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Hi, My name is Richard, I'm 44 years old, divorced with 2 adult children (I got started young). I live in Texas, but my fiancee is from Australia. I met her living in the UK.
Who am I? My education, counseling, but most of all, Life Experiences have helped me to develop a mindset that has allowed me to be successful in my personal relationships. |
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How do I ask for her phone number without looking stupid?
Q. I’ve been very cool with this girl that works at my job for about almost a year now I met her through a close friend of hers. Nothing sexually we just laugh and talk when I see her working at her shop in the airport. About a week ago my friend came ...
A. 22 July 2007: Above all, be a man and be confident. This is what a woman wants more than anything else. Oh, and ask her for a way you can get in touch with her outside of just running into her. Like if you wanted to get in touch with her to go out for a beer or ... (read in full...)
Sexual relations at work and i'm married.
Q. I have been married for almost 16 years and it has been a sexless marriage. He is nice and responsible and we have a daughter. I did tell him a couple of months ago that I did not want to be married anymore. I started talking with a person at ...
A. 22 July 2007: You know what you need to do. You're not committed to him, nor is he to you. Go back to your husband and straighten that mess out first. You can't look for true love when you're in a relationship already, the "thing on the side" will be based on ... (read in full...)
How do i stop being in love?
Q. I am in love with my straight best friend. I am fortunate to be able to talk with him about this. He wants me to get over it and remain my friend,and so do I. He's assured me that he will always be my friend,and be patient with me so I can heal fro...
A. 22 July 2007: The first hurdle was having him accept your gay. I hope you didn't try to switch him over by seducing him. That can be a form of betrayal to a friend. Is he just your friend because your attracted to him? If that's the case, I would start putting ... (read in full...)
I am bi and would love to have a 3 way serious relationship again.
Q. Firstly, I don't want anyone to judge me or give me Christian advice. I would like advice from people who are open minded. I have a good relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for long time. When I first met him he knew I was bi an...
A. 22 July 2007: I think your trying to fool yourselves. It's difficult to be in a committed relationship with one other person. I don't understand how you can expect a 3 way committed relationship. Who's committed to who? Unless no one else would have a person, ... (read in full...)
I have had a few women at my work place been interested in me, but I have no interest in dating them because I am still comparing them with my ex.
Q. Why do I still at times feel down and depressed? My partner left after 16 years to date someone else. It's been a good 9 months now and she has not made any contact at all. I have been trying to do all the right things. Kept busy, reading, going ...
A. 22 July 2007: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unkIVvjZc9Y
Have a laugh, check this out mate. See your doctor, hit the gym, and start feeling good about yourself.... (read in full...)
Is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me while I am pregnant?
Q. Is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me while I am pregnant?...
A. 22 July 2007: Yes... (read in full...)
How do I tell my doctor I'm not a virgin when my mother's always with me?
Q. Hi I'm 14, and I had sex about a week ago and I'm wondering if I should tell my mom and how do I tell my doctor that I'm no longer a virgin if my mom's always there?...
A. 22 July 2007: If you plan on having sex regularly you should tell your doctor. Ask your mom not to go in with you.... (read in full...)
He wants to see her on his birthday, but not me!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together almost 3 years.For some reason every so often he gives his number to other girls at his work and texts them behind my back,but I found out about the one just recently because I felt suspicious.Anyway,Its his ...
A. 19 July 2007: He's a player. Time to move on and get what you deserve. A "real man".... (read in full...)
How do I choose which guy to go after?
Q. Im a 23 year old gay male living in UK. I have been openly gay for 3 years. Recently I have fell for 2 guys. Both have told me that they are very interested in me. One is 19 and the other 17. At the moment i haven't even kissed either of t...
A. 19 July 2007: If you can't decide on who you want to be with in a relationship, then you're not ready for a relationship with either of them. Just date and have fun.... (read in full...)
He is texting other girls and complimenting them. I dont THINK I have anything to worry about, but why is he doing this?
Q. Ive got 2 questions Ive been with my boyfriend 2 1/2 years who works in a hospital,where there are lots of female workers.He says he wants to make new friends, I know he chats to these women at work,which is harmless,because I know he loves me.Howev...
A. 19 July 2007: He pays them compliments because it makes him feel good. Their response is what strokes his ego. Are you stroking his ego or moaning about him not paying you compliments? Do you compliment him? Do you treat him like a King? In order to be treated ... (read in full...)
I am trying to move on with my life. Any suggestions?
Q. ok,some of you may have read my "His daughter is ruining our relationship" He has now left our family home,i've heard enough tosh to last me a lifetime,he has now gone against everything he has said and is moving to "their" town "because it's che...
