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I caught my partner having sex with my sister-in-law; can I ever put it behind me?
Q. i caught my partner having sex with my brothers wife! he said it was a mistake and begged me to forgive him. A year has passed, we have moved from the UK to NZ to start again, we are happy but i still have this image of them both and just dont ...
A. 23 July 2007: Oh my, that is something that is unforgiveable and unforgetable. Well it depends how different people would react to this, but it seems like its something that could haunt you forever, i know it would certainly haunt me forever. Its whether you can ... (read in full...)
Do you think it can work again?
Q. About 9 months ago, I cheated on my boyfriend. I was going through a really hard time in my life and was stupid and made a stupid choice. What made it worse was that I lied about it for two days until he confronted me and even then, I denied t...
A. 23 July 2007: I understand that you made a big mistake, and i think he genuinly realises this too, hes still hurting over it thats why hes having troubles with trusting you again, but if hes willing to try again then i think you should go for it.. When you said ... (read in full...)
Would it ruin our relationship if I tell him I was sexually abused?
Q. I was sexually abused when I was a child. I really like this boy, but I don't know if I should tell him. Should I tell him about my past? Would that ruin our relationship? Would he look at me differently and never want to come too close to me?...
A. 23 July 2007: Im really sorry to hear about what you went through, and like penta said, its not your fault, and it is also something that should be told in confidence with a person you love and trust most. He shouldnt look at you differently and he also shouldnt ... (read in full...)
Ladies, looks or personality?
Q. Are looks more important to women than personality? Or vice versa? I've heard looks are 30% and personality is 70% important to a women. What you guys think? As many posts as possible would be great! Thanks...
A. 23 July 2007: Personality is what makes a successful relationship, a guy with a great sense of humour, witty comments & whos tender and loving, thats the sort of guy i'd like. I dont judge by looks, its pointless and gets you nowhere. ... (read in full...)
I'm 12. Is kissing and feelings that I've fallen in love with a boy a bad thing?
Q. dear cubid! please help me iv bin going out wiv this boy weve only bin going out for a day now and already weve kissed 3 times on the lips! im only 12...is that rong? i actually once in my life feel like i love this boy but im scared if he wil...
A. 23 July 2007: Its not wrong at all. :) Just go with the flow and wait to see what happens each day. Just dont go too far so soon.
:) Take care xxxxx... (read in full...)
Can you be too young to be in love?
Q. My two close friends..lets call them Annie* and Mark*.. theyre both 15, been dating for nearly 3 years now and Annie* recently told me that she thinks shes in love with Mark*.. now ive seen the way they are together and the way they make each other ...
A. 23 July 2007: Well it depends on how old you are for starters a younger person may not know what love is, and how long you've been with somebody. Because you could easily be confused about it. But 3 years is a long time and i think it is love. Nobody can tell her ... (read in full...)
Raped by my ex last night.
Q. Hi, need advice and help please. I was raped last night by my ex, i let him in as he said he wanted to talk, anyway we were chatting normally he then tried it on, told him i wasn't interested, he forced himself on me. I couldn't fight back, i froz...
A. 23 July 2007: I agree with flowergirl you have nothing to be ashamed of! Its him that should be the one ashamed! Tell somebody!!! And like flowergirl said, if he gets away with it this time, he can do it again and again. Get him done love. :( Good luck xxxxx... (read in full...)
I just wanted reassurance and now he wont talk to me
Q. I have been seeing my guy for about 8 months now... im 20 and hes 35 - we get along perfectly and we never see a problem with the age difference... Today we had a great big fight because i told him im starting to think hes treating me like...
A. 22 July 2007: I agree with Donna too. You cant just pick a fight really when theres nothing to fight about. No wonder hes gone all funny with you, because you've accused him of something he hasnt done, leave it a bit though, give him chance to think, if he doesnt ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 18 and she is almost 14; is it Ok to date her?
Q. is it alright if i am 17 going on 18 in november and im going out with a 13 going to be 14 in dec. because i think she is worth it but i dont know what to do please i need help. and my parents are telling lies to break up with her and they say that ...
A. 22 July 2007: I dont see the age difference being wrong, my friends 14 and her boyfriend is 18, yet then again i think he uses her for sex, as long as you dont have sex with her, nothing can happen to you and nothing can touch you. xxxx... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or not?
Q. Hey, I'm 14 and the guy i like is 16, he flirts with me quite a lot. He is always brushing up against me as if to kiss me and putting is arms round me, he has also fallen asleep on my sholder lots on coach journeys. Do you reacon he really likes me?...
