Five dates and his profile's still active? Should I move on?
Q. I met this guy online on an online dating site. After writing to each other for two days, we decided to meet. I really like him and we went on our fifth date last weekend. It has been four weeks since we started meeting each other. He has ne...
A. 20 July 2013: I would ask him....I think it is important. Not sure he would be honest enough at this stage of the game. If I was at date 5 the person I was with would certainly hear about my kids. They are my life. I love to talk about them. But I think it ... (read in full...)
Can a married man love his wife and mistress at the same time?
Q. Can a married man love his wife and mistress at the same time?...
A. 12 July 2013: Gosh that is a hard answer.....but if he is married and with you, I think the only person is loves is himself right now.
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Should we go seek counseling or it just makes no sense ? I found out he was cheating while I was pregnant
Q. how to deal with this situation ...had a baby for the man that i love dearly on October 1st of last year we were going through alot of problems which i had already made up my mind to deal with whatever problems we may encounter during our life ...
A. 12 July 2013: The comment you stated "the child is not his really" is suspicious. He should of stated "this baby is NOT mine!" End of story.
I think you need to get counseling. That is a huge commitment and to prolong the agony of being with someone who you ... (read in full...)
In love with my brother's girlfriend! every hug is agony for me
Q. Well, I thank I'm falling in love with my brother's Girl friend or do I just to much about her. I don't know why this is happening because, well she has hanged out more with my little brother, and my older brother more then we have hung out before ...
A. 12 July 2013: What are you thinking?!?!? It is your brother's girl!
I hope that you are getting professional help for this. It is obvious that she has been with your brother for awhile so this is a serious relationship. Ask yourself do you love your brother?... (read in full...)
I don`t want to cheat but I`d like some affection from my friend
Q. Ok heres the dilema, I'm married and have 2 kids. Years ago I met a guy who totally blew my world away, we only saw each other for a short time and were never intimate sexually. I had to break it off because my ex wanted me back in my life and ...
A. 11 July 2013: It seems to me you want to start off with kissing cuddling and draw the line there......that never happens. It always leads to more. YOU will want MORE!
You need to seriously think of your happiness, your husband (and yes any of the above is... (read in full...)
I finally told my girlfriend about all the concerns I've been holding back. Was I an idiot? Should I have just kept my mouth shut and carried on?
Q. My Long-term GF Leah and I have split up, at least for a while. We've been together just over 7 years now, had a couple of bumps down the road, but nothing we couldn't overcome. I met her in college the opposite side of the country where I'...
A. 9 July 2013: I think you did the right thing. In a loving and caring relationship you need to be able to communicate. A serious talk can bring everyone to tears. It is healthy.
If she has issues that need to be dealt with, encourage her to go to a counse... (read in full...)
Five dates and his profile's still active? Should I move on?
Q. I met this guy online on an online dating site. After writing to each other for two days, we decided to meet. I really like him and we went on our fifth date last weekend. It has been four weeks since we started meeting each other. He has ne...
A. 9 July 2013: Why did you remove your site? Did you think that you were dating and serious?
Put your site back up. You need to get out there with the rest of the fish. Yes, you may really like this guy but what if he doesn't feel the same. I would have con... (read in full...)
Is he playing it cool?
Q. Hi i have known a man 2 months now we went on a date 4 days ago and are planning a second one soon we really hit off or so i thought i text him yesterday to which i got a reply saying cant wait to see you again speak to you soon did he mean this or ...
A. 9 July 2013: You already sent him a text. Let him text you next. If he is really interested he will contact you. Keep yourself busy with your everyday life. Don't worry about him....cause he is not worried about you.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Does it matter that I'm not that physically attracted to him?
Q. hi. Im just looking for advice on dating someone ur not sexually attracted to?! iv met this lovely man, his nearly 17 yrs older than me but that isn't a problem for us. we get on rather well and i feel ifwe get together as an actual couple he would ...
A. 9 July 2013: Oh Man! You need to let this poor fella go! You are not interested in him with a relationship. Physical attraction and all the other stuff is a complete package. Don't waste your time.....or his. Let him go and move on.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
One night he got up and left and I never saw it coming, how do I get over him when we work together at the weekend?
