Don't want drama. Have not talked to FWB since condom broke. So how do I tell him I'm pregnant?
Q. Soo I feel really stupid here but I don't know what to do.... I was in this FWB things for a couple months we used condoms but had an incident when one broke and 9 weeks later here I am pregnant. Problem is I haven't talked to him since the condom b...
A. 16 November 2013: Wow! I'm sure you are feeling scared and alone.
Tell him what is going on. He needs to know. Just be prepared to be a single mom if you choose to have this baby.
I wish you all the luck in the World!... (read in full...)
Do I break-up and run? My BF engages in self destructive behaviour and I think I deserve better.
Q. I have posted here before and your advice has always helped me make it through bad times. My boyfriend of a year has driven drunk for most of his adult life he exhibits other self destructive behaviors. Says he likes risk. I have spoken t...
A. 16 November 2013: Do you think this kind of behaviour will change? Do you think he would be a good example of who to treat a women. Or treat you as a mother of his children?
I think you know the answer. I would not reply and I would (as hard as it is) move for... (read in full...)
He was the right person at the wrong time! I want him back!
Q. 4 years ago, I met this awesome man, who's all loving and caring, but the problem is, he came in the wrong time. At that time i was already with another man, I had to choose between him and the man i was currently with. Unfortunately, i made the ...
A. 16 November 2013: You are missing something that should of, would of, could of been a great relationship two years ago!
I think you are missing having someone there. This guy has changed, and so have you. You need to move on and build a new life for yourself... (read in full...)
Missing my LDR. Should I book a ticket to see him at Christmas? Or make him wait?
Q. What should I do? I miss him so much:(? So I'm in LDR with my boyfriend. He's the most sweetest and romantic guy I've ever been with. and his body is just amazing!! I trust him, and out married friends set us up so I trust them and him. We'v...
A. 16 November 2013: Have you been with him long? How far does he live away from you? How long have you dated before this?
You really haven't given alot of info. ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of paying for her daughter's clothes!
Q. Ok, my girlfriend and I have been with each other for 10 months but are not living together. She has a 11 year old daughter from a previous marriage living with her. When she takes her daughter with us shopping I'm expected to pay. When I complain ...
A. 14 November 2013: I think your girlfriend is a little off.....why would you be paying for her daughter's clothes? Why do you do it?
I would never ask my bf to pay for my kids clothes whether we were living together or not. I would rather him take on a positive... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slapped me across the face, was it my fault?
Q. My boyfriend slapped me across the face, was it my fault? My boyfriend has Bipolar Disorder. He drinks a lot sometimes, and this annoys me, whether he is being annoying when he is drunk or not. Sometimes, he is hyper and happy when he is drunk...
A. 10 November 2013: This is an abusive relationship. Move on. This is unhealthy and will do nothing to promote a happy life for your future. Do NOT contact him. ... (read in full...)
I said a terrible thing, and now it's over. What can I do to get him back?
Q. I said a terrible thing but I think the reaction of my long time boyfriend is way too much. We live together for 7 years and have 1 child together, our daughter is 6.5. We are young professionals, love each other or so I thought, and we are overa...
A. 9 November 2013: I think you have had some deep thoughtful answers. The small of this, and yes want you said was small and to the point. It was not hurtful.
You need to get a grip of your situation for you and your daughter. You need to start making clear pl... (read in full...)
Should I try to clear up the misunderstanding?
Q. I recently took an adult-ed class in my town. I have the strong feeling that this woman in the class thinks I'm a freak or something but I'm really not. For one thing, she said to me that she had lost my e-mail address and when I said we could still ...
A. 7 November 2013: Why do you care what she thinks about you? Are you concerned what other people in the class think about you?
Why are you so interested in her?
Stay away from her. She sounds a bit unstable. I think she could casue you damage to your r... (read in full...)
My friend and my husband are flrting and texting. Please help!
Q. My friend and my husband have been flirting with each other for some time. Texting each other a lot. Her son is also a friend of my son so the situation is very delicate. I noticed my husband watching her if we were in company and following her ...
A. 6 November 2013: Hey Ruby, I'm sorry you are going through this. I can feel your worries and pain in your question. I think you need to tell you husband your worries. Be straight, and be honest. I'm sure your husband is loving the attention from the ot... (read in full...)
Boys - Should I call him first?
Q. I was abroad for a year when I met a man who I fell for. He left before me - and we both live in the same city but didn't want to do long distance. I recently came back and wrote to him saying it would be nice to catch up. I got an email straight ...
A. 6 November 2013: Get on the horn and call him.....you are old friends and you are catching up. If it leads to more that's great. ... (read in full...)
Is dripping in sweat normal when you both have sex together??
