Is this my soldier bf's way of saying "I love you"?
Q. I have a guy friend who ive been seeing for a while. he is in afghanistan now. before he left we didnt see one another to say goodbye. I was very hurt and upset. Well recently before he left for afg he was training in another state. he has ...
A. 12 May 2011: He showed his brothers and he said he appreciated you.
In a mans world that says I love you MORE...
"Wild thing...you make my heart sing..."... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating asked me if I want to see sex tape of her and a guy from college, and says her ex-bf liked to watch it! What do I make of this???
Q. Aunts, can you please give me some perspective of this please. I have been dating this girl for like 3 months. she is gorgeous, 26, very sweet. I know she has a number of bfs in the past and she's experienced with guys. But i dont let that intimid...
A. 12 May 2011: I really have to object to these answers, on the account the internet is mostly sex videos and porn sights, that are flooded with viewers. Why is one video boxing this girl a freak, a prostitute (like that's a bad thing!) a girl to avoid, not good ... (read in full...)
How do ladies who need a larger bra size cope with finding the sizes they needs?
Q. ok so my bra cup size and overall size is a little larger. Would a push up bra make me look too much? And bigger than they really are? Does anyone know the largest size that Victoria's Secret make in bras? Or any other bra company that makes br...
A. 12 May 2011: The bra should fit comfortably first of all.
Getting the right size and make is a day long task at the right shop.
The bra should fit the venue, sports bra for sports, push up for evenings out on the town, regular fit for the office.
But above... (read in full...)
I came home and found my hubby had been going on porn sites, now he says I'm over reacting! Am I??
Q. I came home from vacation and found out my husband was going to porn sites. That didn't bother me as much as him going on live camera sites and was able to chat with these woman. He thinks I am over reacting. I feel so cheated on. I know porn is ...
A. 12 May 2011: The internet makes instant gratification soooo veryyy easy.
You don't have to fly to Amsterdam to get your kicks anymore.
Nope, just a couple of bucks and voilla, in the privacy of your own home with a camera and a mike. But that doesn't make it ... (read in full...)
Have I been masterbated to the point where my output is now being affected?
Q. Have I been trying to masterbate too many times every day? Now I am wondering how much masturbation is too much masturbation? Usually I masturbate four times a day. But now I have reached the point where i can barely ejaculate anything anymore and ...
A. 12 May 2011: Well according to your question you've "Been trying to masturbate" How about you stop trying.... (read in full...)
He deliberately embarrasses me. What can I do to stop him being Mr Wize Guy?
Q. My guy thinks it is funny sometimes to call out silly things in front of strangers, to embarrass me. It is not funny. The things he calls out are not true, but he bursts out laughing once he has done it. I have told him I find it embarrassing. that ...
A. 12 May 2011: Say loud and clear for all to hear:
"Honey, did you forget to take your turrets medication again?"... (read in full...)
My bf is not too interested in sex with me. What should I do??
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just under a year. We are both in our twenties. The first 6 months we used to have sex all the time. Now, our sex life is near nothing. We only have sex in bed and lucky if its once or twice a week. It ...
A. 9 May 2011: I have left sexually dying relationships that I've tried to repair and star in. As far as the Threesome goes, forget it, I draw the line at threesome, why, because it's only telling me, this guy want's another girl legally.
If he is unco... (read in full...)
Girlfriend told me she wanted a break and now keeps calling to see if I'm ok!
Q. my girlfriend told me she needs a break even though shes the one whos mistaken, and now shes calling to make sure im ok and im not answering any of her phone calls, i dunno what to do im about to break up with her but i want her to apologize over ...
A. 9 May 2011: How can she apologize if you won't pick up the call?
You're about to break up with her but you don't want her to do it again. Sounds like the "I'm so lost" is because you don't want to break up. ... (read in full...)
What should my role be in his life?
Q. I was a kind of most innocent and true persons. When i got a job in a new city, i found my coleagues trying to exploit my weaknesses, viz. weaping easily, new to the city, having no relatives and house etc., at the same time undergoing the biggest ...