A. 22 July 2007: I think he does. :) It seems that way, aww thats sweet. :) Ask yourself if you really like him? If you do, then just wait to see if he makes a move, yet then again, dont wait around too long, because he might not. But to me it seems like he does. ... (read in full...)
Why does she just want to be friends?
Q. Well, to start I met this girl and she is 19 and I am 33. We started dating kind of, after around two weeks or so she told me she is having trouble with the age gap. We still like each other but she wants to be friends for now, but I'll miss hol...
A. 22 July 2007: Well you cant force her to feel the same way, especially if its the age gap that she has a problem with. Have you talked to her about it? I suggest really talking to her, tell her how you feel. I wish you all the best love. xxxx... (read in full...)
Why do some people have to be so rude on DearCupid?
Q. i have a question. why do some people have to be so rude on here. whats the point in asking for help when your just going to get ridiculed half the time and not taken seriously. i believe if they need help, help the person if your just going to ...
A. 22 July 2007: I do agree with you on a certain extent. But i must say, i agree with love-him, the truth isn't nice, we are here to help, and if you want us to lie no matter what we think of the question.. what is the point of us being here? We give you our advi... (read in full...)
I'm hot for my sister
Q. hi, im 15 and i am kinda atracted to my sister. Like I was once curious what her bra size was and i went threw her clothes and found some of her panties. Is this wierd that i like this about my sister?...
A. 22 July 2007: Its not weird, but its not very common either. I think you may need to get interested at girls in your school, and not go through your sisters underwear, puberty is very confusing and you think you feel things that deep down you dont really feel. I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me I'm beautiful but I just don't believe him
Q. im incredibly insecure. i have absolutley no idea why. what i do know is that it is starting to affect my relationship with my boyfriend. how do i stop feeling so worthless and improve my view of myself when i dont know whats causing it? my ...
A. 22 July 2007: Maybe he does sincerely mean it love, it could help to talk to someone professional they can help you to overcome this? It seems like you dont trust guys and you don't believe a word they say? Has something happened in the past that could make you ... (read in full...)
This woman is hot then cold and it's confusing me
Q. I was seeing a woman who has 'domineering' kids who basically run her life. We ended things because her kids objected her dating me, out of jealousy. They basically tell her what she can do! Why is it that each time I try to pick it back up with ...
A. 22 July 2007: I agree with mandy7. If the children are young then its understandable that they are confused by having a new father figure on the scene, and dont want you to replace their dad in their moms eyes. Also like mandy said, they will protect their mom ... (read in full...)
I left my girlfriend because I had a drug problem; now I want to be back in her (and our new baby's) life
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for over 2 years. she is 34 weeks pregnant. i recently left her because i have a problem with drugs. i'm getting treatment and still want to be part of her life as well as our babies. she dosen't want anything ...
A. 22 July 2007: You left her at the wrong time here, and its understandable why shes angry at you, when she needed you most, she feels that you just abandoned her and your baby, and now you have lost her trust, yet i can see why you left, because you wanted to make ... (read in full...)
I accused her of cheating because she's always with my best mate; we broke up and I want her back
Q. i have just split up with my girlfriend because i accused her of cheating. we have been good friends for 4 years, and started seeing each other 4 months ago. i'm in the navy, so that means that i'm away all the time. we have the same group of ...
A. 22 July 2007: I agree with AuntyEm to be honest.... (read in full...)
Could she have forgotten about me so easily and quickly?
Q. Hi, me again! As you know my 2 year, long distance relationship ended almost 4 weeks ago when she decided she couldn't cope anymore... I don't know if it really feels like 4 weeks ago... It feels like such a long time ago in some ways, and in other...
A. 22 July 2007: Breaking up is hard for everyone love, but time will heal it, it may seem impossible and easy for me to say, but i've been here many times and when i was there, i also felt depressed and like the world was ending really, but you always bounce back ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for us to go back to the happy way we were?
Q. please help!does he still love me???? I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. We have had an amazing relationship, he use to do everything for me. Although sometimes i did take things for granted and we started to argue a lot after th...
A. 22 July 2007: Not many relationships can go back to the way they once were, because of all the arguing and hard feelings that has once gone between you. Some relationships turn out better than first time round, but it seems in this case that, you need to talk... (read in full...)
How do you get a girl to fall for you?
Q. how do i get a girl to fall in love with me ?...
A. 22 July 2007: You can't force a girl into falling for you, you have to treat her really well and woo her. And even then, its down to her whether she feels that way for you. Make her feel special.... (read in full...)
