I'm angry towards my FWB, but the sex is great. Should I end it?
Q. Hi All. Please can I have some thoughts on the following!! thanks. I am in a FWB situation, and the sex is great. It makes me feel relaxed, happy and good. I am very highly sexed, and this guy is giving me exactly what I need. However, I am not ...
A. 5 May 2011: Good luck with your next RS !
Glad we could help.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never texts me back!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a lovely relationship, but he never texts me back! Only if I'm in a bit of a mood with him and then he texts me loads! It's really annoying because I can't get in touch with him, and it feels as if he never thinks of me. I...
A. 4 May 2011: Away for a week and no text huh..
That's a guy who is really into his own life. His hobbies, his buds, his job, his pets.. etc. but not that into you. You should have gotten a lovey dovey message and the question "Hope you are being a good girl... (read in full...)
I like him, he ignores me. I ignore him, he likes me. What the hell?
Q. I have a question about the male psyche. Why is it, when I seem to pay him attention, he sometimes is really nice then other times he's cold and ignores me? Like this year, he has been staring at me, but upclose he acknowledges everyone and ignores ...
A. 4 May 2011: Love is like a pushme pullme from Dr. Dolittle.
And sometimes it is just when a girl will do little that the guy will be all over her. Strange eh. not much you can do about it, seems just the way it is. At least it keeps the mystery and inte... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me changing my mind about marrying my girlfriend?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years, in this time she's had severe drug problems and has cheated on me three times, I love her. but now she wants a commitment and wants us to get married, I said Yes initially after we got back together but I ...
A. 4 May 2011: There is only one way. She has to go to NA and you have to go to Al-non. You can't make her go only request. But you can go to Al-non and get into your situation.
This will take time, time this web site can't help you with. It's a long haul situ... (read in full...)
She cut contact after her husband made a pass at me. I miss her, should I contact her?
Q. Im not sure how to put this.....my life long best friend and I havent had any contact for more than 5 years and I really miss her. No, we didnt have an arguement or anything. Her husband made a pass at me and I did not tell her. He has done thi...
A. 4 May 2011: Write her a letter explaining that you did not instigate any engagement with her husband and that you miss her.
Be daringly honest and don't forget to add that last past about life being too short. Once the ball is in her field you'll have to let ... (read in full...)
How do I get girls to hug me, to kiss me and how do I get popular?
Q. 1. How do I get a girl to hug me that goes to my school like a bunch of them that I don't even date 2. And how do I get girls to kiss me for no reason and all ways hang around me 3. And how do I talk to them and get them to all talk and ask...
A. 4 May 2011: Watch the Breakfast Club movie. Then write me an essay on who was cool and why and who was not cool and why. If we're going to get you a girl we'll need to get you to identify the differences between characters, emotions and etiquette.
Wow eh, ... (read in full...)
How do I improve my performance when I'm with my partner? Is there anything I can do?
Q. When we have sex, I find that it takes a long time to climax and I am not always sure that I have done so. I continue thrusting for at least twenty minutes. Is there any way of trying to improve trying to climax during sex?...
A. 4 May 2011: If you don't know you've climaxed, chances are you haven't.
Did you in your youth? Do you remember what sex was like in your youth? Were you a late starter? Are you shy?
Are you afraid of your fantasies? Do you have any?
Lets start with t... (read in full...)
Update: Why is this teacher acting like this
Q. I know you’re all going to think I’m being childish here, but please hear me out. I’m 18, and very mature for my age.I don't really understand body language. Last year, I met my college lecturer, and we hit it off straight away. There was one point ...
A. 4 May 2011: Playing a father figure and a flirt. That's kinda gross IMO
I'd change classes and let him know that if he gets in the way of any of your future boyfriends that you'll report him to the Dean. Don't take anything he says seriously, don't let him ... (read in full...)
We broke up January. Now I can't seem to control my urge to have sex. How can I control it better?
Q. my boyfriend and I broke up and have finished our relationship in janruary. i have been going out with friends and i have also slept with 2 people since my boyfriend and i broke up and i feel so bad about it. however i just seem to be wanting sex ...
