Do I owe it to my ex to give it another try?
Q. I broke up with my bf of four years about five months ago. We had a volatile relationship on both ends and even though I loved him, I was glad it was over. I felt free again. I started dating someone new about six weeks ago and we get on really...
A. 4 September 2014: Remember you broke up for a reason. You said yourself this relationship is volatile.
You need to cut all ties with him. You have moved on and you yourself stated you are in a happier place. You going back would be at a moment of weakness... (read in full...)
I had an affair with a younger man and I wanted to hurt his girlfriend so I told her about what we did. I thought this would break them but they're back together. What do I do now?
Q. I've been very stupid. 6 weeks ago I started to talk to a man 11 years younger than myself, he was at work when I met him and I asked for his number for a job that I needed doing in my home. I text him and it started off innocently, I ne...
A. 2 September 2014: Do not contact her......your contact is only hurting her and that is not serving any good purpose.
Do not contact him.......he was interested in using you for sex.
You had your time with him. Big the mature lady that you are and move on.
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Why am I very very sexually attracted to my x brother in law?
Q. I'm very unhappily married, I recently separated. I have an x brother in law, my husband's sisters x husband I have become very sexually attracted to. I fully intend to ask him for sex. Sex or the lack of really wasn't a problem for me until I ...
A. 1 September 2014: Just do it! You and he are not with anyone. Just remember that this is just a sexual thing....not a relationship. Very hard to separate!
Good Luck:)
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How do I handle my best friend who is convinced that I had sex with her husband when this is not true?
Q. My best friend of 35 yrs has accused me and her husband of having affair. We never had a misunderstanding not once .her husband texted me about 3:45 am one morning asking me to listen to him. He and my bestfriend had been arguing so he wanted me...
A. 1 September 2014: My best friend of over 20 years is also a best friend of my husband. How could she not be. I'm glad they have a relationship. I wouldn't think that my husband and best friend where having an affair. That is crazy.
She is unstable and you ... (read in full...)
Please advice me on how to make the separation and divorce as painless as possible for my son
Q. Hello aunts and uncles. Ive been married for 5 years. My husband cheated on me. He doesnt know why. To be honest Internet dont wanna hear it either. Maybe life was too perfect and he got bored. His own fault. He sleeps in the guest room until I can ...
A. 1 September 2014: I get it.....your angry....he did the ultimate betrayal. Just remember your actions of how you are towards your ex will be felt by your son.
Everything you do and not say...is a reflection of your emotions. Be careful children are sponges ... (read in full...)
Was this a platonic response or is there more to it?
Q. I am friends with a man through an acquaintance of mine and most of our conversations have been work related (although glances and smiles between us have indicated otherwise and there might be an unspoken attraction). The other day I confirmed my ...
A. 28 August 2014: Why at your age are you waiting for him to ask you out. Ask him for a drink if you are interested. Stop playing the waiting game. It's silly.
Have fun at your event!... (read in full...)
I've fallen for her but I'm afraid if I push it she'll walk away
Q. Ok so before I ask for advice a lil background on my female friend. Ten years ago we had a short relationship she was 19 I was 21 and she was my friends lil sister. She ended up breaking it off to see someone else, ten years later we become best ...
A. 25 August 2014: Yikes......You have feelings for this girl. You can't be FWBs. FWBs is a relationship that is just for sex. To me a FWBs is not a friendly relationship just a sexual act. Nothing less nothing more.
Someone is going to get hurt....... (read in full...)
I cant talk or text the friend I love!
Q. im in a friendship with a guy i love ever since we met and i dont know what to do because hes in a drug program that prevents me from talking to him and texsting him and i love him so much it hurts but my question is what should i do about this ...
A. 23 August 2014: You are thinking about your needs when your friend whom you state you love is trying to improve himself.
Stop being so selfish. Think of his needs. He is fighting a battle to live a happy normal productive life.
I don't think your good ... (read in full...)
