How big of an influence are friends on a relationship?
Q. my ex is 22 yrs old. I'm 25. Which is a pretty big difference in terms of partying and settling down, etc. Our relationship was fine until one night when we met his friends. I felt like none of them liked me. Like, because i didn't find smoking a ...
A. 19 April 2011: Keep the jacket if he wants it he'll come looking or get in touch. Don't use it as an in with him.
Don't worry about not seeing him, love will find a new guy for you. I wouldn't flip out on yourself. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to put the spark back into my relationship?
Q. What can i do to put the spark back into my relationship. Me and my boyfriend have been together a year, and we have just been through a very rough patch, in which we argued a lot, and a lot of hurtful things were said. We are over it now, but we s...
A. 15 April 2011: Mmm.. it's great that you were able to get over a rough patch and stay together. Congrats on that, you're an exception.
No money to have fun maybe the missing spark. Are you both working? You'll have to get creative, and that can be sparkfull in i... (read in full...)
He's in love with me but my feelings seem to change everyday
Q. So I have never been more confused in my life. I've known this guy for three years and we have always been good friends and recently he told me he's madly in love with me. I feel like I have feelings for him but my friends tell me I can do so much ...
A. 15 April 2011: Well maybe they'll all marry thin and trim guys who will all get fat and/or all your friends will get fat.
While their self esteem diminishes yours will still be intact because you have values and the ability to see past the dressing.
My friend i... (read in full...)
I'm a very punctual person and my BF is just the opposite. His attitude irritates the hell out of me!!
Q. I'm a very punctual person. My boyfriend isn't. He sleeps in, he's late, etc etc. So when he doesn't reply to my requests to hang out, or doesn't keep his word about helping me out with math homework, I get very stressed out, only to find out that...
A. 15 April 2011: Ok so know I now why he's ignoring you.
I was just OFFERING advice won't do that again.
Best of luck with you attitude.... (read in full...)
Just friends or just games?
Q. I recently met a man online, he seemed nice, and would contact me everyday and also added me on a well known social network. We became close over the weeks. Both of us agreed that we were not ready to meet up just yet as we are both cautious after ...
A. 15 April 2011: You might be a real support to this guy while he's overseas.
... (read in full...)
I'm almost 28, still never had an official relationship, obsessing over a loser I once dated briefly. I'm getting closer and closer to becoming that crazy cat lady!
Q. Ok, here's the gist: I dated a guy for 9 months, but it wasn't ever serious. Then he moved away and that was that, and this was almost 2 years ago! We have remained in contact and I saw him twice after he left, and we hooked up both times. It'...
A. 14 April 2011: Selfish Narcissistic people run on impulse. Think of it like this. To him people are restaurants. One sells his favorite pizza, the other his favorite chocolate cake, yet another his most desired Alfredo. When the craving calls he'll desi... (read in full...)
Why does my BF deliberately shove me away from him after we experience something as intimate as making love?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. We love each other very much and we are even making plans for marriage after we are both done with school. Because we are both in college we tend to make love during the day between clas...
A. 14 April 2011: Too much emotion for him, and when you fought fire with fire he actually came alive in his emotions. That's a good thing!
Why drop him now, he's learning to trust you and his emotions, this is all good, why turn away now?
You're both on learn... (read in full...)
Should I give him a chance and see if he wants to go steady? Or is he just a jerk?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've had a relationship with Dick (not his real name) for 3 years when we broke up about a year ago. The reason of the breakup was becouse he didn't want to have a serious/mature relationship with me. He had bad experiences on his past...
A. 14 April 2011: This man sure has a tall itinerary. If it's his plan it's his plan, but it's not your plan. I don't see how you can be in the picture while he dates 10 other women, unless you sit back and just wait it out. But why do that? Not only that but how ... (read in full...)
Is he afraid of a relationship or does he just not like me? Whats with all the mixed signals??
Q. So I have had this guy friend, Alex, for a while and we never reall talked much at all until about a month ago. (we are both 16 by the way) He started texting me everyday for like a week and a half and then we kind of hung out. I just went with him ...
A. 14 April 2011: Either too shy or undecided.
Keep dating other guys, keep your eyes open, if he really wants to get to know you or date you more often, he'll call. Could be things going on behind the scenes you are unaware of. Keep your cool and give it time... (read in full...)