A. 4 May 2011: Could be you're still grieving your ex and need closeness and comfort. ... (read in full...)
My boy friend sometimes just walks off and leaves me alone in a bar. no explanation. what do you think I should do about it?
Q. I dont know whether to stay with my boyfriend or not. Sometimes, when he gets in a mood, and we have been out in a bar, he has left me on my own at the bar. It's happened a couple of times. The first time it happened, he left but then came back a ...
A. 4 May 2011: Text message time
Dear John: Thank you for leaving me in the bar last night. I met the most amazing MAN. We are going out again tonight. Again can't thank you enough, if it wasn't for you, I would have never had met him. OX (just one, saving t... (read in full...)
Does being in a romantic relationship contribute to happiness?
Q. Does being in a romantic relationship contribute to happiness? Romantic relationship meaning a committed, stable, relationship. you also must be with the same person for at least 2 years....
A. 4 May 2011: Of course it does, why are you asking.
Look at all those famous movies.
A white shirt and black tie and a martini goes a lot further than a wife beater shirt and a beer.
... (read in full...)
My neighbour is the perfect girl -- what do I do?
Q. Hey, so i just moved into a new place and right next door is a perfect woman for me. She's beautiful smart and can cook (what else does a man wants right?) She just got out of a relationship and I want to be the next and final guy she will be ...
A. 4 May 2011: Oooo, you're the day guy. Not good, that's like being friends and not lovers, you better smooch her soon!
Need to give her the night guy mode before all is lost.
Lovey Dovey Baby... soon. ... (read in full...)
Why did he disregard the conversation and not call back?
Q. I am wondering why my boyfriend just hurried to get off the phone by telling me he had an important call to take. I was just getting ready to break up with him and I had started the conversation and he was participating in the conversation with very ...
A. 4 May 2011: Had a relationship just like this, on and off for 10 years.
Until I realized, It was going nowhere fast but that my alone time was speeding along with family, career, friends.
So ended it once and for all and started dating again.
It's been... (read in full...)
Guys: Do men forget to text back for days, should a girl make this next move?
Q. This question is for the guys because only they can answer guys actions with good insight.. (I hope) Anyways, i met this guy out i spoke to him for about 5 minutes and he asked for my number because i was leaving and he said he wanted to speak ...
A. 3 May 2011: Average guy will not want to look too clingy either and polls have it that a guy will call back after 3 to 6 days. Any longer than six days girls usually won't bother to give him the time of day. Hang in there, but I'd wait.
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Do I contact him again? Or wait for him to contact me?
Q. So, I joined an internet dating site. It's been pretty fun. So far I've met up with three guys. The first guy is now a friend, the second didn't go very well, and the third...aw, the third. He messaged me a couple of months ago and I could tell he ...
A. 3 May 2011: There are a thousand reasons he didn't call you (YET)
99.9% of those reasons have nothing to do with you. Maybe his goldfish died, he needs to buy shoe laces and can't find the right shop.
Let it go as fast as it came. If he calls be cool, ve... (read in full...)
Why do they go soft when we try to have sex? Is it me?
Q. dear cupid i have been with my boyfriend for a while now everytime we start to make love hes try to inter me and he gets soft on me and leaves me hanging. he is 50 years i am 53. i have had this same thing happen t me in the pastwith other m...
A. 3 May 2011: How long has it been since these guys have had sex?
If it's been along time, they are going to be worried about their performance. A lot of vocal encouragement and possibly some dirty talk may help. Keeping the conversation humorous and light will... (read in full...)
Did he just not like me?
Q. Basically went on a date for the first time in ages :) but I'm kinda confused, because although we had good banter and he kindly paid for my cinema ticket and also wanted to pay for my dinner (I didn't want him to though because we're both students ...
A. 3 May 2011: Don't call him, don't think about it. It was a lovely date.
I do think he'll call, but don't dwell on it.
I do think though it won't be long before your in the cue for another cinema.
... (read in full...)