A. 9 May 2011: A parable
A women looking for the meaning of life walked up a steep mountain that took many days and was very difficult.
When she reached the summit she found a monk and asked him.
"I need to know the meaning of life."
So he took her to a cav... (read in full...)
I got into trouble with her in the past. Should I make contact again?
Q. I had a friend for about 20 years and often had holidays and nights out I used to defend her with some of the men verbally. She then met another female friend she worked with and we often all used to go out but then trouble seemed to appear-the ...
A. 9 May 2011: If it's your conscience you want to clear from things you've said and now regret than a letter is fine.
Forgive yourself also and move forwards. It sounds like you are in a sentimental mood and sometimes those sentiments are not reciprocated as w... (read in full...)
We had a big fight. I need advice on what to do next.
Q. Hey! Today we fight, me and my boyfriend "It's a big One." He started yelling and swearing at me. I didn't say anything. I told him I wanted to go, and he told me if you go, you will never talk to me AGAIN, and I told him THAT'S WHAT I WANT. Th...
A. 9 May 2011: You told him "THAT'S WHAT I WANT" - To GO
So you got what you want, is that a problem?
Or were you just mad and freaking out?
As soon as we loose our cool we can't think straight and start saying anything and everything.
But don't worry too ... (read in full...)
I want to live in Spain but its next to impossible and its breaking my heart!
Q. This isn't a relationship question but my heart is breaking, so it might as well be. I'm an American but I'm in love with Spain and have my heart set on going there to live. I'm not putting USA down, but I've never identified with the culture...
A. 7 May 2011: Holy St Theresa girl, get on the next plane. You've found your passion what are you waiting for. Get a working Visa and go to it. As far as a man, your soul will be singing so loudly the right guy will be on your heals before long. You'll be ... (read in full...)
LDR's mom doesn't know about me just yet but I thought about sending her flowers for Mother's Day
Q. Hello all! I have an LDR boyfriend whom Im visiting in a few months. His mom will be told about us mid-May, but with mother's day coming up, I've been considering sending her flowers. The thing is, I've mentioned it to him and he thinks...
A. 7 May 2011: Forget that, send them to me!... (read in full...)
Have I just not met the right person, or is it possible I'm not attracted to either sex?
Q. I've never had a boyfriend or even been on a date with a guy. In fact I have never had a kiss or hug off a guy that wasn't meant as friendship. As I'm 17 I just thought I would wait until the right guy came along and that I wouldn't rush into ...
A. 7 May 2011: Ok I'm going to say you are asexual and will be forever.
Now tell me, are you relieved or angry?
... (read in full...)
I'm a sports person. How do I talk to "moshers?"
Q. I'm having a party tomorrow night and there's the girl i like who may be coming, my best friend, another friend who both like each other but they don't know that and there two friends that are in their band a boy and a girl who go out are invited ...
A. 7 May 2011: I plan a mosh football game, that'd be a riot, especially to heavy metal music.. Whoo,. maybe a whole new sport. After the game, conversation will be spilling from everyone. Or blood.. have a safety medical kit as the prize, they may need it. Of... (read in full...)
I gave her oral but she didn't reciprocate
Q. I just recently just performed oral sex on my girlfriend yet she didn't return the favour. She always txts me that she does want to but she didn't. I didn't want to tell her about it since she'll just do it out of pity which I don't want. I'm just ...
A. 7 May 2011: First of all don't give to get. Ever. That's a problem. You could stop giving as a pay back or resentment or some hard lesson, but that's no good either. Ask her if she's uncomfortable, had bad experiences, doesn't think she'll be any good at it. ... (read in full...)
Help me get her back please!
Q. I need help. :( I have just gotten back home from the U.S Army, i was deployed for a year. and going back sometime later this year. But thats not what i came to talk about.. My wife.. lets call her Nicki is an amazing woman, and i lov...
A. 7 May 2011: I do know that this may be hard for you, because comrades in arms always have each others backs, no matter what crap hits the fan. She feels you abandoned her, so you're the enemy.
Your not in the war of life together. Bring your skills of how ... (read in full...)