A. 19 July 2007: I got divorced at 40 after 24 years as a couple. All the family friends went with her. The kids went with her, and alot of the money went with her. What I got was my control back, and it was worth every penny and friend. When I moved into my ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving away. Should we break up now or later?
Q. my boyfriend of 8 years will be moving away to Africa for good before the end of the year. He thinks we should end our relationship now cause it will be easier for him but i want us be together until he leaves. Any advice?...
A. 19 July 2007: I would break up now, it works in your favor. You're in control, you can try to move on with your life, and if you break up now, and he realizes he loves you before he leaves, he may change his mind and stay. Then it's you're decision if you want ... (read in full...)
My husbands friend seems to really like me
Q. Hi, i am moving country in a few months with my husband. Well my husband and I have broke up a few months ago, said he was confused,but since then we have got back together, all is going ok so far. However we are moving country and the problem is ...
A. 19 July 2007: You've heard the phrase "Men are dogs", it's true. Some of us however are in control of ourselves. I can't believe you are still with your husband after he laughs off a comment like that. He obviously doesn't care if you sleep with someone else. ... (read in full...)
He found out I was cheating with my ex and now wont take me back!
Q. my b.f and i were engaged to be married next year but suddenly my ex b.f got in touch with me and i also communicated with him. i even met him couple of times i felt somehow that the feelings i had for him before comes back, but he took advantage ...
A. 19 July 2007: You screwed up, I suggest forgetting about him and moving on with your life. Try to learn from this experience and not be so selfish the next time you're in a relationship. Next time, don't go into an "exclusive" relationship thinking it's o.k. to ... (read in full...)
After the breakup shes still around despite my behaviour, why?
Q. Had a girlfriend, sayed together for 1 yrs, we separated after a serious conflict(the girls behaviour changed and I was not impressed so decided to ridicule her). After the fall out she went for another man whom they are now cohabitating, but since ...
A. 19 July 2007: James, Who knows why she does what she does, she probably doesn't even know. Some women have this idea that they can continue to be friends after a breakup. I think it's ridiculous. I think she just doesn't want to lose you as a "backup" if things ... (read in full...)
Married for only a year and he accuses me of being after his money!!
Q. Hallo,Im a Filipina married to a German National for only 1 year and my problem is my husband always accuse me only after his money(I received 500 euro from his salary monthly) and and he never admit he made mistakes too.He thinks Im very demanding ...
A. 19 July 2007: If you want to show him you're not after his money then don't accept any of his money.... (read in full...)
I think I love him but he can't seem to put me first; is he a player?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 years old and I went out with this 16-year-old guy last year for about 3 months. We then broke up because he was always busy working and with school and we barely saw each other. We didn't see or speak to each other for almost 7 mont...
A. 19 July 2007: It's o.k. to love someone who doesn't reciprocate the feeling. After all, it's how you feel. Try to keep in mind that he's only 16 and really not yet a man. Maybe with time he will be a man, girls mature faster than boys and look at relationships ... (read in full...)
I can't go outside and excercise because my skin is allergic to the sun and my sweat makes me break out.
Q. I can't go outside and excercise because my skin is allergic to the sun and my sweat makes me break out. Since I don't have a excercise machine at home, could I just tone and will I still lose wieght? Also by eating less?...
A. 19 July 2007: I personally found the Atkins diet to work wonderfully to kick start my metabolism. Very generally speaking, weight management and weight loss is primarily accomplished with nutrition, but if you want to be healthy, it will require some form of ... (read in full...)
I asked him to the school dance, and now he is avoiding me
Q. OK, there was this guy in my class who I had a crush on, and he seemed to like me too. He'd joke around with me all the time and punch me playfully every now and then. He'd constantly poke me in the side. All my friends told me that he must like ...
A. 18 July 2007: I think he's avoiding you because he doesn't like the way he's handled the whole thing. His friends teased him, and he gave into peer pressure. He's asked someone else that his friends approve of. Don't blame his friends either though. It's all ... (read in full...)
We are trying to be friends, but I think he still likes me
Q. Need help again! My boyfriend and I broke up 3 months ago now because he's afraid of commitment but up until yesterday I finally ended all communication with him for the 4th time. But also at the same time, he keeps telling me that I could always ...
A. 18 July 2007: It sounds like you've made your decision and already know what needs to be done. Good job, you are obviously the more mature one here. One more thing. Some men are territorial, and stupidly decide after they break it off that they want you because ... (read in full...)
Is this just lust or could the guy from work really like me?
Q. I'm seeing a guy from work who has a busy work schedule and I only see him when he is in the area on business. There is a strong attraction but I cant help but think has this got a future. Sometimes I feel like im settling for the crumbs off the ...
