Is it okay to have two wives?
Q. I have 7-year old wife to whom I have loved somuch and trust but later I realized she had had hidden lot of past history, for which I have gone through the hell and got fed up with thinking about but not able to leave her and go away and I had many ...
A. 2 December 2011: As Chigirl said, you need to find out if it is legal in India before you think any further on this matter. If it is legal then you need to discuss it with your wife before looking for someone, it has to be a joint decision because you will all be ... (read in full...)
What should I do? I want him back!
Q. nearly 2 months ago andy and i broke up. during this relationship i was always friends with my ex max, who was my first big love (this break up is 2 and a half years ago we were 16 and stupid and made a lot of mistakes. after the break up he fell in ...
A. 1 December 2011: You want him back, but he is with Sophie now, you have said their relationship may last 2 months or a year, you don't know, What if it lasts a lifetime? Honestly, he had a choice to make when they started, he could have chosen you, but he didn't. ... (read in full...)
Should I sit here and wait for his call? Or should I just break up with him?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for three years and most of our relationship has been long distance due to the fact that he is in the army. I love him with all my heart and he is my first boyfriend. We had only been dating for six months when he went ...
A. 30 November 2011: I agree with Ciar to a point, maybe it is time to move on. But if you feel you want to break up wigth him, you need to tell him, if only to show him that your the better person. Actions may speak louder than words, but the action of breaking up with ... (read in full...)
Trying for a baby and nothing the doctors are doing is working...advice please!
Q. I really want to have a baby. I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and I have had no luck. I did have an unsuccessful pregnancy in the past with a previous boyfriend. I was pregnant with twin girls for 5 months and had to deliever them ...
A. 30 November 2011: Firstly let me say how sorry I am that you lost your babies, I myself have had 2 miscarriages and I know how devastating they can be.
Secondly, My nephew and his wife just went through the whole IVF for the past 5 years unsuccessfully, it tore the... (read in full...)
Would I come across as creepy or desperate if I add this guy on Facebook?
Q. Earlier I was bored and clicking around on facebook, and found myself on the profile of a guy whom I had 9 mutual friends with. Looking at his profile I could see that he often attends the same clubs as me, and shares my music taste EXACTLY (there's ...
A. 30 November 2011: You can add him, just add a personal message something likie the following
"Hi, we haven't met, but I have seen you around. We have some mutual friends and some things in common, I was wondering if maybe we would like to be friends and get to k... (read in full...)
I only lied to avoid a fight. She's aggressive and doesn't trust me. Should I break if off with her?
Q. I'm an insurance agent by trade and I sat down with one of my girlfriends friends. I sold her a policy. But recently my girlfriend called her up, and asked her if anything is going on between us. I think it's inappropriate, along with her constan...
A. 30 November 2011: I agree you want to end the relationship, so that's what you should do. It is not ok for her to slap you, and what will she do next. She doesn't trust you and she won't trust you because she has issues. You want to break up with her, and for that ... (read in full...)
How can I make this guy get out of my personal space?
Q. I'm in Gr.11 and I met a guy who was a year younger than me. I discovered that he doesn't have many friends because people say he's "creepy" and socially awkward. Now, I'm not the type of person to just let these kinds of things go, so I befriended ...
A. 27 November 2011: Try talking to him honestly and calmly and saying that you appreciate him as a friend, but that you aren't comfortable with him invading your personal space and touching you in this way. I have known people like this and usually it is just that ... (read in full...)
Should I move on or wait for my boyfriend?
Q. Well my bf and I decided to split cuzz im 16 and he 21. Its safer. I love him alot, I would do anything for him! We planned on gettn back together when I turn 18, we still see each other and call each other! Just like were still dating. But I dnt ...
A. 26 November 2011: I agree that you should move on. If he really wanted to be with you when your 18, he would stay in the relationship and simply wait until your 18 to move forward in the relationship. I think he is simply trying to let you down easy and to keep you ... (read in full...)
How can I best support her? She says she feels smothered. Now she only wants companionship.
