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writes:I really want to have a baby. I have been with my boyfriend now for 2 years and I have had no luck. I did have an unsuccessful pregnancy in the past with a previous boyfriend. I was pregnant with twin girls for 5 months and had to deliever them dead.. :( but that was in 2009. I am not sure what is going on or why nothing the doctors have been doing has been working. I really need some advice.. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 You and your boyfriend should go to the doctor together and talk to your doctor and ask him what the story is. Maybe there is nothing wrong, sometimes it just takes a long time to fall pregnant, and with what your body went through two years ago maybe it is just taking a bit longer to recover. Also there could be a chance that your boyfriend has low sperm count or you low fertility. Maybe you are stressed and that is why you are not falling pregnant. There could be lots of different reasons for this, that is why you both need to go to your doctor and talk to him, if he confirms that there is nothing wrong well then you just need to stop worrying about it and keep trying.
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reader, Abella +, writes (30 November 2011):
 You sound far too stressed and far too anxious. And that is NOT compatible with conditions that make it easier to get pregnant.
When getting pregnant is the last thing on your mind it is much easier for all things to go right.
So step away from the battle to get pregnant.
practise relaxation techniques.
Meditate so that you clear your mind of thoughts of babies and pregnancy.
Go for a walk. Find a heated indoor pool where you can swim.
Do everything BUT try to get pregnant.
Choose to eat as healthy as you can.
Put away the baby things. Don't look at baby magazines.
Have the Doctors checked the viability of your partner's sperm? Sometimes this is the problem. And made worse if the man wears underwear that is too tight.
The Doctors need to work through every possibility, step by step. Give the Doctors the time to do this. And ask for a second Doctor's opinion if you feel the earlier Doctors you have been seeing are not listening to you.
Good luck with this, in time, if it is meant to be, it will happen.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 Firstly let me say how sorry I am that you lost your babies, I myself have had 2 miscarriages and I know how devastating they can be.
Secondly, My nephew and his wife just went through the whole IVF for the past 5 years unsuccessfully, it tore them apart and the pressure took a toll on their marriage and they broke up for a number of months. When they reconciled my nephew told his wife he would only return if they stopped going to IVF and they accepted that maybe it wouldn;t happen for them. They both did this, and got on with life without the stress of trying for a baby, a couple of months later she fell pregnant naturally and they will have their son in January. Sometimes Doctor's just can't help in these things and the stress of trying makes it harder to actually fall pregnant. This has happened for a number of couples I know, take the stress out of the situation and you may have a better chance of falling pregnant. That's all I the advice I can give, I wish you all the luck, and hope that you achieve your goal soon.
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