Is he worth waiting for?
Q. So I've been with this guy for about 5 months. He cheated on me but we're still talking. He tells me I deserve better, in fact everyone does. He isn't with the other women anymore but they still hang out a lot. He says he loves me and wants to be ...
A. 7 May 2011: Waiting is a waste of time, how about you go about your business and if things happen they happen, if not, at least you've continued on your way and may by the time he is ready be in another RS. If a guy says "You deserve better"
What he is real... (read in full...)
Deep down, I'm overwhelmed by anger. I need help.
Q. What would cause someone to have constant feelings of anger? I'm angry all the time, and not sure as to whether I should talk to anyone about it. I worry that my friends would think I'm a horrible person and that my parents would worry about me, ...
A. 7 May 2011: Anger is a symptom. It is not YOU! You hear your biological clock ticking away and the pendulum of life is just swinging back and forth in an endless monotony. You will have to investigate these symptoms of bitterness, fear, hate and anger. When ... (read in full...)
Heart full of hurt and head full of conflict!
Q. I am in my 40's and met a wonderful man. He is handsome, intelligent, caring, attentive, and just a good man all around. We have been together for almost a year. He was still married when we met and is now divorced. I had been single for 3 years ...
A. 7 May 2011: If it wasn't him that told you about he affair, chances are it was not a one time thing. I think you are his beard and while that is shocking news to you, it happens much more often then you know. I have a friend who became financially dependent ... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for my boss. Please advise.
Q. OK so after some major soul searching for the past few years I realize that the strong close feeling I have for my straight boss is love. My heart says stay clear and not say anything but my heart tells me otherwise. I cant eat or sleep and its ...
A. 7 May 2011: Working together for 10 years and falling in love in the past three years. You didn't see it the first year? Maybe your circumstances were different back then. Have you not confront you boss with your feelings ever? Three years of anxiety is a ... (read in full...)
Can someone shed some light? Why do I like her romantically, but not sexually?
Q. I have been having feelings for a girl at work for some time now. We don't interact outside of work, I only see her there. The thing is I am not sure if I actually fancy her. I really like her, I think she's pretty and cool, but I don't feel any l...
A. 6 May 2011: Well you've answered your own question.
She's too pure for my perverted mind and she is taken.
Taken means not for you, too pure means you should think of your pure women on pure thoughts. Place them across the table, at the theatre not in the b... (read in full...)
We're losing the spark and arguing alot! I don't know how to stop it!
Q. i really need some help, my relationship is really loosing its spark and i don't know what to do, i love my boyfriend so much and i cant walk away from everything we have together, but its just i get annoyed so easy and i pick little petty arguments ...
A. 6 May 2011: Start acting like him, not as a payback, but to mirror him so he may gain some insight. You though may actually feel more relaxed and not so "give me, give me" if you act laid back, it may be a great relief for you to learn that, yes, indeed, we're ... (read in full...)
How to fix something that's half-broken?
Q. My boyfriend and I are quite serious, planning on moving in together this year, and marriage in the works in the next year or two. We really are a great couple and both of us love eachother more than should be possible, but we have a problem. ...
A. 6 May 2011: How to fix something that's 1/2 broken, fix it 1/2 way.
If there is going to be success in your marriage there will have to be a 50/50 split on love and responsibility and reciprocation. It can be often 60/40 or 70/30 but if these stats are alwa... (read in full...)
Should I block or delete my ex
Q. Several months ago, I dated this great girl, but I had ended it cause she started canceling dates alot and seemed to have less and less time for me cause she said she was busy with school. The a weeks later, I realized that I still wanted to date ...
A. 6 May 2011: She's deleted you, so ya, move on.
She probably thought you'd get the hint with the "too busy for you" dialog but finally had to just come out with it.
You've put your apples in the wrong basket. Next time don't try more than twice at a reunion.... (read in full...)
This guy is complicated! Do I spend the weekend with him and have sex, with no strings attached?
Q. This guy is complicated! Do I spend the weekend with him and have sex with no emotions or strings attached? Here's the short story.... We met a couple months ago, went out a few times, he works out of town and we text everyday. I was...
