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writes:Hey all,My situation is in more detail here if you feel like a read. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-had-the-girl-i-had-always-day.htmlAnyway, to cut a long story short my ex left me before she went home for the summer holidays. She is due to return in about 3 weeks. It was all very out of the blue.It has been 8 weeks since she left and I still miss her and think about her all the time.Anyway, she sent me an email the other day asking how I was doing. I replyed casually and upbeat whilst mentioning nothing about 'us'. This surprised me as she was adamant at the breakup that she would not contact me in any way and any of my attempts to contact her would be ignored. She told me she was coming back sooner than she thought and was happy for me to be doing well.This was a few days ago, now i'm tempted to contact her, nothing mushy just 'hey watcha doing' kinda thing.Do you think she is showing interest again and should I 'test the waters' or still maintain no communication?I'm thinking its best to wait for her to initiate contact again, but then again, I would like to show that I still think about her :S
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reader, JustaGuy +, writes (23 August 2007):
JustaGuy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey thnks for the advice so far,
She is coming back to start further studies at university, I think she mentioned she was coming back earlier becuase the start of term date was'nt confirmed before she left, this is what I presume anyway, i could be wrong.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (23 August 2007):
 Leave this one to her to make the next move, she is sending mixed messages to you and you dont know what is in her head yet, why is she comming home early? also she made it very clear that the end for her was just that , the end.
Now she contacts you out of the blue and I just have to wonder if she has an ulterior motive or does she just know you are still soft on her, and feels like re-visiting someone who she can just slip into routine with again.
You did the right thing to keep your response cool and although it is tempting to send another one, please dont. just wait to see what she wants first.
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reader, DJ8433  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 I think she broke it off to be able to have a clean conscience about dating others while she was away. That would be pretty typical considering that she was determined to tell you that she would not contact you back. I would say, it's up to you to contact her or not. If you do, don't let your heart interfere with your head. She dumped you once, she will do it again. I personally would move on unless the booty was so great that you're determined to have it again. If it wasn't that great, I would find another women that cares. There's 69 million women in the UK.
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