I'm a very punctual person and my BF is just the opposite. His attitude irritates the hell out of me!!
Q. I'm a very punctual person. My boyfriend isn't. He sleeps in, he's late, etc etc. So when he doesn't reply to my requests to hang out, or doesn't keep his word about helping me out with math homework, I get very stressed out, only to find out that...
A. 14 April 2011: Is he your math tutor or your BF?
Get a tutor and treat your BF like a BF.
No wonder he's avoiding you, he's feeling freaked out too!
If he was to ask a question here it would be:
Am I just being used by my GF?
She only wants to see me beca... (read in full...)
Guys: Does this mean he likes me or is he just playing?
Q. Guys I need YOUR advice..... There is this guy i like but i NEED to know if he likes me back(he already knows i like him too).... He was poking me, tickling me, scaring me, meowing at me, pulling my hair, smacked my ass, and asked my older brother...
A. 13 April 2011: He likes you... (read in full...)
How big of an influence are friends on a relationship?
Q. my ex is 22 yrs old. I'm 25. Which is a pretty big difference in terms of partying and settling down, etc. Our relationship was fine until one night when we met his friends. I felt like none of them liked me. Like, because i didn't find smoking a ...
A. 13 April 2011: He's not looking at commitment right now, so thus "you scare the shit of of me" meaning, I love you and I want you, but holy crap I'm not ready for the big M or even the big R.
You also sent him a message asking him to delete your number. ... (read in full...)
What would be the right way/time to ask him out?
Q. I'm in my third year of college and I've started to develop feelings for a classmate of mine. I've known him since I started. By pure coincidence we ended up working together on group assignments every time. We get along really well. He makes me ...
A. 13 April 2011: Go out with the classmates and ask him if he'd like to take a walk. That'll be enough alone time to ask for a date.
Or he may ask you first. ... (read in full...)
I tried cutting my friend's hair and it was a complete disaster!! What do I say or do to make this better?
Q. i was at my friends house with my other friend.. lily. we got bored so lily said why dont we cut her fringe.. so we did. and it looked really good axualy...but then she said 'can you even it off,' so i did, and now it looks BLOODY AWFUL! we kept ...
A. 13 April 2011: Relax everyone, you didn't cut her leg off.
Hair grows back.
She allowed you to cut it, caveat emptor my friend.
You could cut your own hair as terribly awful and say
"If you look bad so do I"
Now that would be saying huge about the friendship... (read in full...)
I feel unappreciated and I don't know where this relationship is going...
Q. Hiya:) Right my question is about my boyfriend. It may seem like something very petty and silly to ask about it, but it's making me reconsider our relationship, so it's something to me and I'd be so grateful with any advice! Basically, I was 'seei...
A. 13 April 2011: Just put the bug in his ear that you're thinking of moving to another part of the country or that you're going on a cruise with your GF's. See how he reacts to news of you not being available to him. Then actually do other things, don't st... (read in full...)
Do I tell my bofriend the truth and say I can't move in with him yet and risk upsetting him, or do I tell my parents I'm moving out in 5 days and risk upsetting them?
Q. I am in a really big mess at the moment and need help getting out if it! My boyfriend asked me to move in with him a few weeks ago, I said yes and I am really looking forward to living with him but I haven't told my parents yet because they are ...
A. 13 April 2011: You're their daughter, no man will ever be good enough.
Accept that. Knowing this you will have to easy their fears and worries. Call often, ask them over for dinner, tell them you love them, tell them you are safe, happy. Tell them you will call... (read in full...)
What do the men look for in a woman? Do they only want sex?
Q. Question for guys Its a pretty simple one but you see i am finding it hard to find a guy who wants me for me . Only want me for sex really im not nasty at all or ugly... Broad question for you all What do guys look for in a woman ?...
A. 13 April 2011: Don't give it away too soon.
Sure the physical chemistry is often the indication you could start something. A man will think it's the end and be all and he won't think about the day after.
It's the women's responsibility to say "Stop right ... (read in full...)
He loves his girlfriend but can't stay away from me
Q. I am 17 and I am in love with a man who is 29 in a few months. He lives with his girlfriend and I have been seeing him on and off for 2 years. He thinks it's just a fun thing and doesn't know how I really feel, I have told him I loved him before but ...