We want a boy but I don't want my husband to be disappointed if it isn't
Q. Hello! I am 12 weeks pregnant, due in March 2015! My husband wants, a little boy, therefore I do to. I even talk to my stomach as if I were having a boy. But lately I have had a lot of anxiety inside me. I am so worried that, I will have a girl, I ...
A. 22 August 2014: All I want to say is that I was pregnant 8 TIMES! I have two children. I didn't care whether they were a boy and a girl! I just wanted a happy, healthy baby girl or boy! I have been blessed with both.
There are not too many gifts that are give... (read in full...)
How can I love her but hate the idea of dating her?
Q. I could really use some insight on why I am having suck mixed feeling about my relationship. Back in February my friend and started working out a new local gym that opened. Being guys we checked out the younger girls there. There was this one you...
A. 9 August 2014: Yikes! You are old enough to be her dad! Sorry, but that to me, is creepy.
What do you possibly have in common with a 20 year old girl? She is on a totally different level than you. You LOVE her! Yikes again! You can't help who you fall in ... (read in full...)
What's the deal with my B/f and his co-worker? And how do I rekindle the communication between us?
Q. Hi Everyone, I need some advice. Recently, I went to visit my boyfriend at work, and one of this co-workers made it obvious that she likes him. I became frustrated with her giggling and cut my visit short. After I left his job our communication ...
A. 5 August 2014: As you go through life someone will be interested in your partner from on time or an other. It is up to you on how you handle it.
Just because this co worker is interested in him doesn't mean he is interested in her.
You are the one that... (read in full...)
Are we crazy for moving in our son's girlfriend, to help keep her away from her abusive father?
Q. My wife and I and getting lots of grieve from family friends regarding a decision we made with our only son who ism20. He still lives at home during the summer and goes away ( 1.5hours from home) for school. He comes home most weekends. He has been ...
A. 5 August 2014: Who cares what your family and friends think! You are doing the right thing. This girl turned to you in her desperate hour. I applaud you and your wife. I believe it is up to all us adults to raise "our" children to be good and happy adults.
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My anger is turning into depression - I want my husband to leave
Q. I have been married for four years. My husband has been emotionally abusive. He ignores me, wants me to plead for attention, for sex, calls me a whore, tells me he cant kiss me because am disgusting and all sorts of stuff. I have kids, and he does ...
A. 5 August 2014: You don't own the house.....tell him your sister is going to sell the house, she has offered it to another family member who is suffering financially to get out.
When a person becomes depressed it is hard to focus your mind on what your needs ar... (read in full...)
My best friend has left but I can't seem to move on.
Q. We were friends for only a year, but in that year alone, I feel I have been through more with her than a girl I have dated for 2. Her personality was lively. Her smile radiant and her sense of humor contagious. I did try asking her to date me but ...
A. 3 August 2014: I'm sorry to hear that your friend has moved. It sound like a get friendship. it is true some of the best marriages are base on that friendship.
I liked that she was honest with you. She needed to work on herself before getting involved... (read in full...)
Just engaged, everything was great..... until the ex contacted me!
Q. I have recently become engaged to my boyfriend of nearly two years, and everyone has wished us luck and congratulated us. We have decided to have a winter wedding as our birthdays are both near Christmas and everything was falling into place. But ...
A. 3 August 2014: We are always wanting what we can't have. Forget the message. You are happy with your new life and looking forward to the future with your husband to be. you broken up for a reason. Remember that.
If you truly don't love your guy. Let him ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got mad at me for sending a Happy Birthday messsage on Facebook
Q. My girlfriend got mad at me for sending a Happy Birthday message to a girl I used to do sexting with on Facebook. She says she dosen't want to see me anymore , what should I do ? I don't see the big deal ! All I said was happy Birthday. My ...
A. 3 August 2014: Why did it have to be a private message? Were you hoping for a return message with more from her?
I'm sorry, but I agree with your GF. I'm not a jealous person but your behaviour appears odd. I don't have a problem with my guy having female c... (read in full...)
Overwhelmed. How can I speak my mind? How can I find more life satisfaction?
