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Hi, My name is Richard, I'm 44 years old, divorced with 2 adult children (I got started young). I live in Texas, but my fiancee is from Australia. I met her living in the UK.
Who am I? My education, counseling, but most of all, Life Experiences have helped me to develop a mindset that has allowed me to be successful in my personal relationships. |
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We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 24 August 2007: Way to be a man, my hats off to you. Now will you be true to your word? Really what you've done up to now is the easy part. Being true to your word and staying way when she keeps contacting you. This is the true test of a man.... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 24 August 2007: I too have been through the same thing. In my case, she didn't want to let me go, cause "I'm a good guy" but in her mind it was ok to sleep around. I found this out after we broke it off. I did not want to sleep around, that was a decision I made ... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 23 August 2007: What happened to you sounds similar to when someone drops the "L bomb" and the other person isn't up for it. For whatever reason. Give her some space, if she really digs you she will let you know that your not talking to her enough. In the ... (read in full...)
Still love my ex, going on holiday to get over him but now he's emailed me, what do I do?
Q. Please help. I broke up with my very long distance, long term boyfriend about 2 months ago. We parted on good terms, as in we still loved each other but realised it was never going to be possible to be together. It was the hardest thing I've ever ...
A. 23 August 2007: Been there. The only way to move on is to move on. Chalk it up to hurt and pain of being a beautiful and loving human. Get ready for the next pain too, but love the love when you're with them. There's no feeling like it. ... (read in full...)
I wrote him an email and he hasn't answered yet..does he not like me?
Q. I wrote an email to a guy I like asking him to the park a few days ago and he hasn't answered yet. Does this mean he doesn't like me anymore?...
A. 23 August 2007: You are very young and honestly don't concern yourself about boys liking or not liking you yet. If they're not 15, they don't even know they are boys yet, so they don't know anything but skate boarding and girls have cooties. Concentrate on you and ... (read in full...)
We seemed to get along great but now she's almost ignoring me!
Q. Hi, I hope anyone can help me as I'm very upset over this problem I have.... I have recently met this girl who I like more than words can describe, we have been talking for 3 weeks now and met once so far, she lives about half hour from me and...
A. 23 August 2007: Relax, overanxiousness can be perceived as a lack of confidence to women. You are going to have to be more specific. It's obvious what you want from her, but give more explanation of what you did when you were together, and how you left off with ... (read in full...)
What can I do to hint to him that I like him without saying it, outright?
Q. I really like this boy who lives across the road from me. However, he has a girlfriend. On one occasion he told me that he liked me, but, as I was worked up about a personal family matter, I think i said probably said no, although i can't really ...
A. 23 August 2007: He might think you are a little unstable if he told you he likes you and you turned it around to you and started crying. What do you want from him? Tell him, so he will know too. If you approach him, remember this, you put yourself in a weak ... (read in full...)
Could these stupid thoughts be part of any pregancy horomones or period horomones?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half months maybe a little longer, we're really madly in love, to me he's perfect, everything I want in a guy, I want to spend my life with him but just recently I had these thoughts telling me I don't lo...
A. 23 August 2007: Never, ever, ever ignore your emotions. They are signals to us that we need to do something. Even if it's just to reflect on how we are feeling. I can't tell you how you are feeling, so you have to tell us. Do you feel fear, anger, frustration? ... (read in full...)
Help me! I'm an extrovert stuck inside an introvert!
Q. Help me! I'm an extrovert stuck inside an introvert! On the surface to new people who meet me, I must come across as extremely rude, always with a face of thunder and not talkative, I look that way but don't necessarily feel that way, but I'm never ...
A. 23 August 2007: Do you remember when you were a child? Before the baggage and before you felt your first hurt? Go back in your heart and mind to that point in time. That's who you are. Everything after that point has been added on as "baggage". Try to keep that ... (read in full...)
How can I best go about giving my ex this book?
Q. Hello everyone, I've been broken up with my ex girlfriend for going on three months now. In addition to spending time with my friends, working out, and getting involved with some of my hobbies, I've also been doing a fair amount of reading a...
A. 23 August 2007: Why do want to give her the book? Do you want her to see what you see, or to see things the way you do? Did she break up with you or did you break up with her? Who asked for the break up? Anything you suggest her to read she will perceive as ... (read in full...)
How do I handle rejection from the lady I'm in love with?
Q. How do I handle rejection from the lady I'm in love with?...
A. 23 August 2007: Has she already rejected you? Are you afraid of rejection? ... (read in full...)
What are some tips to impress guys?