Q. I need help! Just over a month ago my boyfriend who I had been with for ten months one night just got up and left! He came back the next day saying how sorry he was we spent the day together we slept together and then the next day... He had gone ...
A. 9 July 2013: Ohhhh I feel terrible for you. He is not for you. You need to focus on doing things for you. He did the right thing in telling you that he no longer loves you. You want someone who loves you. Who cares for you needs and feelings. You want ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend who broke up with me is back. What do I do?
Q. Short version: GF broke up with me 5 months ago, relationship wasn't going well but I was still wanting to continue, nothing unfixable. Took me a looooong time to start getting over her, but just had begun when I started "no contact". I still missed ...
A. 8 July 2013: Wow! I'm sorry to hear that. I'm so glad my guy has not contacted me. I would be weak and I would want to be with him in a affectionate (even sexual) way.
I really hope you are doing better and you have move on. I am feeling better. I still ... (read in full...)
Should I take a risk and go abroad to see him, even though he is involved with someone?
Q. I have had strong feelings for this since I was a teenager...he moved abroad and we kept in contact..he stated that he felt the same way as well...sometimes in my heart I feel like we are soul mates...but another part of me is scared that it is ...
A. 8 July 2013: I think you should go. You know that he is involved in a relationship. He lives miles and miles away. It is not like you are going to have a commitment.
You have to expectations that are realistic about the situation. I think the experien... (read in full...)
My parents are forcing me to chose either them or the girl!
Q. I'm 23, male. I met this mentally challenged girl (21 y.o.) about six months ago. Before I met her I was a very lonely person. I never had many friends. Those whom I trusted always betrayed me in some way or the other. This girl changed my life. She ...
A. 5 July 2013: On what level is the girl emotionally challenged? Are you taking advantage of the situation? Are you just so lonely and she is filling the void? This is a tough one to answer I would need to ask a lot of questions. You should attend a counsel... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped my because I wouldn't add her as a friend on Facebook.
Q. My Girlfriend dumped me because I wouldn't add her as my friend on Facebook. I don't understand what everyone's obsession over Facebook is. I like to keep my private life private. I think she is just too jealous. I don't feel I should have to add ...
A. 5 July 2013: I'm sure she is happier that she moved on. She can find a guy that wants to be apart of her life and every part of his.
I wish her luck!... (read in full...)
Was his mother texting me an accident?
Q. Today I received a text message from my exes mother. Alas it is a holiday so I am tempted to brush it off as coincidence or a mass text. However, my ex and I broke up last Halloween and never did I receive any mass texts on Thanksgiving, Christmas, ...
A. 5 July 2013: Don't reply. You said it yourself she is a schemer. You guys broke up for a reason. Don't look back keep moving forward.
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Should I let him stay in the motel with me?
Q. Hi, I'm dating this guy for 2 months now..I'm going to visit his city next week,and I'l be staying in a hotel and I think he would stay with me..but I don't know if we should stay together!obviously we wouldn't have sex its way too soon BUT should I...
A. 4 July 2013: You are seriously asking this question. You are mature enough to know where this is going to lead to.
Did you have a conversation with him telling him you are not ready to have sex? Did you tell him what your expectations are? Did he tell you... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman. Her husband knows and she broke it off saying she can't live with the lies!
Q. well were to start really, Actually I am rather a pathetic person and very weak I think. In January this year I met a very beautiful woman on a site for language exchange we got talking I knew she was married but unhappy. he is from Ukraine and...
A. 4 July 2013: James,
I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling with your situation. But you know what the right thing to do is. You need to stop communicating with her. You need to do, is keep yourself active with thoughts of other important people or thing... (read in full...)
Am so confused , I think there is this connection between I and my ex
Q. My heart has never felt so soft like this before in a long time , The last time i felt like this was 5 months back when my ex broke up with me. last month she has been trying to get in touch with me, but i refused to reply all her mails. I also ...
A. 4 July 2013: Your not confused. You are not in a relationship. You don't need to communicate in any form. Do NOT call her or hang out with her. You are not together and you both need to move on.
You are upset because you lost the connection of "seeing"... (read in full...)
I'm struggling to let go of my ex, she is my reason for living. I really need some advice pls?