Q. I'm a 56 year old male in a relationship with a 54 year old divorced women. She was raped repeatedly when she was 15 , by her step father. She also suffered other trauma through the years. Ex husband hit her with a belt, ex boy friend infected...
A. 25 November 2011: I understand how hard this is for you. I was molestered as a child and raped by my first boyfriend, I know that it always stays with you. The best thing you can do is to respect her decision and try to encourage her to see a professional to help ... (read in full...)
It is ok for a 19 year old to date a 15 year old?
Q. I was wondering if it was okay for a 19 year old girl to date a 15 year old boy. I'm really worried for a friend of mine. He's obviously underage and still a minor and I'm sure there are legal implications of this but she seems so happy with him. I ...
A. 20 November 2011: I agree with Ciar, it is not ok. If she is labelled a paedophile, it will follow her for the rest of her life. Make it hard for to get or keep a job, she will be restricted in where she can live (as in nowhere close to schools, parks or anywhere ... (read in full...)
He's had 6 gfs before me and I need to know the details. Should I ask?
Q. My bf is the first proper bf I have had and the person I lost my virginity too. However, before me, he had a bout 6 proper gfs and has had sex with them all. This makes me feel a bit uncomfy, but I realise you can't usually get boys without history. ...
A. 19 November 2011: I don't think you need to know the details. How is knowing the deatils going to help you? Accept that he had a life before he met you and that whatever happened in his past relationships is none of your business. He is with you now and that's all ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend doesn't make me feel the way my ex did
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend around 3 or 4 months ago because of a problem with religion. Well i love him still and i think im in love with him. I have a boyfriend now but the thing is that my boyfriend dont make me feel like that guy did and i need ...
A. 18 November 2011: Of course your new boyfriend doesn't make you feel the way your ex did, he is a different person. You should break up with him because you being extremely cruel to him by leading him on when you are still in-love with your ex.
Now to your ex,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is working over Christmas - again! I'm furious, help please!
Q. Hi guys, please help, i am fuming! My bf does shift work and he has a responsible role. This year will be our first proper Xmas togther. Let me explain...last year he decided to work a night shift on Xmas day. This meant i got to see him for a round ...
A. 16 November 2011: I can see that christmas is important to you, but he is in the medical profession, and yes you are being a bit unreasonable in this. As you said many people are in your position. My brother has children, and he has spent about 2 christmas's at home ... (read in full...)
My wife was sexually abused. No one else knows. Is it wrong to spill the beans?
Q. As the subject says, my wife was sexually abused as a child. She was also raped as an adult - possibly more than once. She just confided this in me, although I have suspected as much for a long time now. As a result, she is an alcoholic. She...
A. 14 November 2011: Like your wife I was sexually abused as a child, and raped as an adult. I can tell you from my experience, that if you tell anyone, or even hint at it so they figure it out before she is ready for them to know, it can cause more harm than good. Fo... (read in full...)
He's really slow at taking the hint
Q. Ok I'll get right to it! My boyfriend is the shy, quiet, reserved, sweet, tall, mysterious, handsome type of guy. We've been good friends for a year and started *officially dating a month ago. Thing is I'm his first girlfriend and he knows I've had ...
A. 14 November 2011: you need to tell him honestly, men don't take hints, and shy people don't take hints. You need to tell him honestly what you want, and let him ease into it, so he is comfortable with it as well. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My Guy Friend wants more than friendship but I don't feel the same!
Q. So there's this guy. Who I've known for five years, but really never felt anything toward romantically. He's my best guy friends and has helped me through alot but the thought of dating him, let alone kissing him, or holding his hand creeps me ...
A. 10 November 2011: You just need to sit him down and be honest with him. Let him know that you do care about him as a friend, but only as a friend and that for you it can't be anything more. Tell him that he can't kiss you again, you don't want to hurt him, but you ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever met the one and let them get away? How do you accept it?
Q. How do you deal with knowing that you have lost and ruined your chance with probably someone who could of been the one for you? That gut feeling that eats inside of you, the thought of knowing you met someone so amazing, who looks and you like no ...
A. 8 November 2011: I have been in this situation, I let him go due to fear, thinking he would be better off with someone else. I spent years trying to just forget, to accept it and move on. I found that it did eat away at me and that I would still wonder "what if", ... (read in full...)
