It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 13 April 2011: Yes I agree too, men should feel there full feelings of
grief, I think it makes them better to handle a new RS and get over their past. I think they learn more about life and themselves. ... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 12 April 2011: I can appreciate the way guys can so easily put the past in the past. Let it go, move on, get busy. It's probably in many cases the most healthy way to handle these things.
But, here's a question.
While a girl will spend her days in tears an... (read in full...)
I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man?
Q. I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man? I have had three significant relationships in my life. One isn't a great example because it happened over the internet, but the two others happened whenever I was approached i...
A. 12 April 2011: Yes it will work. You will learn to be more at ease around the ladies. ... (read in full...)
How can my confusing situation with my ex be resolved? what can I do?
Q. Hey guys.. my ex and i had been together for around 1 year and 6 months. We broke up 3 weeks ago. She asked for it. I found out about some relationship repair programs and followed it. She started contacting me, telling me that she misses m...
A. 12 April 2011: Glad I could help! TKS... (read in full...)
I'm worried that he's drawing away because of my complaining
Q. my boyfriend and i have ben dating for a whole year now. and what we have is beautiful. everything was just simply great till, from past few days he and i, have ben having some family problem/he is kinda avoiding me . because every-time he talks to ...
A. 12 April 2011: Well you're being a downer.
Next time you talk to him have something great to say.
This way you'll have to find something positive to say and that will help your mood too.
The more positive you are the happier you'll be.
The other problems e... (read in full...)
Why won't he break up with his ex to be with my friend?
Q. i have this friend who was with a guy for three years and in that time she cheated on him. so finely he kicked her out but he still loves her and wants to work through there problems. after he kicked her out he ran into his x and let her move in ...
A. 12 April 2011: Why does it matter to you, this is not your life.
I can understand you care for your friend but really this is not your business.
He's been with his xx now for 6 months and maybe he likes the arrangement. We can't predict the future, but I do think... (read in full...)
Why do I still love me after all the times he broke up with me?
Q. Okay so its been 7 months since me and my ex actually broke up...we dated fro 2 an a half years...he broke up with me for no reason.. After a while we started missing eachother...we got back together dated for a month then he dumped me cuz he ...
A. 12 April 2011: Well if you can give yourself your own personal definition of LOVE. Take that definition and put it to the test.
Dare yourself to fall inlove with 2 other guys this year.
Your young, you'll rewrite your definition of LOVE over the years many man... (read in full...)
Torn between two men--who do I choose?
Q. I am a young lady, with fairly severe jealousy and self esteem issues. I have been dating and living with my boyfriend for 3 years. 2 of those years, we haven't been getting along. He was ignoring me, resorting to alcoholism and occasionally ...
A. 12 April 2011: Fix your self esteem issues first, than you won't want either of these men. These RS's are full of manipulation, regret, impulse and addiction.
Yuck, who needs that?
You get a good you going and move along.... (read in full...)
Why am I the bad guy? He's the one who dumped me!
Q. We were together for six years and we have kids together. I was thinking about breaking up with him but he broke up with me first. In the past I would beg him to take me back but this time I said Fine, let's break up, this isn't working, let's stay ...
A. 12 April 2011: It's an ego thing and an ownership thing and a jealous thing and a lonely thing and a sexual thing.
He's doing the guy thing. It's actually normal.
You have to be the bad guy because he doesn't want to feel he is a bad man.
It's a you don't kn... (read in full...)
I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man?
Q. I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man? I have had three significant relationships in my life. One isn't a great example because it happened over the internet, but the two others happened whenever I was approached i...
A. 10 April 2011: Day 1 Ask 10 females for the time. Day 2 Ask 10 females for directions Day 3 Ask 10 females for the nearest bar Day 4 Ask 10 females if they'd like a coffee Day 5 Ask 10 females if they like to dance Then just start asking more stu... (read in full...)
Should I continue to wait to tell her I love her, or should I do it now?
Q. So essentially this girl that I've first started talking to about 3 weeks ago and I both realized and admitted that we both like each-other alot, and since we first went out on a date, we've talked till at least 11pm everyday since, we talk about ...
A. 10 April 2011: Wait, instead just say, "you're important to me, if you need me I'll be there" The same thing, only less and at the same time more. ... (read in full...)
How do I make my boyfriend practice better hygiene?
Q. My boyfriend is a real guys guy, and plays a lot of sport. I don't think he showers properly all the time. He barely washes his hair and it smells!!! and he doesn't cleanse his face and you can see the build up of dirt sometimes where it just lo...
A. 10 April 2011: Ask him to take a shower with you. Done..... (read in full...)
I'm going to have to see my ex again and I still have feelings for him
Q. After getting out of pretty destructive relationship with a guy last June, I face the prospect of having to see him pretty soon again. I thought I had gone far enough away, but I'm returning to where we met ( and he still is) in the next few months. ...
