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writes:If your in a relationship, and you flirt with someone else would you consider that to be cheating?I haven't done this, i'm just curious to what people think...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): Married women should never actively seek out flirting opportunities behind their husband's back i.e. flirting leads to f**king. Question is, how should a very flirtatious woman conduct herself if she is genuinely trying to attract a specific guy? How is he going to be able to tell the difference between this and her usual state of interaction?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): Flirting leads to cheating. There's this woman at work whose marriage collapsed over a period of years 'cos she spent so much time talking and flirting that her working day became stretched to make up for the lost time i.e. should would arrive late to the office and leave very late in the evening. I think in a professional context if a woman is going out of her way to talk to you and seems nervous around you or that little too friendly then that could be seen as cheating. But what do I know - I asked out this particular woman thinking she had the hots for me only for her to go to human resources! Interestingly, about 4 year's ago I remember her extending a hand to almost touch me and then withdrawing at the last minute - so may be touching a guy is what she considers cheating. Anyway, she starting seeing another guy at the office and has been doing so for 2 years. I meanwhile left the company a broken man - but not broke i.e. thanks for the redundancy cheque!
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reader, [email address blocked]  +, writes (4 December 2009):
![[email address blocked] agony aunt](/avatars/6210e5e8-1761-476c-91b2-0651f1f556b6.png) I don't think so - but that's because I'm a flirtatious person. I don't flirt to hurt anyone or intentionally, it's just who I am. If I dated a guy who thought I was cheating just because I was flirting with someone, I wouldn't date them anymore. And if I were dating someone who was a pretty flirtatious person, like me, then I wouldn't consider it cheating.
BUT if you were dating someone who isn't that way and they start flirting with other people, then I would be concerned. I guess the moral of the story? It depends on the people and the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009): For me, it's crossing the line when sexual or romantic touching happens. It's mild cheating. Forgiveable, unless they don't stop doing it. They would lose trust points and have to gain them back somehow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): As long as its not right in front of your partner! I'm a barmaid/waitress, so I sometimes flirt with the customers, cos teebs it sells more and makes them happy.
It depends, a little bit is ok, but full on flirting is not good. As well as leading the other person its disrespectful.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (3 December 2009):
It depends on the person. Some would consider that cheating, while I think most wouldn't as long as you don't cross a line.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (3 December 2009):
 flirting isn't cheating
Its just disrespectful and rude when with a partner
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 December 2009):
If you're having a bit of a flirt and it's all in fun then no harm done.
With this kind of thing it's always more about the intention than the act.
If you flirted with a view to making someone jealous, or to lead a guy on then that's bad.
If you flirted for a bit of a laugh knowing that the other person knew it was all a laugh then it's fine.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 December 2009):
It depends how much you (as in someone else, not actually YOU) flirt. Talking jokingly with someone, dancing with someone isn't that bad, so isn't cheating. But if you're allowing some guy to grope you or really going out of your way to get male attention, then though it isn't cheating, it's a pretty sure sign you don't care enough about your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): well its not actully cheating but im positive your partner wont like it. plus its posible that it leads to cheating even if you dint mean for it to happen and the person your flirting with could start giting feelings for them and honistly if i found out that my boyfriend was flirting with other girls i would be pissed at him for along time idk about other people though.
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reader, Lovely Sweet Laura  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 That would depend greatly on what you consider to be flirting and what you consider being friendly-this is fine line your talking about. I think that being friendly/flirty is not considered cheating but my idea of friendly may be completely different to yours. If the flirting involves touching or sexually suggestive conversations I would consider that to be a little to close to cheating for me to put up with it from a partner. Otherwise, if they are just carrying polite conversation I don't see that being a problem. We interact with people on a regular basis, being friendly/flirty can sometimes benefit our working relationships with people it sure beats trying to deal with a grump. Cheers!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): no
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