Q. My boyfriend and I are dripping in sweat when we have sex together. I mean, it is as if somebody sprayed a hose on both of us. Dripping wet in tons and tons of sweat!! Lol Is this NORMAL at all? And... we usually fog up all the windows ...
A. 3 November 2013: WOW!!! Get IT on! Enjoy.... (read in full...)
Does this mean she wants a threesome?
Q. Hey guys and gals I am new here and just have a question about my sex life with my girlfriend I was wondering I can get your thoughts on. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 years now. Shes the mother of my two kids 4 and 7 months. Been through...
A. 3 November 2013: Dirty talk and actually doing it are two different things.
You thinking that her sucking on your finger is another guys penis is in your mind, not hers.
A fantasy is best at being a fantasy!... (read in full...)
Should you reveal what you did in the past?
Q. What does everyone think about revealing a shameful episode of cheating on a previous partner to a future partner? If cheating took place in a long , supposedly committed relationship, and went on for a few months then is this something that n...
A. 3 November 2013: Don't tell him. It is in your past. Somethings are best not to be spoken about.
I think it is a lesson you have learned not to do again.
Move on and don't look back!
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
My boss/manager is so hot! What do I do?
Q. Okay so I started a new job and the guy who interviewed me was so hot. It just so happens that he is the manager, head hancho in charge if the top top people aren't there, and MY department manager In the department store. I always see him a...
A. 3 November 2013: I worked in a male profession. I had lots to look at and lots to dream about. I enjoyed every moment.
Just don't cross the line. It adds confusion to your job and life. Where it was once an enjoyment it becomes hated!... (read in full...)
Do I tell this online man that I was being coached on what to say to him?
Q. Hi everyone, I just started chatting with a guy online who is a Marine. I consider myself fairly intelligent but when it comes to knowing things about being in the service, I don't know anything. My ex-husband talked to me about him. He also knows ...
A. 3 November 2013: I think it is great that you and your ex are friends and he is very supportive. It would be no different if I had called a girlfriend or one of my guy friends to assist me in a conversation or seek advice. I think you are making a big deal about ... (read in full...)
What goes through a 16 year old girl's head? I'm 21 and not sure
Q. Hello everyone(: So there's this girl, she's 16 Then there's me, I'm 21. One day on Facebook she posted a sad status about how her ex done her wrong so I messaged her and told her to keep her head up because one day she would find a guy who would ...
A. 3 November 2013: How can you say "save the illegal speech"? You have to understand the possiblilities for your actions. Is she worth you losing your future because you like her and she is cool? You could cause yourself alot of harm and heartache.
If you do l... (read in full...)
Why does she text me and say she misses me but she won't go out with me?
Q. I've known this woman for 15 years. She texted me and says that she misses me. I asked her out, I have tried calling her. All I ever get each day is a text message saying good morning and that she misses me. I should just walk away. She doesn't go ...
A. 3 November 2013: I find it strange too. I understand you know her for 15 years but is she in a relationship and she is keeping you on the side?
I would walk away. You are wasting your time. Don't respond to her. She is playing with you.... (read in full...)
Why did this gal ask me for sex on our first date?
Q. I met a woman on a dating site for serious relationships, which I am seeking. After some brief emails and a phone chat we made a dinner date. We met at a nice resturant and spent a nice hour talking about ourselves, nothing sexual. When we left, I ...
A. 2 November 2013: I think at our age we know what we want. We are not afraid of expressing ourselves. In say that, I think this girl has some issues. I think you are looking for a relationship.
You sound like a nice guy. Go again with her and tell her the trut... (read in full...)
How do I deal with childlessness issues?
Q. How do I deal with childlessness issues? Especially the qustion "why haven't I had any"? I'm single and don't have any fertility issues - I've just never met a guy who wanted to get that serious with me. My chances of conceiving a child ha...
A. 2 November 2013: Why are you concerned about what others have to say? Are you happy with your current situation? Having a child is a lifetime commitment.
Have a child or children is a lot of responsibility and should not be taken lightly. I think it is impor... (read in full...)
5 years of my life stolen by a lying cheat
Q. My whole life has just fallen apart. I have been with my long term boyfriend for 5 years but things have only got really serious in the last 18 months, we have discussed marrige and he has been concidering moving in with me ...I have never met his ...
A. 28 October 2013: I'm so sorry that you were put in this position. I feel for his wife. What courage it took for both of you to have this important conversation.
I would of have the wife come to your place so when he arrived she was there for him to try and ... (read in full...)
I have 3 small children and want to leave my abusive husband but don't know how to do so!
Q. My husband (who is now 29) and I (I am now 24) met when I was 18 and he was 23. We've been together ever since. We got married 18 months after we met because I was six months pregnant. After I gave birth, my husband went from sappy, overly romantic ...
A. 27 October 2013: What you are stating is a lot of domestic abuse. Why have you not contacted your local police department for assistance. If you don't have the strength to contact local police department contact a support group, or a women's shelter. From w... (read in full...)
