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Hi, My name is Richard, I'm 44 years old, divorced with 2 adult children (I got started young). I live in Texas, but my fiancee is from Australia. I met her living in the UK.
Who am I? My education, counseling, but most of all, Life Experiences have helped me to develop a mindset that has allowed me to be successful in my personal relationships. |
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I'm with the most wonderful guy yet i'm still not happy, why???
Q. why is it that i have the most wonderful man in the world and i am still not happy?...
A. 13 October 2007: Congratulations! May you have a terrific and happy life!... (read in full...)
Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends
Q. Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...
A. 29 August 2007: If they love you, they will be bothered about it. If they aren't bothered, you might kinda wonder what's going on that they're not bothered. The question to ask yourself is, "do I love him enough not to risk losing him?" The question is for a man, ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that this little girl doesn't know the truth of why her Mom and Dad broke up?
Q. My boyfriend's daughter who is 7 years old told me she wants to know why her mom and my boyfriend got separated. She doesn't understand why everyone keep telling her they will explain to her when she is 17-18. The truth is her mom had an affair with ...
A. 29 August 2007: Kids will always wish for their Mommies and Daddy's back together. Dad should reiterate for her that Mommy lives there and Daddy lives here. Sometimes Mommies and Daddies don't get along and have to live apart. Not all Mommies and Daddies, but ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I crave sex all the time! How do I stop feeling like a slag?
Q. how do i stop craving sex? every time i go to see a boy i feel the need to sleep with him. i always fee horny and kinky i always wanna have sex. im 15 so im not even old enough but i cant help it. i know ya probs think im a slag when you read thi...
A. 29 August 2007: I want you to know that you are normal to have feelings. For some reason you feel compelled to act out on your urges. Some people have higher sexual drives than others. I suggest you see a female counselor to help you deal with your acting out, ... (read in full...)
Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends
Q. Just a quick question, out of curiosity... Do guys hate their girlfriends having male friends, especially close male friends? I've lost count of the amount of times I've had to reiterate to past boyfriends that I would never cheat and that oth...
A. 29 August 2007: Yes, it is you. There are reasons men don't like it, and women too. 1. men and women are territorial, how would you like it if he hung out with his ex girlfriend talked to her on the phone and went over to her place, or got a call from her when ... (read in full...)
I left my husband for him and now he has gone cold on me and is dating someone else!
Q. I had an affair with a coleague of work. Everything started because I was unhappy on my marriage and his girfriend had left him. We were also very good friends and he always told me that he was still in love with her. 1 and 1/2 has passed and I left ...
A. 27 August 2007: No you shouldn't have hoe for this man. He doesn't trust you, why should he you're a cheater. He wants a woman he can trust. You obviously weren't happy in your marriage. Good that you split up, your ex is probably relieved too.It's time to move ... (read in full...)
I'm with the most wonderful guy yet i'm still not happy, why???
Q. why is it that i have the most wonderful man in the world and i am still not happy?...
A. 26 August 2007: Are you happy with yourself? If the answer is no, then how can you be happy with anyone else? Get happy with you first, then look for someone to add to your life.... (read in full...)
I love my guy but i want to cheat on him with an older man.
Q. I love my man but i love to cheat with an older greyer greeneyed man. He is well endowed and my guy isnt. Why am i attracted to older men? Im in my 30's He is in his mid forties-fifties ....
A. 26 August 2007: If you're engaged or married or in an "exclusive relationship" why are you cheating. You're only cheating yourself. If you want something different, tell your man that you want to play around. You're getting something emotional from this other ... (read in full...)
If i give in to anal sex, will he want it all the time?
Q. If I give in to anal will he want it all the time? He drives me wild but our last time he placed his hands around my neck i came big time. Now he scares me. Is he curious or trying to warn me? ...
A. 26 August 2007: Warn you about what? Do you want anal sex all the time? If you do, tell him. If you don't, tell him your bottom hurts. I suggest you at least try it. If you don't like it, tell him you love him but the next time he asks, tell him it hurts too ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and am wondering if i am a lesbian, I flirt with girls all the time, Is this normal?
Q. Hey , Please help me because I think Im a Lesbain. I like Boys and All but Recently Ive had Feelings for Girls!! Im 13 and had loads of boyfriends but I have feelings for other girls. Please help me because Im flirting with them all the time...
A. 26 August 2007: You are normal, my daughter came to me at 13 with the same question. You are at an age where you are curious about your body, and you may be expressing that through emotions that you don't fully understand. It's normal to be curious, but it ... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex, I took the morning after pill, but i'm worried!
Q. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend but i stopped us because i started to get worried. we're a long distance relationship too so he says since he hasn't come in a while he isnt sure if any precum was there or not. The following day i got the ...
