Just friends or just games?
Q. I recently met a man online, he seemed nice, and would contact me everyday and also added me on a well known social network. We became close over the weeks. Both of us agreed that we were not ready to meet up just yet as we are both cautious after ...
A. 15 April 2011: You might be a real support to this guy while he's overseas.
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Can a man truly love two women at once
Q. Question- can a man truly love 2 women at the same time? A little history- I am married so is he. We work for the same company but live in different states. We have fallen in love which is crazy I know. We have never been physical but have hun...
A. 6 April 2011: The emotional bond you have created is made up of chemistry and unrequited love. The two most dangerous things to base any of lifes major decisions on. Once you have done the deed and the oxytocin is spent, there will be clarity. Not telling ... (read in full...)
Should I marry her while I still have this desire to be with men?
Q. I have a lovely girlfriend. We've been together for a few years. I want to married her and start a family soon, but there is a problem. Back when I was in my twenties, I made a very bad decision that landed me in prison for almost a decade. While I ...
A. 6 April 2011: Holy smokes, you really need to discuss this with a therapist before you discuss it with anyone else. Do that first, soon, very soon.... (read in full...)
Do temptations make you a cheater even if you don't give into them?
Q. Do temptations make you a cheater even if you don't give into them? I am very in love with my girlfriend and we have been together since the beginning of 2010. A few months prior when we were "dating" I put myself in a very bad situation. We all ...
A. 6 April 2011: I don't think so. Yesterday I looked through the bakery window for minutes on end and the temptation was great. But I moved along down the street. I'm happy I did, you should be too. We are all bombarded with temptation daily. You felt your... (read in full...)
Just friends or just games?
Q. I recently met a man online, he seemed nice, and would contact me everyday and also added me on a well known social network. We became close over the weeks. Both of us agreed that we were not ready to meet up just yet as we are both cautious after ...
A. 6 April 2011: I wouldn't call him a player, you're both playing right now. You can't start labeling and boxing him in and you shouldn't. He's a guy and in the army and preparing to go overseas. That's alot on ones mind. Plus in the army they keep you pretty bus... (read in full...)
How do I move on from a relationship that left me feeling so bad?
Q. I just ended a two year relationship. It wasn't what I wanted in my heart, but I was being treated very unfairly and I felt I had no choice in the matter. It was really unhealthy and filled with so many problems and heart ache. I've tried to end it ...
A. 5 April 2011: This is very interesting that you used the Plural pronoun for one RS. Are there others or maybe is there a man in your head that hates you? You could read the book "Dances with the Selves" Very interesting Also look up AssClown for important i... (read in full...)
What is the chance of getting pregnant from this?
Q. What if a condom is used during sex, and then the guy removes it and cums on you. A few drops fall near the vagina but its wiped dry immediately. What's the chance of getting pregnant??...
A. 5 April 2011: Chances are very slim. But why don't you study up on sex ed and educate yourself on these things?
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Why has he stopped mastubating over me and thinks about girls we know instead?
Q. my boyfriend told me he masturbates over me and porn which i was fine with, but yesterday he came out with the fact he doesn't masturbate over me anymore he does it over other girls we know and porn. This really upset me, why would he do it over ...
A. 5 April 2011: Sexual arousal through fantasy is kinda like going to the same bar. He's already sitting in the same seat with the same beer and same bartender. You just walked into the bar not to long ago and it's going to take some time for him to notice you ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to be loving and caring like he used to be, rather than ignoring me for days on end...
Q. im really worried for my relation i love that guy like hell . we have been together for almost 6 years we love each other in the begining we were so loving and close but the day he joind the school for higher studies he is changed going away he's ...
A. 5 April 2011: Relationship's are always changing, don't try to stop change, it's a good thing. The honeymoon is over. It's time to progress with other things. Family, education, spiritual enlightening, personal development. You have to do new things for ... (read in full...)
My son will only get financial help for college if I remain umarried for 2 years, but when my fiance found out he took the ring back and demands I marry him next year and leave my son alone in my house!
Q. dear cupid , hope someone can help me. i was planing on marrying this july. well my son got full fiancial aid for college books . everything . well i cant marry for 2 years now, they go by your income. i asked my guy to wait and he got mad. too...
A. 5 April 2011: Would your fiance pay for your sons education?
If you son lives alone in your house who's going to pay those bills?
Can he live on campus and apply for loans and grants?
Is there a rift between your fiance and son?
Is this just college books or... (read in full...)
He thinks I would make a "great wife", what does this mean?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. we're both 26. The other day we were talking about how people in my middle eastern culture are always in search of a mate. He said that he bets that I would have a lot of offers (for marriage), I said ...
A. 5 April 2011: Well from the sounds of it I think he's saying
"You'd make a great wife"
Would he make a great husband?... (read in full...)
