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Smother-in-laws

Q.   What do I do about a mother in law who is driving me crazy? She is very bossy and demanding. I cannot see her or even just talk to her w/o hearing a new baby demand or request... Here is a list: She tried to invite herself to my out of ...

A.   29 April 2011: Burn her out. "Granny, we need to go to the Dr's than the drug store, then grocery and oh ya we just have to get that new bunting bag I saw in the store window in the next city" Oh, can you paint the baby's room tomorrow, on no, not next week, h... (read in full...)

We are both really shy..how do we talk

Q.   dear cupid, soo, there's this guy...who, for security purposes, we'll just call allen. just some background information about me and him: we're both first-year college students and only about six months apart in age (i'm the oldest). anyways...

A.   29 April 2011: Break something, ask him to fix it. I've done this, it works. It's a great ice breaker as well. ... (read in full...)

I told b/f I hate him watching porn but he says its normal

Q.   my boyfriend watches porn and i am not happy about it. i think he watches far to much even though he has me. i am willing to experiment, but he chooses these porno girls. i have told him i hate it but he says it fine and natural. is it? i am also ...

A.   29 April 2011: Totally normal for him. Totally not normal for you. You not comfortable, he is. He's happy, you're not. The only thing you two have in common is a box of tissues. Call it or get used to it. ... (read in full...)

Surely by 25 this feeling of awkwardness should be gone?

Q.   Hi I have a problem that I don't know how to overcome. I have little confidence in myself, especially when talking to people. I feel this has got worse in the last 3 years or so. I just can't help noticing people my age around me have so much sel...

A.   29 April 2011: Blaa. no worries, you're already 1/2 way to freedom from fear. Why, because you feel so shitty. carelessness is on your side. Now, do this for a week and get back to us. Think this often when you feel insecure. Just this one tiny thing. "... (read in full...)

How to get to know this stranger?

Q.   How can i get to know this guy better. He is a security man who is always stood outside an office which i have to drive past a good number of times every evening, as my job is driving around doing collections. He always watche s me pass by and i ...

A.   29 April 2011: Drop of some cookies you baked, but put them in a container you'll need back the next time you see him. So there you go, life is like a box of cookies.... (read in full...)

Why would he end things over such a stupid thing?

Q.   omg i really need help here. I'm going crazy. ok i"m just gonna straightforward tell you what happened. 10 months ago i met this guy and we became good friends. After a while i realized that i sort of have feelings for him. he is 7 years older than ...

A.   29 April 2011: Whoa, that's very scary, it would actually frighten me in a physical sense. Stay away from this guy. He's more immature for his age than you are for yours. You're just fine doing your thing. PS. keep your diary private for your memories when ... (read in full...)

I think if this guy was closer my g/f would be with him, not me

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for nearly a year now, and i really like her alot. We say we love eachother daily, but i really dont even know what love is. She does alot of shit that bothers me and i can't tell if im over reacting or if im angry ...

A.   29 April 2011: Are there pics of you with her on facebook. If not, then book it. You don't trust her, I don't know if I would either. I know a lot of people who keep in touch with ex's and old flames. It is often innocent and then sometimes not. Outside ... (read in full...)

When is the right time to have children?

Q.   When is the right time to have kids? I want to have a child but here are some of the thing stopping me 1) I dont have a partner that wants children (he has his own) 2) I have endometriosis (womb tissue on ovaries can affect fertility) 3) My ...

A.   28 April 2011: Your health comes first, what does a doctor say about fertility and/or carrying a child full term? Your partner comes second, he'll have to want a child and have the means to provide for the child or you'll have to do it on your own. Your parents ... (read in full...)

How do I move on? I need to get her out of my mind for my kids sake....

Q.   I am 40 years old and married with my 35 years old wife for 17 years.we have 4 children and our relationship was not going good.ten months ago my wife had an outburst and she left me leaving our 4 children with me to look after.she said to me she ...