19 and 14 is that ok?
Q. Is it ok for me to date a guy that is 19 and I am 14?. I really like him and don't want to let him go....
A. 22 July 2007: I dont see a problem as long as you be responsible and not let him push you into anything, most situations like this, its older guys trying to get what they can from younger girls. Be careful and look out for yourself love. xxxx... (read in full...)
'He can't sleep', is there anything i can do to help?
Q. Ok this is more for my boyfriend. Wev'e been sleeping together for about 4 months now and he has a problem. When were not together at night he can't sleep, he tosses and turns all night and is now looking tired and stressed, i love him so much but...
A. 22 July 2007: I agree flowergirl and YummyMummy. They can prescribe him something.... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant if he pulls out?
Q. I was wondering if you can get pregnant still if the guy withdraws before cuming? Does if matter if the stuff that comes out of a guys penis before he ejculates goes inside a girl? Will that get you pregnant? ...
A. 22 July 2007: Yes you can still get pregnant. If this is not what you want, you'll know for the future to use protection.... (read in full...)
He's been texting and e-mailing another woman and flirting with her; he says he wanted to have some fun with her. Is this cheating?
Q. I find it hard to trust people because of the way I was treated as a child, but I grew to trust my partner of four years. Recently, he started talking a lot about a girl he works with, telling everyone how pretty she is and how much fun they hav...
A. 22 July 2007: Yes, in my opinion and many other's opinion, it is classed as cheating, i wouldn't stand for this at all. He isn't worth bothering with here, you deserve better than this treatment. ... (read in full...)
The spark is dwindling, how can I rekindle it?
Q. how do you keep your relationship going, when the spark is still in you, but ur partner seems to be gettin bored or fed up of u? I've been in a relationship for 5 months now. It was all amazing for the 1st 3 months... but after that... it all start...
A. 22 July 2007: I agree with the previous answer to be honest, ask her what she would like to do, no matter what she says, take her, let her choose. Wine and dine her or buy her something special. ... (read in full...)
'I think my son is too young for engagement'.
Q. My 17-year-old son has told me he got engaged to his girlfriend, who's also 17. He said she proposed to him, and he accepted. I'm worried about this. I feel he's too young to do this but he really wants to do it. He said after he leaves college,...
A. 22 July 2007: Make sure its what he really wants to do. If he's ready for this, then there's nothing you can do except stand by him all the way and offer him support if it doesnt work out. ... (read in full...)
The ex wife will not leave us alone.
Q. My fiance's ex-wife will not leave us alone. They were together 19 years married for 9. I have moved to his country and we are engaged to be married. They have 3 kids together and I get that but why won't she move on with her own life? Why does she...
A. 22 July 2007: Talk to your partner about this, and make him realise that this is pressuring your relationship, find out how HE feels about this, make sure he's not prepared to let her ruin this relationship. I can see the strain you are under and it's tota... (read in full...)
Why have things changed?
Q. I like this girl and she likes me but things aren't going to well. I really like her but i'm not sure if she still feels the same way... i can't get her out of my head and i'm not acting the same as i used to around her.. What should i do because ...
A. 22 July 2007: Talk to her and ask her if she still feels the same way, and explain why you aren't acting the same way, that way she might be able to understand and make sure it doesn't result in you two breaking up. Also tell her how much she means to you. If... (read in full...)
Am i over reacting when his does not call?
Q. I've jus recently started dating some one who i've been crushing on for 5 years..and it's been a month..everythings lovey dovey but when he doesn't answer his calls or doesn't reply i get peranoid he's up to something.. I know i'm over reacting but ...
A. 22 July 2007: He won't appreciate it if you constantly phone him or text him, he might come to the decision that you are obsessing over him and he might back away, and he also might think you don't trust him enough. You said yourself here though: It's all phys... (read in full...)
Why do i stop myself from having an orgasm?
Q. I never seem to let myself orgasm. Whenever i get close i make my partner stop. What can i do to stop this happening? xx...
A. 22 July 2007: I agree with Danielpew to be honest, your boyfriend cant do much about this, its something you have to try and work out yourself. ... (read in full...)
How can i get my bf to stop being a replacement spouse to his dad?
Q. My boyfriends parents have been split for 10 years and neither have found new partners and live quite isolated lives. My boyfriends Dad insists on hi-jacking my boyfriends time, makes him feel bad if he doesn't stay in and watch football and is a...