Do you think we can feel when others are thinking of us?
Q. So, this probably sounds a bit weird, and I mean, it is, but I'm just wondering; do any of you believe that we can sense, or feel, when somebody is thinking about us? Like, I don't know...it's just that I sometimes randomly get this really intense ...
A. 5 April 2011: Yes I do think people think about each other at the same time.
I've proven it many times, with an email or phone call.
I think it's because there is a shared energy of sorts.
Maybe even a past life energy, who knows?
It's cool when it happens ... (read in full...)
I have such a low self esteem because of my boyfriend
Q. Hi I am in urgent need for some counselling for a very bad siutation I have been in for 6 years - stemming around my relationship with my bf - now currently ex again I am have been putting this off for a while but now I am all alone over here...
A. 5 April 2011: Read the book Co-dependance No More.
Read it often.
Also get some sort of therapy, it will help.
Also read up on the cycle of abuse.
Also write about it.
You should not go back to him until you have done these things.
You may than feel a w... (read in full...)
Why would a guy want to hurt a girl who adores him?
Q. Why would a guy wanna hurt a girl who loves him and adores him? ? Every time a girl will meet a guy he's so sweet, you look past his flaw cos your a nice person. You love him and would do anything to make him smile, always there when he nee...
A. 5 April 2011: You answered your own question in the second sentence.
"YOU LOOK PAST HIS FLAWS BECAUSE YOU'RE A NICE PERSON"
Kindness kills sista.
People spend more time buying a watch or a car than they do they're personal RS's.
You gotta have the fact... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing boyfriend or friend?
Q. 40 F he is 45. Friends and later date for 18 months. Sex monotonous, he only wants to be 1 initiating. I also sex 35 yr guy who is a family friend=FWB for a yr. Sex with fwb is gr8 and fulfilling, bt he is in a steady live-in-love. 2gether we ...
A. 5 April 2011: Drop both and find one that is both of them in one man.
Besides, does Mr.Monotonous know you are with FWB?
I mean that's just cruel if he doesn't know.
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Girlfriend cheated on me and I can't get over it
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me months back and I can't seem to get over it. We were living together and things had started getting really rocky. We were fighting bitterly all day every day. I felt her distance herself from me, and rather than give...
A. 5 April 2011: Holy wack job! NONONO "Funny getting caught makes cheaters suddenly realize they do actually care..."
No they just don't want to feel your pain, or there's or the others or the dogs.
They only regret actually getting caught.
If you stay you wil... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to listen to me?
Q. hi every one, please could you give me some advice? My boyfriend and i have been together over three years and i love him very much. He has suffered from depression in the past and over the years has left me several times onlx to realise and come ...
A. 5 April 2011: He's using you as his mirror.
What he feels he projects onto you.
Like when my mother would say you must be cold put on a sweater when it was she who was cold.
Look up all you can on Avoidant Personality Disorder.
He has a personality diso... (read in full...)
What is love and can it survive distance?
Q. I just want to know the meaning of love. What is love in general? What is being in love? What is true love? Ive been in a LD relationship for over 2 years and people keep telling me it wont/cant work. Well we have been through a lot together...
A. 5 April 2011: Have you two actually met face to face, just need a little clarity on that?... (read in full...)
Should I end the relationship, it's too much for me??
Q. I am not sure shall I send a goodbye letter to a girl who I love. During the past two years, both of us had experienced a lot of things. We started from nothing to friends and then to closest friend. Later, she invited me to her home to have dinner ...
A. 5 April 2011: Well, maybe she is equating you with pain and sadness from her Relationships and her everyday hang ups.
I think presenting yourself as a stand up guy is great.
Be there for her good times, make great times!
Also don't be too available, a... (read in full...)
Sexually Frustrated and in need of Suggestions.......
Q. I am trying to find a way to express to my boyfriend of 9 months that I am sexually frustrated, and something has to change now, or I'm out. Age shouldn't be an issue as he is 32 and I am 42, we are both experienced, and we have both had long term ...
A. 5 April 2011: Read the other sexless RS online here, seems it's a difficult think to change. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is extremely insecure and controlling
Q. My girlfriend is extremely insecure and controlling. To her credit, she was absolutely honest with me up front about her "tendencies" but said during her 7 months of being single prior to dating me, she had softened up a bit. (Her ex-boyfriend of 2 ...
A. 5 April 2011: You have her list of limitations set in gold. But I don't think you gave her your limitations. Time to let her know when Game is Over for you. If it hurts her emotionally that is what will get her to look into her own insecurities, it will be... (read in full...)
How to find the courage to ask someone out for the first time?
Q. I am a male teenaget st 16. And i still havent 'went out' with anyone yet. Most of my friends have girlfriends now and have had them for a while. Although i am quite popular in school I am still single. I just really need help with asking people ...
