We're in a finite relationship due to our age gap, what should I do?
Q. hi, i'm 18 and live in the uk. I have been in a relationship with a man who is now 50 for two years. My question is regarding what to do because we're in a finite relationship due to our age differences yet i have really fallen for him and he has ...
A. 7 June 2011: Well if he's been 50 for two years wouldn't he be 52?
Just kidding, I get ya.
I think what may have thrown you for a loop is he has said
he loves you too. Ooops, maybe you weren't expecting that.
I guess now you'll have to ask yourself if you ... (read in full...)
We dated for 9 months and only had sex 5 times. What is going on?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me after going out for 9 months. I thought we had a great relationship going, but there was always tension when it came to sex. He never seemed to be interested in it at all. we were 7 months into the relationship before ...
A. 7 June 2011: Look up unavailable assclown
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Husband goes out every weekend for HOURS at a time!
Q. I love my husband.We have been married 10 years. He works hard, helps around the house and is a good father. However for the past 6 months he goes out every weekend. He will usually ask me to join him but most of the time i can not go because I ...
A. 5 June 2011: A sudden drinking problem, this is a symptom, time to talk and find out what the condition is.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's awful friend is dating my sister!
Q. My boyfriend of a year has a friend who is a complete douche bag. He's 22 (almost 23), an alcoholic, egotistical and self-centered. And he's dating my 17 year old sister. Unfortunately, 17 is the legal age of consent in Illinois. I never though...
A. 5 June 2011: Mmm interesting, I'm out on the limb here, sounds like you are attracted to him.... (read in full...)
We dated for 9 months and only had sex 5 times. What is going on?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me after going out for 9 months. I thought we had a great relationship going, but there was always tension when it came to sex. He never seemed to be interested in it at all. we were 7 months into the relationship before ...
A. 5 June 2011: Sounds like intimacy issues as well as over work and also a drug or drinking addiction. Been here, done that.
It rarely changes and actually gets worse over time.
Look up emotionally unavailable men as well as signs of drug addiction. Workahol... (read in full...)
Love stinks! Why can't I get over this guy?
Q. How do you get over a broken heart? I have tried every suggestion that there is out there, but still I am just so empty feeling inside.I cant even hear this guys name or it makes me cry. My goodness when does it end? it's been 5 months and we were ...
A. 5 June 2011: Here is your problem. "Don't want to be with anyone else"
Now, I ask, why rob someone else of your company? Your outgoing personality that has so much to offer? Why sit around and mop and create sadness for yourself? Is that who you were in the ... (read in full...)
Is he just blowing smoke about rejecting me and throwing around a random excuse?
Q. I went to a bar last night and made out with a guy from my college for nearly an hour, before I went home. In class today he talked to me and all, and we hung out during a couple of the breaks, but he didn't try ... anything. So I was a bit ...
A. 5 June 2011: And how do we often sabotage possibly great RS's with doubt.
We get ahead of the game. If we all took the time to talk first and get the facts, we might just be able to call it before the doubts start.
Think of love as a negotiation, sitting ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed to tell my boyfriend about my problems?
Q. Hey, I was wondering if anyone could tell me how I get over my shyness in telling my boyfriend about issues/stress in my life. We have a habit of not telling each other our problems, because we're both very private by nature, and it leaves me fee...
A. 29 May 2011: Vulnerability
Communicate that you feel the need to discuss your problems.
You could even ask him for help with all or any. He'll probably be more than supportive because guys in general enjoy problem solving.
We're all not perfect, nor... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's hygeine keeps me from doing more than handjobs
Q. Hi this is kind of an embaressing subject and I wasnt sure where else to turn... it's less about the relationship and more about my boyfriend's hygiene... basically I always put off giving him more than a hand job because he always has a slight bit ...
A. 29 May 2011: I think he'd appreciate a sponge bath in bed.
Towel, cloth and big bowl of water with a tad soap.
Do his whole body and he'll love it. Also ask him to give you one to.... (read in full...)
Should I meet this guy at a hotel?
Q. Should I meet at hotel? Hi, Any advice is really appreciated! Im just out of my only relationship 3 1/2 years and have never really 'dated'. Well i met someone when i was away down the country a few weeks ago, we kissed and me and my frien...
A. 16 May 2011: Mmm drinks, weekend, you're sending all the messages that will lead him to think of you as not good relationship material, but a great side salad. If it's what you want then it works for you. That's cool. Just let him know now you'd like a fling ... (read in full...)
How do I behave toward his daughter when she comes to visit?
Q. My partner has one daughter who lives with her mum. When I first met her it was on a day out with her dad when we went to visit her and I thought she had no time for me on that day. I kept my thoughts to myself because I was unsure. About 6 m...
