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writes:Before my wife and I were married she was close friends with my sisters and I would occasionally meet her with her boyfriends or hear stories through my sisters. I personally met three of her ex-boyfriends. She also had a brief couple night stand with this guy who was apparently well endowed and was telling my sisters that he liked pinning her ankles behind her ears so much that she had problems walking the next day. There were other stories but you get the gist. Now she only had a total of five boyfriends and I have been with 15-20 women so I should no be judging anyone. We are happily married but keep on thinking of those stories and this is years later. So, how do I forget about it, should I talk to her, should I see counselling, should I ask someone to whack me in the head so I lose my memory?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I am guessing she is around your age range so five people at her age is really good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Retroactive jealousy is normal. Modern society is in denial about how normal it is because we wish it would go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): I think the best thing to do is to realize that yes she had her fling and this was in the past and you had your fling and that was in the past. So you slept with about 15 to 20 women and she had about 5 maybe? What you have to realize is that out of all those men she slept with, she chose to marry you. She chose to be with you. She chose to build a life with you. You are the lucky one out of all the men in the world, she chose you. Now, when you get the jitters and start thinking about those men she's been with, what about thinking about all those women you've been with? You think she might be thinking of that as well? Marriage is all about respect and love and looking to a lifetime of looking forward to the future and making a life together. Don't let the past make your future. Take her in your arms and make all the many wonderful memories together. If you don't and start to worry about all those men she's been with, you'll end up losing the one prize you should never have to lose because of your insecurity. Live your life in the present not in the past and do it now!!!!
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reader, sam44  +, writes (27 February 2011):
That sounds hard to swallow especially the ankles behind the ears... thats too graphic to brush off, but still i will be very honesty with you.
Why did you married her, if i may ask? because now all you can do is keep it moving and take it like a man. This woman didnt do you any wrong or cheat on you. i didnt hear you saying anyone cheated, deceived or lied to you! which means you made a choice and now you have to live with it. I kow thats sounds tough but thats the best you can do. Brush the thoughts off your mind. Do your best. Good luck
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Maybe you should have thought about all this BEFORE you MARRIED her. Its a little to late now don't ya think???
I mean come on.. what brought all this up again for you anyways??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): Focus on making new and even more wonderful memories with your wife.
Remember that you know what it is like to date someone before her and how it all doesn't matter anymore.
Stay strong and spend more time with your wife.
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