A. 13 April 2011: Well if you don't mind being a mistress, than things are cool.
However, at 17 I learned the truth......
Get a hair cut and real man.
Oh.. and tell him... (read in full...)
I love my wife dearly,but her past sexual detailed confession makes me miserable
Q. Me and my lovely with get along very well although in the beging of things we went through a lot in understanding each other.to be exact we been together for seven years,one of those legally married.my wife is very understanding although very ...
A. 13 April 2011: Has she told you this more than once? Does she keep telling you about her past sex life? I just find many men with this problem. Is it ego, ownership, I've asked this before. I've made this blunder myself, not really understanding what I was ... (read in full...)
B/f's family hates me and is making me miserable
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. I love him very much and he makes me happy. We only have one problem his family. They are such busy bodies and have to know everything about our relationship. They treat him like a child and he is ...
A. 13 April 2011: Sue them for slander.
That ought to do it... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I don't know if he loves me...
Q. I love my boyfriend but I don't know that he love me... We have been together almost a year and a half. We met in Law school. He's older, is in the middle of changing his career. We we first got together it was casual. He was in a rocky relationsh...
A. 13 April 2011: Wiseoldman you crack me up!!!
If I'm ever in England, you'll have to show me the town.
Oh and I also want to go to Craig Nos in The South of Wales.
Oh and walk the in the fog on cobble stone streets and then Christs College.. oh the list goes on... (read in full...)
Guys: Does this mean he likes me or is he just playing?
Q. Guys I need YOUR advice..... There is this guy i like but i NEED to know if he likes me back(he already knows i like him too).... He was poking me, tickling me, scaring me, meowing at me, pulling my hair, smacked my ass, and asked my older brother...
A. 13 April 2011: How old is this guy?... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 13 April 2011: Yes I agree too, men should feel there full feelings of
grief, I think it makes them better to handle a new RS and get over their past. I think they learn more about life and themselves. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can get the grades for 6th form, but everyone keeps telling me I have to!
Q. I am currently doing my GCSEs and im in Year 10 at high school. My mum is head of media studies at the local Grammar school that is nationaly recognised as outstanding. Shes keeps telling me that the only reason that we still live in this town and ...
A. 12 April 2011: Pull out the history of music and show her all the famous and rich and EXTREMELY hard working, devoted composers who's parents insisted they follow in their footsteps.
Show her how many became drug addicts and alcoholics before they eventually ran ... (read in full...)
I just broke up with my boyfriend, now I regret it; do you think I could get a 3rd chance?
Q. iv currently just finished my boyfriend,we've been together 3 months,he treated me like i was nothing and wanted to date 3 other girls while he was with me,i don't know what to do,this would be my 3rd time with him again and i don't think it really ...
A. 12 April 2011: Sometimes we don't get the lesson.
So we jump back in throw our emotions around, love and hate until CLICK the light goes on and the lesson is learned.
Could be you have jealousy issues and you find it easy to approach these issues with this fel... (read in full...)
I don't if I'm being used, he won't tell me if we're together.
Q. I have been seeing this guy for the past 3 months and i have know him for 15 years and always had a thing for him but now as more than friends we dont hang out he wont stay at my house and wants me to stay at his place. he tells his family and ...
A. 12 April 2011: If a guy is telling everyone else you are together.
YOU ARE DEFINITELY TOGETHER
He just thinks you know this and also doesn't want to look like a geek in asking you and also doesn't want to hear you say that you may not be.
Look at him and say ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I like him? He's never alone.
Q. I need some help.I've decided to tell the guy I like my feelings.The problem is that we don't know each other that well.He knows my name and we use to have a class together but that's it.I know I'm going to get rejected but I'm still going to tell ...
A. 12 April 2011: Well I sure hope your BD always brings you luck, 'cause that date may become a bad memory.
If you are expecting rejection you may attract it.
How, being to flighty, too insecure, too shy, too something.
You have to go in with the attitude tha... (read in full...)
I keep giving him money, he keeps lying to me and standing me up!
Q. I was seeing a guy for a few months. I thought whatever we had was good. Then things fell off. I wasnt seeing him as often. He'd always forget to call me back. But I put it up with it. Then he lost his job, and me being stupid I started giving him ...