A.   28 April 2011: Find family and friends that will help there are also chat rooms for people in this position, you could try those too. It's a real terrible situation, but hopefully all will gain insight and relief and love. Closed doors will open new doors. As L... (read in full...)

Help ! My orgasms are not normal !! why do I release so much sperm ?!?!

Q.   I am 22 yrs. bi male from Czech Republic living in Canada I don't know if I should call this a problem. but it's definitely causing some serious distraction lately I have these really intense orgasms. Most people can't wait to orgasm and reach...

A.   28 April 2011: That's good, get it checked out, a man with a strong orgasm is a man with strong genes, take care of them.... (read in full...)

Help ! My orgasms are not normal !! why do I release so much sperm ?!?!

Q.   I am 22 yrs. bi male from Czech Republic living in Canada I don't know if I should call this a problem. but it's definitely causing some serious distraction lately I have these really intense orgasms. Most people can't wait to orgasm and reach...

A.   27 April 2011: He Czech's he Scores But wait a minute.. he's down on the ice, he's blacked out. This is not common, this IMO and only IMO could mean a blood clot or Aneurysm. This sounds actually serious IMO. For sure I'd have that checked out. If your g... (read in full...)

Why don't I want to kiss this guy?

Q.   What does it mean if I don't feel like kissing a guy? I have a strange situation: I am physically attracted to a guy, and he says he likes me a lot. But,I don't feel like being intimate with him at all. I feel like he's not at my same intellectual ...

A.   27 April 2011: I don't know 'bout you, but last time I had sex I was not discussing Eugenics, Metaphysics, and the answer to everything. Though I do believe I became a quasar for a moment. You could always get a helmet and take a course in motorcycle maint... (read in full...)

Is it really over and how to heal a heartbreak?

Q.   I have been seriously dating this guy for a while. We started off with me still being in a relationship with my ex. Within a month or two, I broke things off with my ex and had full intentions of being committed to this new guy. I've always had ...

A.   27 April 2011: You don't need medication or hypnotherapy or hanging upside down in a cage full of gorilla's. What has happened here is THE LESSON Karma will be erased here if you learn that lesson NOW. You said you had trouble letting go of your past. That's... (read in full...)

Love my girlfriend... Hate my girlfriend.

Q.   I'm having a problem as of late. I've been with my current GF for almost two years now (we are going to Amsterdam for our two year anniversary in May) but I feel all emotions have gone from my part. We are in a long distance relationship (i'm ...

A.   27 April 2011: This is very interesting. She is your masculine, your are her feminine, but they are in great conflict with each other. They do actually love/hate each other. Very interesting. But before we attempt to get into the psychology of it all a few que... (read in full...)

My 55 year old mother is dating my ex boyfriend for sex!

Q.   I am really peed of with my mother. i am not proud of her tbh. she goes out on weekends wearing short skirts or leggings and wears a top that shows off her sagging boobs (she is 55 years old and divorced). she loves the attention of men but what she ...

A.   27 April 2011: I agree with SoVeryConfused, however, she shouldn't be taking on your EX's that's just in the rule book. I'd never do that to a friend. Also these guys know it'll be smooth sailing having sex with someone who probably can't get pregnant, only wan... (read in full...)

How do I move on? I need to get her out of my mind for my kids sake....

Q.   I am 40 years old and married with my 35 years old wife for 17 years.we have 4 children and our relationship was not going good.ten months ago my wife had an outburst and she left me leaving our 4 children with me to look after.she said to me she ...

A.   27 April 2011: 60 minutes had a show on Runaway Wives on the CBC website, you could watch that. I feel sorry for both parties, both trying to play the roles of parents, providers, caretakers. It can become overwhelming. In your case the situation was not take... (read in full...)

B/f says he loves me and then runs back to his spouse!

Q.   I am in a gay relationship and love the guy I am dating. The problem is he tells me that he loves me and cares for me and wants to spend the rest of his life with he, then he runs back to his cheating ,thefting husband. I love him with all my heart ...