She likes me but is dating my friend, what should I do?
Q. i deeply love a girl and she is unwillingly going on with my friend..she knows that i likes her but she is not sure that she will accept me after she breaks up with her present boyfriend...she likes me.what should i do?...
A. 1 November 2011: I agree with so very confused.. do nothing, she has a boyfriend and is not available. Move on and find someone who is single.... (read in full...)
Technically speaking was it not cheating? since we had had a break up. Am I right in my assumption?
Q. My girlfriend dumped me and after three months she came back . We were together for 2 years before I picked up fight with her over small issue which resulted in a being dumped in the last week of July this year. During those three months, I was ...
A. 1 November 2011: If you were broken up, then of course you were not cheating. You cannot be expected to stay faithful to someone who you are not in a relationship with just in case they decide that they want to come back to you. I believe that your girlfrie... (read in full...)
How do you feel it is or isn't appropriate to express affection to your loved one around family?
Q. I'm in a serious relationship for the first time in my life. Our families have never met or seen us together but they will soon. His family is very openly affectionate and so I wouldn't worry about sitting with an arm around him now and then or ...
A. 1 November 2011: I grew up in ahouse where affection was not openly shown, this was what their generation did. When I have had a boyfriend I have explained to them that this is how my parents are, and that out of my respect and love for them I limit showing ... (read in full...)
I resent my boyfried for his past experiences!
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and My Boyfriend, we love each other so much. We've been together for 7 gonna be 8 months. And we're extremely happy together. The thing is, maybe two years ago, he had sex multiple times with his ex let's say her name is C. A...
A. 31 October 2011: Firstly, you have no right to be angry or jealous over his past, it has nothing to do with you, he wasn't with you when he did those things and couldn't make a decision based on the fact that he might be with you, that is the first thing that you ... (read in full...)
We have decided that we will go back out with each other in 2-3 years. Should I just move on now??
Q. Well me nd my bf (now ex) decided to break things off when his baby momma threatened to put him on child support if he didnt go back.And im only 16 and he is 21 so we decided it would benefit both of us if we waited a few years to go back out. Well ...
A. 31 October 2011: If I were you I would move on completely. Your right a lot can happen in 2-3 years, he may fall in-love with his baby- mamma. What concern's me is that you say we both rpomised that whoever we were with we would leave them and be together, that is a ... (read in full...)
I really need advice on making friends please? guys tell me I'm "intimidating" but I don't see how I can be intimidating?
Q. Hi there. This isn't so much of a "love" question as it is more just "how to meet people/make friends" kind of question. I seem to have a really hard time making friends. This isn't something new. All through school I only had a couple friends I wo...
A. 30 October 2011: I don't exactly know what is going on here because I don't know you, but I can share with you what I have experienced with my brother's girlfriend. She is a very friendly woman, but actually too friendly. She worked with me, and all our co-workers ... (read in full...)
My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?
Q. my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...
A. 30 October 2011: I too had been on anti depressants, and whilst I was on them it changed my personality, I became very angry whilst on them, I stopped taking them because they simply didn't work, and I am getting much better. In reference to your girlfriend sending ... (read in full...)
My periods are still irregular, any advice?
Q. Hi. I'm 13 and I'm on my third period. The first two were relatively light and I could use the Always pads with the three or four absorbency drop thingys. But now, on my third, it's been sooooo heavy and the Always pads with the four drops get full...
A. 30 October 2011: you have only just started your periods a couple of months ago, that isn't very long, so they will be irregular, your body is still adjusting to the recent changes, as you continue throughout your life until you reach menopause, your period will ... (read in full...)
I'm a picky eater! Should I see a doctor about this
Q. this isnt a relationship question but i would appriciate any advice you can provide me with i am a very picky eater i dont eat a lot of variety and rarely try new foods. I also eat quite little for a number of reseons; i have a busy schedule wi...
A. 30 October 2011: I am and have always been a fussy eater, very much like yourself, my family and friends made a big deal about it. I went to a doctor with my Mum, and he told me that I am not malnourished and that there is nothing wrong, I have my own eating habits ... (read in full...)