A. 26 August 2007: How long has it been since you had sex with him?... (read in full...)
I have been dumped 3 times this year. Am i horrible and ugly???
Q. This summer i have been dumped three times. Am i just a horrible, ugly, stupid waste of space? I hate everything. Can someone help? ...
A. 26 August 2007: You're not horrible or ugly, you're young and inexperienced. Give more information and I'm sure someone can help you understand each of the breakups. ... (read in full...)
Does my guy have to be well endowed for me to have female ejaculation?
Q. I wanna learn how to squirt for my man does he have to be well endowed for that experience to happen?...
A. 26 August 2007: Learning to squirt. It cannot be learned, because it doesn't happen to everyone. Now if you want a massive orgasm, try holding off until you can't hold off any longer. If he's a patient lover, he can help you to reach this ecstacy by stopping when ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin. He's convinced me to have sex, I'm nervous, any tips???
Q. hi guys,well I'm a teenager and i have a great bf i no I'm under aged but he has kind of convinced me to have sex with him.i was just wandering because it's my first time and I'm slightly nervous any tips on how to actually have sex?i no that sounds ...
A. 26 August 2007: There are other things besides intercourse. I suggest that you take time to cuddle and feel each others bodies with this boy. Please hold off having him inside you for 2 more weeks. If he insists and pushes and pushes and pushes, ask him to leave. ... (read in full...)
I want to believe that he loves me but I don't trust him! What should I do?
Q. Thank you all for the advice you gave me. I realy appreciate it. At is time I tell you all what the problem is. This is how it happened; I met my first boyfriend 6 months before entering the Polytechnic. He was a good guy. He showed me love an...
A. 26 August 2007: You cannot change ANYONE, only yourself. You cannot fix broken people, you can only help them when they ask for your advice. Get away from it all, break contact from both guys, their sucking your energy, and you need time to get your head ... (read in full...)
My guy hates his own seamen,and needs to be doing stuff to me in order to ejaculate.I dont get that?
Q. My guy hates his own semen :S Can any one help out with this? He's not a premature ejaculator, he actually takes a long time and I have absolutely NO problem with it (makes the experience better). Also, he doesnt want me to do stuff to him as o...
A. 26 August 2007: Do you use protection? Is he avoiding you coming into contact with his semen?... (read in full...)
At what age are g-string panties appropriate for girls?
Q. I was shopping with my mom today. We were in the kids section. They had a display of "girls and junior g-string panties 20% off." My mom and I were both shocked. At what age are g-string panties appropriate for girls? Would you let your daught...
A. 26 August 2007: You should wear them when you're comfortable wearing them. Try them, you might not like them. You should not be however too anxious to let the boys see them up close and personal. Tight pants mean they can see them. Keep your goodies private for ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden he stopped talking to me; he returned to only give my daughter who is not his money for school shopping. Why is he acting so?
Q. Hey guys, I'm a female I dated my best friend for more than a half wer year. All of a sudden he stopped talking to me, didn't want to answer my phone calls. He broke my heart. I have a daughter he liked very much just like his own. I stopped calling ...
A. 26 August 2007: I would think he has someone else in his life, maybe a wife or a girlfriend. I think he sees you as just a fling, he does have a conscience however. I think this man is weak. If you want a weak man continue to pursue him, if you want a man that ... (read in full...)
I'm 28, he's 16. He says we're just mates, can i change his mind?
Q. Im a 28yr old woman in love wit a 16 yr old guy. Is it wrong? we are great mates an have been intimate for a few months now but he says we just mates but tells me he loves me. can i change his mind if i play it cool?...
A. 26 August 2007: If it's legal in England for him to have sex with you, enjoy the sex while you can. It's temporary. ... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with my boyfriend having harmless sexy chats with other men as long as they aren't leading anywhere?
Q. Advice needed!!! I've been with my boyfriend now for nearly a year. We both go on things like msn, facebook and myspace but I've noticed that whenever he's on it when I'm there he'll quickly hide his messages or close them down very quickly. F...
A. 26 August 2007: He's playing with fire, and will eventually act out. If you are having unprotected sex, you are in danger. I can tell you of a few couples that ended up with aids because they thought their lover wouldn't cheat. Where they ended up was dead. ... (read in full...)
I was seeing a married man for 3 years but he loves his family so i ended it. But i'm missing him. What can i do???
Q. I was a girl fallen in love with a married man.I was 20 that time and he was 43 when we had an affair.i love him so much i even sacrifice all for him but nothing i can do. He loves his family thats why now i broke up with him. For 3 years of relation...
A. 26 August 2007: You will get over it. Very few people do not feel the hurt of a breakup, you are not alone. Time will heal this pain. To help speed it along, go out with other guys. Know this too, he told you everything you wanted to hear to keep you on a ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my parents I haven't gotten my girlfriend (ex) pregnant???