A.   27 April 2011: So it's not love, it's material and security. Stop drinking, start thinking!!! About, living life on your own terms. You'll have to maybe go out into the wilderness on your own. Face poverty, self destruction and lions and tigers and bears Oh my... (read in full...)

He only wants to kiss or cuddle when he wants sex

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for only 5 months and the only time he wants to kiss or cuddle me is if when he wants sex. each time i say no he plays the guilt trip and says you would if you loved me, i just don't know whats best to do, end the ...

A.   25 April 2011: You'll meet many men/boys like this along your path. Don't find yourself alone with them too often. Public places until ALL the cards are played. Hold, show em, fold or run.. you'll never know unless you've sat at the table first. Rememb... (read in full...)

21 and feel like my life is ruined forever!

Q.   Im only 21 and I feel like everythings ruined and Im going to be alone forever. Ive had boyfriends before and randomly dated guys but Id been with this guy for 2 and a half years and he was the first guy ive fallen in love with and he dumped me...

A.   25 April 2011: Every time a guy dumped me for his career I was like this for oh... a couple of days. But these men really woke me up to my goals. I can't tell you how many of these men I can thank for getting me up and at 'em. I admire their drive and that the... (read in full...)

Boyfriend has no feelings toward his ex at all, is this normal?

Q.   My partner says he is over his ex. He has no photos. no mementos, does not speak to her, does not email her, and he has often said (on me asking) that he never thinks about her. Also, when she does come up (I bring her up btw) he is usually negative ...

A.   25 April 2011: I hear ya. Wondering if you're the next one to disappear without meaning a damned thing. Well, I'll let you in. That's a man that either has zero heart or is a narcissist. But that's rare but you can still read up on it. On the other hand he'... (read in full...)

B/f says he loves me and then runs back to his spouse!

Q.   I am in a gay relationship and love the guy I am dating. The problem is he tells me that he loves me and cares for me and wants to spend the rest of his life with he, then he runs back to his cheating ,thefting husband. I love him with all my heart ...

A.   25 April 2011: You're not nothing to yourself in your mind I hope! But in his mind, NOT YOURS, you're his stand-by. If that's your choice, that's your choice, living the rest of your life with this guy is saying, I do not live in the moment, I live for possibil... (read in full...)

Should I play hard to get or just be myself?

Q.   okay so iv been texting this guy for a couple of weeks now, he works with a couple of my friends and iv seen him before, a couple of times, but i have never actually spoke to him face to face. Im worried that if i text too much or come across as ...

A.   25 April 2011: The longer you text the more difficult a face on will be. Stop the text get in his face, read it, make a decision and call it from there. Texts are BS when it comes to dating. I put a date and time out there and that's it. I know within 24 hours... (read in full...)

Did he just say those things because we were having sex?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months. We are both grown adults. We have discussed love and we both feel that we love eachother, but neither of us ever say "i love you" to eachother (because we are both afraid of heartbreak) last night ...

A.   25 April 2011: He's nuts about you celebrate. If any of your have trouble saying "I love you" Say it in another language.... (read in full...)

I always bleed after anal sex

Q.   I am a gay male and I have anal sex with my boyfiend and with anal toys. The problem is that if I go to long with out anal sex like maybe 2 days my butt get real tight and then I have anal sex and after the anal sex my anus bleeds a little bit. Is ...

A.   25 April 2011: Normal and get checked out for internal fissures. If the blood is bright red, normal, so don't go all crazy with the love making. Black blood is a sign of more serious issues so watch out there too. Be advised that too many tears and pressure can... (read in full...)

My feelings have went flat toward boyfriend, is this normal?

Q.   Hello all. I think i need some advice..its always the same issues with me but they get better...then come back haha. I've been with my man now for nearing a year and Im 18years old. At the beginning of the relationship there was butterflies and ...