I live with her, I love her but I'm afraid if I tell her it will ruin our friendship
Q. Hi there, I've been living with this girl for almost a year now. I actually also work with her as her supervisor. We get along great, hang out in work, talk a lot at home and we even go out sometimes with her friends. Over the past few days, I...
A. 3 May 2011: I guess you'll have to test the waters or continue living in frustration. A small gesture to see how she reacts. Leaning over to reach something where you get your face close to hers. Than leave it at that and watch her eyes and her body language ... (read in full...)
Gave him heads and he refused giving me oral with him tongue.
Q. Last night i was making out with my boyfriend and i ended up giving him a blow job, after that i asked him to give me oral sex with his tongue and he bluntly refused, i begged him and he still refused. I was hurt so much that he couldn't do that to ...
A. 3 May 2011: Many guys are terrified of this. It's a huge mystery for them. You'll have to ask him why he doesn't and how you can elevate any fears for him, from cleanliness to how to go about it. Don't be angry right of the bat, go slow with this, he's ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend trustworthy? Is he getting better, or just better at lying?
Q. Hello! I'm frustrated about a situation and not sure if i'm over-reacting. I've been with my boyfriend for 6-7 months, we both got out of really bad relationships and we're older, we moved in with each other because of University (we're grad ...
A. 3 May 2011: read up on passive aggressive
Maybe all his ex's are nuts because of him.
Does he show signs of bi-polar?
Read up, education will help you ask the right questions and look for the right red flags.
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Is it possible for me to make a girl like me if she is straight but never dated a guy?
Q. Is it possible to make a girl like you if she says she is straight (but has never had a boyfriend)? If so, how? She's younger than me and I'm around 18....
A. 3 May 2011: I guess asking her out will give her the opportunity to make you her first boyfriend. Go for it.... (read in full...)
If you give a blowjob are you still a virgin? Is he?
Q. If you give a guy a blowjob are you still a virgin? And is the guy still a virgin too?...
A. 3 May 2011: Another Virginette.
No, you are still technically a virgin, but just one who's having "kinda" sex.
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His silent treatment is hurting me. Any advice to improve the situation?
Q. I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible in explanation, to make it easier to understand the history behind this question. So, I had a friend who was my very best friend in school up until a couple months ago, when we both went through ...
A. 3 May 2011: When you give things, you must give them with no expectations.
You expected him to behave in a certain way because of your help. This is not good. It's like you were manipulating him.
He's caught on since and doesn't want to be your monkey g... (read in full...)
Girlfriend left because I am too aggressive
Q. MOD NOTE: Please do not put your posts all in caps. It has been corrected this time. Next time it will be rejected. THX My ex girlfriend says I am too aggressive, I explain to her its my response to the way she is treating our relationship. Now she ...
A. 3 May 2011: Need concrete examples of how she is treating the RS and how you are reacting. This is not enough to give appropriate or helpful advice, need more info.
TKS... (read in full...)
I like the idea of romance, but its just not for me. What does that make me?
Q. So this is a strange question. Ever since i was young, i wanted to be a guy. not in a literal sense, but i like to wear guys clothes, i like things most girls dont, i dont have the best manners, i dont really care much about being feminine, i ...
A. 3 May 2011: No, you are being you, so that's fine.
Only question I'd have is while getting close to a guy and becoming disinterested what are you feeling?
: insecure or cautious or uncomfortable or afraid, anger.... What are the emotions when you get clos... (read in full...)
Why did he disregard the conversation and not call back?
Q. I am wondering why my boyfriend just hurried to get off the phone by telling me he had an important call to take. I was just getting ready to break up with him and I had started the conversation and he was participating in the conversation with very ...
A. 3 May 2011: Maybe he had to get off the phone to dial 911 from a broken heart. Best to do these things in person, breaking off on the phone is a tad cruel.
Have you called him, is he ok? I'd be a bit concerned actually.... (read in full...)
I'm angry towards my FWB, but the sex is great. Should I end it?
Q. Hi All. Please can I have some thoughts on the following!! thanks. I am in a FWB situation, and the sex is great. It makes me feel relaxed, happy and good. I am very highly sexed, and this guy is giving me exactly what I need. However, I am not ...
