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reader, Red591  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 I would let her lead a bit. Dont put yourself on hold forever though. Let her know your intentions of returning to a relationship but let her know that you are aware you messed up and it will be her decision. If she wants you back then you will know it and I would suggest not letting jelousy ever control you again. You can't contol others, all you can do is control yourself and your own actions. People will do what they will do. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (21 September 2010):
 Are you truly prepared to trust her 100%??? To not doubt her unless she actually gives you reason to? If you are then tell her how you feel, if not, let her find a man who will...
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reader, Missioncircle1 +, writes (20 September 2010):
Missioncircle1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question So should i ride this one out and let her lead? or should i just tell her how i feel.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (20 September 2010):
well then she has a valid point but she may still have feelings for her but you first have to show her that you 100% trust her. I have been cheated on for first time recently and it truely sucks. There is no way to ensure it will never happen but if you act like everyone is suspicious then you will end up with no one. Make sure she knows you will not be this way again and DON'T BE. If she cheats then she is not worth it but if she won't be with you because you thought she would cheat then that is a true loss. Be secure and don't let your hang ups Hang You Up.
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reader, Missioncircle1 +, writes (20 September 2010):
Missioncircle1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we broke up up cause she was tired of me not trusting her and she did everything she could to show me that i could trust her and she just got tired of it =/
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reader, Red591 +, writes (20 September 2010):
what broke you two up?
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reader, Eskim0  +, writes (20 September 2010):
I think that there was a reason why you both broke up and you've gotta remember why that was.
Remember, it's called a break up because it's broken. If a year has passed and nothing new has come into fruition for you to, it's probably time to accept that the relationship has come to a close, and move on with your life.
I mean, how can you find love again if you are still hung over on your past?
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (20 September 2010):
I don't think you should have to suffer no. Then again you do run the risk of pushing her away further if you spill all to her too quickly. Maybe arrange to have coffe, or lunch somewhere. Get properly talking to her again, see how she reacts to it, and go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010): i think that you have a very good question. what i think that you should do is tell her how you fell about her, and she might fell the same way but you will never now unless you tell her.........XOXO
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