A. 16 May 2011: Her age will rely greatly on any responses, how old is she.
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Should I meet this guy at a hotel?
Q. Should I meet at hotel? Hi, Any advice is really appreciated! Im just out of my only relationship 3 1/2 years and have never really 'dated'. Well i met someone when i was away down the country a few weeks ago, we kissed and me and my frien...
A. 16 May 2011: The best aphrodisiac is politics and until you've tasted that sweet pill, you don't know your power. Do not accommodate him, he wants to come up during the weekday, let him, firstly he'll feel his power because it's him showing you how far he'll go ... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex know that I have moved on?
Q. I was in a relationship for 5 years right out of high school. During the realtionship he lied and cheated multiple times and I stayed because I was young and stupid. I mean I took him back after everytime he cheated.... so dumb I even had 2 ...
A. 16 May 2011: "I have been talking to an old friend for about a month and a half now and he treats me well, the things I dont like I let him know and its early enough to where he can change it. He does the same with me. He's at the point where he wants to date ... (read in full...)
I need to walk away from my married lover for good!
Q. I need some help to walk away from my married lover for good. We have been together for 4 years, hes in his early forties and im 26 with a young child. Over the years he has hurt me numerous times, told me he was leaving his wife almost every we...
A. 16 May 2011: You may think you are coming off as innocent here, but none of us are clean. EVERY relationship we place ourselves in of our own free will is because it SERVES US. Somehow even if it is negative, it serves us. Some of us like to suffer because we ... (read in full...)
Did she purposely text me and pretend it was an accident to let me know that she's thinking about me?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months and about 3 weeks ago I found a text to her ex bf that lives out of state now and I approached her on it. For the next few weeks we have not hung out at all, we've been texting here and there, just ...
A. 16 May 2011: Well congrats you certainly stir fried this RS. Kudos to being a nice guy gone bad, hope you learned something.
If not, here's your lesson:
Don't go snooping around someones texts and messages.
Don't get jealous or suspicious or start creating ill... (read in full...)
Should I meet this guy at a hotel?
Q. Should I meet at hotel? Hi, Any advice is really appreciated! Im just out of my only relationship 3 1/2 years and have never really 'dated'. Well i met someone when i was away down the country a few weeks ago, we kissed and me and my frien...
A. 16 May 2011: Mmm I'm kind of thinking about the movie "TAKEN"
Seen that? Hotel rooms all have beds, you could call ahead and ask them to remove the bed but I doubt that's going to happen. Best to let this new flame know well in advance that you are not goin... (read in full...)
I have asked her to be my girlfriend but she has not given me an answer! What can I do now?
Q. I love my Friend, we are like just friends for about 1.5 years, now I feel that I am in love. I want her as my Girlfriend and i've told her but she is not giving me positive answer. one thing which could be important that she does not want to break ...
A. 16 May 2011: Continued hot pursuit, if she is a feminine reserved type she'll be attracted to the king of the jungle, prepare a feast, and get on your jogging shoes. ... (read in full...)
How long will I suffer following my husband's cheating? I don't want to think about it anymore!
Q. id like to post my feeling towards my cheated husband. how long can i recover this pain in my heart. im tired of thinking negative thoughts about him. please help me how long do i suffer of this angry feeling towards him after his cheating. he ...
A. 16 May 2011: Stand up on the bed, look down on him, and scream:
"I'm so very very tired of hating you, when I just want to love you"
See where that leads, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Sometimes a primal call of the wild is all it takes to break eve... (read in full...)
Why won't my wife wear makeup?
Q. Hello there, Can you please advise me on what to do with my wife who doesn't like make up at all. We have been married and everything is great except that I would love my wife to put on a bit of make up. She tried it one time and she looked g...
A. 16 May 2011: You fell in love with and married a women who doesn't wear make up.
What's changed, her? Nope, you have, why is that? ... (read in full...)
Contacted by my first years later, and he wants me to behave like a whore
Q. I am 55 yrs. old. Out of the blue and old boyfriend of mine from high school, contacted via facebook..He was my first. I was 17 years old and was what i thought was true love. I was inexperienced and scared back then. Throghout many years I have ...
A. 16 May 2011:
Picture this guy leafing through the pages in his year book and trying to contact all those old flames because his life and marriage are failing. He's hoping to talk to anyone who will give him the time of day. Now if he makes contact he feel... (read in full...)
My ex seems to be going out of his way to avoid me
Q. i dated my ex for about 8 months before he broke up with me for reasons that I still don't know. and i didn't push the issue or demand reasons because i figured if he doesn't want to be with me, no amount of begging or tears would change his mind. ...
