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writes:I read it all the time: "We were in love, but then I fell out of love." And then--poof!--the relationship ends. Love seems so fleeting. We get to know a person, the first few months or year are exciting. But then we tire of that person. Love fades. Some keep going through the motions; some break it off; others, who got married, have affairs on the side to spice things up.If love is like a butterfly, alighting upon us for a brief moment and then departing for greener pastures, where is the hope for a sustained and enduring love?Does it exist and, if so, what is its secret?
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reader, dreamingbella  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 Personally i really don't believe in "forever" perhaps after my first love failed i lost the faith in happy ever after. But that doesn't mean an eternal happy marriage won't happen to me. Mostly depends on me luck i think.Apparently me thinks that exists. Coz i've seen a few couples still in love deeply when their hair are all grey. The only key for that immortal love only happens to who fall in love in the whole concept of each other. The good side, bad side. They love all of you before deciding to grow old with you and in return. If your love is strong enough to overcome the ever period of marriage eg. fighting, arguing, misunderstanding which fades your love. If you overcome all and still find that you need each other afterward. The need which means, you cannot live one day in life without each other beside. That gives you a chance to properly grow old with each other. But still everything happens in your life depends on your fate me believes so. Though life's an adventure. Once you not go, you never know what's waiting ahead. And when the right time comes, there you go, the person who's gonna have your grandchildren with is waiting there.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 The Brahma teaches that love is energy that can never die.So I guess there is no secret.When we "fall out of love" it's energy in motion.Love didn't die it just changed direction.
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 April 2011):
 know thyself very very well, your strengths, your weaknesses. And besides SWOT analysis of you, do it to establish the same by your partner doing it to themselves, as you just did. Then both of you doing the same about how you see each other.The answers form the basis of learning to be completely trusting and loving and forgiving of each other.Some things need to be said. But other things are best left unsaid.Build the trust daily. Talk about things daily.You should feel mutually comfortable with sharing anything with each other.All does not have to be perfect. But if you disagree then fight clean. Just about the one issue of contention.Never fight dirty about 201 things added in.Be loyal team. Your relationship needs attention daily.It is a work in progress. Evolving daily,Best wishes.Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): What you describe is lust, not loveLove does last - we all know couples that have been together forever (I do) - who don't have affairs or walk out at the first problemBeing an adult, showing respect, laughing, sharing...there are so many ingrediants that make it workIts a disposable world we live in nowadays and alot easier to move on - the internet, mobile phones, women at work, driving - youth is worshipped - but true enduring love can still be found - the grass isn't always greener
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