A. 10 April 2011: Face it head on. You have grown, test it out. The flame may rekindle, if so make sure he's changed too. If not you may see him in a different light and be able to move on more easily. ... (read in full...)
Does he like me? Please give opinions!
Q. Hi, okay, so I think that this guy might like me, but I really like him, so I'm worried that maybe my mind is playing tricks on me. I need other, third-party opinions on the matter please :) Here's why I think he likes me: -He stares at me A L...
A. 10 April 2011: Long post Short Answer HUGE LIKE ... (read in full...)
We never had a first date, so he's taking me to the fair...what do we talk about?
Q. Well, I've been dating this boy for 3 and a half monthsh, but we never had a proper first date so we decided to have a first date to the fair, but I already know lots about him. What could we talk about? I don't know what to talk about. Help! x...
A. 10 April 2011: Your at a fair... point to anything and talk about it. That will get the ball rolling.... (read in full...)
I feel confused. Can I trust him after he was deceitful about smoking?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for one year and 6 months. when we first started talking he used to smoke, but then he said he stopped. after two months of knowing each other we started dating. Recently he has been lying to me here and ther...
A. 10 April 2011: He's lying to protect the RS.
However, if someone has to lie to protect any RS then he's not being honest with himself.
Also, you gave your virginity to him. Strange, I thought you may have lost your virginity to him. So I see you think yo... (read in full...)
I just want people's views please on what they think of my bf who is married to his job
Q. I really need to know what people, other than friends and family, think about my issue. I have been in this relationship for almost a year and I love him more than anything, and I know he loves me a lot too, he has told me this. Our relation...
A. 10 April 2011: I think you love him too much! Why is that, maybe because you want to assure yourself that you are loved, lovable, worthy.. etc. You don't need any validation, though you are in a RS that insists you beg for it. Why is that? This will happen ... (read in full...)
Why was my girlfriend crying during sex?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been having sex for the last 3 nights and tonight she started crying. What can I do to comfort her ? What should I say to her ? ...
A. 10 April 2011: Sexual release can be very emotional, laughing, crying, even singing and usually accompanied by great thirst. Ask her if she's hurting physically, if not, just a warm hug and a tall glass of water should be fine.... (read in full...)
If love comes and goes is there any hope for two people wanting sustained long term love?
Q. I read it all the time: "We were in love, but then I fell out of love." And then--poof!--the relationship ends. Love seems so fleeting. We get to know a person, the first few months or year are exciting. But then we tire of that person. Love fad...
A. 10 April 2011: The Brahma teaches that love is energy that can never die. So I guess there is no secret. When we "fall out of love" it's energy in motion. Love didn't die it just changed direction. ... (read in full...)
Am I a booty call, or just FWB? Why does he never initiate our get togethers?
Q. Alright, how do I word this? Lets see.. I have a friends with benefits, but my friends say he's a "booty call". We don't talk for a couple of days, or even a week, and then i'll text him and we either hook up that day or the next and then go back...
A. 10 April 2011: He lets you make the first move, because he knows what he is doing is wrong and if you give in first, he's off the hook. So what's more important to you, sex or integrity? I say change your aphrodisiac to personal power rather than sex. ... (read in full...)
How can my confusing situation with my ex be resolved? what can I do?
Q. Hey guys.. my ex and i had been together for around 1 year and 6 months. We broke up 3 weeks ago. She asked for it. I found out about some relationship repair programs and followed it. She started contacting me, telling me that she misses m...
A. 10 April 2011: Here's what to do. Copy and print this and put it in a book. In 5 or even 10 years you may come across it and read it. You'll be a little sentimental, a little sad but you'll be more laughing at yourself for being such a romantic. In the meanwh... (read in full...)
How can I attract and keep a girl friend? I really like blondes
Q. I am a 16 year old boy. I am wondering how I can attract girls and how to i get them to like me. So far I have not been able to get a girlfriend because I have never had a girlfriend in my life. I am really in to girls, mostly blonds. So I need ...
A. 10 April 2011: Be nice, be kind, offer your help and never let 'em see you sweat. That'll do it.... (read in full...)
Does he want a committed relationship? How long before a guy should propose?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2years now. He is really an amazing guy most of the time but I feel he really may not be ready to take our relationship to the next level. For e.g, I wanted to use him as my contact in case of an ...
A. 10 April 2011: I really am not sure if there is a time limit on love. I think that when you love someone, you kinda always do. I know many relationships are based out of fear. Fear they won't get married. Fear they will be left. Fear that they are not th... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about my genuine insecurities? That I think he is going to cheat on my?