A. 3 May 2011: Well he probably didn't defend himself because you shamed him.
Which will shut anyone up pretty quick. However, that cat's out of the bag, you'll both have to live with any changes that crop up because of that, though I must say I see only good... (read in full...)
I love him..but I'm not sure how to say it, or what to do.
Q. Here we go again... I just got out of a two year relationship, with 1 year olds father, he was very mean, and treated me like i was his property instead of a person, he doesnt treat me like a women, and i finally have had enough!! So as of two week...
A. 3 May 2011: You've gotten out of an abusive RS and anything that doesn't offer pain is going to feel very very good and refreshing like the rain. Only thing is, you may be feeling so relieved by this new feeling that you are thinking this guy is your knight in ... (read in full...)
We get along great, but his abusive ex is still in the picture
Q. dear cupid: i have been dating my boyfriend for 1 month, he was married for 25 years and divorced for 1 year. boyfriend is still in contact with his ex even though she treated him horrible. she was diagnosis with an eye problem that left her b...
A. 3 May 2011: You don't have to do anything.
If he is taking abuse from the ex, that has little if nothing to do with you. If he gives her money, again, zero to do with you.
She's gone blind, which is more terrifying than being blind from birth. He is helpi... (read in full...)
Do I just want to date this guy because I am lonely?
Q. I haven't been in a serious relationship for almost a year now and I'm lonely. There is a guy that is really interested in me and I'm sorta interested in him but I'm worried that I'm only considering dating him because I'm lonely and wanting to be ...
A. 29 April 2011: Tricky, too painful alone, too painful to leave. How about you find a way to drop the pain from your solo existence and also from your new formed relationships. Take out the pain and you get excited about your down time and your public time. Lea... (read in full...)
He is not interested in me, right?
Q. o two weeks ago, I asked this really cute guy to tutor me in Econ. I found myself falling in love with the more I see him. He's is very intelligent and really helpful. I do notice that he has looking at me and starting to pay more attention to me ...
A. 29 April 2011: Put Intelligence high on your list of what you like in a guy. But keep your tutor off this list. You like smart guys there's tons of them. Infact if you had 4 more tutors you'd probably be inlove with them all by the end of the semester. Your ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who thinks the justice system protects sexual offenders?
Q. I am a 39 yr old woman, who has been in state care and also sexually abused, physically abused and mentally abused. I recently took one of my abusers to court and he got off. Since then my health has spiralled out of control, i have a personality ...
A. 29 April 2011: I had a conversation with my mother about Hitler. She said "Oh, that evil, vile man is in hell where he belongs" To which I thought and said. "I want him to go to heaven, into the light" My mother looked at me all worried and frustrated and asked... (read in full...)
I love her, but she runs hot and cold
Q. Please help! We have been seeing each other for about 8 months. I am 27 and she is 22. We had a good relationship, no arguing, made sure we went out places regular together, had lots of laughs and everything seemed fine. We had a few issues, her ex ...
A. 29 April 2011: You were mature enough to take the risk of getting involved in a love triangle and you accepted. You were mature enough to take the risk of taking her back and you accepted. Now you'll have to be mature about losing her to her ex and accept it. ... (read in full...)
Crush for long time comes down to nothing
Q. I've had a crush on a guy for a very long time and it's come down to nothing. I basically just wasted three years of my life and I'm mad about it. He led me on and now I'm forced to suffer. What I really want to know is how do I get back at him?...
A. 29 April 2011: Crushed by a Crush. I'd crush him with my mind. Get a degree in nuclear biology. Actually, by then, you'll probably be married to the right guy and won't remember this guys name.... (read in full...)
I like her but she doesn't like me but she has her reasons
Q. i really like this girl but the problem is that she doesnt like me...and she has her reasons. I am really nice but i just cant show it to ppl and they dont see it...ppl think that i am unsensitive and not a nice guy...but i am not like that...i ju...
