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Hi, My name is Richard, I'm 44 years old, divorced with 2 adult children (I got started young). I live in Texas, but my fiancee is from Australia. I met her living in the UK.
Who am I? My education, counseling, but most of all, Life Experiences have helped me to develop a mindset that has allowed me to be successful in my personal relationships. |
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How do you cope being apart from your partner?
Q. How do you cope being apart from your partner? Ive started someone who lives a few hours away and I just want to be with him all the time (I know this isnt possible, as we both have jobs) I dont want to scare him off but telling him how I feel, ...
A. 5 August 2007: For me, I stay busy doing other things to keep my self esteem up. For her, I try to do things for her even if she's not here. I try a new recipe, and cook it for her when she comes back. I buy her a nice gift and send it to her. I talk to her on ... (read in full...)
Don't have problems with erections usually, but when I'm with my girl and fiddling with a condom I get a floppy!
Q. hello. i am 17 years old and i have a problem..every time me and my girl try to have sex, i can't seem to hold an erection...or sometimes even get it up.the other day i got it up, put on a condom and when i tried to put it in i lost my erection. ...
A. 5 August 2007: Can you sustain an erection without a condom? Like during oral sex or masterbation?... (read in full...)
The guy she likes wants me. And the guy I really want, wants her!!!
Q. Me and my friends are big partiers. We party almost every night, with a group of guys who just graduated. We all have little flings with them, but recently me and my best friend got in a situation. The guy she likes wants me. And the guy I really ...
A. 5 August 2007: This is really an opportunity for someone to get their feelings hurt. Talk to your girlfriend first, and make sure you are both in agreement with your decision. If you want to switch guys or not. Have fun, and if your having sex, please have ... (read in full...)
I've started having a really smelly vaginal discharge.
Q. Sorry this is really embarrassing and gross. I've started having a really smelly vaginal discharge. I'm not menstruating at the moment. It's quite embarrassing, sometimes I think other peopel might be able to smell it. What could it be??? I am ...
A. 5 August 2007: Let's hope your having protected sex. You could have a bacterial or yeast infection. Here in the states they have a product called monostat for a yeast infection. Ask your pharmacist what is available over the counter for a bacterial or yeast ... (read in full...)
Why do I keep thinking about them when their unobtainable now?
Q. I went out with this guy for about 3 months last May. He then moved to America and that was the last I heard. I became besotted and a bit obsessed and still look at his myspace every day which makes me feel like poo. Then I met another guy in ...
A. 5 August 2007: We live in a world of what we want is what we want until it's ours. Lyrics from the singing group Train. I can't answer your question, except that it's human nature. It's lesson that you have learned at young age, consider yourself lucky. Now that ... (read in full...)
he is second guessing us?
Q. my bf, who i have two kids with actually a new baby, is acting a little different lately. he tells me he loves me and things like that but then he says somethings like i have two kids with you regardless if i marry you or not i will know you for the ...
A. 4 August 2007: You're supposed to think he is messing around behind your back. That's what it sounds like to me, unless he;s going to night school and not telling you about it for some reason. Trust your gut. Have a private detective or someone follow him, but ... (read in full...)
do you think that the sex has something 2 do with me not getting my period because i had sex before my first period?
Q. I had sex when i was 13 and i didnt get my period. i am nearly 15 now and i still didnt get my period. do you think that the sex has something 2 do with me not getting my period because i had sex before my first period? ...
A. 4 August 2007: No it's not because of the sex. Your period should be starting soon. If you're concerned about not having your period, you should talk to your doctor, but having sex is not a reason it hasn't started. Please always have protected sex until you are ... (read in full...)
Does my partner of 20 years hate me; or could it be some kind of obsessive game?
Q. Does my partner of 20 years hate me; or could it be some kind of obsessive game. For the past 5 years, he has ignored me. He acts like I am not there at all. However, if one of his many friends come around, he is all chatty and happy. We have bee...
A. 4 August 2007: I was with a woman and could not get over that she cheated on me. It was a big blow to my ego. I now know that if I am with a woman and she decides to cheat on me, which would be her issue, not mine, then I would not be able to be with her. That's ... (read in full...)
My friend is ruining her life and I don't know what to do about it. Should I ignore her?
Q. This is a long one, but I'd really appreciate your help!! My friend of 13 years is spiralling out of control. We'll call her Amy. She's 24 and has an almost 3 year old daughter. She's a single mom, the dad is no where to be found. She wasn't like ...