A. 18 July 2007: Most men very seldom "tell you how they feel", i'm not saying it's true for all men, but you should expect it is. If you want to find out how he feels, you're going to have to ask him. If you want to know, ask him if he has a girlfriend or a wife. ... (read in full...)
How do you make a man feel guilty when he gets in an aggresive/attackig mood?
Q. Is it true that some women are good at making the man feel guilty when they get in to aggressive / attacking mood, even when it is for the right reasons? What should be done to deal with them? ...
A. 18 July 2007: Walk away until things cool down. Why is he attacking you?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ignores me and when I ask him to do something with me he sighs and says, "If I have to."
Q. I am just wanting to know what other people think about this.. I stay with my boyfriend... After he has been at work all day he comes in gives me a kiss and goes straight on the laptop. Doesnt ask how i am or how my day has been. When I ask him h...
A. 18 July 2007: What do you want? Do you want to be in a relationship where you are ignored? It sounds like he's not being the "man" in the relationship, but being a selfish child. Tell him how you feel, and that some things need to change in order for you to stay ... (read in full...)
He is texting an emailing other girls and lying about it!
Q. Hi there....I dont know how to put this across. I think my bf of 2n half yrs might be cheating or has been cheating on me. A few months back, he got a txt late at night so i asked him who it was from, he told me " its Kyle from work" so i believed ...
A. 18 July 2007: I suggest you start getting your heart and head right. I mean get control of yourself, and prepare for a breakup. You can start by putting some emotional distance between you and him. If you feel like you are being lied to, you probably are. Trust ... (read in full...)
How can I last longe in bed?
Q. I'm with a new a new girlfriend and have started to suffer from premature ejaculation... it is really gettin me down.. How can I fix this?...
A. 18 July 2007: If your of legal drinking age, I suggest having one beer and try to relax.... (read in full...)
She's 13 and wants to give me a handjob. I haven't met her yet and I'm worried about this!
Q. well u c im 12 and my gf is 13 i really like her but dont know her yet....... i met her on mysapce but she doesnt live to far from me... we always text and call and then she brough up that it would be fun if she gave me a hand job and if i fingererd ...
A. 18 July 2007: I would talk to your Dad, Uncle or Grand dad about this one.... (read in full...)
Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy?
Q. Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy? ...
A. 18 July 2007: Did she fake it or was she unsure if she was pregnant? If she faked it she's a few pence short of a pound. Don't go to the bank with this advice though, I have a feeling this is a he said she said, unless you actually did it yourself.... (read in full...)
I have been having an online affair and I need to end it!
Q. I am deeply involved in an online affair with a much younger man - Im 35 - he is 21. He thinks I am his age and unattached. He says he wants to marry me. I am married with 4 children and I want to end the online affair. It has been going on for 2 ...
A. 17 July 2007: It sounds like you have a conscience and you are in a bit of turmoil over this. With 4 kids, you must be busy enough without having to worry about getting caught doing something you shouldnt be. You sound like you're not over your husbands ... (read in full...)
My gf broke up w/ me because I'm too overprotective. Right now she hates me, should I not text her?
Q. hey! 3 weeks ago while i was on holidays my girlfriend broke up with me! we are only 15 but she was going out to a disco that night and said i didnt trust her and she said that i was too over-protective! at the moment she hates me. do you think...
A. 17 July 2007: Do not call her back, let her call you back. It may never happen. When a woman asks me to go away, guess what? I go away. You then gain your control back. If she does contact you again, then it's your choice to call her back or not. You may find ... (read in full...)
My gf broke up w/ me because I'm too overprotective. Right now she hates me, should I not text her?
Q. hey! 3 weeks ago while i was on holidays my girlfriend broke up with me! we are only 15 but she was going out to a disco that night and said i didnt trust her and she said that i was too over-protective! at the moment she hates me. do you think...
A. 17 July 2007: Don't contact her, wait for her to contact you back. You're 15 and I assume not married or engaged. If she does call you back, tell her you're sorry and she was right, be brief with it. If you do get back together, enjoy the time you have with ... (read in full...)
I think he is cheating with his ex but have no proof.
Q. I have been with my partner for 8 months and things were great for the first 6 months. The past 2 months he has become distant, lying and not wanting to see me, also he goes to see his kids at weekends but lies about it telling me he is working. I ...
A. 17 July 2007: It sounds like he's pushing you away emotionally. I don't understand why some men can't just be men. If I were in the same situation I would want to be with someone that treats me with respect and wants to be with me. What do you want? ... (read in full...)
I feel like my husband hates me. When I walk into the room disgust comes over his face.