Q. I'm extremely overwhelmed. I am married with 3 kids ages 5 and under. I'm a stay at home mom and i do everything!! Cooking, cleaning, taking care of everyone and i feel like i have completely lost myself. I used to have hobbies and a life and i j...
A. 2 August 2014: You do deserve a break. Your husband needs to listen. Taking care of 3 kids under 5 is exhausting. You husband may work but when he comes home from his job he is on shut down mode. Your job is 24/7! Have you checked out the local programs f... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to get this relationship back on track?
Q. I met a woman on a dating site and we hit it off so well we that we took our conversations offline and started texting. After a week she deleted her account on the dating site and I just never bothered with mine again. After 2 weeks we had arr...
A. 26 July 2014: You really like her?? You don't even know her. There are so many things that are wrong on both sides of this "relationship". Chalk this up to experience and move on.... (read in full...)
Why won't he kiss me passionately?
Q. I v been dating a man for a few weeks . Its obvious that we find each other attractive and hug ,hold hands and we have kissed but not a passionate kiss it felt like a peck of endearment . So my question is why wont he kiss me passionately ? ...
A. 20 July 2014: Why are you not making the move? Take the bull by the horns and give him a kiss to remember.
Take control!... (read in full...)
I want to be doubly sure that my behaviour around my baby sister is appropriate
Q. Okay so I am female and 13 years old, and she's still just a little one, six months old. I was wondering if it is appropriate to kiss your little sister on the cheek/forehead? We had a family member living with us years ago that attempted to molest ...
A. 20 July 2014: Baby wants to feel loved.....you are doing just that. If you feel confused about your feelings speak with an adult you trust. ... (read in full...)
I'm finding it very hard to cope with my marriage ending and need advice from others who had to start over following a divorce
Q. I'm starting over at the age of 25. I had everything. A husband, a house, planning for children. We are getting a divorce after only a year and a half of marriage. I feel embarrassed it was so short. I feel terrified of starting over. I feel old ...
A. 20 July 2014: So happy for you!... (read in full...)
Will it get easier, will I get over him?
Q. Hi im feeling very confused right now, I finished with my ex, my daughter's dad 2 and half years ago, over his lies and drink problem, he finally sorted himself out etc and he sees our daughter every other weekend, I have been filled with anger ...
A. 5 July 2014: First of all he is with someone else. How confusing is that for your 6 year old daughter. I think he needs to break free and give himself time.
So your saying that if you guys try and it fails your daughter will NEVER get over it. I don't li... (read in full...)
Who shall I choose? My long term partner? Or the married guy from work whose wife treats him badly?
Q. I've been engaged for 6 months to a man who has doted on me for the last 4 years. He literally would do absolutely anything for me. We have a wonderful life together...we always cuddle, text, call, miss each other and go travelling lots, his hous...
A. 23 June 2014: WOW! You are really jumping in with both feet. Stop, take a breath and focus on what you need to do for YOU. Break away from both of them. From what you write neither of these relationships sound healthy. You have sex with one and financially ... (read in full...)
Why is he looking for sex so soon?
Q. Boyfriend needs a break to figure things out between us. Together nearly two years and plans to buy a house next year. Great sex, got along real well. Just one argument come up over the time we were together. Anyway had one massive row about this ...
A. 21 June 2014: WOW! Not sure I would want a "committed" relationship with this guy. I wouldn't want to buy a house with him. What happens if you guys have a "little" break down again when you are living together. Will that mean a break and some sexual activity ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I still miss my ex a year after we broke up?
Q. My ex and I broke up last year. I was miserable the first few months. I still cry if I think about how I spent those days. We were together for 3 years. Some people say that it takes half time of the relationship to heal. I'm putting the pieces of ...
A. 21 June 2014: I know how you feel....but it is over two years and I still miss him. When we broke up he had a girlfriend living in our house 2 weeks later!!! He has moved on and I'm still missing him. What a waste of my time.
I do all kinds of things t... (read in full...)