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend and I have been going out for just over 5 months and I'm his first serious girlfriend. I've asked him about his ex-girlfriends and he answers me honestly but the other night when I asked him when he and his last girlfriend ...
A. 10 April 2011: Just tell him, that if he has to move on to let you know, that you will understand. This way if either of you want to move on there will be no lies, no hiding, no insecurities. It'll hurt sure, life does from time to time. But it'll hurt a lot le... (read in full...)
Didn't hear from her for months. Do you think she still cares?
Q. i met this gal ages ago about October last year online we have been talking a lot until few months ago i emailed her no reply for some weeks. i got a reply today does she still love me and why has she replied so late to my email??? please help ...
A. 10 April 2011: I don't know how far you live from a grocery store. But you're scraping the bottom of the peanutbutter jar and you need to go out and buy a new jar. ... (read in full...)
I just had anal sex. Am I still a virgin?
Q. Okay I know this is a stupid question but am im still a virgin? I mean...my boyfriend and I just did anal...and im wondering if im still a virgin. I'm kinda naive about that subject. Im sorry...
A. 10 April 2011: I've discussed this before. As far as I'm concerned if a you are having sex in any form you are not a virgin in the psychological sense. You still have an intact hymen in the biological sense thus Virgin. I refer to virgins having sex as Vi... (read in full...)
I want a threesome my wife doesnt, but she's already been in one!
Q. Here's the problem: I want to have a threesome. My wife does not, though she has had them in her past (before me). She also has a far more extensive sexual past than I have. I'd love to add more partners in the future, but I am willing to forgo ...
A. 10 April 2011: Arggg...... the bucket list returns.. Ok, so if your wife agrees to you sleeping with 2 women and she does not even attend will that satisfy you? That's a real important question.... (read in full...)
BF uses drugs. How do I deal with it?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a while now and its been the most rocky relationship I've ever had. Its very on again off again which is weird considering we haven't even been together a year yet. He uses drugs and I found this out a few months back ...
A. 10 April 2011: Excellent life just got 80% better for you and your future relationships. Hats Off !!! Rock On!!!!!... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 10 April 2011: The more you resist her the more you will want her. It's just physics. Just pretend she is with you when you want her to. It's a way to sate your feelings and comfort your loss. You'll be fine, but for your sake and other possibilities at futur... (read in full...)
Why has my fiance just joined a dating site????
Q. Hi all, I have been dating a wonderful girl for just over a year now. we don't live together but see each other most weekends. she is always excited to see me and tells me she misses me when I am not there. we have a healthy emailing relatio...
A. 10 April 2011: Well maybe you do have yet another thing to worry about. A year and than marriage, I guess that's ok. But usually it takes longer. IMO Who knows maybe you have cold feet, or maybe because you are looking at marriage you have your eyes wide open... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 8 April 2011: Why did you break up, sounds like you had a good thing going?
... (read in full...)
BF uses drugs. How do I deal with it?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a while now and its been the most rocky relationship I've ever had. Its very on again off again which is weird considering we haven't even been together a year yet. He uses drugs and I found this out a few months back ...
A. 8 April 2011: Anyone involved with a drug addict and is not a drug addict is Co-Dependent, read up on this and yes you do need to join Al-Anon, you'll learn so much about yourself and him too.
In the meanwhile, a user has only one mistress, his addiction.
Cocai... (read in full...)
I'm really interested in her and can't tell if she is in me. I just sent 101 roses. Now what?
Q. I'm really interested in this girl. Like, really interested. We both work in the same neighborhood, in bars. I manage a big nightclub and she works the graveyard shift in the café across the road from me. Anyway, for the last about three week...
A. 8 April 2011: I love it !
It's just like in the movies and it's brave and big
and she'll never forget it for the rest of her life.
And anyone else she dates will have to out do you !
So that's a smart move!
Get the video rolling, this is going to be really b... (read in full...)
He's my ex and wants to have sex. I want to do it, or at least say that he asked me, out of spite. Should I?
Q. So why did this boy "J" text me yesterday asking me if we still can have sex. When he has just broken up with me and is now going with another girl... a part of me wants to just have sex with him just to try and get back at her by telling her.... ...
A. 8 April 2011: What's better than an orgasm and lasts longer?
Telling your horny EX to "FOFF"... (read in full...)
GF just told me she was promiscuous in college. Can't get it out of my head.
Q. I have been in a serious relationship with this girl for over a year now. We live together and split everything and love each other so. Out for drinks the other night we got on the subject of past sexual history. We didn't divulge our numbers but ...
A. 6 April 2011: What is it with you guys with visions of other guys with your GF who at the time you didn't even know existed?
It's got to be all about ego. I see nothing else.
Or maybe and a big maybe, that she'll screw around on you.