Q. I feel like my husband hates me. When I walk into the room disgust comes over his face. We have been struggling financially because I was in nursing school. Since graduating I am working 2 jobs, raising 3 kids, running the paperwork end of a ...
A. 17 July 2007: You're husband is feeling like he's less than a man. WHich is probably the reason he doesn't feel like having sex. If he's not working, I can see why he feels that way. If you make more money than he does, his ego might be getting in the way. He may ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble getting over my ex girlfriend, how can I move on?
Q. I'm having trouble getting over my ex girlfriend. We broke up over 15 months ago. I've dated a only few (less than 3) girls, but no-one compares to her. She recently met a guy and I know she's dating him, but I can stand it. How could I let her ...
A. 17 July 2007: It sounds like your doing the right things. Dating other women, getting rid of her things. When there is a breakup, sometimes it's mutual, but most of the time one person wnats it more than the other. It's painful being on the receiving end. When ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that he's cut down on his text/calls?
Q. Hi, I've asked questions before, but I'm still confused. I've been with a guy for 6 months. Due to circumstances in his life, he said he can't give me the time I deserve. He said that his feelings for me haven't changed. He needs some time to sor...
A. 16 July 2007: You wrote, "Unfortunatley my circumstances have also changed so I can't see him as much as I should either, I have no control over this". It could be he is being cautious. Who started putting the distance between you first, you or him? If you did, ... (read in full...)
I don't want to let her go, what can I do?
Q. I'm in love with an older woman who has a boyfriend, I need some advice on what to do, I know she loves me because we have spend magical moments together, but she doesn't know what to do, they have been together over 7 years and they live together, ...
A. 16 July 2007: I'm going to be a bit judgemental here, not something I usually do. This is not a woman to be trusted, if she is mucking around on a boyfriend that she is supposed to be in what sounds like an exclusive relationship. If it happens to me where I meet ... (read in full...)
Am i doing the right thing telling him to sort himself out?
Q. ok, i know i am not meant to make this to long, but alot as happened and i no longer know if i am coming or going. I am so confused and i know you are an honest and understanding person from your show and you have no reason to lie to me as you ...
A. 16 July 2007: I don't think you'll ever get back to where you were with the relationship. Do you? Do you really think you can trust him, maybe even if by some miracle he did change, I think you will always have that question. Did he cheat or not? Why put ... (read in full...)
I just don’t understand what she is needing or wanting
Q. Hello I am in need of some advice if you guys are willing to listen. My girlfriend and I have been dating since around Halloween of last year we both went to the same University in Oklahoma, my girlfriend is from Arizona and she had to transfer ...
A. 16 July 2007: You're not engaged to be married, no ring on her finger. Have you uttered the words exclusive to each other? If no to these questions, then you can't possibly expect her to be committed. Actually, you cannot control what she does from a distance ... (read in full...)
She said it's not me, it's her. How can someone's feelings just suddenly stop??
Q. I've been in love with this girl for nearly a year and we've been through a lot of ups and downs. She said that she was in love with me, then suddenly she's saying she dosent even fancy me anymore. She says it's not me but she's changed. I just don...
A. 16 July 2007: I agree with anonymous. Spot on anonymous : She may be trying to break up without hurting your feelings. I have a feeling there may be someone else involved and she is looking for the easiest option out. I would add - BE A MAN AND MOVE ON, SHE ... (read in full...)
I get jealous because I cant compare to airbrushed models in a magazine
Q. Why am i so jealous and insecure? Im 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 7 years. Hes a good man and will do anything for me and vice verca. Ive suffered from jealousy and insecurity now for many years, however i am bett...
A. 15 July 2007: I have some major trust issues, but it doesn't lead me into a depressive state like you are describing. It doesn't sound like a trust issue either, since you seem to have no reason not to trust. It sounds like may be suffering from depression. ... (read in full...)
He's dating another girl so why is he still contacting me?
Q. My ex and I broke up almost 3 months ago now but occasionally we have been still keeping in contact. I've told him 3 times already that we can't keep in contact anymore but this last time I got in touch with him again because I was feeling down ...
A. 14 July 2007: Wait a minute, you told him not to contact you and then you contacted him. It sounds like you don't know what you want. Do you a want a friendship? Would you jump into bed with him again? You're telling him by contacting him that you want to talk ... (read in full...)
I can't climax though sex alone - is there anything I can do to change this?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend 8 months and i love him very much. He has been my first and only sexual partner. I was his second but i am the only person he has ever had sex with without a condom. Anyway i have no problem reaching orgasm during oral ...
A. 14 July 2007: Having been with women that could not orgasm through intercourse before me, I can only say that i was able to get them to that point through tenacity and alot of foreplay. The first orgasm when having sex is usually the hardest to have for most ... (read in full...)
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