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He always wants sex

Q.   Okay, so my boyfriend won't stop trying to have sex, we can never stay in a just watch a dvd, he always trys it on, and I tell him no but he will carry on until he gets it, should I say something? Thanks ...

A.   6 May 2014: This is not a healthy relationship. If your boyfriend loves and respects you he would listen to NO. You also need to be more accretive. It sounds like he doesn't care about you as a person but more as a sex toy. Respect yourself and tell him... (read in full...)

I feel like it's tarnished the beginning of our relationship and don't know if I can get past that.

Q.   I started seeing a guy 5 months ago. At the beginning we weren't serious and he took some time out when he had a few problems with his daughter. Things are now good between us but the trouble is I have suspicions he slept with 1, maybe 2 people when ...

A.   6 May 2014: I hate to sound like a bit*$! but you need to get over it! It is none of your business who he slept with in his past.....key word PAST. You were not together and he was living his life. If you are concerned about STD's then ask him that. ... (read in full...)

Is the lack of trust in this relationship fatal?

Q.   I have been with the same man for three years...but before i met him i was married for 8 years to someone else. The man i was married to cheated and lied to me multiple times. It took me a long time to trust the man im currently with because of my ...

A.   6 May 2014: Until both of you leave the past in the past you will never move forward. You and your man will never have a healthy relationship. Get the counselling your need to help resolve these feelings. I would be doing some sessions together and separate... (read in full...)

My husband is having an affair. Am I stupid for staying with him?

Q.   I discovered when I was 8 months pregnant that my husband of 10 years was cheating on me. I confronted him and his lover in a text message and was assured by both that it would not continue. I had several times where I caught him texting her but her ...

A.   26 April 2014: Let him go.....he is already gone. If he is treating you poorly I don't see it getting any better. As hard as it is you (and your kids) deserve better. He is never going to stop his cheating ways. He will always be on the hunt for the next ... (read in full...)

I just can't get over my ex co-worker.

Q.   So I have been totally ruined my life because of this situation. I love my boss a lot. I am a woman too, I was not gay in my whole of my life. When I saw her first time she attracted me, I didn't feel like that for any of other girl. I was thin...

A.   26 April 2014: You need professional help. You need to go and speak with a counsellor. Your behaviour is unhealthy. You are obsessing over someone that does not want any contact from you but you still persist. She has stated it clearly over and over that you ... (read in full...)

My wife wants a separation. How can make her love me again?

Q.   Been married for 28 years - have two teenage children. My wife has said she has no feelings for me any longer and wants to separate. I am so hurt and upset. She has admitted the separation is purely selfish on her part but does not want to thin...

A.   26 April 2014: So sorry to hear this Tom. You can't make someone love you.....but you can be her friend. Give her the time and space she needs. She just may come back. Good Luck... (read in full...)

Is there one person you've never got over?

Q.   Is there one person you've never got over? When I was in my early 20s I had a brief (2 year) relationship with a man. He was the first man to ever treat me properly and he was the perfect gentleman - for the first 18 months at least! The last ...

A.   17 April 2014: I had a love of my life and I can't get over him. But I realize that now. I don't go anywhere where I might see him. I don't want to get those feelings again. It took me a long time to get over him and am able to cope with the loss. I al... (read in full...)

Isn't it better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all?

Q.   I met this girl while I was traveling in Thailand where I ended up saving her life, 3 months later she leaves Canada and comes to Australia for a year working/traveling. Everything was going great for the first few days then when we talking about...

A.   21 March 2014: She is not interested in you.....move on! Her lame ass excuses are brutal. If she did care she would do anything to make you apart of her life.... (read in full...)

I'm virtually going to be homeless and this man has hurt me more than I can say! I'm so lost and afraid, how do I cope?

Q.   Hi everyone, would love some advice as this issue has gotten to bad its tearing me apart. A few months ago I was a single mum with a one year old. Then a friend ive known for years came into the picture and long story short we moved in with him. I g...

A.   21 March 2014: You have made a mistake. You need to take care of you and your son. The only person that owes anything to you is YOU. This is hard and I get it. If he is not taking any interest in you or your son. You are wasting your time. Move on. Don... (read in full...)