Q. Would you allow your ex to move on to a new partner when you love them so much? They were everything and your entire reason for being here. 3 years I've tried everything to win her back. I've only ever loved her, I will only ever love her. The mo...
A. 4 July 2013: I'm sorry to hear that you think she is your reason for living. Your children need you more to be the stable dad and encourage them to grow up in a health home.
She is gone. You need to put your efforts into getting yourself healthy. You need... (read in full...)
I'm scared to go it alone. How do I get my confidence back?
Q. i'll try and keep this as short as possible but here goes... a few years back i stole a married man, yes it was wrong but it happened and we got together and made a go of it. however since we moved in together and most of the time things were ...
A. 4 July 2013: Listen you need to worry about you and your CHILD. Stop all the craziness and try and make it right. Leave move on. From your statements he is not committed to you. This is not a healthy relationship......for all involved. The unknown is scary... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to offer his sperm for IVF
Q. What do you all think about a woman having ivf at 45. I've always been waiting for the right moment and just out of another failed long term relationship and always wanted babies, always feel like I have missed out on that opportunity of being a ...
A. 3 July 2013: You are not old. I don't have a problem with you asking your ex, I just think you need to be prepared to do this alone.
You are mature enough to know what this takes. Time, money, commitment but most of all love and patience.
Do it! Good ... (read in full...)
Surely I'm worth an Engagement Ring.. Aren't I??
Q. I am going through such an emotional roller coaster right now, I am desperate for unbiased advise. My boyfriend and I have been together for going on 6 years. We long distance dating at the beginning but after about 6months I moved to be with him...
A. 3 July 2013: You have made many sacrifices to be with him. You have never said that he has quit his job and moved to another country to be with you. I think you have answered your own question. You are not that important to him. Your selfless ways and his ... (read in full...)
Four years of dating and he just dumped me! No explanation!
Q. My ex and I were together for four years. We were very serious camouflage our relationship. However,he dumped me three months ago. I don't even know why. I asked for closure yet he gave me nothing. He never contacted me after we broke up. I've been ...
A. 3 July 2013: I sorry that you have not received the closure you need. But really what he has to tell you, would it be good enough for you to hear?
I think guys have a much easier time moving on than females. I could be wrong but that is the way it appears.... (read in full...)
My friend thinks I'm spoiling my husband.
Q. Dear cupid My friend Debbie moved an hour and a half away a few years ago so we don't get to see each other as often as we use to. Debbie wants me to come and spent a weekend with her but my husband feels like why i cant just go and return ho...
A. 2 July 2013: Sorry but it sounds like your husband is a BIG baby. Why wouldn't he encourage you to spend time with your girlfriend. When you go away for a couple of days you come home relaxed, appreciating your loved ones.
More info may be needed here but... (read in full...)
Cheating casual relationship goes wrong.
Q. OK I'm not innocent and I know this, but I have been seeing a guy off and on for about 3 years who has a girlfriend. At first he didn't tell me about her and I soon found out and ended the casual relationship. Last year he got back in contact with ...
A. 1 July 2013: You need to move on. Your "relationship" was not a relationship. He used you and you used him. He used you for sex and you used him because of your fear of being alone.
This was not a healthy relationship. Do not worry about him. You need... (read in full...)
After 4 years silence and no support, my son's dad and his family want to get involved .... how should I handle this?
Q. I had my son when I was 17 and his father has never been around. We were not in a relationship, it was more friends with benefits. I wasn't surprised he didn't want to play a part but I was hurt. I struggled like mad, and only this year have I been ...
A. 29 June 2013: To the male that responded about legal issues of who is the father. You need to get legal advise from a lawyer. A male friend of mine had the exact issue. He went to a lawyer as he didn't want to lose his child....a child by choice not DNA. His ... (read in full...)
He said he is not ready, should I wait or move on?
Q. Dear Cupid, It all started a few weeks ago. I started talking to this boy i knew back in school. I'm 26 now, he is 27. We went out for coffee on the first date, then a week later for coffee and lunch. He started getting extra attentive and we w...
A. 27 June 2013: I don't think you should right this guy off. But I also don't think you should be sitting at home waiting for him either.