A. 6 May 2011: "He met someone who's true, can read him and he probably doesn't know what to do?"
I think it's the other way around, he not only reads you but can look right through you, actually right past you.
He's not writing posts online, with confusio... (read in full...)
Why do women keep insisting that they are fat even after their man tells them they are perfect?
Q. If a women is always the best looking in the crowd why does she keep reminding herself she is fat. Guys dont like a bone. We all have a type but we love attention and security not to get broken at heart. BEcause then we have to show sad emotion...
A. 6 May 2011: Because for eons upon eons the media tells us we are all FAT as cats. And yes it wears on a mans patience.
Women Unite!
Guys love us, they need us, they want us.
But they leave us, not because we're fat but because we're insecure. I've had fat... (read in full...)
It seems like he's just lost interest so should I just let him go?
Q. I'm a bit confused with dating. I started seeing this guy and we went out on a few dates and we used to talk almost everyday and on the second date he told me that he told a girl who tried to ask him out that he was already seeing someone, that is ...
A. 5 May 2011: Try the six second rule.
If he can stare into your eyes, even across a room for 6 seconds or more, he definitely likes you. It's been tried tested and apparently it's as good as a polygraph.
... (read in full...)
I'm rare, but does that make me wrong?
Q. I seem to have the perfect life in which I am fully satisfied with but yet everyone seems to think that there is something wrong with me. I am 23 years old,I have had years of community service, a Black Belt in two martial arts, a loving girlfriend ...
A. 5 May 2011: They're just jealous and mystified, as far as the women and children of this world, keep up the good work by putting your best example forward. Of course you could avoid some ridicule and jibs by going out with the guys and throwing back a couple ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my teacher the truth or continue a painful lie?
Q. for the past year i have had really strong feelings for my old teacher it started off as a stupid crush but its grown and it feels like love, i have told him my life stories like my personal family life and he knows i am in love and he has been very ...
A. 5 May 2011: England age of consent is 16
Greece is 15
I don't know what country you live in the flag is so small.
To him you don't exist, if you want to take the risk you'll have to give those poems a signature.
Just know he may be flattered but no... (read in full...)
Is it time to dump, date, or do nothing?
Q. I am dating this guy for the past 3 months. I only got divorced 7 months ago after a 13 year marriage and 3 children. To me, my kids are my first priority. I was a stay at home mom until the divorce. I have been working for the past 5 months and ...
A. 5 May 2011: Slow down you move to fast, got a make the mornin' last.
Loneliness can make us do crazy things. Fear can keep us frozen.
You're out of a 13 year marriage, you're able to support your children, huge kudos to you. That kind of independ... (read in full...)
I just found out my fiance is bi after finding an on-line ad he posted!
Q. I have been with my fiance for 6 years and I just recently found out that he is bisexual because I found his ad that he put on craigs list to be bottom/host. He loves to play on the computer when I am sleeping alot. I love him and I know that he ...
A. 5 May 2011: Well it's either Bye-Sexual or Hi-Sexual.
Everyone's got their undies on the counter, how to proceed.
If you both consider your health will come first, this might be the start of a beautiful friendship.
Than
Things are never so bad they ca... (read in full...)
I miss him and still want to talk to him, but I am afraid of what will happen if I do.
Q. I met a guy 3 months back from a friend of mine. We got acquainted and later on we found out that we shared a lot of common, however, I am married and he is married. We both have problems with our respective partners. He has a very controlling and ...
A. 5 May 2011: Seems you had already left the marriage mentally and now you have abdicated physically. Maybe you should be discussing divorce proceedings. If that gives you a fright, than maybe you should be placing more efforts in your marriage than your affair. ... (read in full...)
I need a solution. I'm having an affair with my sister-in-law and don't know how to stop.
Q. So here it goes. I am a married man and have a beautiful loving and caring wife and six months old son too. She loves me a lot and usually we talk over phone for hours in the night before going to bed (Since from last three months I am out of town). ...
