I don't really know how this ...
A. 26 February 2011: You may not have sex for over a year but I bet your girlfriend has. Ooops I mean your roommate. Because that is what she has become, whether you chose to admitt it or not. It also sounds like you earn more then she does and probably pay most of the ... (read in full...)
It makes me sick to think about my husband going on a work trip with a female co-worker. How do I cope?
Q. I hate being jealous, but I don't know how to change! I absolutely admire people who never get jealous. How do they do it? My husband will be traveling out of town next month with a female co-worker and I'm trying to be cool about it, but it is ...
A. 26 February 2011: I think maybe its time for him to worry about you for change. Don't go over board but maybe you could make some plans for yourself while he is gone and make sure he knows about them. Tell him that you think your going out for dinner & drinks with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has transcended into a higher being, and dumped me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and 1/2 years. We have been through sooo much together to develop this great relationship. In the beginning, we struggled because I was in the middle of another relationship. After that relationship ...
A. 26 February 2011: I agree with Tem this guy is NOT mentally stable.
And if I understood what you wrote correctly it sounds like his dad threatened to cut him off financially if he didn't break up with you after his second suicide attempt. I don't think they blam... (read in full...)
I've always found it hard to make friends. I thought it would change when I went to Uni, but it hasn't! Please help!
Q. I know there are a lot of pleas for help on how not to be so lonely and how to make more friends but here is mine, another to add to the list! The only time when I feel comfortable and I can truly be myself (whoever that is) is when I am with my ...
A. 26 February 2011: Whew that is a long list. Let me just say first not to give up, there is hope. You just might have to work at it harder then others at first to be successful at socializing. Step one: Study other people and see how they do it. Your sister may ... (read in full...)
My ex gave his friend my number? Why would he do this? Help!
Q. I asked a question yesterday about how my ex had a way of coming into my life again after our breakups, since we have been on and off for a year. Well we haven't talked for a month since our breakup, but this morning I woke up and had a text from ...
A. 26 February 2011: Your ex is creep and you were probably just the first girl he thought of when this other creep asked him for a favor to hook him up with someone. Blow them both off. Your ex probably knew you would never go out with the guy and just did it to ... (read in full...)
Do Guys Like Clingy Girls repost
Q. do guys like clingy girls... i am reposting this question because i didnt get many respondes i need different opinions... me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and everything is good except that we dont communicate that much... he ...
A. 26 February 2011: Honey, I am sorry to tell you this but your relationship with this boy is probably not going to survive long distance. Please don't freak out and do anything crazy like let your grades suffer of drop out of school. That won't help win him bac... (read in full...)
I'm 34 years old and feel like such a disappointment! Help!
Q. I am so baffled, depressed and confused. My parents have been married for 40 years, my younger brother has been married 15 years. I am 34 and nothing in sight....Am I disappointment? I have a Masters degree, tons of friends, and I flunk in the love ...
A. 26 February 2011: You sound like you were a wondeful girlfriend, far better then most even. The only thing I can figure here.. Is it possible that he started to take you for granted? You talked a lot about all the things you did for him. But how much did he ever... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has gone off on a vacation with his ex wife and kids, does he love her more?
Q. I don't think that I'm being unreasonable that I'm fairly annoyed that my partner, the guy who says he loves me.. has just gone away for a few days away with his ex wife and kids. Staying in a hotel in a family room! Last year I begged him to go aw...
A. 26 February 2011: You know there are many ways one could argue for reasons why it is healthy for a man to spend some time with his ex and children doing family activities as a family. But the fact that he canceled a vacation with you because it would UPSET HIS EX, ... (read in full...)
My significant other has crawled into his man cave and wont come out!
Q. My SO he has retreated into what my sis called his "man cave" where he needs to think things through by himself and I should just leave him alone for the time being. He said it's not about us completely but he feels as if his life is about making ...
A. 25 February 2011: It sucks when this happens but every man is intitled to ask for his space ONCE during the early course of a relationship to re-evalute things. It only becomes a problem if they make a habit out of doing it everytime the relationship starts to get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best friend (a girl) have a ritual where they spend Sunday night together and drink past midnight!!
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 15months. His best friend is a woman he's known for 15. When they met, she was a lesbian in a long term relationship. They spent their Sunday nights together and started a ritual of making...
A. 25 February 2011: Ok so you have some pretty strong feelings about this not being appropriate. The only question left to ask then is this.
Are you willing to risk the relationship over it? If he isn't willing to give up movie nights with his friend?
Because... (read in full...)
A month has passed, but I still love my ex!
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up almost a month ago..he has moved on, but I still love him! He has been "talking" to other girls, which is like technically dating, and has done something with another girl. He has said some very, very hurtful things to ...
A. 25 February 2011: When you are with one person long enough you actually become chemically addicted them. Regardless of whether or not they are a good person for you to be with.
The only thing that helps is time and to make a clean with them. No contact, no texts... (read in full...)
We had a date, then he asks me for sex through a text! Awkward or normal?
Q. So i went on one date with a guy i met about a month ago. weve been really busy so we havent gone out as many times as we'd wanted to (he goes skiing a lot on the weekends) but weve talked every day. the other night we were texting and i have a ...
A. 25 February 2011: Yes, all guys will want sex from you. They think about it at least one hundred times a day at your age. That is why you need to be careful about who you give it to. And wait until your older to do it.
Just so you don't misunderstand, I am not a... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents that I kissed a girl?
Q. My friend and I kissed, we're both girls. I'm kind of confused about my sexuality. I mean, I like guys I know that but is it possible I like girls too? And should I tell my parents? The only problem is I dont want to complicate things when I'm so ...
A. 25 February 2011: Girls are soft and they smell good whats not to like? That doesn't make you gay. At this age your hormones would probably respond the same way to almost anyone you were close to that gave you a gentle loving kiss or touch.
Try not to let it c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his best friend (a girl) have a ritual where they spend Sunday night together and drink past midnight!!
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 15months. His best friend is a woman he's known for 15. When they met, she was a lesbian in a long term relationship. They spent their Sunday nights together and started a ritual of making...
A. 25 February 2011: Sorry but I am going to have to diagree with most of the comments above. Ok I admitt I would not be thrilled about the fact they feel the need to get drunk everytime they have these movie nights but other than that I think you are being a little ... (read in full...)
Should I text her or is it too soon?
Q. I met this amazing girl and so far she looks like the type of girl i want to be with. The thing is i was in a relationship for a couple of years and before that i didnt do a whole bunch of dating so this is kinda pretty new to me. I havent been with ...
A. 25 February 2011: Most girls can't wait to hear from a boy they like so don't worry about it so much just do what feels right. She'll let you know soon enough if she feels the same way.... (read in full...)
I just don't want to end up in a sex-less marriage. Please help.
Q. I have been with my man for a few years now and we are engaged to be married in a few months time. Recently the sexual part of the relationship seems to be non existent. Its been at least two and a half weeks since we last had sex and we are lucky ...
A. 25 February 2011: Have him get checked for low testosterone, there may be a simple solution to your problem. But don't marry him until this issue is resolved.... (read in full...)
I like oral sex, but I do not enjoy intercourse, and I see it as a burden. How can I learn to enjoy sex?
Q. I'm 17 and I've been with my boyfriend just over a year now. He's the only person I've ever had sex with and I've never really enjoyed it. I enjoy oral sex, but whilst we are having intercourse I don't feel much at all and I feel as if sex is a ...
A. 25 February 2011: I agree with all the comments above, you need to find out what does work for you and then teach him how to please you. Woman on top may help because it gives you more contact and more control. And when he is on top well, there is nothing wrong with ... (read in full...)
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