A. 12 April 2011: If it's not about the money stop shopping at Walmart and go to Brook's Bros.
Hellloooooo?... (read in full...)
She doesn't seem to making much effort to spend time with me
Q. So all year I have been looking forward to this baseball game against our school rivals, and I'm pretty excited to play, but just last week i injure my arm and I need to be out for a couple games. That's only the start, and where it connects...
A. 12 April 2011: I think you should stumble upon another chick.
WHooo...she's so far in left field, I think she jumped the fence.
Take care dude, your young, lots out there, lots to get involved with.
This is just a fumble stumble. LOL... (read in full...)
Don't want to turn him off by bringing drama into our affair
Q. So I met a guy at work who is married and I am married as well and we had a discussion one day about hooking up. I am away for 8 weeks on business and don't have to worry about my man catching me as much as his wife would catch him. We hooked up and ...
A. 12 April 2011: You don't want DRAMA???
You are DRAMA !!!!
How about this DRAMA
You go home and you can't get in the shower because your husband is @#$% this guys wife in the shower.
If you can hop in without a care, get a divorce.
If you can't stand the thou... (read in full...)
I had a dream that I was pregnant with someone else's baby - what does this dream mean?
Q. I rarely remember my dreams, but I had one last night that is confusing me. I dreamed that I was pregnant, but it wasn't my boyfriend's baby. I didn't dream about who the real father was but I remember being happy to be pregnant but crushed that ...
A. 12 April 2011: You're totally right. Think of it like this.
The baby represents the birth of a new RS.
Not being his shows you are afraid he is not in the picture in the present.
You may be afraid that you will not move in together, that the RS will not go ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my teacher and I think he likes me also, but he's married to a woman who is way older than him!!
Q. Ok, so at the beginning of the school year I didn't like him that much I just thought he was kinda cute so I thought I would get over it but then he started flirting with me! He started staring at me, smiling at me, and he just treated me ...
A. 12 April 2011: He's married, he's flirting, if it goes any further tell someone.
As for getting someone pregnant, was he the same age at the time?
Don't spread rumors, if in doubt ask your parents or a friend or a cop for that matter.
... (read in full...)
I'd really like to attend my friend's bridal shower but it interferes with my boyfriend's birthday plans
Q. Hi! So i have a dilemma and I'm just looking for advice/opinions.. My friend is getting married in September and I just received an invitation to her bridal party in June. I should mention that we used to be friends in High School, lost tou...
A. 12 April 2011: The question is not about personal importance at all.
Its about timing. Her date is set in stone.
His date is mutable.
If you go to the shower it may start raining on your parade.
But that is the challenge in your RS you will have to decided ... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 12 April 2011: I can appreciate the way guys can so easily put the past in the past. Let it go, move on, get busy. It's probably in many cases the most healthy way to handle these things.
But, here's a question.
While a girl will spend her days in tears an... (read in full...)
I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man?
Q. I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man? I have had three significant relationships in my life. One isn't a great example because it happened over the internet, but the two others happened whenever I was approached i...
A. 12 April 2011: Yes it will work. You will learn to be more at ease around the ladies. ... (read in full...)
How can my confusing situation with my ex be resolved? what can I do?
Q. Hey guys.. my ex and i had been together for around 1 year and 6 months. We broke up 3 weeks ago. She asked for it. I found out about some relationship repair programs and followed it. She started contacting me, telling me that she misses m...
A. 12 April 2011: Glad I could help! TKS... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend is very afraid of loss.
Q. My boyfriend grew up with his dog, and the two of them were incredibly close. She would have done anything to protect him and they were best buddies. I'm sure from what I've written so far, you can tell that she passed away, about a year ago. He's ...
A. 12 April 2011:
I think there are sentimental moments that we look back on which may not look healthy but often are.
I bet dollars to donuts if you took him to a pet shop and let him hold the puppies, he'd have some tears but see that life goes on.
It's in f... (read in full...)
I transform when I'm with my parner into a better person. Will that better version stick?
Q. “Jack” and I have been dating for over two years. He’s my first. He’s intelligent, hard working, witty, and full of integrity. His knowledge surpasses mine, but we mesh well as a couple, filling in for what the other more or less “lacks”. We see ...