A. 22 July 2007: Tell your boyfriend how this is making you feel. Although there isn't much you can do about it, because it is just a father wanting to spend time with his son.... (read in full...)
I want to stop the dreams i keep having.
Q. Me and dean were together for a year, broke over 3months ago, and he even has a new gf. I'm still having problems getting over him, but what i'd like your advice on is i'm having all these really cruel dreams where we get back together or the entir...
A. 22 July 2007: These bad dreams are bringing up the great times you had together, its all part of moving on. When these dreams stop, you know that you are over him, although it may not seem likely now, it will in time, time is a great healer.. It truly is. I ... (read in full...)
Mum won't let me out.
Q. Hey, i am 14 and my mum keeps me in all the time. She won't let me go out to any of my freinds house or sleep over, she wont even let me stay at my best mates house when she know's we both won't do anything bad. Then when people come round she alwa...
A. 22 July 2007: Wow, me and my mom are always going through this! She does let me out although she tries her hardest to keep me in, and uses those words too 'i never go out anywhere' and i tell her over and over again, there's nothing stopping her going out hers... (read in full...)
Is he normal?
Q. Hi I love my friend and he also loves me a lot but the problem is that he is not like others...he rarely calls me and send messages to me . I know that he loves me a lot. My question is that he is very different because lovers usually talks fo...
A. 22 July 2007: Well talking IS mature, its a main element in a successful relationship, it doesn't mean he's not normal though, that's not really the appropriate word for this, different people want different things out of a relationship, he obviously doesn't want ... (read in full...)
He wants to swing, does he not love me anymore?
Q. My husband said he wants to start swinging, does that mean he does not love me anymore, or is just not satisfied with our sex life. Am i not making him happy anymore? ...
A. 22 July 2007: It might not be because of those reasons, maybe he just wants to explore? And try something new? I can see your concern and worries though, i wouldnt agree to this though, because like AskEve said it will only cause you more pain, and this could ... (read in full...)
My breasts are differant sizes!
Q. Hey, I'm 16, and I have one breast that is a fair bit larger than the other. I suppose that I am still quite young and I am most likely still growing, but will they even out in time? ...
A. 22 July 2007: Mine are too! And my mother's are. Its not abnormal, many women's are. Dont worry about it, as mine are still growing too, i hope they even out as well. They should do.
:) xxxxxx... (read in full...)
I think i have bulimia....
Q. Im constantly on a diet, i always feel really fat and im not happy with my body. I think i am Bullimic...i starve myself for days living mainly on slimfast and then when i eat i eat loads and make myself sick. I really want to be happy with myself b...
A. 22 July 2007: Awww! It sounds like you do have bulimia to me, but with help you can pull through it, you just have to believe in yourself and see that you are perfect the way you are. I bet your gorgeous, you dont need to do this. Try and seek help off websites ... (read in full...)
'I want to get tested before having sex'
Q. I'm 13, and my boyfriend is really in to me,and we want 2 have sex the day before my birthday, and i want to. I want to get tested before i have sex (i'v never had sex,it's just to make sure). I'm 13! my mom would never get me tested at this age, but...
A. 22 July 2007: Well, first things first, your under age, your boyfriend could be arrested for this and you wouldnt be tested for that at your age anyway, because i agree with what Dr Pete said, it would be a waste of time. But if you are going to do this make sure ... (read in full...)
I've gained 4 pounds and I feel fat! How do I lose it?
Q. i need some advice. i am 19 years old, female. i feel like i am getting to fat for my boyfriend. he says i'm not. but i have put on 10 kilos (4 pounds) in the past 12 months. does anybody have any advice on how i can lose some weight? what has ...
A. 22 July 2007: Thats nothing that exercise cant sort out. Do not go on an extreme diet because that doesnt help in the slightest, it only causes more problems, just cut down and eat less carbs and drink water instead of coke etc. Mainly exercise. Dont over exert ... (read in full...)
My teacher split up with his partner...should I make a move?
Q. Hi its me again remember before when i said i was in love with my teacher and that he was in a LTR...? Well now they have split up and i really wanted make a move but i don't have the guts because i know almost for sure he'll push me away and thin...
A. 22 July 2007: I wouldnt make a move now, i know how you feel, and if you love him you will not put him in the danger of losing his job. If he loses his job, it wont put you in a good situation with him.. let alone the trouble it could cause you. I know its hard, ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 22 July 2007: I would love to. :) I log on every day, and would be absolutely delighted to help out.
Take care, let me know.
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