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writes:Hi everyone,I have broken up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago and we had been together almost 8 years. He went to study abroad and we therefore decided to split, but its very very hard and i cry everyday. The thing is im also suffering from panic attacks and anxiety and therefore i barely go out and see my friends and definitely dont meet anyone new. Its like i cnt even make myself move on. i was on anti depressants for a year and then stopped coz i was better but now its been a few months im bak to before and im starting to feel really down. I dont know what to do, any advice?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help everyone, i guess it is normal im feeling down after such a long relationship, and i have been seeing a therapist but it takes time, so mayb i just need to be more patient. I might go back to doctors, the antidepressants were mainly for anxiety and i was proud id stopped them thats y i am nt sure i wanted to get some again. Thanks for all your support :)
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (7 December 2009):
 After 8 years this is such a big change in your life. But your still young and youve got so much to live for. Allow yourself to grieve but dont let it overcome you. Get on medication for your depression and for your panic attacks as these were before the break up and could be returning through the hurt of what you've lost.Things are meant to happen for a reason, and though it dont seem like it now things will get better and something good will come out of what has happened to you now. Get your family and friends to support you these next few months and help you recover and pick up the pieces, make sure they know whats going on so they can help. Break up's are hard, but long distance relationships can be even harder, put the old relationship away in the back of your mind and remeber its all for the best. x
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reader, Miss Pot Noodle +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Don't give up, there is a lot of help out there! You could also try something called "Cognitive behavioral technique" It's very useful I have just started reading a self help book about it, its helped changed the way I think about things as I suffer from Anxiety and panic attacks but since reading this book I have began to get a bit better.
It's not a 100% cure, it requires a lot of work and time. But keep at it, and when your ready keep your eyes open for that special someone whom will take care of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Hello im sorry to hear youre feeling so down! And arent panic attacks horrible, i used to get them. And anxiety. Big time! There were days when just going to a shop was a huge event. So i know how hard it is to start the day feeling good about things when you think you know whats ahead. But believe me things will get better.
It must have been a wrench saying goodbye to your partner afetr so many years together. Its a shame you couldnt have tried a LDR with him but i guess there were reasons you both didnt go down that route. As for your depression. You dont say what brought it on before, so maybe if you feel yourself sliding back into it, it may be a good idea to try counselling and find out the root cause. As for anxiety, go to your doctor and tell him how youre feeling. He may prescribe something to help for a while. Also acupuncture is brilliant for anxiety and stress, have you tried it? If not, give it a go. I had some a few weeks ago and it really chilled me out. I hope you feel better soon x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
Hi there,
You're still suffering from depression, so I think you should go back to the doctor. They may put you back on antidepressants, or they may send you to a counsellor so you can talk about how you feel. 8 years is a long time, so I'm sure you're hurting. But don't give up yet. Your Mr Right will be out there. You need to love yourself and live for yourself for a while. :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 December 2009):
Go back to your doctor and get back on the pills.
Good Luck!! xx
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