A.   25 April 2011: Firstly glad you are discussing this with your mom. Your oxytocin levels are probably peaking before your monthly's is all. When your with your BF don't have a lot of physical contact this will increase your oxytocin. It depletes up to 2 weeks af... (read in full...)

My man spends all his money on his daughter!

Q.   i feel very depress the reason why is my partner of 4 years have a 34 year daughter and shes married with a baby and my man spends all of his $$$ on his daughter ...

A.   25 April 2011: When was the last time you bought him something?... (read in full...)

I don't like the idea of being married or having children anymore!

Q.   i just wanna an advice , I'm married with a woman in another country now she is gonna have a baby and i don't like the idea neither being married any more i'm so depressed about having a baby and continuing being married , no sex no fun but i stil...

A.   25 April 2011: Your role as father, husband is changing you. You have the choice to run for the hills or accept your choices and be the best father and husband going. There is no sex, is she still in the other country? Are you living together? It's hard fac... (read in full...)

My ex never gives me the answer that I want!

Q.   Why does he always do this? am really hurt:(? ? ? Whenever I speak to my ex boyfriend and I ask him why he cheated on me, lied to me and dumped me, he gets defensive and angry and never give me the answer that I want. He gets angry and makes me feel...

A.   25 April 2011: You did nothing wrong, he cheated and dumped you, possibly out of guilt. he said he hates you, possibly mirroring that he is hating himself. Time will tell at this point, you can't force him to give you answers he may not have. He may be as confu... (read in full...)

My wife had a one night stand

Q.   hi my wife had a one night stand when we where enganged six yrs ago, but has being faithfull so far now i feel like cheating on her because am hurt. am just thinking about it. am not talking to her how can i forget she did it with our family frien...

A.   25 April 2011: Sorry I don't buy it, you've had 6 years of marriage and she did this act before you married. You had the choice than, and you married her, as my old man would say "you sleep in the bed you make" This has a tone to it that you want to have an ... (read in full...)

He as done a terrible thing to me so why can't I just hate him?

Q.   My husband had an affair with my best friend and is now in a relationship with her. I am absolutely devastated not only for myself but for my baby boy who as only been seeing his daddy for an hour or so a week. He say's he wasn't happy and he ...

A.   25 April 2011: You love the man but you hate his behavior. You will have to accept your needs, you want him back, understandably so, you have a long history, a marriage. If for now you just accept that you want him back it may elevate your emotional wailing ... (read in full...)

Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy?

Q.   Will a married man cheat if he is truly happy at home. As cheating I mean carrying on a emotional and physical relationship for over acyears?...

A.   25 April 2011: Happy man cheating? Maybe the better question is why are you asking? Are you suspicious of his behavior? Do you have some evidence that he may be cheating? If so that might be a subject to bring out into the open either to quell your fears or ... (read in full...)

How do I get over and out of this? I'm 16. He's 30 and I fancy him, but I don't want to.

Q.   hey, i know you may think i'm a kid but all the same i need help with this all the same. last week i stayed with my boss for the week to do this training/boot camp thing. he offered that i stay with him so that i can do it. in fact he was very e...

A.   25 April 2011: I warned you about this during your stay at his place with his wife! I hope it's all coming from you and not him. I hope he hasn't given you any small signals of affection as if he was grooming you. I hope you think about that. Sure crushes h... (read in full...)

Is this his way of telling me he loves me?

Q.   Recently I asked the man who i am currently seeing (it's been more than a year)if he loved me and his response was "I always have". Is this his way of saying that he does love me without saying those ohhhh so hard three little words most guys ...

A.   25 April 2011: BIG TIME It's only words, so ask him to say it in another language. Chinese maybe "Wo I knee" Which I find so funny because it sounds like whiny.... (read in full...)

All I want is a nice decent guy ...

Q.   I am almost 37 and a divorcee, no matter how much I try, I cant get a stable relationship. I want to have a guy in my life but all that I come upon either wants a night out or my saving out (if any!). I dont seem to come upon a guy who has feelings ...