Q. Hi my relationship with my girlfriend ended suddenly and today I decided I couldn't hang on to items and Projects that I did when I was with her and one of the things I tore up was a list that she made of me called The Pro's and Cons of dating ...
A. 26 August 2007: If your gf is not pregnant, then she's not pregnant by you. You're old enough to have sex, then you're old enough to accept responsibility for your actions. Leave the house and be on your own, then you're parent will stop controlling you. ... (read in full...)
I still love my ex and slept with him but he has a girlfriend, what shall i do?
Q. im in love with my ex and i slept with him last week but he has a girlfriend wot shall i do...
A. 26 August 2007: Enjoy the time you have, because, it's temporary. Can you really be with a man longterm that cheats on his girlfriend to be with you. Unless, you're o.k. with him sleeping with other women. If that's the case, then have a good time. ... (read in full...)
I met him a dating site but am i being played or is this guy scared?
Q. Am I being played, have I been played, or is this guy scared? I met a guy on a dating site, we began immediately talking by phone, we "clicked" and he called me almost every day, living two hours apart. Both busy, but him working two jobs and a t...
A. 26 August 2007: I's good that you haven't established any emotional ties with him. From what you wrote, "He has also told me is "not looking", and also that even if he was interested in someone who lived on the same street as him, his time with them would be ... (read in full...)
He's trying to work things out with his wife and has stopped calling and txting me now, i miss him, shall i call him???
Q. Ok, so I posted a question the other day and got greta responses! Thanks! My next question is: So the guy who I like that is trying to work things out with his ex-wife has kind of let up on texting and calling me back. I told him that I had a ...
A. 26 August 2007: Let him go, He's not sure what he wants. Don't go back to him either, there are consequences for his actions. He's now shown you his weakness. Be thankful it wasn't 2 years down the road. There's 160 million men in America, surely there is ... (read in full...)
How can i build my confidence and stop letting men use me for sex?
Q. Whenever I meet men and we ended up fooling around. I ruin the whole mood and moment. I continue doing this to whomever I meet. I ruin it by talking to much in bed because I am insecure about my body. I turn men off by saying sorry for my body ...
A. 26 August 2007: Michelle, It's hard to find an unselfish lover. Try to put your mind in this paradigm. "You are using the men you are sleeping with." Not untrue, you are getting what you need from them right? So if some guy comes along, how easy is he to get ... (read in full...)
How do you block numbers on a phone, he wont leave me alone!
Q. how do you block numbers on an O2 sony ericsson? please help, he won't leave me alone...
A. 26 August 2007: I read this in the blog below. For blocking calls on a "normal" phone: call your operator.
http://forums.mobiledia.com/topic32977.html
Stop the madness!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of a year has just found out i'm on probation, shes angry. What d i do?
Q. My girlfriend of a year just found out I was on probation. Shes mad I didn't tell her. What should I do?...
A. 26 August 2007: Tell her you didn't want her to know that you had a past record, that you were ashamed of it and that you thought it might affect her decision to be with you. Apologize, for not trusting her, and breaking her trust for you. She's going to wonder ... (read in full...)
I live in NC, he lives in Gorgia, should i continue to go out with him?
Q. ok well i live in nc and i'm going out with a guy in gorgia. Should i continue to go out with him thax for all your help ...
A. 26 August 2007: Brandi, I'm not being funny here. What do you WANT to do?... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he has been conversing with another woman. How do i confront him about this?
Q. I desperately need advice. I am in a relationship with someone that I am truly in love with. we have been together for two years. He says he loves me and we have plans for the long road. I recently discovered that he has been conversing with anot...
A. 26 August 2007: You're right not to give up your position. You should be concerned, don't worry, you appear to be in control of you quite well. You obviously don't want to throw 2 years and love away based on a whim. How is it that you came to know about her and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got mad at me and had sex with somebody she has known a long time... and doesn't see it as a big deal!
Q. Ya, my girlfriend got mad at me and had sex with somebody she has known a long time and considers her brother. Even before that i was jealous of her closeness with him. She adores him but i don't think he wants an intimate relationship with her. ...
A. 25 August 2007: She stepped over the line and she f--k-d it up. She is showing you that she is in control of her and you. "BE A MAN" get your respect back, get over her, and get your heart ready to leave her. There's too many women out there looking for a "good ... (read in full...)
He forgave my infidelity but I am overwhelmed with guilt and feel like I don't deserve him!
Q. I cheated on my boyfriend of 2 years about 8 months into our relationship with him... He found out and decided to forgive me and we are actually now planning on a future marriage but i am still overwhelmed with guilt. I love him more than anything ...