Go out and date, if you want. Keep yourself busy. If he really wants you, he will come back and continue the relation... (read in full...)
He gave me chlamydia and wasn't upfront with me about it. Is withholding information the same as lying?
Q. I'm 3 months pregnant and through the series of required blood tests, I tested positive for chlamydia. Totally shocked, I told my bf what the doc said and asked if there was anything he needed to tell me (I tested negative at my last visit in ...
A. 26 June 2013: I think he needs to be up front and honest with you. You and your baby's health should not only be a huge consideration for you, but also him. Your boyfriend sounds pretty immature. I don't think he is going to get any better. It appears just ... (read in full...)
She left me because I don't want kids
Q. I've been with the same girl for 12 years. She would like to have a baby. I really don't want kids. She has left me now to carry on with her life. It was a really painfull breakup. And I feel really guilty about my choises. She chose me to have a ...
A. 26 June 2013: There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids. But if you truly love your ex you need to let her go. She has made a decision that is important to her, respect it.
I also respect your decision. You don't want kids. There is nothing wrong wi... (read in full...)
Why is my ex contacting me and even wanting to have a pajama party??
Q. I havn't seen my ex boyfriend who dumped and left me alone in another state for nearly 3 months though he has phoned me regularly like once a week since leaving. I have now returned to the same state as him and been here for 3 weeks. He has done ...
A. 25 June 2013: Stop answering his calls....don't have a sleep over...don't drop his stuff off.
He left you. He doesn't really want you.
Delete all contact with him.... (read in full...)
I went through a bad break up. When will I be me again?
Q. I just need some words of wisdom I guess... I'm a bit embarrassed that I need to come online and ask people who don't know me, but just because I'm pretty sure my friends are sick listening to me. Maybe I just need to vent? I don't know.. I always ...
A. 25 June 2013: Ok that is a lot to deal with. You need to terminate the relationship. It is unhealthy. You will never grow as a person if you have someone who doesn't support you, love you and care for you. You want someone who is going to encourage you to do ... (read in full...)
How long will it take me to heal after the break up?
Q. i was involved with a married woman to make a long story short she was a few years older and ive come to relise she used me in the 6 months we were together we broke up in april and i was a wreck shatterd you could say but me being me wanting her in ...
A. 24 June 2013: Hey Friend. I was there with you......I lost my love a little over a year ago. I was paralyzed with my thoughts, loneliness. He was all I thought about. To this day I miss him dearly. I still have tough moments but I handle it much better
You n... (read in full...)
Do I leave my b/f alone for a night to go out with my friends? No males are invited!
Q. Hi. Currently I’m away at my uni town, and am planning on going home for 2 weeks with my boyfriend who is from my uni town. A group of my best/longest friends from home want to meet up, but they don’t want any boys to be there. One of the girls I’...
A. 24 June 2013: Oh my God! go out with your girlfriendss. One thing I have learned in life is that they will always be there and he may not.
I have two besties. I would be so lonely without them. We make a date night a month. We leave our husbands at home.... (read in full...)
After 4 years silence and no support, my son's dad and his family want to get involved .... how should I handle this?
Q. I had my son when I was 17 and his father has never been around. We were not in a relationship, it was more friends with benefits. I wasn't surprised he didn't want to play a part but I was hurt. I struggled like mad, and only this year have I been ...
A. 23 June 2013: I'm not going to "beat you up" over this. I think you did a great job raising your son, as for your boyfriend being your son's father.....to me he is. He has been the one to love, care and support him. You don't need DNA to be a loving, caring ... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with my older brothers girl friend
Q. Well let's start of by saying that I'm falling in love with my older brothers girl friend, I don't know why. But I just started to feel some thing for her. I don't know what it is because, I don't wan't to say it to her because I might p off my ...
A. 23 June 2013: You need to back off. Dude, it is your brother's girl. You have your own ideas. I think you are looking for trouble if you do anything with this gal. Your love for your brother should tell you that.
As for the other girl. That takes time. D... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong of me to contact her, considering my position as a teacher/adult in her life?
Q. I used to student teach at a local high school. While there, i fell head over heels for a junior (now an upcoming senior) in one of my classes. Over the past month, after my internship finished, i found myself falling more and more for her, and...