I'm obsessing over his new wife and I don't know how to stop.
Q. I know before a write this that people are going to think i'm pathetic but i feel like i have nobody i can talk to about how i'm feeling. Long story short, i was in a sort of FWB situation that ended about 2 years ago. I was the one to end it ev...
A. 21 June 2014: I know how you feel. I know the pain of wanting to be with someone and you can't.
You have done all the right things. You need to continue to move forward. He doesn't have the right to hold onto your heart. Give yourself the time to heal and... (read in full...)
Unwanted attention from an old guy at the restaurant
Q. Hello, This isn't really a relationship question but I need advice. I have 30 minute lunch breaks every time I work more than a 6 hour shift, which is about 4 days a week. Around my work, there's no where to really eat. We have a Dunkin Don...
A. 21 June 2014: Weirdos get to know your routine. He knows the time you are there, and what table you always sit at. Change your routine. Go somewhere else to eat, change your time (if you can), take your lunch to go. Or put on your big girl panties and tell ... (read in full...)
I've been having sex with other men with my husband's consent. Anyone else been there, done that? Has it worked out for you?
Q. I have been having sex with other men because it is a turn on for my husband and he wants me to do it. At first I thought that this was some kind of entrapment scheme he was getting me into but I soon found out he was serious. The first few ...
A. 12 June 2014: Is your husband sleeping with other woman....are you ok if he wanted to be with other woman. What if you husband told you to stop and he was going to continue.....
I think it will end up hurting you all in the end.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is refusing to get an STI test
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship although we have been friends for many years. We are trying to figure out if we want to move to the same country and make a go of things and will plan to spend a month together soon. My problem ...
A. 12 June 2014: Why can`t he use condoms.......Is he scared. I think you need to communicate a little better.
I think you are being reasonable. I think he has an issue. Just stick to your guns. There maybe a bigger issue than he is telling you.
Good Lu... (read in full...)
I mentioned my ex and now this man has blocked me
Q. When I was in college a guy lived next door and I lived there until the end of college and moved and he went to michigan we were just friends and neighbors. He came into town not to long ago and low and behold his aunt is next door that he was ...
A. 12 June 2014: So he was gone for 2 weeks and there was no other way of contacting you.......odd. That would tell me that he lacks some manners.
But hey, you are there and know more. Good Luck!
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How do you know if it's going to be just FWBs or lead to something else? I want to avoid being used!
Q. This is a general question which I'm sure will have varied opinions but I'm asking because of situations I've been in which I just don't know how I could have prevented. I'm going to use the classic girl / boy situation because it seems the most ...
A. 4 June 2014: Ok you want people's opinion, guidance and assistance...but tell us what not to tell you. Confusing.
So having a healthy, loving and caring relationship you don't tell your person of interest what you hope to achieve from this relation... (read in full...)
I mentioned my ex and now this man has blocked me
Q. When I was in college a guy lived next door and I lived there until the end of college and moved and he went to michigan we were just friends and neighbors. He came into town not to long ago and low and behold his aunt is next door that he was ...
A. 29 May 2014: Count your lucky stars that you got to see this side of him NOW. Move on and don't look back. He sounds like is has insecurity problems and lack of maturity with his emotions.
Do you want that in your life?......I don't think so.
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I am planning on having sex outside my marriage
Q. Hello. I have been trying to ask this question for a few times because i am facing a situation in which i am undecided. I will talk honestly. Well i am married since 10 years. I have always loved to appreciate beautiful women. I particularly ...
A. 25 May 2014: You are making this BIGGEST mistake of your life!
Does your wife know that you plan on doing this? Is she ok with it?
You are going to cause much undo stress on you, your wife, your family, your job for a moment of satisfaction. I... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been texting a much younger man
Q. Here is a the concern two weeks ago I found out that girl I have been dating for five years and living with four and a half was texting a younger man. I found this out one night awhile she was sleeping with phone still in her hand. The text were ...