A. 5 May 2011: Hope you didn't think anyone would say "Hey, wish I were you, go for it dude"
That would be really terrible advice wouldn't it?
Maybe your looking for penance, 3 hail Mary's and that would relieve your indiscretion until next time.
Well hate... (read in full...)
How do I handle my ex and her behaviour?
Q. Dear readers. I have a crazy situation going on here with my ex. Basically, we broke up on good terms and we stayed in contact. However for the past month she's been smoking cannabis frequently. When she does this she becomes violent in her text msg...
A. 5 May 2011: If a child is taking a tantrum, you ignore them.
Put her on ignore. In time she'll either stop smoking pot or she'll become self destructive. Her choice.
Your choice is to feed the beast or starve the beast.
If friends tell you about her, change ... (read in full...)
What if one day we have absolutely nothing in common?
Q. OK, so after near 7 months, he said, "I love you." I know just how serious this was for him, given his past and the need to be sure he was ready and meant it. He even recently said I should start leaving clothes at his place so that I can stay ...
A. 5 May 2011: Feeling comfortable in the silence.
Let the silences flow through you, like a warm blanket not like an electric shock.
He said he loves you do you love him? Or are you thinking life with him could get boring? Do you think he's active enough? ... (read in full...)
I'm angry towards my FWB, but the sex is great. Should I end it?
Q. Hi All. Please can I have some thoughts on the following!! thanks. I am in a FWB situation, and the sex is great. It makes me feel relaxed, happy and good. I am very highly sexed, and this guy is giving me exactly what I need. However, I am not ...
A. 5 May 2011: Good luck with your next RS !
Glad we could help.... (read in full...)
How important do you think chemistry is when choosing a bf or gf?
Q. I am in my mid 30's, I think I have a pretty face but I don't really have a good body (I've abused it in my 20's and I have the physical scars to prove it). My ex husband (with whom I was with for over 15 years) divorced me 5 years ago because he ...
A. 4 May 2011: Sounds like your debating settling so you won't find yourself alone. Not a good place to be standing while looking for companionship. You'll need to leave behind the fear of being alone for the rest of your life. How, by accepting it.
Just say,... (read in full...)
Would you be so kind as to comment on my poem?
Q. I'm entering a poetry contest can peeps tell me what thy think bout this poem thanks xx to be with you is all i desire, with out you my hearts on fire, my hearts in pain ,bleeding,aching for you, only in my dreams u luv me 2 . m battling ...
A. 4 May 2011: Only in my dreams you love me too.
My favorite line. says alot.
good luck with the contest.
I think this poem deserves music, make it a song.
Keep writing
... (read in full...)
Do these few seconds he had inside her count as him losing his virginity?
Q. Right I don't know if this question belongs on the site but it's too hard to find out on google ... Basically I don't know wether my boyfriend is still classed as a virgin or not he said once when he was on holiday he met this girl and they kinda ...
A. 4 May 2011: Yes I'd say he lost his virginity, though I do not think he lost his emotions to virginity, sounds like it was not a great right of passage. Why do you ask, you're really young, hopefully this is not creating the need to break a record or ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never texts me back!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a lovely relationship, but he never texts me back! Only if I'm in a bit of a mood with him and then he texts me loads! It's really annoying because I can't get in touch with him, and it feels as if he never thinks of me. I...
A. 4 May 2011: Away for a week and no text huh..
That's a guy who is really into his own life. His hobbies, his buds, his job, his pets.. etc. but not that into you. You should have gotten a lovey dovey message and the question "Hope you are being a good girl... (read in full...)
I'm angry towards my FWB, but the sex is great. Should I end it?
Q. Hi All. Please can I have some thoughts on the following!! thanks. I am in a FWB situation, and the sex is great. It makes me feel relaxed, happy and good. I am very highly sexed, and this guy is giving me exactly what I need. However, I am not ...
A. 3 May 2011: Well he probably didn't defend himself because you shamed him.
Which will shut anyone up pretty quick. However, that cat's out of the bag, you'll both have to live with any changes that crop up because of that, though I must say I see only good... (read in full...)
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