Should I try to mend our friendship or leave him altogether in fear of falling for him again?
Q. I have a very long history with a boy who shall be called X . You see, I've liked X as more than a friend off and on for basically my whole life, and I know there have been times when he has liked me in the same way. To give a summary, we were close ...
A. 29 October 2011: It's a hard situation, but you may want to sit down and have a heart to heart and just lay it all out, and if nothing happens then just walk away. That way you won't be wondering "what if". Maybe once everything is out in the open he can be honest ... (read in full...)
After 6 months of friendship, are his feelings changing?
Q. hi all, I met this guy and we got close then lost contact for a few years. We got in contact again about 6 months ago and have been talking and occasionally meeting up because we live a long way from each other. There is a lot of flirting involve...
A. 28 October 2011: Hi, it's been a while but I thought I would give an update on the situation. After my last post I got the courage to ask him if he was interested, he said yes and now we have been a couple ever since. The distance is hard, but we are both working ... (read in full...)
Why do people complain about their LDR relationships when they are not really that far away from each other?
Q. Okay, now I don't know if I'm going off topic or something just tell me why do so many people I know who are in LDRs always complain when there only two or 3 hours apart from each other while me and my gf are 18 hours? It bothers me with a passion ...
A. 26 October 2011: I don't know why people complain about being only 3 hrs away from their LDR, I know that it annoys me greatly as my LDR is in England and I am in Australia, so it really gets under my skin. It takes a lot for us to be able to see each other. I can ... (read in full...)
I want to take my new girlfriend to the strip club and watch her touching other girls
Q. I want to take my new girlfriend to a strip club, but am not sure what her reaction will be. For you girls, if you have been dating a guy for a month or so and he askes you if you want to accompany him to a strip club, what would be your re...
A. 26 October 2011: My answer would be no and if he wanted to go by himself feel free, but I wouldn't be going there at all. I know most of my female friends would feel the same, a couple of the others would be all for it. I agree though that if you have been together ... (read in full...)
I love him but hate his friends! What should I do?
Q. I love my boyfriend and I know he is the one for me but I don't like his group of friends and it could potentially ruin us if I don't know how to communicate my feelings with him. I am in a blossoming loving LDR with a man I love and met through ...
A. 24 October 2011: I am sorry but what you are trying to do is to chose his friends and be controlling. One of the best ways to ruin a relationship is to try and chose your man's friends. I can understand how you feel, but your man was right what his friend's do is ... (read in full...)
I haven't had a first kiss yet?
Q. I am 18 years old and have yet to have a first kiss let alone a first boyfriend. I do feel really bad about it especially since most of my friends have fwb's and hookup buddies. I wanted to wait until I have a boyfriend to have my first kiss, b...
A. 24 October 2011: Hi, I know how you feel as I didn't have my first kiss until I was 21 years old. It was frustrating and I felt like I was the last girl left who hadn't been kissed, so I just "got it over with" and it was the worst experience of my life. I regretted ... (read in full...)
Since starting university, I go from missing my B/f terribly and wanting nothing more than to be with him to wanting to ring him up and end things, several times a day!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly two and a half years. We're very close (I consider him my best friend as well as boyfriend), love spending time together and still find each other just as attractive as we did when we first started ...
A. 24 October 2011: I have had the same thoughts and mood swings with my long distance boyfriend, I go from missing him terribly, to being so frustrated because I just want to be with him, to thinking I should give up and just find someone else. The thing is I love him ... (read in full...)
My dad made me break up with my boyfriend and I need some help
Q. Ok so im 16 and i was in a relationship with an 18 year old polish guy called bercik for about 11 months this november .i was crazy about him and we did everything together.I was drinking before i met him and now my dad is blaming him for it .i lost ...
A. 24 October 2011: I agree that your Dad is only trying to protect you, and that is his job after all. that being said he has gone about it the wrong way. I am not sure on Irish law, but i imagine that there is a law against assault, and your Dad should be thankful to ... (read in full...)
