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writes:My neighbour has threatened to call the police as his 11 year old son saw my partner and I having sex in our living room. he also says it is illegal to walk around naked.The boy must have been in our back garden looking in the window so surley he is in the wrong not us.I do walk around naked at home but always draw the curtains when it gets dark and although I go in the garden, never go round the front of the house.Should I be worried, I think you should be able to do what you like in your own house.Abby
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): I do not know what the laws are, but my view is what happens between two consenting adults in private is none of the police business or the goverments business.
I also suspect that the neighbor's son may be the one that did something illegal (Trespassing, right of privacy, peeping tom laws, est.).
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reader, love-him +, writes (28 May 2007):
 no proof, in your own home, legal.. simple as that, u have done nothing wrong, tell him to call the police, see wat happens.. hope i helped x x x
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reader, SweetBabygirlUSA  +, writes (26 May 2007):
I don't think you've done anything wrong. It was done in your home, on your property. The kid shouldn't have been peeking in your window in the first place. He should've known better.
What can the police do? Arrest you? Pshh...yeah right! If anything, your neighbor was in the wrong and has no right to get the police involved. I mean, you did it in your home! What all can they do about it? Just don't worry about it and talk to your neighbor about it, and apologize. And if I were you, I'd put up a privacy fence, that way the neighbor's kid can't peek in. And can't get into your yard to even try.
I hope this kid has learned his lesson. If I was the neighbor, I would've totally told the kid how rude it is to peek in through other people's windows. It's just wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): Hello! No, no, no your neighbor can't do that. You are at your own property and that you are at the legal age. Why in the hell would they call the police. It's because their little kiddo' had went to go peep on your window and saw you having sex. Is that it? Own I think the parent is the one to blame in this position. Because their children is their own responsibility. Look at were his/her 11 year boy went. He trespassed! I think a trespassing law could be push thru in this incident.
-Maureen
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (26 May 2007):
 You are not guilty of a public order offence because you weren't running around your garden naked. You should just laugh it off and suggest to your neighbour that his boy watch the discovery channel for a more gentle introduction to the birds and the bees. Under European law, he breached your right to privacy within your home and presumably he was on your property to look through the window (trepassing). Point out that you will serve an injunction on the family for violating your privacy if one of them comes onto your property.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (26 May 2007):
 Keep your currents closed, and it is only illegal if you are nude on your property if others can see you in a reasonable setting. For example, if someone else in their back yards can see you in the buff easily, then that is reasonable efforts on their part, so it is Not OK. If they need to be sneaking on to your property and hiding in the bushes, then you are not at fault.
If you speak to your neighbor again, let him know that you will be calling the cops if any member of his family trespasses (what was his son doing on your property), or if your own privacy rights are violated, or he is starts to bad mouth you in your area (defamation).
Check with a lawyer just in case, as your city might have bylaws about housing and property that could be used against you.
-FBK
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reader, DV1 +, writes (26 May 2007):
 Your neighbor can't call the cops on you. If anything, they could get in trouble for spying into your house. Just try and shut the curtains out of respect.
DV1
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reader, Pork Hock +, writes (26 May 2007):
Hi, you can't help a child seeing a situation that is not appropriate. Parents have had their kids walk in on them during the act. I agree however that your home is your place and your solitude, however...shutting the curtains when you are naked coming out of the bathroom might be wise, hiding sex toys from your kids might be wise. It was unfortunate this child caught you in the act, I am not even sure he probably knew what you were doing, maybe he did. I would go and see his parents, apologise for being indiscreet and that you will make every effort at attaining privacy. Tell them how sorry you are their son/daughter saw something and had the knowledge clearly to tell his parents. You haven't done anything wrong, just don't make out in the park... know what I mean? If the police are called, tell them you were in your own home and it was an unfortunate that he saw you in the act, but that you were in your own home. Be apologetic and sorry he saw something like that, rather than defensive, otherwise you'll be seen as the couple who screws on the deck...show how much of a decent and respectival thing it is between you both...
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (26 May 2007):
The Good News:
If I was your Neighbor, I would be busting my kids butt,not worrying about the Police. If you adult neighbor was the one doing that. He would be charged with a crime,call window -peeking, there is a much better word for this kind of asocial behavior, but it slips my mind right now.There are really few things that one cannot do within one's own Immannent Domain,Home. And making love or running around in the buff is't one of them your neighbor's 11, year old might just get himself killed if he happen to do his Window- Peeking at night.But you need to keep in mind that we do need our neighbors, as much as they need us. So don't close the door to Intimate Social Communication, or you will both be losers. I don't think that either of you wan't that to happen.
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reader, candy00s +, writes (26 May 2007):
 Abby,
dont worry about this.
you were in the privacy of your own home and you hardly expect your neighbours kids to be in your garden, let alone looking through your windows!
Your neighbour sounds like the one who has the problem! his child was in your garden after all!
Having sex in your own home is not illegal. Why this neighbour is threatening to contact the police is beyond me, surely rather than threaton to do this wouldnt he/she have done so already?
You havent done anything wrong.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (25 May 2007):
 no, you shouldnt be worried. what can he possibly do? two people having sex in their own home is hardly illegal is it? if it was then everybody would be getting arrested! i think the more logical solution is to teach his son that it is rude to look into other peoples windows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): this is ridiculous! it is your house, your yard, your property. why was the 11 year old son trespassing on your property? how nosey of him! he had no business to be there in the first place. if anything, your neighbor is in the wrong.
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reader, soliderswife06 +, writes (25 May 2007):
i absolutely agree with D i mean if you cant do what you want to do in your own home like walk around naked and have sex where ever you would like to in your home then where can you and if i were you tell that neighbor of your in a nice kinda way just be like look i pay the rent not you tell your son to stay out of my yard unless you want him to see whats going on and if i find him in there again ill call the police on him i mean come on and anyways if shes calls the police shes going to be the one that looks stupid the police are going to tell her well mam' why is your son in there yard in the first place and secondly its there home not yours so good bye. your neighbor is just tryin to scare you cause she has nothing better to do.good luck
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reader, Dagwood  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 Hi Abby. I think your neighbour is totally out of order. What you do in the privacy of your own home is your own business. In fact if I was you I'd have a chat with the neighbour and tell him that you are considering going to the police yourselves to complain about their son peeping on you guys! His son has no right to go into your garden and look through your window! Stand up for your privacy and your rights you've done nothing wrong. Take care. D
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): I don't think your neighbor has a leg to stand on, but beat him to the punch. Call your local department and find out what kind of laws they have on the books. You could also threaten your neighbor and tell him that you could have his kid arrested for tresspassing :) since you know the only way he could have seen anything is by being on your property!
-J
p.s. Let us know what you find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): hey.
course you can do what you want in your own house!!!
its not up to anyone else. although it is ilegal to walk round in public naked... it isnt ilegal in your own home. if this boy was in your garden thn yes he is in the wrong!! he was tresspassing. dont worry.
you have done nothing wrong. and as for the sex again if you are in your own ome there is nothing wrong.
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