A. 29 April 2011: Actions speak louder than words. You're going to have to risk looking a little goofy for a while. But when you see the delight in her eyes and feel that appreciation, goofy won't feel so goofy. One rose, a nice soft kiss in public, opening ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has been unemployed for 3 years and its getting to me!
Q. hi everyone so heres the thing my bf of 3 years is unemployed hes been like this for 3 years since weve been going out . is it wrong that its getting to me now as i have to pay for things and he constantly beg money from me for ciggerets and when...
A. 29 April 2011:
Wow, this guy must be great in the sac.. I mean he must be a god or he must be the bestest house cleaner on the planet or the best chef in the universe. Or maybe he's nanny to your 30 kids. And I'm talking a total Mary Poppins.
Of course on th... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to need my attention more, not the other way round!
Q. i love my boyfriends's attention and he loves mine too, i give him a lot of attention, he does too. but sometimes he doesn't at all and i feel lonely. I want to get over this and be independent. I want him to be needing my attention more, ...
A. 29 April 2011: What you seem to be saying is that your BF is all you do. So when you don't have him, you're bored out of your tree. Education, Employment, hobbies, GF's, family, pets.. etc. I totally understand the he's my all and everything stuff, we're ... (read in full...)
I wanted to become celibate, but my boyfriend threatened to leave me
Q. I wanted to become celibate but my boyfriend threatened to leave me..... clearly he cannot respect my decision... What do i do? But he claims he loves me so much....
A. 29 April 2011: How about:
I threatened my boyfriend with celibacy now he's leaving me.
Clearly that's the case.... (read in full...)
Does his defensiveness mean something?
Q. What would you make of this?...My husband and I are driving in the car, he says: "I'm going out of town on Monday I have a meeting and I put in for two nights so I can do this other thing while I'm there and kill two birds with one stone." ...
A. 29 April 2011: I don't know the man, does he wig out on other things, like cleaning the BBQ? I have zero idea what his intentions are.
Ask him or follow him, depends on how much you trust him.
What things other that "THAT" would bother you if you knew he were ... (read in full...)
Sex once a month isn't enough for me and I'm afraid I may cheat!
Q. HI, I have been in my relationship for 4 years and we have an 18 month old daughter, however my sex drive has become very high over the last 2 years and my partners is quite low compared to mine. I find myself feeling totally unsatisfied with the ...
A. 29 April 2011: Riding shot gun in the sex driven seat. The stop signs, the yield signs, the twists and turns and oh my god, let my drive for gods sake you idiot signs. And that's what you do. Start driving. Jump his bones, get it on like he's a crash test d... (read in full...)
Is he just cautious in waiting to commit or am I deluding myself?
Q. I don't know whether I'm being an idiot and wasting my life waiting for someone who will never commit, or whether my man just needs some time... I've been in a relationship with a man 12 years older than me for three years. Things are great betwee...
A. 29 April 2011: Ask him where he see's himself in five years. Guys usually have plans even if they don't fill you in on them.
Just listen and nod and agree and say ah, yes I see, that's a good idea..
If you're not in there, (and don't lead him on) I'd say you'... (read in full...)
Smother-in-laws
Q. What do I do about a mother in law who is driving me crazy? She is very bossy and demanding. I cannot see her or even just talk to her w/o hearing a new baby demand or request... Here is a list: She tried to invite herself to my out of ...
A. 29 April 2011: Burn her out. "Granny, we need to go to the Dr's than the drug store, then grocery and oh ya we just have to get that new bunting bag I saw in the store window in the next city" Oh, can you paint the baby's room tomorrow, on no, not next week, h... (read in full...)
My neighbour is the perfect girl -- what do I do?
Q. Hey, so i just moved into a new place and right next door is a perfect woman for me. She's beautiful smart and can cook (what else does a man wants right?) She just got out of a relationship and I want to be the next and final guy she will be ...
A. 17 April 2011: Well ask her out and I mean out, not over to your house and not to hers for a home cooked meal. Sure it's nice to have beauty, smarts and an oven. But you'll have to find out if she has what your soul craves not the flesh nor the gut.
A date like... (read in full...)
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