Q. What are some tips to impress guys?...
A. 23 August 2007: Impress him how? You want to sleep with him? You want him to just look? You want him forever? You want to show him ...?... (read in full...)
I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her but she's MY WIFE'S SISTER!!!
Q. I have fallen in love with my wife's sister. I love and care for my wife but not the way I feel for her sister. I want so bad to sleep with her, I want to make love to her and tell her that I am in love with her. If she asked me to sleep with her I ...
A. 23 August 2007: Is she single? If she is, divorce your wife and marry her sister. Better yet, just have sex with her sister and wait and see what happens. I want the video. Imagine what would happen in her family and your family and the neighbors and friends ... (read in full...)
I think I'm sexually attracted to my best friend's wife!!
Q. I think I'm sexually attracted to my best friend's wife I've known them both since we all were in high school, and I never thought of her like that until about a year ago. Since we all are close friends, I will not act on those impulses... none...
A. 23 August 2007: Yes, You are normal to have emotions. If you act out on those emotions, that is what is unacceptable socially. It has been unacceptable to "F--K" another man's wife for a long time. Henry the 8th had his wife Katherine and her lover beheaded for ... (read in full...)
Why did he leave me after all we've been through?
Q. I have been with this guy for six years and some months and 2 days ago he told me he didn't want me. We have been though a lot... I even cheated on him and got pregnant and he was still there for the baby and I and now he is leaving me for stupid ...
A. 22 August 2007: What did he say when you asked him?... (read in full...)
I'm in my mid twenties and really struggling to make any friends and I'm yet to have a girlfriend!
Q. Hi, I'm in my mid twenties and really struggling to make any friends and I'm yet to have a girlfriend! The problem is I can be quite shy around new people until I get used to them. I used to have loads of friends at school so never had to mak...
A. 22 August 2007: Look, I don't know you, but from your own description it sounds like you are socially ignorant. Please don't take that as condescending, take the word ignorance for it's true meaning. You would not be the first person to struggle socially. I assume ... (read in full...)
He wants me to move to Melborne to be with him, but I dont know
Q. My boyfriend emigrated back in March to Melbourne Australia as he had planned - with few possessions he simply packed a suitcase. He has a job now and is renting a small house. Now he wants me to move out with him and has started to dream about our ...
A. 20 August 2007: Can he, and is he willing to take care of you when you get there? Is he "in love with you"?... (read in full...)
We've been broken up for six months, can it work again?
Q. Help! I think I want to get back with partner and I know he definitely wants to make another go of it with me. We were together for 4 years and split in February though have kept in touch a few times by text. He's a really nice, honourable guy ...
A. 18 August 2007: If you can get past the thought of him being with other women, and he can get past the thought of you being with other men....then and only then, go for it.... (read in full...)
What can I do to excite my boyfriend?
Q. I love it when my boyfriend touches me, we have sex once every week. But I wish I could do it more often. But we live one hour away, I know he loves me because, he comes all the way from were he lives to be with me, when he could have someone else. ...
A. 18 August 2007: Dance naked for him...when he's not tired.... (read in full...)
I'm exactly what she's looking for, how can I make her see it?
Q. I like this girl...A lot. And she just got out of a relationship with this guy, and she says he was the same of every other guy she's dated. She said they all treat her badly and are unkind to her. She said she's done looking for a guy and is just ...
A. 18 August 2007: You're not what she's looking for. Email me if you want to know what she's looking for, and I'll tell you how to give her what she needs/wants.... (read in full...)
Is my boniness unattractive?
Q. hey.... im 14 and really boney! my shoulder blades stick out andd you can see my spine... is this unattractive???...
A. 18 August 2007: Beauty is in the eye if the beholder. For every woman, there's a man that finds her attractive. NO, you're not unattractive, just young. Be patient, your body will change.... (read in full...)
The problem is his daughter -she is 30 years old and only calls us when she wants something - usually money but some kind of favor.
Q. My husband and I have been married 9 years. We each have 2 grown children. The problem is his daughter -she is 30 years old and only calls us when she wants something - usually money but some kind of favor. He can't say no to her. Not only is ...
A. 18 August 2007: Let him be who he is. Whatever demons or past amends he feels he needs to make are up to him. Don't make his life harder than it already is. Get over it, past it, and let it go. If you can't, let him go. Simple choice, because you can't change ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, but should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes...
A. 18 August 2007: Hmmm....3 months, nope. Say goodbye!... (read in full...)
Only married a month and we are already talking divorce
Q. I married my bf of 2 yrs a mth ago, so far our marriage is horrible! we argue 24/7 we have already discussed divorce, i am so lonely in this marriage it is horrible. everyone is telling me it is normal to argue this much.. is it? If so why get ...