Then there is the SLUT fac... (read in full...)
Didn't hear from her for months. Do you think she still cares?
Q. i met this gal ages ago about October last year online we have been talking a lot until few months ago i emailed her no reply for some weeks. i got a reply today does she still love me and why has she replied so late to my email??? please help ...
A. 6 April 2011: She likes you. Love is not the way to look at this.
It's platonic at best.
Keep up with the people in your neighbourhood.
Keep life in the real.
Go for a walk.
Get some face to face
... (read in full...)
I went psycho on him and he changed his phone number
Q. about two months ago i meet this guy i really liked him and still do. i was in a bad relationship before i met him and i was still kind of scared. he asked me to be his girlfriends right away and i said yes. we were talking and everything was ...
A. 6 April 2011: The other bad relationship you had. Must have been pretty bad. You should get help with that first.
Those extra pounds of heavy pain will be laid out on the table in your new relationships. Don't do it to yourself, don't do it to others.
... (read in full...)
He's with someone new but still calling. Why?
Q. Question: My boyfriend, now my ex-boyfriend said during our relationship that i "scare the sh*t out of him." He said that he's not ready to settle down. But neither am i. I'm a nice girl, sweet, smart, and I've got my stuff together (good job, etc). ...
A. 6 April 2011: He's with someone else, so he's unavailable to you. KNOW THAT He misses you, sure, I miss my ex's from time to time. no biggy. If he's drinking, and if he drinks as if he could use AA than you are a smart girl to keep your distance. Also if all... (read in full...)
I worry that one day he'll wake up and realize that it's her he wants.
Q. I'm in this 3 year relationship with this AMAZING guy. He and I have recently just came back from a 4 month trip in Europe. We have big plans for the future together. We are currently starting a business together, so life has been really stressful ...
A. 6 April 2011: Just imagine what she could be thinking. She knows she is not number one. You're number one. He's with you. And you are AMAZING too. Don't make mountains out of ant hills. The only one thing I'd have trouble with, honestly, is that he won't... (read in full...)
I'm nervous. What should I expect to happen during our threesome?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having our first threesome together what should i prepare for and what happens? i am excited about having a threesome and him seeing me have sex with another guy. what should i expect to happen so i am not so nervous? ...
A. 6 April 2011: Who's idea was this in the first place? I'll start there.... (read in full...)
Why has my fiance just joined a dating site????
Q. Hi all, I have been dating a wonderful girl for just over a year now. we don't live together but see each other most weekends. she is always excited to see me and tells me she misses me when I am not there. we have a healthy emailing relatio...
A. 6 April 2011: You could join online and ask her out. But nah, that would be playing her game of chance. Maybe she has cold feet, maybe she's looking for answers from other men about love. Maybe she wants another man. Who knows, but it seems your dignity and t... (read in full...)
Will I be able to tolerate a brazilian wax?
Q. This is a pretty weird question for those women who wax their "areas"... I am terrified of waxing but I've developed this habit of plucking out my bikini line with tweezers.. I had an ingrown hair once and from then on I just started...I feel almost ...
A. 6 April 2011: I don't know what your pain thresh hold is. But I've heard that children in hospitals going through cancer treatment suffer long term pain that is incredible. I say offer your pain up for these kids and also send twice the fee for the wax to your ... (read in full...)
I want a threesome my wife doesnt, but she's already been in one!
Q. Here's the problem: I want to have a threesome. My wife does not, though she has had them in her past (before me). She also has a far more extensive sexual past than I have. I'd love to add more partners in the future, but I am willing to forgo ...
A. 6 April 2011: Regrets, regrets.. So you want to throw out the marriage for a couple of hours with 2 other women? Or are you wanting to get it on with 2 other women often? That is the question, if you wife were to allow you and another women to get it on, would... (read in full...)
Why is he bothering?
Q. Some time ago I mentioned that I had met this young man on a cruise ship who was a singer-MUCH younger than em and I told you he kept eyeing me up and everytime I saw him his eyes were on me-well a few months down the line he is still e mailing me ...
A. 6 April 2011: Ask him, what are you waiting for? Why ask complete strangers for your answers? email him now and say "why are you so interested in me" If you think that is a loaded question and you think you will be putting your dignity on the line. Then ... (read in full...)
Can a man truly love two women at once
Q. Question- can a man truly love 2 women at the same time? A little history- I am married so is he. We work for the same company but live in different states. We have fallen in love which is crazy I know. We have never been physical but have hun...
A. 6 April 2011: The emotional bond you have created is made up of chemistry and unrequited love. The two most dangerous things to base any of lifes major decisions on. Once you have done the deed and the oxytocin is spent, there will be clarity. Not telling ... (read in full...)
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