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Does penis size play into women's fantasies?

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Question - (17 April 2008) 10 Answers - (Newest, 6 February 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, *lec writes:

Ok, another penis size question, I know, but bear with me !

Ok I guess my question is: does the idea or sight of a substantially larger than average penis, turn most women on? Is a big one arousing? More esthetically pleasing. More likely to prompt fantasies?

Thank you all for taking the time to read and answer this,

Alec

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A female reader, VampyricHybrid United States +, writes (6 February 2009):

VampyricHybrid agony auntMy boyfriend is 8.5 Inches in length and quite wide. Yes, it does turn me on very much so. And, yes it does rouse a lot of fantasies whenever he isn't here with me.

-Good Luck.

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A male reader, gadfly_in_your_drink United States +, writes (10 November 2008):

Life usually presents a stark Hobson's Choice for women: large penis or large back account. Rarely do the two go together. So yes, most women wind up marrying small dicked men who meet a "stability" test, and fantasizing about sex with men who have large ones (sometime fantaszing about the sex they had with the immature and broke, but hung men they dated in their younger wilder days). Just as men have their peculiar fantasies (being dominated, smothered by huge boobs, sex with model bombshells, etc.) women have a right to their dreams too. And when the husband is on an out of town business trip cavorting with a "model" for hire, maybe they should just call a landscaping service, and put in a "special" request.

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A male reader, Adey United Kingdom +, writes (10 November 2008):

As a man with a (i guess) average size of a tiny bit under 6 inches I find that my size is proportional to the woman - some women almost fit like a glove. Some are rather stretched and its hard to get any feeling and some are a bit restrictive. Overall its about the connection and getting the fit and motion right. All that said, in the end its more important that you love the person and that you both put loads of effort into making the other person happy... that way you get long sex sessions which involve more that just cocks and pussy - mouths, tongues, bits and well whatever you want. You can tell if its good by the eyes not by the orgasm.

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A female reader, Cherriepie United States +, writes (5 October 2008):

Cherriepie agony auntPersonally, I love big cocks. I sometimes fantasize about the monster ones, for sure... But I also know those suckers can be damn painful. Still, there is a fantasy element for guys with huge cocks. My boyfriend is 9 inches...which is pretty big, but hell I wish sometimes it was bigger...! But thats just about the fantasy of it.

As far as my personl life, I dont go for dating guys with small dicks... I just dont feel them!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

This is funny because just last night I had a dream I was having sex with a guy and he had a really big penis. My husband's is relatively small and thin. Normally it doesn't bother me, but I think it would be nice if he had a thicker penis at least. I can only have an orgasm if I am on top, and it would be great to be able to enjoy other positions. I have been able to have an orgasm with other men before I was married, who had larger penises so I know that's why. My husband & I do it in all kinds of positions, and of course he can orgasm no problem in every position. But I can't and it really sucks for me. But I know that not all women have this problem.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

A large penis is initially a turn on but is no the be all and end all.

My ex didnt have the largest penis. But he was really good with what he had. As we had a good sex life it didnt take much for him to keep it up. I had only been with him for the 9 years of my love life and had never exerienced any other penis before. When we broke up I met another bloke who penis was so much fatter than my exes and yes is really got me excited and when it was up it felt really good. But the downfall was that it took so much work to keep it up and I felt to tired of trying. I'd say I prefered my exes to this guys one. Comparing the two I think a combination of confidence, working your penis, loving the other person and pleasing her in other ways are more apealing and I would chose this over a larger penis.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

No way, so stop worrying and you will be fine.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

Yes, women see a big one and get all excited by their tendency to fantasize of being whipped and controlled by one.

It seems very few women are that excited by what a man has between his legs versus above his waste.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008):

Well I never think of penis size, lol...

It's more of a stereotype, I think. You know, when women are in a group of women they all joke and talk about big penises, just because it's fun to imagine, to talk, to joke about, etc. Same way as men like to talk about perfect women, or big breasts, when they're with their male friends. It's just a fun topic. I actually believe it's also made it's way into our culture by making us believe it's better because it sells more. Natural big penises and big breasts are rare, so the media takes advantage of this to make it the "it" sex appeal feature, thus making you believe it's more attractive, because they can sell products to make you believe you can achieve it.

But, really, even if women did fantasize about it, from what I've heard, it's not the greatest thing. Some claim it's better, these women are probably just saying so to brag because they feel insecure (just like some men who brag). Some won't care; a penis is a penis and as long as it stays up everything is fine (I'm one of them). And also, and you can find a lot of these on the internet, there are wone who actually seek help because their partner has a big penis and intercourse is anything but pleasurable; it's painful.

So don't worry, even if some women DO fantasize about it, truth is, fantasies are just that ;)

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A female reader, BigSis United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2008):

BigSis agony auntMe personally?...Well..size is good, yes....very good, but it's what you do with it that pleases me more, where is it you live again?

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