A. 18 August 2007: It may be normal, but do you want to be happy? DO what you need to be happy, I would rather be by myself and happy than with someone and miserable. Say goodbye!... (read in full...)
He wanted to be with me forever! ...But apparently he just "doesn't do long term relationships." I'm heartbroken!
Q. i was seeing this guy and we split up after 2 weeks, because of his ex-wife (they split up 9 years ago)we kept in touch and after 2 weeks he text me and said he realised he couldn't live without me and to be honest he thought he was in love with ...
A. 17 August 2007: Count your blessings. A dramatic change in feeling like that means he slept with someone else or is wanting to. He's not going to tell you he slept with someone else. He would say he doesn't want to hurt you by telling you the truth, but in reality ... (read in full...)
What does his lack of contact, on holiday mean?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months went on holday for 2 weeks and text me only four times,only in response to the texts i sent him!! he hasnt even called me! what does this mean! ...
A. 17 August 2007: It means he didn't want to talk to you.... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that my friendship ended because of my sneaky man?
Q. Please help before I do something I may regret. My fiance refused to let me talk to one of my closest friends because of some terrible things she did, and I of course told her to stop multiple times, but she "kept doing it." So finally, I stopped ...
A. 17 August 2007: Your fiance should not be hiding anything from you. If he is, then get ready for a lifetime of "why am I always the last one to know". If you want to know if he's lying to you, or whether you can trust him, and this can apply to anyone. Know the ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him more relaxed and comfortable about sex?
Q. I'm 16 and me and my boyfriend have been sleeping together for the past month and everything's been fine apart from one big problem, he hasn't cum and I told him I had but in fact I hadn't. I dunno what to do cos he's getting really worried about ...
A. 17 August 2007: How is he doing it? Fast? Slow? Different positions? Can he keep an erection? ... (read in full...)
I was on his myspace and in his trash was mail with his ex girlfriend saying he still liked her and she likes him and they said he might dump me for her...
Q. I'm worried! My boyfriend says he loves me, he always has and he still does but I was on his myspace and in his trash was mail with his ex girlfriend saying he still liked her and she likes him and they said he might dump me for her but this was a ...
A. 17 August 2007: Let the dumping commence, but you are in control. Too bad, too late, he screeeeewwwwed it up. ... (read in full...)
Why do i feel insecure?
Q. me and my lover are agemates both 25yrs been together for 5yrs. why do i feel insecure? how can i get his attention?why is he not calling me often even to tell me if he got my letter?what should i do to make him call me? tho i recently met his mum ...
A. 16 August 2007: If he's not telling you one thing and doing another, respect that he's not ready to settle down with one woman, and he knows it. What can you do. Make yourself unavailable to him when he wants to see you. Tell him you're busy with friends or your ... (read in full...)
My wife and I don't get along - would it be wrong to have sex with my ex?
Q. My wife cheated on me several times. We started to divorce but then we decided to give it another try. I must admit I hold onto a lot of resentment for all the lies and deciet along with her excuse that it was my fault she cheated. Things were good ...
A. 16 August 2007: Can you spell D-I-V-O-R-C-E? It's time.... (read in full...)
Is it a bad trait?
Q. My boyfriend always wants me to give him head. Is that a bad trait in a man?...
A. 16 August 2007: Oral sex is a submissive act for either sex. You are giving yourself. If he likes it and you like being there for him then there's no problem. If you don't like pleasing him, then there is a problem. HE seems to know what he likes. Determine why ... (read in full...)
I told him I found out about his sexual chats w/ other girls - now we don't trust each other!
Q. I found chatting communication of my boyfriend and girls on the net. We just bought a house and talking about having kids. Those conversations, were recent and he was initiating them. To girls he chatted long time ago. Last year he had sexual ...
A. 16 August 2007: Move on, a broken trust will always be a broken trust and can never be repaired. The question is can you tolerate a broken trust? Most people say they can but over time it eats away at the ego and self esteem. Trust your gut and don't be swayed.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my partner to go on holiday with her father and our sons a regular basis without me?
Q. I am in love with a woman who at times is the highlight of my life. We have one son together and she has one son from a previous relationship. Is it normal for a woman to want to go away with her father and my sons on a regular basis( vacations, ...
A. 16 August 2007: The father is paying for it. You can go when you pay for your partner and your sons.... (read in full...)
Should I go after my ex, or this new older man?
Q. im soo confused latley. i split up with my long distance boyfriend a year ago and have been saying ever since that when i drive i am going to get him back because i think we split up because of the distance. i still love him and cant seem to get ...