A. 4 August 2007: I think Corina has given you some sound advice. Maintain your own self control, try not to get sucked into the emotion and stay objective.... (read in full...)
I'm due to be married in one week and my boyfriend has just calledit off!!!
Q. I am very, very longing for help, any advice that will make my soul go through this terrible happening to me will be heartly appreciated. I was about to marry in 1 week when my fiancee turn back off. He said he can't make it now because he is now ...
A. 4 August 2007: Your feeling of sadness is due to someone else letting you down. If you try to think about this from a perspective of control, it may help you. You cannot control other people and what they do, you can control what you do and how you feel about it. ... (read in full...)
how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men?
Q. hi. i'm single and just cant find a guy. i'm a nice girl but even the guys in my life dont want me- even those i've known for a while. no-one ever hits on me or notices me. how can i find a boyfriend fast and be attractive to men? i want to get ...
A. 4 August 2007: If you want boy's to pay attention to you, then there are some sure fire ways. Buy some clothes that make you look attractive, whatever you are comfortable with, but will make you feel confident. Show some cleavage. Wear makeup, see someone (your ... (read in full...)
does this mean im pregnant?
Q. I am desprete here... i need help so badly.. im 16 years old. Ive had unportected sex several times over the past two months. my boyfriend NEVER came in me though, i also read that in order for sperm to be in pre cum he must have came earlier ...
A. 4 August 2007: If the test is positive, there's a really really good chance you're pregnant. Go to the doctor to be sure.... (read in full...)
We always have to do what they want! What can we do?
Q. I am in a group of 4 friends. There is 1 particular person who always gets her own way, along with her "coff coff" best friend. We always do what they want and I am fed up with it. I feel as if I am the bottom of the group, like a reserved friend or ...
A. 4 August 2007: Just like a pecking order in the barnyard, there is a pecking order for social groups. You can accept your position in the pecking order or move, either up or out. ... (read in full...)
On one hand I'm afraid of ending things because we are so compatible. On the other, I'm afraid to stay in it and end up feeling like I "settled" in some way.
Q. I have been dating a guy that I met on-line for about 11 months. We've seen each other at least once a month for a week at a time. He is in love with me. I am not. Because he is so wonderful I keep trying, but I think the problem is either a ...
A. 4 August 2007: What do you want? You know what's best for you more than anyone. Decide, and then do it.... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 3 August 2007: How would you feel if she did it to you while you were true to her. If you want to date other people, tell her that's what you want. Be a man.... (read in full...)
Ex has emailed and now all the old feelings are back! What do I do?
Q. I really need people's opinions on this, so please help if you can..... i went out for 4 months last year with this guy lets call him A. I was head over heels in love with him, even though we didnt have the greatest relationship, anyway i lost my ...
A. 3 August 2007: You're very young, so I don't think that your decision here will severely impact the rest of your life unless you get pregnant or get some STD that there's not a cure for. If you go back to him, what you will get is an education about life and love. ... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over this or should I leave?
Q. Hi I am 33 and have been married 11 years, we have two children and I am pregnant with our third child soon. I have found out that my husband who is the same age as me has had an affair with an 18 year old girl 'K' who worked a a telephone operator ...
A. 3 August 2007: I suggest you go see a counselor without your hubby. You need to have someone to tell how you are feeling to get the pressure off of you and the coming baby. You will get pas this, but it will take time. One thing at a time though, get your ... (read in full...)
I had a fight with my boyfriend and he behaved cruelly
Q. we had a fight.Feels like he doesnt understand me, he thinks he did nothing wrong but everything he said was hurtfull,when we went to bed he held me for 2 sec and then told me"sorry dont know what i did wrong but ja... in a cruel manner. I said ...
A. 3 August 2007: This is classic, "What does she want?" Men don't really know what women want, most tiems women don't know what they want either, except they know they want a man to be a man. So the only thing he can do is be the best man he know how to be. For alot ... (read in full...)
I need more than a phone to hold at night, I need for HIM to be here!
Q. I'm really scared for no reason, I guess my fiance went through depression and we have an off and on long distance relationship and we were supposed to get married this month but he wanted to save up some more money but I know that's the level ...
A. 1 August 2007: I don't know his age, only what your age range shows, which is young. I can't tell you why he is distant or not excited about getting married anymore. It sounds like from you're original text that you are the one having problems dealing with the ... (read in full...)
I need more than a phone to hold at night, I need for HIM to be here!
Q. I'm really scared for no reason, I guess my fiance went through depression and we have an off and on long distance relationship and we were supposed to get married this month but he wanted to save up some more money but I know that's the level ...