Affair turned bad and now I don't know how to cope and be a good mom to my kids
Q. I had an affair with a man I met in April 2010.... He lives 3000 miles away but we talked and texted every day often for hours each day... We also met for get always several times.... We both declared the other was the love of our life and hoped one ...
A. 27 October 2013: I'm not going to judge you or tell you, you are a bad person. I think you have beat yourself enough. First things first. Get some counseling. Get the help you need to get your sh*t together. Take some time for you. You must MOVE FORWARD. Y... (read in full...)
I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart.
Q. I'm expecting my ex boyfriend's child and I don't know if I should tell him and break his current girlfriend's heart. Basically, when we broke up, we made a stupid agreement to still have sex from time to time. I ended things because I got sick of ...
A. 26 October 2013: First of all your pretty early in your pregnancy to tell anyone. Go to the doctors and get a physical. Make sure you are healthy and so is the baby. Second you need to make a COMMITMENT whether you are going to keep the baby and be a single pare... (read in full...)
My husband told me he was in love with another woman
Q. I do not know where to even go with this. My husband and his step-sister sat me down and informed me that they have been in love for over 30 years and that they would be together right now except they promised her dad that they would not. My ...
A. 23 October 2013: Wow! That stings! Badly!!
At least they were "honest" for the most part. If my husband told me that he was in love with another women I'm not sure what I would do. You can't change the way they feel. You can't change the way you feel. ... (read in full...)
My ex named his daughter after me??
Q. Hi, I got a txt of my ex of over 4 years, who ismarried for two years Now, he told me he Christened his daughter after me, what does this mean? Why does he need to tell me this after all theses years? ...
A. 23 October 2013: I think that is very endearing. You should take this as a HUGE compliment. It is obvious that you had meaning in his life.
I don't think you need to get too wrapped up in this. As he has moved on and so have you. Take this as sweet jesture ... (read in full...)
It's a terrible mess, can't stay, can't leave my husband
Q. Please help. I'm a 39 year old woman, been with my husband for 11 years, one of them married. We have two beautiful children. My relationship with my husband began breaking down about three years ago. Too many details as always but essentally...
A. 22 October 2013: WOW!!!!!
All I can say is, it is a lonely life when you are trapped in a relationship that you no longer want.
Going from one relationship to another so quickly is a disaster. I'm not telling you, you don't love this other man but it is alot d... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is picking his friends over me!
Q. I'm a little hurt the guy I've been dating for the past 8 months won't pick me up from the airport. I didn't ask him to drive or pick me up. I've made other arrangements with a friend to do that. She's a good friend I've known for years and I ...
A. 22 October 2013: So HE asked you if you wanted to be picked up at the airport and you said yes. The contacts you later and said he was doing something with his friends.
That is the sentence I get from your whole info, I would be very upset. I'm not sure that I w... (read in full...)
I love him, but seem much more affectionate than he is. What can I do?
Q. I'm a very affectionate, outgoing person. I like texting people saying goodmorning and goodnight, asking people how their day is, wishing them well. I do it to close family members and my boyfriend. Because of my job, I work and live several hours ...
A. 22 October 2013: Just because you love to do this doesn't mean he does. You are dating a great guy? Right?? So you say you do this with everyone, do they also do this for you? Is your expectation the same for your friends and family. I think not.
If this is ... (read in full...)
Why do I always get let down!!!
Q. Why am I always so stupid! I started talking to a guy online in April of this year. To begin with I just took it as a bit of fun, nothing serious. As time went on I started to really like him and looked forward to his emails and spoke on the pho...
A. 22 October 2013: Why do you think you have done something wrong?
I believe this gentleman has lost interest in you. I think you need to move forward and stop waiting for something to happen with him.
Was this an exculsive relationship?
Why would you not be ... (read in full...)
Red flag or not? He has an inordinate number of 20-30 yo beautiful girls as friends on FB
Q. Is this a red flag or nothing at all? I found a college friend on Facebook. He's 57 and I'm 52. Looks as if by his profile he's a nice normal guy. Loves animals. Not a million pictures of himself. Nor a million 'friends'. Posts insight...
A. 22 October 2013: I think you are seeing this more than it is. FB is just another silly connection to people you really don't know. Maybe he is one of those guys that friends everyone. I don't do that. But I guys AND GIRLS who do. Even if he is looking at the ... (read in full...)
How do I organize a nice evening at home?
Q. Hi, I have met 2 females whose company I really enjoy. One, we have agrees to remain friends and have started sharing many secrets with eachother, the other I am very interested in. Now both have started coming over my house to hang out but both...
A. 22 October 2013: I have a social group called "the Survivor's Club". There are seven of us....I'm the only female. These guys are great!! I love them more than their wives! We attend one of the guys house every second Tuesday of the month for dinner. We each ... (read in full...)