Will it last with this new woman? I want my ex back!
Q. My ex husband and i got divorced 2 years ago today.....it was my fault i asked for the divorce and he was gutted and in great pain. i started seeing someone else. But realised i loved my ex who tried to get back with me...i was confused and rejected ...
A. 14 October 2011: Nobody can tell you whether it will last for him and this new woman. I am sorry about the fact that your daughter has cut you out of her life, it is not something any parent should have to deal with. In regards to your ex husband, I don't think he ... (read in full...)
To me my wife is perfect. How do I help my wife to accept that I love her? she's still blaming herself for something that was not her fault, before we met.
Q. I need advice on how to help my wife. We've been married a little over 3 years, have 1 daughter, and she is pregnant again with our 2nd. If our 2nd child is a boy we are going to stop, if it's a girl, we will have a 3rd trying for a boy. I ma...
A. 14 October 2011: It is a hard situation. My first ever boyfriend raped me, and at first I didn't want to admit it to myself let alone to anyone. Sometimes it takes years before someone can admit it themselves, so don't take any offence that she didn't tell you ... (read in full...)
Should I just stop talking to the guy I met online? I think he is talking to other women as well as me.
Q. Hello everyone, I used an online dating site for the first time. I met a man that I was interested in meeting. We have been emailing each other once a day for 1 week. He keeps pointing out how much we have in common and how great I seem. H...
A. 12 October 2011: Wow this is very quick, he is getting to know you, hasn't spoken on the phone to you yet, let alone met you and you expected him to not be talking to other people. I think that maybe you should relax a bit and take it slow, talk to him, ask him for ... (read in full...)
Neither my cousin or I are getting our sexual needs met by our partners and are thinking of meeting up once in a while to 'satisfy' each other, any opinions?
Q. Ok, I am a 28 year old married male that has a 29 year old married female cousin. I have been married for 5 years and she has been married for 1. We are first cousins and have always been very close growing up. She only has sisters and I only ...
A. 12 October 2011: Sorry but I know for a fact that sleeping with your first cousin is INCEST which is morally wrong, not to mention that your both married and cheating is also morally wrong.
You may think that for whatever justification you have tried to tell you... (read in full...)
I've confronted her but she continues to behave the same way, what should I do?
Q. naturally i am not the most trusting person however recently my gf has started doing some things which seem to me to just be plain suspicious. she is never without her phone and will never allow me to see it and a few times i have caught her on the ...
A. 12 October 2011: Firstly you should not be taping her conversations, it's wrong no matter whether or not your suspicious of her. It is an invasion of privacy and could be a crime. That being said,it does sound extremely suspicious that she is being so secretive. You ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and my girlfriend's 25. Is that a big difference?
Q. Is this weird? My girlfriend is 3 years older than me. I'm 22 and she's 25. Is that a big difference or no? We have a good relationship and all (sex is great :P) but compared to all of my friends in relationships, the guy is older than the girl. ...
A. 12 October 2011: I am 6 years older than my boyfriend, and it's not a big deal for us. As long as neither of you have a problem with it, it's fine. A lot of people are in relationships where the guy is younger, don't worry about it as long you are both wanting the ... (read in full...)
My estranged mother's funeral....the worst situation I will ever allow myself to be in...
Q. I had not spoken to my parents or their families for some years. To cut a long story short - I spoke out about being abused as a child by my father and they all took my father's side - my ex husband and his family included??? I was cut out from ...
A. 12 October 2011: I was abused as child, not by my father though it was my brother who is 13 years older than me, i know how hard the situation can be. Your family has made it harder by not believing you and for that I am sorry. As for the funeral of your mother you ... (read in full...)
After 6 months of friendship, are his feelings changing?
Q. hi all, I met this guy and we got close then lost contact for a few years. We got in contact again about 6 months ago and have been talking and occasionally meeting up because we live a long way from each other. There is a lot of flirting involve...
A. 3 July 2011: Thankyou for your response. Yes I do feel something very strong, and yes I am scared. I think it definitely is worth the risk. I really appreciate you taking the time thankyou. I will let you know how it works out for me.... (read in full...)
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