A. 25 May 2014: This is a problem. You checking her phone and emails is also a problem. I understand why you did this but I would be unhappy with you.
Sit down and have a conversation with her. Seek counselling for your relationship. Tell her how you feel. B... (read in full...)
I'm falling for one of my best friends ....
Q. Been friends for a few years. Last year and a bit we've become really close. We do everything together, always hangout, close with her family. I've never had feelings for her, until a month ago. Do I tell her? I don't know if she feels the same...
A. 25 May 2014: That sounds like a great friendship. With great friendship can lead to a great couple. Sometimes you have to take the chance and tell her you have feelings for her. You will never know if she is feeling the same until you talk. Tell her that you ... (read in full...)
My clock is ticking and I want a baby!
Q. I want a baby and I am dating a guy who is 7 years younger than me, i'm nearly 39 and he is just approaching 32 and we have been on and off for over a year but it was just sex that turned into something more but only the last 2 months we have been ...
A. 25 May 2014: What a tough decision you have to make. You have to decide what is most important to you. Not once did you say you love this man and he is all you want.
I have two children and I have to say I was not prepared for them. I don't you really k... (read in full...)
The ex stayed with the family for the funeral so why not me?
Q. Hi So I am after some opinions as to whether I am over analysing things and being silly or if I am right to feel upset. I am new to this site and so am expecting there may be some readers who will judge me pretty harshly but that's ok, maybe I dese...
A. 25 May 2014: You are over reacting. The ex was apart of that family and in the support of a loved one dying it is nice to have all to comfort each other.
Your boyfriend wanted you to come....YOU were uncomfortable. He wanted you at his side you chose no... (read in full...)
I broke off the flirtation because we're both committed to others, but how do I move on?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been on and off in friendship zone with a married guy for over 3 yrs now. He likes me and i like him too. We are very attracted to each other but we can't do anything about it. I haven't seen him for 2 years now coz he moved...
A. 17 May 2014: Do not tell your partner. It will only hurt him and cause undo stress. You have stopped your unhealthy habits with this married man. It will serve no purpose.
I do think you need to move on. You are wasting your partner's time and energy. ... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from these friendships or try to save them?
Q. This is more of a friends question than relationship advice but I hope you can help. I introduced my married female friend to my single male friend on a casual night out before Christmas (along with other people I might add). Fast forward 2 weeks ...
A. 17 May 2014: You need to get over it. It has nothing to do with you. Basicly it is none of your business.
Please don't get me wrong what they did is wrong and hurt someone deeply. I have learned from my own experiences that you can't instil your ethics i... (read in full...)
I am not a needy person but I feel like I need an explanation. HELP!
Q. Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice on this one as myself and all my close friends are stumped! Basically I met this guy last summer and we were meeting for about 2 months. He initiated everything but he told me that he had literally just ...
A. 6 May 2014: He sounds unstable to me. He needs to get over his personal issues before getting into a relationship. I wouldn't get involved with him. Friendships work both ways. It is not a one way street.
There are so many people out there to meet and... (read in full...)
He always wants sex
Q. Okay, so my boyfriend won't stop trying to have sex, we can never stay in a just watch a dvd, he always trys it on, and I tell him no but he will carry on until he gets it, should I say something? Thanks ...
A. 6 May 2014: This is not a healthy relationship. If your boyfriend loves and respects you he would listen to NO. You also need to be more accretive. It sounds like he doesn't care about you as a person but more as a sex toy.
Respect yourself and tell him... (read in full...)
I'm finding it very hard to cope with my marriage ending and need advice from others who had to start over following a divorce
Q. I'm starting over at the age of 25. I had everything. A husband, a house, planning for children. We are getting a divorce after only a year and a half of marriage. I feel embarrassed it was so short. I feel terrified of starting over. I feel old ...
A. 9 August 2013: I'm sorry you are going through a divorce. Starting anything new and going it alone is scary. The first year of divorce is hard. It is a lot of first and not knowing what to do with yourself.
What about support from family? Friends? How abou... (read in full...)
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