A. 1 August 2007: You're pregnant and lonely. How long have you been apart? ... (read in full...)
Help! I love my girlfriend, but can't seem to get over my ex...
Q. I had a horrible fight with my g/f of 2 yrs. and she was in the process of packing up her things up until I talked her into staying. When I was out of town, she was copying some of our picturs onto a CD when she ran across a CD I had stored some old ...
A. 1 August 2007: Seek counseling.... (read in full...)
I live with my fairy tale boyfriend, but he has a wife!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together and living together for a year and a half now. He is truely the most amazing person I've ever met! Our relationship is almost perfect. We spend every day together and every second is REALLY like a fairy tale. I ...
A. 31 July 2007: You're right it is a fairy tale. If you're happy stay where you are at. If you want more, tell him. Be ready if he chooses to leave though, most people don't deal well with ultimatums. Decide what you want and do it. You are control of your own ... (read in full...)
He has lied to me before, so now he says he wants privacy and I dont trust him!
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for a year and some months. We have lived together for a year. He has lied to me a couple times before about dumb things, like giving his number out to girls and denying ever talking to them. In my past ...
A. 31 July 2007: You have 2 choices. Stay and be miserable or leave him, feel lonely for a while and then be happy. What do you want?... (read in full...)
How do I know if he is in love with me? Is it worth giving up everything to be with him.
Q. I feel like my boyfriend does not love me enough. We are currently in a long distance relationship, and I am willing to change my whole life to move in with him, but he does not seem to be doing anything for me. I know love is all about giving, ...
A. 31 July 2007: Has he given you any jewelery? Has he told you he is "in love with you". Has he told you he is missing you terribly? Does he send you text messages all the time? Where does he live? You're not too intense. My finacee just moved from the UK to be ... (read in full...)
Is anal sex safe during pregnancy?
Q. is it safe to take it up your bum whike your pregnant...
A. 31 July 2007: yes... (read in full...)
She is lying, hiding phone calls and wont speak to me!
Q. Im 38 years married with 3 kids my wife is 33 bye November 2007. we are married for 8 years now. we live happly before. till i decided that she should go back to classroom for further studies. Since , then she has developed bad behaviours , f...
A. 31 July 2007: If you want to know, hire someone to follow her to see where she goes (a private detective). It sounds like she has discovered a life outside of the home, and she is displaying signs of cheating. Find out what's going on before you do anything. ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with a married woman. How do I get over my obsession??
Q. i am obesessed with a woman of 37..i am 57...we were workamates...nearly had sex..i panicked..now all i do is think about her..every waking minute of my life...i imagine her making love to her husband..my question is..how do i get over an ...
A. 31 July 2007: Are you married or currently in a relationship?... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is it time to end the relationship?
Q. It seems like my relationship with my boyfriend is reaching its breaking point. We fight over the smallest of things especially when he sees me being insecure, while if it is the other way around I've found I actually talk to him about it and make ...
A. 30 July 2007: Call it quits if you don't want to deal with it, but if you love him and are willing to compromise and accept the way he is then stay. You're boyfriend is showing signs of a weak person. He seems like he has difficulty accepting criticism (a certain ... (read in full...)
It's only two inches.
Q. im 25 year old and my problem is that my penis is only 2 inch so i dunno how to please a woman i tryed to have sex with my 1st gf but i couldn't please her nor myself so she cheated on me my question is how can i fix this problem cus now im too ...
A. 30 July 2007: If sexuality is a big part of "who you are", then there are some things you may want to consider. If you are afraid to have sex with a woman now, I think that it may be time for you to act. Much like a woman having small breast, a man can feel ... (read in full...)
I can't help but flirt.
Q. Im a natural flirt...Im 20 (21 Pretty Soon) Anywasy everyone i meet (I mean everyone) I flirt with my girlfriend hates it and i keep telling her im not...I cant stop i mean i only notice it because people tell me my girlfriend is really emotional ...
A. 30 July 2007: It sounds like you are describing yourself as someone with low self esteem and need constant attention. I wouldn't even worry about relationships at this point, it's not fair to ask someone to put up with it. Figure out who you are first, date ... (read in full...)
I'm his wife, yet he loves his first fiancee more.
Q. my husband and i have been married almost 2 years, together for 4 1/2. about a month ago he announced he wanted a divorce. apparently he found the "love of his life" a woman that had been his first fiance, 27 years ago. i was unaware that we were ...