A. 5 April 2011: Just don't go up to her and say "would you like to go out with me?"
have something ready, movie tickets, concert tickets, and show them to her and then say, "I have an extra ticket for _______ if you'd like to go with me let me know"
If she says... (read in full...)
How can I keep myself out of awkward situations??
Q. Does anyone else go through this? It's driving me crazy Case senario: I was buying something and the clerk asked me for my CVS membership card, and I said "can I give you my phone number"? Obviously I wasn't thinking when I said that, and he start...
A. 5 April 2011: I have to ask
Do you think deep down in your subconscious that you are doing these things because you want to date other people?
Do you think that maybe you feel to young to be in a committed RS?
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He still wants to see me after breaking up and calling me by the wrong name??
Q. Hello all I was in a relationship with a guy for about 8 months. We met off a dating site. He seemed to be an exhibitionist which I gathered quickly early on. Still I thought well let's give it a go because he was a nice guy to me. We dated...
A. 5 April 2011: If you want to keep seeing him realize that you're probably only a figment of his imagination. If he's addicted to porn or other affairs or sex in general, than he's living in a dream world. You are not a you, you are a thing to him, a 2 ... (read in full...)
How important are looks really?
Q. How important are looks really? I'm not a toad, just saying. I would say I'm average. Everytime I meet someone new, they remark on how pretty I am. So theres this guy. (of course there is) and we met like once, in person. We exchanged num...
A. 5 April 2011: Don't ever say in your head "I may not be up to someones standards"
Those are killer words!
You will not be up to everyone's standards, this is not how you live your life. You live your life to YOUR standards.
As far as physical attraction g... (read in full...)
I am always angry and depressed and need help controlling this!
Q. needing help My stress levels are increasing i am really agitated and get angry at the slightest thing going wrong i dont know what to do as i dont want it harming my health and my relationship with my boyfriend as i am taking my anger and depres...
A. 22 March 2011: That's very stand up of you. Kudo's for protecting yourself and your RS.
You'll have to dig deep and write out the top 5 things you want if you could have anything.
By doing this, you get your mind set for forward motivation.
Then look at ... (read in full...)
Husband of 3 years has started looking at gay porn?
Q. I have been married for 3 years. Recently I have been noticing gay porn popping up on our computer. I confronted my husband about and we talked about it. He said he doesnt jerk off to it or anything and its just kind of a kinky curiousity thing, but ...
A. 22 March 2011: That would just freak me out!
But eh, every curiosity is online ready to be found.
Could be he's wondering about a friend or picking up some sexual positions. Or the ultimate, but I wouldn't go there without a full conversation filled with man... (read in full...)
I love my friend but does she return my feelings?
Q. I need help! Am in love but does she love me?. I am 43 and I have a friend who is 26. She needed somewhere to stay last September and she stayed w/ me for 4 mos. It was hard, and we never slept together, but we remained close and great friends. She ...
A. 22 March 2011: Well, I think you've got good instincts on this one. She likes going out for dinner, says her significant isn't that significant and she's feeling neglected. Your her hero, but for how long? I think she's soothing her self esteem. Tread care... (read in full...)
We're engaged, she's pushing to get married and I just don't want to now!
Q. I have been going out with my partner for three years and we have got engaged. She wants to get married, but I do not want to, epecially at the moment. I have not officially spoken to my parents about this and now my dad has just been diagonosed ...
A. 22 March 2011: An older gentleman, engaged, who is listening to his parents advice. Shouldn't it be up to you and your fiance when you will get married. Shouldn't this remain between the two of you. After all you're going to marry her eventually right?
You two,... (read in full...)
Its just strictly "friends" but I'm not sure she sees it that way
Q. I'm having a problem with a woman I work with. We've recently began working together so are spending time together and getting to know eachother. Turns out she's gay. As am I. We also have a lot of shared interests. I think she's an awesome girl ...
A. 22 March 2011: Ask her out to dinner, bring your lover. Case Closed.... (read in full...)
What would cause you to cheat on your partner?
Q. Women, a question of honesty! Why do women decide to cheat on their men? Plz in detail...
A. 22 March 2011: Maybe the Question should be What would cause a women to THINK about cheating on their men? My top one would be No sex or little sex with current man. No time or very little time to actually have a RS with a current man. Being ignored ... (read in full...)
Virgin at 20, should I hire an escort to lose my virginity?
Q. Hi i am a 20 yr old male and still a virgin. this fact depresses the hell out of me. everywhere i go theres people all having so much fun and i feel that im missing the best parts of my life and falling behind on much needed experience. most people ...
A. 22 March 2011: Can we change this Virgin word. I've been reading tons of posts about virgins doing everything and anything to have an orgasm. Biologically isn't it the female of species who is technically a virgin because of her unbroken hymen? I think w... (read in full...)