A. 23 June 2013: What are you crazy! She is too young to even be considered for a relationship. I don't care what religion you are. You will be costing your career that you have worked so hard for. Don't make that mistake. She is not worth it.
... (read in full...)
How can I forget about this lady?
Q. hello everyone, i need help or advice about my situation. well it's been 2 years now since i met this lady, she lives long way away from where i live, last year i told her about my feeling to her in the phone, and she didn't say anything at all. wel...
A. 22 June 2013: I was into a guy so hard that last year this time when we separated I was paralized. I couldn't focus on anything. Last year was a blurrrrr. Seriously I couldn't think, eat, sleep....I was numb. I'm twice your age. I don't care what sex/age you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants a threesome. How do I handle this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, and have a great, caring, passionate relationship together. We often go out on a date night, go to our friends parties, etc together. Although neither of us are eachother's first long-term relati...
A. 21 June 2013: If you have a great relationship DON'T DO IT.... this will change everything and not for the better. Don't do it to please him, that my sister you will regret.
Respect how you feel. ... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but need to know how he feels he has a g/f!
Q. Hello! So I'm a bit confused. I am still interested in my ex boyfriend. Every new guy that I meet reminds me how much I want my ex. Recently I met up with my ex for dinner. It was nice to see him. We talked a lot- about random things and about wh...
A. 21 June 2013: Tell him how you feel. Don't let this opportunity go....you will regret it!
You only live once. Life is too short. Just respect that he is new a relationship. Do not do anything foolish and respect yourself!
... (read in full...)
Am I using him? Am I worthless?
Q. I want to know if I am out of line. My husband and I have been married for 6 years now he has three kids and I have three . We only have four of the kids living with us because his two older children are adults. I work four months of t...
A. 21 June 2013: I think your husband is being unfair to you. I don't think he appreciates all that you around the house and taking care of the kids. That is a big job and you are NEVER off duty! What an A$$HOLE! I have to say, I could not have a job myse... (read in full...)
To move or not to move?
Q. I yet again turn to you dear agony aunties and uncles. I am a 33 year old women who lives at home with her parents. My family has certain rules that I have to follow, they are not comfortable with me coming home late (my mother basically stays ...
A. 18 June 2013: You have stated an interesting statement regarding you are now sober. First of all congrats to you for that HUGE accomplishment. What I'm wondering is, did you do something to your parents to make them not trust you? upset them in your decision ... (read in full...)
What to make of a woman who has confusing behavior
Q. I've been giving (hopefully useful) advice on Dear Cupid for a while, now I have a question myself. When I walk my dog I occassionally bump into this woman jogging. This has happened at least five times. The first time she actually saw me havi...
A. 18 June 2013: If your interested in her....then ask to meet up for coffee.... (read in full...)
How can I forget about this lady?
Q. hello everyone, i need help or advice about my situation. well it's been 2 years now since i met this lady, she lives long way away from where i live, last year i told her about my feeling to her in the phone, and she didn't say anything at all. wel...
A. 18 June 2013: You seem to be doing all the right things. I think you need to delete her number, facebook, and email. Block them from yours. Go cold turkey!
All wounds take time to heal. Some are deeper than others. I wish there was a simpler answer. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend who broke up with me is back. What do I do?
Q. Short version: GF broke up with me 5 months ago, relationship wasn't going well but I was still wanting to continue, nothing unfixable. Took me a looooong time to start getting over her, but just had begun when I started "no contact". I still missed ...
A. 8 June 2013: Hey! How are you doing? Not sure if you are still checking your spot here but I was thinking of you and hoping you are still sticking to your "guns".
Have you been able to keep yourself busy? Most importantly, have you stayed away?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend who broke up with me is back. What do I do?
Q. Short version: GF broke up with me 5 months ago, relationship wasn't going well but I was still wanting to continue, nothing unfixable. Took me a looooong time to start getting over her, but just had begun when I started "no contact". I still missed ...
A. 16 May 2013: It is almost a year for me from my break up with my boyfriend. The first couple of months were terrible. I couldn't sleep focus on work focus on my thoughts. It has gotten easier. I'm so glad he hasn't contacted me. I'm not sure I'm strong enough to ... (read in full...)
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