A. 16 May 2011: If a guy is totally ignoring you, broke off with you, avoiding you at all costs, he is not showing care. How is it that you astute total avoidance=nice caring guy?
Than you say you are totally done and ignoring him to an extent. You seem to want... (read in full...)
How do I know he is serious about me?
Q. I have been having an emotional affair with a married man. I have fallen in love with him. I have been in an unhappy marriage for the past few years and I have finally told my husband the truth about the way I am feeling. I am prepared to leave my ...
A. 16 May 2011: Being prepared to leave your marriage because the marriage is not working between the two of you if reasonable.
But leaving a marriage in hopes that another man will get a divorce to be with you is not a good reason to leave a marriage. He may ... (read in full...)
Getting emails from the ex's new g/f
Q. Hello, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend a year ago. He was really a kind of insecure guy and very nervous to me. A year later he suddenely contact me and started to talking to me. He may have heard some sad news of my family. At this time he...
A. 16 May 2011: Are you certain HE gave her your information?
She may have gone behind his back and found your email address and phone number. She may have just told you she is contacting you through him. I'd be a bit uncomfortable with her approaching you. Chan... (read in full...)
Should I text him?
Q. Hi:) Was out a couple of weeks ago and met this guy thats living in another country - he living in uk and im in ireland. He was really nice and we exchanged numbers. Sent him a text the next day basically just saying hi. He replied and we texted a ...
A. 16 May 2011: Text him when you get there.... (read in full...)
Should we be more committed at this stage?
Q. Am I a mug? I have been dating a man for coming up to 17 months. We have been talking about moving in together for months now – about 5 to be precise. But last month we had a lot of very bad rows. I will admit I said a lot of stuff about his ...
A. 12 May 2011: If you're on the job and after a year there is no raise no advancement, you'd probably start looking for another job. He says stop your gripe and just keep moving forward, but really it sounds like he's putting on the breaks. He's probably scared ... (read in full...)
How do you know the difference between being in love and having a crush?
Q. How do you know the difference between being in love and having a crush? I have feelings for my best friend but I don't know if it's love or just a very persistent crush, because I've felt attracted to him since last March. The intensity fluctuates ...
A. 12 May 2011: This is going to sound terrible, but it's not meant to be.
Ask yourself, if he got all crushed in a car accident would I still have a crush for him?
I have ex's that to this day no matter what they look like or what happens to them, I will love and... (read in full...)
No one else will make me feel this way. How can I get him to notice me as a girlfriend?
Q. I've fallen for someone and I know that no one else will ever be as special to me. I'm originally from Ireland but live in Mexico City, and I have no one to discuss this with and feel desperately lonely. He's dating some whore right now, and...
A. 12 May 2011: Living the dream... Wastin' away again in Margaritaville
Ok, so every woman who's seen Antonio Banderas knows they have just got to get one of those. Until we find out oops, there's just one Antonio. Reality check.
You mention this whore. t... (read in full...)
Is my intuition correct?
Q. ok so ive been dating this woman for a month in a half and all of the sudden she tells me this guy she used to have sex with {just a FWB relationship} keeps texting her and asking to have a threesome..so was she really wanting to do this and we ...
A. 12 May 2011: You thought you were building a relationship but does she know this? Maybe you need to be as curt as she is and come right out of the blue and say it.
"Are you and I a real thing, do you want this RS to go anywhere special, or are we a Me a You ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my wife if she would like to watch porn together to spice up our sex life?
Q. I have been reading this site and a lot of women seem to question why their husbands like to look at porn or even disapprove of it completely. I think I understand that. It makes you feel inadequate and like he's cheating on you. However, d...
A. 12 May 2011: Who's sex life are you trying to spice up?
Me thinks, it's yours. But her idea of spicing up your sex life might mean something as boring to you as a candle light dinner and a chick flick. Porn may not bring the best out in her. If the porn invo... (read in full...)
What did I mean to her?
Q. Sorry for my grammar. I met a girl recently online and for a few weeks we literally spent half the day talking to each other and watching movies etc. We got close very fast and I got strong feelings for her very fast. She returned them and ev...
A. 12 May 2011: Sleep eaze..
This dream girl has turned into your nightmare.
Ooopss. How'd that happen man?
Well, you developed chemistry for her because you are young and she's a female. That's about all it takes for now.
So, be reminded this will and can hap... (read in full...)
My parents hate my LDR and refuse to let me talk to him, let alone see him
Q. Some basic info first: (sorry, this is going to be a bit long) I'm currently i'm a 19 y/o above average college student, living at home. I'm unemployed, but i'm currently looking for a job for the summer. I'm the oldest child of two. My boyfrien...
A. 12 May 2011: To bad this was not a question from your parents.
They are actually steering you two together by trying to drive you apart. A common mistake among parents.
