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writes:Is marriage (or engagment) too soon,if you've been in a relationship for only two months ?She is 19 and Hes's 27.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): It all depends on the people in the relationship, my parents got engaged after 2 months of dateing and got married 6 mos later and they are happily married,they just celebrated there 25th wedding anniversary this year 2006 and have 6 children.As for me I kinda followed there foot steps, me and my husband met the same way my parents did.We got together in Feb 06 and got engaged in April and married Sep 06. We wouldn't change a thing.
And I know another couple that are very close to our family they got married 6 months after meeting eachother and have been very happily married for 45 years.And can be done.Everyone is differnt,some people can do it right off and some need time and thats all right.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2007): I am reading this because a girl i know just did this (shes 19). I am shocked. Ok Ok, party because she is my ex-girlfriend;) - Not because of not working out between us, beacuse we were forced to move a world apart. If you really think this is the person for you, whats the rush, you have the rest of your lives together. Why do you feel you need to prove something by agreeing to this so soon. Id say it only puts unnecessary presure on a young relationship that needs time to grow freely.
Is it wrong of me to hope with my ex it fails:) muhaha
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): In a word, YES. As others have said, there's no way you can get to know someone in only two months. It takes at least three months to begin to get to know who she/he is and the level of compatibility.
What if the relationship doesn't work out? Does the person really want to have to be in the position of breaking the engagement? Though better to do that, than to be married! Give it at least a year to see how it all pans out.
After all, what's the big hurry?
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (28 February 2007):
 Although I do think it is too soon, as the two people cannot possibly truly know each other yet and have not lived together - if the two people think it is right, then there is not alot else that anyone can do. They are both adults after all. What I would advise though, it that they do not think about marriage yet or start planning a date, as this could lead to the relationship ending disasterously.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): It really depends on the people in the relationship, I would say it is too soon though, because you cant know someone properly in 2 months, there could be a side of them that the other hasnt seen in their relationship so far. But as I say, If both partners feel happy, then there is nothing to stop them.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 i think its a bit too hastey but thats my opinion. just make sure you dont rush into the marriage itself, give yourself time to discover each other and to adjust to this relationship as thats the most important thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007): u can be engaged after 2 months long as u feel like u wanna spend the rest of ur life with that person. if u really want to get engeged do it, just dont rush into marrage just yet!
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reader, mum2be +, writes (28 February 2007):
It depends on the relationship. I know someone who got married 3 weeks after meeting there partner (who did not speak a lot of English) And they are still happy together 10 years on... But i also know a couple on the other end of the scale... who dated for 4 years, got married and then split. If the couple are genuinely happy together, and understand what a big step marriage is, then it could work.I don't understand your position in this... if it is you geting engaged, then congrats, and if it is one of your friends, then just make sure you stick by them in case anything goes wrong. Is it possible that you have feelings for one of them? If so, then talking to that person could benifit both of you.If they are in a happy relationship...(which they must be to be getting married) then i suggest you leave them be, and wish them the very best of luck.all the bestxxx
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