A. 30 July 2007: When someone in a relationship with me asks me to leave, I leave. I don't understand how you can interpret what he has said any other way. I would tell him he needs to leave, after you hire a lawyer, and use his money to do it. If you wanted, you ... (read in full...)
Will he want a relationship?
Q. Heyyy I broke up with my bf of 10 months, one month ago because he told me he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore (wanted to spend more time with mates)although he did say he still loved me. The last month has been the hardest of my...
A. 30 July 2007: You really need to give him his space because he has asked you to. You can only base your decisions on reality and fact. If you expressed your needs and told him how you feel, then he gave you an answer. It may not be what you wanted to here, but ... (read in full...)
Should I keep seeing my best mates uncle?
Q. i have a problem i could use some advice on. i am 18 and i have been best mates with my best mate for 11 years....... we went to her 33 year old uncles house (who i have fancied for a long time) a couple of months ago and we had to stay there cos ...
A. 30 July 2007: If he's not married, then do everything like you would with any other man you date. Tell your best mate when the time is right.... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with a married woman. How do I get over my obsession??
Q. i am obesessed with a woman of 37..i am 57...we were workamates...nearly had sex..i panicked..now all i do is think about her..every waking minute of my life...i imagine her making love to her husband..my question is..how do i get over an ...
A. 30 July 2007: You're regretting not having acted out when you had the opportunity. You did the right thing even though you think it's a missed opportunity. Are you married?... (read in full...)
Am i being petty when it comes to my brother?
Q. Now a month ago i split from a year long relationship and after a bit of a rocky ride things are settling down after he admitted he had lied a few times during the reltionship. Nothing major, just little things. Which i kinda knew, my instincts ...
A. 29 July 2007: You've tried to talk to him about it, but he's not willing to hear. The only thing you can do is be yourself. I too have a similar situation, but my sister sided with my x-wife. I contact my sister every now and again, but we don't really have much ... (read in full...)
Why cant he be more understanding?
Q. I'm a shy person, always have been. However the other night I went out to a dinner party with my bf and all his friends (who i dont know very well) and of course I was going to be shy, however my bf thinks my shyness that night was just plain ...
A. 29 July 2007: I feel that it is not him that you should be looking at for change but that YOU should find someone that will support you for who you are. Most importantly someone that will take the time to compromise. If you feel your shyness may be a little ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend going overseas, can I trust her?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a Girlfriend going overseas for 1 year she is 20 im 27 i told her i may visit her for a few weeks, she told me she wants to go overseas to be independant and work and visit friends. I have been going out with her for 3 mo...
A. 29 July 2007: You said the right thing in the first place, now you have to be the man. Tell her again, and mean it this time. "Go have a good time, and call me when you get back." She's young and doesn't know who she is or what she wants yet. You're still ... (read in full...)
Do I tell the wife?
Q. I became involved with a man about 3 years ago, who is married, though I didn't know it at the time. Once I found out I ended it immediately but I'm ashamed to admit I went back to him, as I had fallen hard. He said all the usual things, he wante...
A. 29 July 2007: You went into the relationship knowing he was married. Bad girl. It's over now, good girl. I would almost bet that his wife already knows. If you confronted her it wouldn't matter anyways, because she probably won't ever leave him anyways. To ... (read in full...)
Do you think that I can trust my wife with this man in our life?
Q. In May 2006 my wife of eight years began having an affair with a coworker. I confronted her a few weeks later and she said that their secret relationship was over. Throughout the rest of the year I correctly suspected that their affair was ...
A. 29 July 2007: No you can't trust her. Do you really want to live with someone that is using you and doesn't love you? If you stay with this woman it will only bring you heartache after heartache. She has cheated on you once and disrespected you. It will happen ... (read in full...)
Quickest ways of losing weight.
Q. whats the quickest way to lose weight? im 14, size 12 and weigh 11 stone and i hate the way my body looks. everyone around me and most of my friends are thinner than me and i hate being the big one. ive tried loads of diets but none of them see...
A. 29 July 2007: Nutrition. You cannot physiologically gain weight unless you take in more calories than you burn. You have to eat low glycemic foods, and proteins. Their are several weight loss plans that works, I found an atkins like diet to work wonderful to ... (read in full...)
Getting over someone who does not love you back.
Q. hey guys i was wondering if u could give me any tips on dealing with or getting over loving someone who u know doesnt love u back, im finding it so hard...
A. 29 July 2007: Is it from a break up or is it a crush? More information is needed.... (read in full...)
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