A.   25 April 2011: I believe in vibes. I also believe in science and in pheromones. I believe that what we project is what we attract. If you go out there looking for a man with the vibration that "They are all jerks" Than a jerk you will meet. I believe in the ... (read in full...)

I used to be so secure, now I'm a jealous mess!

Q.   I am 22-years old. I've been with my fiance for two years and four months. I've never been so happy in my entire life, and never even imagined I could be. We are talking of getting married later this year, and are looking into buying a houses at the ...

A.   25 April 2011: Here's where you are going to get into trouble. "I don't put any restrictions on him whatsoever" What you are really saying is you have zero boundaries. This will destroy your growth, your self worth, your esteem and eventually your life. ... (read in full...)

I have been dumped. No explanation.

Q.   I have been dumped. No explanation. I am alright as I didnt want the relationship anymore that much. Maybe he knew that but what I think about alot is has he lied? When he said I was someone he cared alot about. When he would look at me like he ...

A.   25 April 2011: First thing I'd do is get to the dr's and get blood testing done. A lot of guys find things out and don't want to share, so they just walk. That done, I wouldn't have one single word for him ever, never, not one. I'd be too damned busy with... (read in full...)

How,when,where do I ask her out? She's very popular and I'm not.

Q.   I am 19 years old and I've started doing volunteer work at a railway. There's this girl who I fancy, we keep smiling at each other and she is single. Academically we are pretty similar, we come from similar backgrounds as well. You're probabl...

A.   25 April 2011: Think of your comfort level, if you're going to get nervous about asking her out, you might want to do something like a formal invitation, a really classy card asking her out at such and such a time and leave your phone number to call. At least yo... (read in full...)

Date ideas?????

Q.   There is a girl who I have fancied for ages who I have finally had the guts to ask out on a date. it has been ages since I last went on a date so I am in desperate need of ideas! Please Help (am aged 15)...

A.   25 April 2011: I always find mini putt is quiet enough to talk, simple, takes about 30 minutes to play and gives your hands something to do. Is not too expensive. Also when playing any sport, even silly mini putt, you get a fair idea about people in general. If... (read in full...)

Is he just using me?

Q.   I became friends with this guy recently. We were getting on really well, texting all the time and he called me loads. There was no getting rid of him. But then, we made out a few times and I couldn't meet up as often and we started to fall out. H...

A.   25 April 2011: Stop seeing him and see if he continues to try to meet you. Meet in public only, don't have him over to your place. Changed the scenery and see if he follows, if he does, than yes he likes you. If he only wants to meet you at your place, than no,... (read in full...)

Is kissing another guy in front of your Bf redeemable?

Q.   Alright so a couple nights ago, my boyfriend invited me to stay with him and visit a university together. We are actually a relatively new couple but we are dating exclusively. We partied both nights we were down there, and I have not had that much ...

A.   25 April 2011: Watch your drinking first. Do not let the drinking and partying take over a big part of your life. Keep that in check first. Also keep your behavior in check. Be classy about your interactions around people especially at parties. I would not ... (read in full...)

Not sure how to act in my bosses house

Q.   hey, I'm doing this boot camp thing this week because my boss/instructor wants me to do it. and he has pulled out all the stops to enable me to do it as well, so much so that i am now staying with him and his girlfriend this week at their house. ...

A.   24 April 2011: Cool, as long as you are safe. ... (read in full...)

Not sure how to act in my bosses house

Q.   hey, I'm doing this boot camp thing this week because my boss/instructor wants me to do it. and he has pulled out all the stops to enable me to do it as well, so much so that i am now staying with him and his girlfriend this week at their house. ...

A.   17 April 2011: Your insecurity which may drive a low self esteem is what worries me when adults take children under their wing. It makes them more of an authority figure and thus they have more control over your emotional as well as physical life. That's not a g... (read in full...)

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