A. 25 August 2007: You have some growing up to do, I do not suggest getting into a relationship until you understand who you are and what you want. I married at 20 to my girlfriend I met when I was 17. I am divorced after 24 years of not being so happy. I'm not ... (read in full...)
Should we try to get this guy out of our gang? He seems to be taking over.
Q. There is a guy in our gang who gets very agressive when people in the group have different views or do not feel like following his ideas for doing little things like where to have a drink or so, he is also very likely to gossip about the rest when ...
A. 25 August 2007: Be close to your friends but closer to your enemies. When you are closer to your enemies, they reveal their weaknesses. ... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 24 August 2007: Way to be a man, my hats off to you. Now will you be true to your word? Really what you've done up to now is the easy part. Being true to your word and staying way when she keeps contacting you. This is the true test of a man.... (read in full...)
I'm 20, my boyfriend is 42, and now the bedroom department is starting to slow
Q. hi, im in a relationship with a 42 year old man (im 20yrs) ive been with him for 4yrs now and for about 3 months now the bedroom department has been slow and over in a couple of minuets, what can i do to spice it up i dont want to loose him....
A. 24 August 2007: Has he been able to help you reach orgasm and satisfy you in the past? ... (read in full...)
I accidentally had sex with a 14 year old girl
Q. ok I have a (hypothetical) question. I am a male in my mid 30's. My wife my 2 daughters (3 and 7) and my niece (15) and her friend (14) went on a road trip to Florida. We stopped halfway there and got a hotel room, my wife and I in one room the...
A. 24 August 2007: Get ready, you rolled the dice, now here's what could happen... 1. She tells someone (or she's pregnant) and the cops show up at your door, wife maybe stays with you. 2. You tell someone, say your wife, and the cops maybe show up at your door, ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me and now I can't get the image of this other woman out of my head!
Q. How can I get over intimacy difficulties, after my husband had an affair with someone I know, 4 months ago. I am finding it increadibly hard not to be effected by thoughts of him with this other woman, even when he kisses me! I freak out when he ...
A. 24 August 2007: Trust is one of the hardest broken things to repair, if not impossible. Sometimes it's easier to give up. I think if he cheated on you before, he will do it again. The risk is greater for you that he will. I emphasize, you are taking the risk, ... (read in full...)
I like a guy who is already involved
Q. Hi I am writing cos I really like a guy but he has a gf. I have spent alot of time with him but he still has a gf. I have not done anything sexual with him because if this. My life is a bit of a mess as I dont know what i should do cos i really l...
A. 24 August 2007: Why do you need to tell him you are a virgin? Why tell anyone you are a virgin? If you decide to save yourself for marriage then wait for your husband to ask. The world is full of women saying they are a virgin, and guess what, they're not. Are ... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 24 August 2007: I too have been through the same thing. In my case, she didn't want to let me go, cause "I'm a good guy" but in her mind it was ok to sleep around. I found this out after we broke it off. I did not want to sleep around, that was a decision I made ... (read in full...)
She is coming back earlier now.
Q. Hey all, My situation is in more detail here if you feel like a read. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-had-the-girl-i-had-always-day.html Anyway, to cut a long story short my ex left me before she went home for the summer holidays. She is ...
A. 23 August 2007: I think she broke it off to be able to have a clean conscience about dating others while she was away. That would be pretty typical considering that she was determined to tell you that she would not contact you back. I would say, it's up to you to ... (read in full...)
Sent her an email expressing my feelings and she has not responded. What should I do?
Q. Ive recently got back in touch with a female who is older than me. However i have developed strong feelings for her and think I love her. I told her via email that i thought she was special and that i cared for her. I havent heard anything from her ...
A. 23 August 2007: Yes, let her contact you. Don't bring up your deep feelings for her again unless she does first.... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 23 August 2007: What happened to you sounds similar to when someone drops the "L bomb" and the other person isn't up for it. For whatever reason. Give her some space, if she really digs you she will let you know that your not talking to her enough. In the ... (read in full...)
Still love my ex, going on holiday to get over him but now he's emailed me, what do I do?
Q. Please help. I broke up with my very long distance, long term boyfriend about 2 months ago. We parted on good terms, as in we still loved each other but realised it was never going to be possible to be together. It was the hardest thing I've ever ...
A. 23 August 2007: Been there. The only way to move on is to move on. Chalk it up to hurt and pain of being a beautiful and loving human. Get ready for the next pain too, but love the love when you're with them. There's no feeling like it. ... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 23 August 2007: Relax, overanxiousness can be perceived as a lack of confidence to women. You are going to have to be more specific. It's obvious what you want from her, but give more explanation of what you did when you were together, and how you left off with ... (read in full...)
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