Was my teacher genuine or will he forget me while I wait? He told me to cool until I'm no longer a student
Q. Okay, so I've been crushing on this teacher for a couple of years now, and we've gotten pretty close lately but he's been scolded and he told me we should cool things off for a while because he says he doesn't want to get me in trouble. He said he ...
A. 22 March 2011: Doesn't want to get YOU into trouble?! He's protecting his career and he should, he's also protecting his score, which is you. Any feelings you'd like to EXPRESS to him? Oh this guy/teacher is really pissing me off. Get a nice guy your own age, t... (read in full...)
Would this be called cheating the new Gf? If I just asked my ex to strip while we were on webcam.
Q. Is it cheating if? Let's say you have a girlfriend. And you know your ex still loves you and you still have feelings for her, but you don't want to be in a relationship with her, but you drunk call her telling her you love her, and miss her, et...
A. 22 March 2011: I think the GF is asking, it says female posted this. Well if he did con his EX into cam Sex you know you're the next on his hit list of EgoEvents. This is not about sex this is about power and control. ... (read in full...)
The sex is next to nothing, I'm pregnant, I don't feel desired and I'm extremely frustrated with my B/f
Q. Its not working with the bf. I am 11 wks pregnant. This was a complete accident. He is now living with me but its hell. There is no sex, we sleep in separate rooms and when there is sex its not that great. He can't stay hard or at most he will only ...
A. 22 March 2011: He's terrified, he's going to be a father for the 1st time and now you tell him sex with the ex was better, which he took as EXCELLENT, the BEST, you'll never meet the mark!! I'd be treating you like crap too. On the daddy end of it, he may be th... (read in full...)
B/f thought I was going to dump him so he broke up with me!
Q. My bf now ex and i broke up a few days ago.....I am still madly in love with him! he says he is still in love with me and I am the best thing that ever happened to him. I am asked why he broke up with me in the first place and he said it was b/c ...
A. 22 March 2011: If I was your mother this guy would have more than just a broken relationship with you. And you would have a part time job and a math tutor and a piano teacher and a ballet class and a curfew! ... (read in full...)
Help. My boyfriend had a three year sexual relationship with his first cousin
Q. After about nine months of dating, my boyfriend tells me he had a three year relationship with his cousin. He mentioned this relationship was hidden from family and friends, that no one knew what they were doing. It ended when she cheated on him. ...
A. 22 March 2011: Well so did Elenore Roosevelt and she became the first lady! ... (read in full...)
What is love and can it survive distance?
Q. I just want to know the meaning of love. What is love in general? What is being in love? What is true love? Ive been in a LD relationship for over 2 years and people keep telling me it wont/cant work. Well we have been through a lot together...
A. 22 March 2011: Well move to Canada and move in with him, than you'll know all about love. Is he up for that?
Have you asked him?
Just a thought, is there a large age difference between you and yours?... (read in full...)
I fantasize about older men and am no longer happy with our sex life!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 2. Throughout our relationship we have had our share of ups and downs. When we first got together we were both in our teens (18-19) the sex was amazing, but after kids and doing a little ...
A. 22 March 2011: 4-5 vs twice a month. Someone should start a conversation on compromise. How about twice a week for a while. And if you're not into sex why are you fantasizing about other men? You know you could always dress your hubby up like an older man, I'm... (read in full...)
Was this normal or a bit weird to bring this up?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about a week now and the other night we were in his car just talking about life. Suddenly he tells me he is tired of keeping his hand down on his lap to cover "it". We weren't talking about anything sexual,...
A. 21 March 2011: I don't know if "I'm tired of covering up" is such a good way of putting it, did he really say it that way, was there anything humorous in his voice or was it more frustration?
It's totally natural, it's not entirely a bad thing unless he star... (read in full...)
How can I get over my jealousy issues when he is around other girls? And how can I be more confident in the bedroom?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been dating almost two years now. We also have a son together. The thing is I can't seem to get over my jealousy issue and my insecurities of my self. He has alot of girls as friends and it irrates me when he touches ...
A. 21 March 2011: I could go on and on for days and nights.
But this is a case for therapy, seek it.... (read in full...)
I trust him but I don't trust his ex, and from his text messages it seems he met up with her at 3am last night! I cant talk to him about this so what should I do?
Q. Hi, i need some serious advice.i'm not the kind of person who would normally do this as whenever i have a conflict, i believe i am mature enough to handle it myself. but this is something that is really messing me up.me and my boyfriend have almost ...
A. 21 March 2011: Ya, I wonder why he is so picky about his privacy.
You chill and cut him loose, you're open and talk about anything, he is a great pretender.
Boy, this guys ego must be in 7th heaven.
Do you want to give that to him?
Cut him loose and don't ... (read in full...)
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