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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together for nearly two and a half years. We're very close (I consider him my best friend as well as boyfriend), love spending time together and still find each other just as attractive as we did when we first started going out. I have recently started uni though, and have since found myself more emotional than I was before, probably due to the big life change. The problem is that since starting uni, and being a passionate person anyway, I go from missing him terribly and wanting nothing than to be with him to wanting to ring him up and end things several times a day! I think it's because I don't like the fact that me missing him makes me feel so sad, but what ever the reason I find it really hard to control! I've split up with him once already this month, only to call him again within 10 minutes begging him to take me back and pleading insanity. I've told him how I feel and he's been very supportive, but how do I control my emotions? Is there anything I can do to stop them getting the better of me or will I just have to hope they calm down? I'd like to verify that I am completely 100% in love with him and want to be with him, which makes all these ups and downs even more confusing! Help!
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (24 October 2011):
 I have had the same thoughts and mood swings with my long distance boyfriend, I go from missing him terribly, to being so frustrated because I just want to be with him, to thinking I should give up and just find someone else. The thing is I love him with all my heart and he is also my best friend. i have found that it helps to get through these feelings by making the effort to think of why I want to be with him, and to keep telling myself that I will be with him soon, and writing down my feelings when they start to overwhelm me. I also wrote down all the reasons I can think of as to why I want to be with him, how loving and supportive he is of me, and I read that every time I start to feel like I should just give up because of these feelings. it has helped me a lot, maybe it might help you too. They are just some things that I have found helpful. I wish you all the best of luck in your relationship and your studdies.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (24 October 2011):
Lots of people get shaken up when starting Uni. I noticed this as well in my class. Especially if you've moved to another city to live on campus, it takes a while to adjust. Emotional mood swings are a part of that. A friend of mine struggled a lot with the big change and she and her boyfriend had a lot of ups and downs during that time, but it all settled a couple of months in school (around christmas time, if I remember right.)
So just take a deep breath and tell yourself it's going to be fine. Give this relationship a real shot. These mood swings have little to do with your love for your bf and everything with adjusting to this new situation. Once you've gotten comfortable you can objectively judge how you feel about your bf.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (24 October 2011):
Your relationship is ruining your university experience, you should break up with him and concentrate on your new friends and new life. You'll be glad you did, rather than continue going through this turmoil.
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reader, landomando +, writes (24 October 2011):
I dont think you are insane at all. A lot of couples go through the same things you are going through. There is always that time when you dont feel completely normal. But trust with time you will either adjust or have to try something new.... And welI am sorry but i am not familar with "Uni" what is it?
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