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writes:hi all,I met this guy and we got close then lost contact for a few years. We got in contact again about 6 months ago and have been talking and occasionally meeting up because we live a long way from each other. There is a lot of flirting involved, but recently he has starting saying how he loves different things about me with emphasis of the word love, and he has even referred to me as "my beautiful girl". My question is do you think that he is trying to let me know that his feelings have changed and that he wants something more than a friend that he flirts with? I do like him a lot, I'm just not sure what to think in regards to this change in the way he talks to me.thanks for helping.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 October 2011):
 Thanks for the update.. this got posted when i was not able to help on the boards so I had missed it...
congrats on your relationship... I too am LDR... or i was LDR... he just moved in with me... after a year of commuting so hang in there!
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reader, Claraw1 +, writes (28 October 2011):
Claraw1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi, it's been a while but I thought I would give an update on the situation. After my last post I got the courage to ask him if he was interested, he said yes and now we have been a couple ever since. The distance is hard, but we are both working towards actually being in the same place together. It is tough but it is deifinitely worth it, we love each other a lot and are doing our best to spend time together as much as possible. Once again thank you for your help, I probably wouldn't have had the courage to ask him if he was interested in me without your support and help. I would have just assumed he wasn't. I am so happy with my man. Thanks again.
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 hello,
Yes i do think he is interested. The only problem i see is the long distance and how you both would cope with this. But, see what happens and keep contact if you want this.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Your more than welcome anytime :), if its any help I have a good feeling about this one for you, thanks, wishing you good luck :)
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reader, Claraw1 +, writes (3 July 2011):
Claraw1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your response. Yes I do feel something very strong, and yes I am scared. I think it definitely is worth the risk. I really appreciate you taking the time thankyou. I will let you know how it works out for me.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (3 July 2011):
Well I think you have answered your own question pretty much here. I think the answer is YES he is dropping heavy hints he is interested in you as more than a friend and wants to progress beyond that. Is he being more touchy-feely? Is there noticeably more physical contact? If he is then I think that confirms the above. I wouldn't see this as feelings 'changing' as such but more of an evolution of a bond you already had. Change implies there was no connection there before when there obviously was.
So, the question now becomes, what you going to do? Well I think part of the reason you asked this is because you know the answer but are scared of doing something about it out of fear of rejection. It's also possible your worried about the fact that its a gamble - and it is, in some ways more so with an established friend than a stranger because you have more on the line - however, its worth realising that if one or both people start to feel more and its left hanging it can weaken and even destroy the friendship in any case.
So, either way you have to deal with it. I think you need to summon up the courage and talk to him about it after you have decided what you want to do about it, though my feeling suggests you are feeling something more too. Try returning the verbal and physical signals to build your confidence then take him to one side and talk about how your feeling. I think its definitely worth the gamble. Good luck and let us know what happens :)x
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