About 30% of your devotion towards your boyfriend is because of this. Maybe more. I don't ... (read in full...)
My bf is now bi curious and a x-dresser....help!
Q. Ok so... my bf and I have been dating for over 3 years now. He has admited to being a crossdresser. I have seen it, was fun at first now hes really into it. AND now is bi-curious. We had talked about him trying a tgirl and i was alright with it....
A. 12 May 2011: I don't think this is his fantasy, I think it's his new found life style. You could go with the flow or roll out his life. ... (read in full...)
How I forget about a guy who used me??
Q. I'm a person who worries a lot about what other people think and tend to base my own self esteem around their opinions of me. I hate the feeling of someone ignoring or disliking me because it makes me feel like there must be something wrong with me. ...
A. 12 May 2011: I think you do believe he is an asshole, You refused him sex because you didn't want to be used and you didn't want to cheat on his GF, you pretended you didn't care what he thought, you figured out he was a player. You told him to stop being a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with a guy we work with before me...and it's really bugging me!
Q. Hi, Me and my girlfriend have been together for 8 months. She is 7 years older than me and we work for the same company. I heard rumours before we were together that she slept with a guy at our works party. He told people the filthy details a...
A. 12 May 2011: The next time your hanging around the water cooler at the office and over hear anything on the subject, hopefully the guy responsible for spreading his seed and his gloats, get in his face and tell him that you don't appreciate his ego trip and tell ... (read in full...)
Should I stop replying to my ex's texts?
Q. It's been two months since my ex and I broke up. We broke up because we had some communication problems which we both believe we could fix, though we decided we both don't want a relationship right now. He has said he wants to give us another ...
A. 12 May 2011: Doing drugs again.
Text him one last message
The phone number to NARCSAnon.
You stay clear until he is clean.
Drugs alter moods, minds, thoughts and thus communication.
Your dealing with two people, you may like Dr. Jekyll but the Mr. Hyde wil... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend buy me presents? I do it for him!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. I had learned that I had been so selfless in relationship. I had always bought him stuff, when I go to the mall, see something he would like, I buy for him. But he has never did anything like ...
A. 12 May 2011: Love is in the details.
I have a romantic affinity for the story
The Gift of the Magi.
Oh so lofty, so tragic yet loving.
But so real. There is something about fairness and justice that some of us harbour close to our valuable hearts.
I've ha... (read in full...)
Relationship Problem, seriously confused
Q. I have a fiance who i have been with for 3 1/2 years, we have both cheated before, made our peace,and moved on from it. My best friend just returned to the area,and I have always had a crush on her,for about 9yrs,recently she seems to be sharing ...
A. 12 May 2011: What would Jesus do?
actually forget that
What would your mother do?
Me I say forget the wedding, tell your fiance you want to break off until you are ready for a full commitment. It'll be hard as hell on her and maybe you. But it's best that t... (read in full...)
How do I improve my sex drive and our sex life?
Q. My husband has only slept with 2 people in his life - myself and one other that was a drunken moment when he was a teenager. Consequently, I found him to be a bit inexperienced (he was 33 when we met) so sex has always been polite and nothing ...
A. 12 May 2011: Ok, maybe going over the edge here, but here goes.
To male reader, anonymous:
You have to stop treating your wife like she's going to break.
She wants it direct and immediate, no foreplay no kissing, just C^*K, give it to her hard and often and ev... (read in full...)
Is it bad to give your guy a bj but not finish??
Q. During foreplay, is it bad to give your guy a bj but not finish (make him cum) bc you are so turned on that you just want him inside you. So you stop, and you start having sex. Is that a bad thing? is there some kind of rule when it comes to oral ...
A. 12 May 2011: It's a bad thing if you only give him a "heads up" to rise to the occasion without you receiving any stimulation.
He's ready, are you? ... (read in full...)
How can I stop by bf from coming so fast during sex?
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend have been having sex for the past two months and we have been real happy, I lost my virginity to him and he told me he had sex before, he is real open and caring about it. He always asks me if I'm on with him trying something ...
A. 12 May 2011: Teach him algebra, paste questions on headboard.
LOL..
You could have a quicky and than wait a short while and get into it again. One for you one for me kinda deal. At least until he gains more control through algebra.... (read in full...)
Is this my soldier bf's way of saying "I love you"?
Q. I have a guy friend who ive been seeing for a while. he is in afghanistan now. before he left we didnt see one another to say goodbye. I was very hurt and upset. Well recently before he left for afg he was training in another state. he has ...
A. 12 May 2011: He showed his brothers and he said he appreciated you.
In a mans world that says I love you MORE...
"Wild thing...you make my heart sing..."... (read in full...)
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