A. 12 April 2011: This sounds great and awesomeness galore!
The only thing I'd say on the down side is be careful that you are not addicted to him and need a BF fix.
Other than that enjoy the ride!... (read in full...)
We both get angry easily. Can this work?
Q. My girlfriend and I both have very short tempers but we are madly in love with one another. Is there a good way to appease her, or do I just have to deal with it? I fear for the longevity of our relationship. ...
A. 12 April 2011: Had this problem with a past RS myself.
I bought foam baseball bats.
Bring it on out come the bats. Lots of laughs, less arguments. Even put them in the car. Too funny.
We did break up, but not because we fought alot.
Buy the bats, foam bats!... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was very promiscuous in the past and I can't seem to let it go.
Q. I am 26 years old and my girlfriend is 24. I have been with her for 9 months now, and we love each other so much that I can see myself marrying this girl. BUT, I have found out that she was very promiscuous in the past. She had somewhere ar...
A. 12 April 2011: Well:
Remember the nudy mags under your bed?
Remember when you blew milk through your nose?
Remember when you peed in the neighbours pool?
Those were the days my friend..
Now we move into the future.
The only place it can go.
And all the ama... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go?!
Q. I am 42, my girlfriend of 4 years is 26. I originally lived with my brother after splitting with my previous girlfriend. 2 years ago, my now girlfriend wanted us to get our own places, live seperately for a year or so , then move in together. I got ...
A. 12 April 2011: I think you've been with her for 4 years. I think she's been with you for about 4 days. She has HER plans. You have, well.. you have HER plans too. Its hard to realize you are in a non-relationship. That's why the time we invest "usually in ou... (read in full...)
I'm worried that he's drawing away because of my complaining
Q. my boyfriend and i have ben dating for a whole year now. and what we have is beautiful. everything was just simply great till, from past few days he and i, have ben having some family problem/he is kinda avoiding me . because every-time he talks to ...
A. 12 April 2011: Well you're being a downer.
Next time you talk to him have something great to say.
This way you'll have to find something positive to say and that will help your mood too.
The more positive you are the happier you'll be.
The other problems e... (read in full...)
I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man?
Q. I have never approached a woman in my life... am I a failure as a man? I have had three significant relationships in my life. One isn't a great example because it happened over the internet, but the two others happened whenever I was approached i...
A. 10 April 2011: Day 1 Ask 10 females for the time. Day 2 Ask 10 females for directions Day 3 Ask 10 females for the nearest bar Day 4 Ask 10 females if they'd like a coffee Day 5 Ask 10 females if they like to dance Then just start asking more stu... (read in full...)
How can my confusing situation with my ex be resolved? what can I do?
Q. Hey guys.. my ex and i had been together for around 1 year and 6 months. We broke up 3 weeks ago. She asked for it. I found out about some relationship repair programs and followed it. She started contacting me, telling me that she misses m...
A. 10 April 2011: Here's what to do. Copy and print this and put it in a book. In 5 or even 10 years you may come across it and read it. You'll be a little sentimental, a little sad but you'll be more laughing at yourself for being such a romantic. In the meanwh... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 10 April 2011: The more you resist her the more you will want her. It's just physics. Just pretend she is with you when you want her to. It's a way to sate your feelings and comfort your loss. You'll be fine, but for your sake and other possibilities at futur... (read in full...)
It's over but I can't stop thinking about her. Why?
Q. I find myself thinking about my ex throughout the day. We were only together for a few months and we split up about a month and half ago. It's hard to explain... it's like, I'm not thinking about anything specific, it's like - she is just on my ...
A. 8 April 2011: Why did you break up, sounds like you had a good thing going?
... (read in full...)
Just friends or just games?
Q. I recently met a man online, he seemed nice, and would contact me everyday and also added me on a well known social network. We became close over the weeks. Both of us agreed that we were not ready to meet up just yet as we are both cautious after ...
A. 6 April 2011: I wouldn't call him a player, you're both playing right now. You can't start labeling and boxing him in and you shouldn't. He's a guy and in the army and preparing to go overseas. That's alot on ones mind. Plus in the army they keep you pretty bus... (read in full...)
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