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writes:I need help. Me an my boyfrind have been together for five months and we love each other so much. But he just found out from his ex from ten months ago that she just had a baby and it might be his. Please help me and give me some advice on what should i do. I am so confussed i need answers.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (11 April 2008):
 I suggest you step back, support him adn let him make his own discisions - and suggest he gets a paternity test x
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reader, polarkite +, writes (11 April 2008):
 The main question will be how is he going to deal with this, not you. He has some stuff to take care of now.
Plenty of girls would just ditch this guy at this moment. But it's up to you, how you want to react. Given your confusion, you might want to consider at least taking a break from the relationship, until he can figure things out. You may also need to re-assess things, now that you have this new information.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 April 2008):
 Only a paternity test will tell. This child, if his, is his responsability. It's your decision if you're ready to be with someone who no longer has all the options and freedoms they had before.
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reader, Cherriepie +, writes (11 April 2008):
 The right thing for you to do is to step back and let him decide what he needs to do..what he should do is support the child and connect with his ex, hopefully they should get married and give the kid a chance at a normal family. That's the best you can ask for. I know that leaves you out of the picture, and that's the sad thing about this. the child makes all the difference here and the well being of it. I believe that all children should have a chance at growing up in a stable family environment with both a mother and a father in thier lives...and even better when daddy is there sll the time, not just on the weekends. You have to do the right thing for him and encourage him to reconnect with his ex, for the baby's sake.
Its a hard thing to step back and accept what is going on here...its hard for everybody involved. But for me the baby comes first. Good luck hun.
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