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*epers1995
writes:i was involved with a married woman to make a long story short she was a few years older and ive come to relise she used me in the 6 months we were together we broke up in april and i was a wreck shatterd you could say but me being me wanting her in my life still she gave me a choice casul friends or nothing we tried but she acused me for her guilt it was my fault she felt this way so i apoligized for things i never did and i was in a dark hole she said she always love me but she diddnt mean it i guess she said she cant do it saying being friends isnt doable all i did was text a few times a week and maybe a phone call once in awhile but she said im crazy im a stalker this situation put me in a very dark place i even considerd suicide at one point and was put into therapy for depression and severe anger 10 weeks since therapy and contact with her i decide to get on fb i see pics of her and her husband on a road trip "il love you forever" the caption said i thought i was over i but seeing that made my heart sink im ok i guess but hurt enough to think about it everyday im afraid becouse she was my first love and the only woman to treat me with love but im afraid becouse i think il ever love again i guess my question is how long will i care how long will it take to heal and will i always feel like this
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2013): Hey, I know how you feel, it's been a year for me, I thought I did every thing right, I have to say for the first time I did, but hey if you really loved her it will take a long time, you are young, so you will go through, this again an again. It will all ways hurt , an it seems it doesn't hurt them a bit, an it doesn't, some people are just cold hearted.You know bud one day in the future you will see her, an say to your self, why did I ever boo hood over her, I know your heart is crying, at lease you can say to your self, at lease I was truthful with her, she only used you then put you out like the trash, one day you will smile again, I promise you that, it will just take a long time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 June 2013):
 first thing you must do is delete her phone number, delete her email and block her social media accounts.
you must go totally completely 100% NO contact.
she did not treat you with love
she used you
the first thing you should do is realize that she used you for her own purposes and it was not love for her.
it will drag out over and over if you stalk her or think you will get closure or have contact.
go no contact and get out there and have a life without her and it will fade into the past sooner rather than later.
but you have to let it fade by getting on with your life.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (24 June 2013):
Hey Friend. I was there with you......I lost my love a little over a year ago. I was paralyzed with my thoughts, loneliness. He was all I thought about. To this day I miss him dearly. I still have tough moments but I handle it much better
You need to delete all contact with this person. You need to love and respect yourself enough to live a happy meaningful life. No person is worth taking your own life. You deserve so much more. You have a lot of life ahead of you. Get involved with school, your job, go to the gym, hang out with your friends.
You are a wonderful young man. It was not meant to be. Give your love to someone you wants it, needs it and deserves it. Rise to the challenge. I know you can do this!
Good luck!!
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