A. 16 August 2007: If you and your ex split under good circumstances and you both think it was due to distance, I would go back to him, if you're looking for an emotional attachment. If you just wanna have fun, date who you think is the most fun.... (read in full...)
How to break the ice with girls I want to date..any tips?
Q. when i want to ask a girl out, what things should i say to break the ice and start a conversation with her. ...
A. 15 August 2007: I have a saying that I go by. Women are like cats, you have to let them come to you.... (read in full...)
When he doesn't get to have sex with me he goes to porn websites and pleasures himself, Should I worry about that
Q. My boyfriend of 11 months has a very high sex drive. He likes to just grab and touch me when we are at home, which I don't mind because at least he is attracted to me right? So as you can see he likes to have sex. Well of course there are certain ...
A. 15 August 2007: Why can't you have sex on your period? Be thankful he's pleasuring himself instead of someone else. He has a need, and he is fulfilling it and hurting no one. If you feel bad about it, you should offer yourself to him. I wouldn't unless she offers ... (read in full...)
I lost 7 pounds on my diet thi week. My mate says that I'll now only lose 2 pounds at a time??
Q. Ive been on a diet for the last week and ive lost 7 pounds. Ive been eating correctly just healthier foods because i used to eat loads a day. Someone told me that next week if i continue to eat the same i will only loose 2 pounds. Why is this? ...
A. 14 August 2007: I forgot to mention fats. Believe it or not, the fat you eat does not go to fat in your body, and actually aids in burning of fat in the body. However, try to eat healthy fats or oils. Omega 3 fats like fish oils. Cook with olive oil if you can. ... (read in full...)
I'm just worried that she wont text me. I don't know why but knowing she did not text me will kill my insides
Q. My birthday is tomorrow. All my friends are texting me already, but there's this girl who i liked so much. We are good friends. I'm just worried that she wont text me. I don't know why but knowing she did not text me will kill my insides! Am i ...
A. 14 August 2007: First and foremost, "Be a man!" I'm trying not to sound condescending. Women don't like a man lacking confidence and certainly one who is "hurt" by her not calling on his birthday. If you can't ignore it, text her and invite her out or over or to do ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get him to reach orgasam...
Q. Ok, I am 23 years old and have been dating a wonderful 24 year old guy for about 4 months. Our relationship is wonderful there is only one problem... I can't seem to get him to reach orgasam... He always has to pull out and manually finish ...
A. 14 August 2007: Sometimes when men watch porn a lot, they get desensitized to normal sex. Since men are visual, it's understandable that he wants to see you in a pose that "turns him on". . He will have to agree to do these thing for you both. Tell him you want ... (read in full...)
My fiance is 33 and I am 24. He has some friends his age and he also has some friends that are girls that are 13 and 15.
Q. My fiance is 33 and I am 24. He has some friends his age and he also has some friends that are girls that are 13 and 15. He knows I think it's weird that they are young, so he never takes me out with them. They sit on his lap. Is that weird?...
A. 14 August 2007: Yes, very weird. Run away!... (read in full...)
I lost 7 pounds on my diet thi week. My mate says that I'll now only lose 2 pounds at a time??
Q. Ive been on a diet for the last week and ive lost 7 pounds. Ive been eating correctly just healthier foods because i used to eat loads a day. Someone told me that next week if i continue to eat the same i will only loose 2 pounds. Why is this? ...
A. 13 August 2007: I forgot to ask your height, but you did not mention your weight. THe best way to lose fat is to do 30 minutes of aerobic exercise first thing in the morning before you eat. Your body has fasted all night, so you will be burning fat. I caution you ... (read in full...)
I lost 7 pounds on my diet thi week. My mate says that I'll now only lose 2 pounds at a time??
Q. Ive been on a diet for the last week and ive lost 7 pounds. Ive been eating correctly just healthier foods because i used to eat loads a day. Someone told me that next week if i continue to eat the same i will only loose 2 pounds. Why is this? ...
A. 13 August 2007: What's your age? Weight? Diet? Are you exercising?... (read in full...)
What do guys think of girls who make the first move?
Q. I need to know ..... what do guys think of girls who make the first move? Ive met someone I REALLY like, we exchanged numbers and have met up a few times. Each time, we get on great and theres a definite attraction between us. The only thing is, I...
A. 13 August 2007: The ritual mating dance. It depends on what you're looking for. Are you're looking for a confident man and a chance at a little more than a romp? Confident men see what they want and go for it. Confident women do the same thing. I think smart ... (read in full...)
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