He has lost all faith in me after I snooped, how can I put things right?
Q. I have been in a lovely relationship with a guy in his 40s. His wife left 3 years ago after they mutually separated after 20 years due to growing apart. She came home pregnant and moved out shortly after with her new partner. My boyfriend has a ...
A. 22 October 2013: I do sort of feel for you.....but you have to remember they had a relationship that last 20 years. She left him for another man and is having his second child. They have a 20 year old son together. The are forever bonded. I would rather be with ... (read in full...)
My ex told me she still loves me.... What do I do?
Q. Hey Everyone! So this morning I was totally blown away. I wrote on here a few days ago about how I just couldn't get over my ex. She is everything to me. I've tried everything to get over her. I've kept myself busy, gym, work, even dated othe...
A. 21 October 2013: Don't contact her. She is messing with your head. Don't start this again. You deserve better. It will come.
Good Luck!... (read in full...)
My husband just left me for a younger woman
Q. i am feeling like a total fool. i was informed last night that my husband of 23 years wants a divorce, he has a baby by a girl that is 24 years old and she is expecting another one by him again... yes you read this right the baby she just had is 4 ...
A. 19 October 2013: I'm not going on about the rights and wrongs of what happened to you. I'm sorry it did and he is a jerk.
You need to get a lawyer. You need to get counselling. You need to get family and friends support to help you through this. Please d... (read in full...)
Our connection was so amazing that I can't get her out of my mind
Q. Don't really know how to start this? I'm almost 34. I've had a few relationships. Some good, some not so good. Then awhile back I met this girl. We come from different worlds. She's had a really good upbringing. I haven't. Not that ...
A. 19 October 2013: One more thing....do yourself a favour. Don't contact her. When you take one step forward contacting her makes you take two steps back!... (read in full...)
Our connection was so amazing that I can't get her out of my mind
Q. Don't really know how to start this? I'm almost 34. I've had a few relationships. Some good, some not so good. Then awhile back I met this girl. We come from different worlds. She's had a really good upbringing. I haven't. Not that ...
A. 19 October 2013: I was in a relationship with a fello that took my breath away. I loved everything about him. We could talk for hours, we could sit together and say nothing. It just felt so right. I don't believe in soulmates but I did with him.
It has been... (read in full...)
Got the MM and it hasn't exactly been "happily ever after"
Q. this is very long winded so anybody who has the patience to read and answer...thankyou in advance! 5 years ago i started an affair with a married man. at first it was just fun then it got deeper and everybody started getting hurt. eventually...
A. 19 October 2013: All I have to say is. What about your child? He is seeing all this crap. He is living in a very unhealthy enviroment. He out of all people does not deserve this.
Get assistance and or professional help to help you deal with your insecuri... (read in full...)
In love with my married best friend, should I leave?
Q. Hi I am in a bit of a pickle. To be brief, I fell in love with my best friend. He is a married man with two children, he is in love with me too and we had an emotional affair. Nothing physical has happened between us. We are just agreeing to be b...
A. 18 October 2013: I'm not going to tell you what you did wrong. I think you already know what you are doing is wrong.
You need to end your friendship with you male best friend. Sorry, but this is not going to get better for you. You are hurting yourself... (read in full...)
I can't help thinking I'm doing exactly what I should not be
Q. I dated a man on and off for a year, all while he was still living with his ex-girlfriend for financial reasons. I was not comfortable or OK with that situation so, even though we became very close, we stopped seeing one another and he got back ...
A. 18 October 2013: I think you need to seriously think about what you are doing. He is still living with his girlfriend. Until that changes you should NOt have any CONTACT.
We all do things we are not proud of....but we learn to not do it again. You are goin... (read in full...)
He's too busy! Should I be patient or let him go?
Q. I feel stuck. I've been dating a man for the past 5 months. He's divorced and has four kids that hes a primary caregiver for. He also has a demanding job. My issue is because he is so busy I barely hear from him much less see him. We have texted a ...
A. 10 October 2013: That is a tough question. He sounds like a great dad, hard working guy with a good job. If I was in his position I wouldn't think of a relationship. It sounds too busy. I have two kids and I don't have a lot of time for myself. You sound... (read in full...)
Dazed and confused ...girlfriend versus ex wife and children.
Q. I am not sure what to do... My girlfriend have been fighting a lot lately. I have an ex-wife and 2 children with her, we communicate on a semi-regular basis (my ex wife) about the kids, their grades, behavior or events. Sometime we have small ta...
A. 7 October 2013: Just because you and your ex wife are no longer together doesn't mean you can't be friends. I totally agree with you. You will see you ex in the future for a lot of things. Your daughters graduation, competitions, weddings, birth of your ... (read in full...)
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