Is having an ex help out wrong?

Q.   Hi. I started dating a divorced guy with kids three years after breaking up with alongterm partner (no kids myself). We lived together for a year but then he moved for work, we see each other once a month. As it happens this move for work put him in ...

A.   26 January 2014: No I don't think you are wrong with asking your ex for a helping help. I also wouldn't have a problem with my boyfriend helping out his ex. It would be important that my kids see me and their dad getting along. But for him to tell you, tha... (read in full...)

FWB embarrassed by ED

Q.   I have a friend with benefits and he have only met 5 times in the past 4 months, even though we see each other at work everyday, text and call regularly. There were times when he was avoiding me and acted as if he didn't want to have any contact ...

A.   26 January 2014: Don't waste your time. This is an issue for him to deal with not you. This is a guy with "benefits". What benefit are you getting? Look for someone that wants to spend time with you. Be friendly for work purposes. But move on. Good Lu... (read in full...)

Am I wrong to be curious about what sex is like with other men?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a year. It's my first serious relationship. He's 40. I'm 23. We get along well. Sex is good most of the time. He makes me laugh, he's kind, listens and really cares about me. The thing is lately I've been thinki...

A.   25 January 2014: You boyfriend sounds like a great guy. He just not that guy for you. You don't have to be mean with him but he deserves someone who is going to love him and make a commitment. You are too young to be in a serious relationship. If I was a fr... (read in full...)

I have a problem dealing with my girlfriend having had a lesbian relationship in the past!

Q.   Hello there. I'm 31 years old and I have a girlfriend for almost 2 years now. She's really special and she's the kind of person that I want to spend the rest of my time with. When we were talking about her past (like almost a year ago) she t...

A.   23 January 2014: Really this comes down to choices.....you need to make a choice of choosing to let it go or let this idea of your girlfriends past....key word PAST....consume you and take over what you think happened. Maybe you need to have an open conversa... (read in full...)

How do I reconnect with I girl I haven't spoken to in over a year?

Q.   Hello, About 4 years ago I started dating this girl and we were in a relationship until this November, when we broke up. We left in good terms and I still talk to her occasionally. At the beginning of our relationship she introduced me t...

A.   13 January 2014: You are single and so is she. Ask her out for a coffee. Keep the date simple. Of course your ex will be jealous....not hurt. You guys broke up for a reason. The gal you are interested in, she will make the decision whether she wants to cross... (read in full...)

Stumbled across a message of my fiance questioning whether or not she should marry me!

Q.   Hello agony aunts! I need some help with my fiancé and our upcoming marriage. This morning when I was getting ready or work I noticed her phone light up because she received a message I glanced at it and saw that it was her close friend who had ...

A.   13 January 2014: I think you are over thinking this. We all get wedding jitters. We are think are we making the right decisions. I think it is good that she is talking about it with her girlfriend. She may just need to voice her thoughts. You have to also ... (read in full...)

Is it possible that after all this time the doctor still likes me and wants to see me or is it purely professional?

Q.   Hi All, I apologise if this is long, I am a 35 year old woman and 1 year ago I had a few issues with a dislocated finger that needed operating on, I was referred to a surgeon and instantly I could see he was attracted (staring at me (eyes) or while ...

A.   8 January 2014: I'm going to say he is not interested. You were not his patient any longer when you asked him out. He ignored your request and didn't respond. The doctor is seeing you out of his profession. It's not a date. Move on.....get over ... (read in full...)

He suffers from depression and is overwhelmed, is it normal to withdraw completely?

Q.   I posted a question yesterday about the man I am dating and him wanting space. It seems that either my question was pushed off the board too fast or know one feels the need to help? This is my first time to a forum like this and I was hoping for ...

A.   8 January 2014: Depression like any other emotion is really different to different people. When I'm feeling down I don't anyone around me either but in staying that, it doesn't last long. How you thought of getting in touch with a social services to understand ... (read in full...)

What would you consider cheating?

Q.   I have a question for everyone. Would do you consider as cheating? I am divorced and single and have started dating again. I am talking to a new guy mostly texting and he is very interested in me but is uneasy about me talking to other guys he consi...

A.   7 January 2014: You are not cheating! I would suspect that this guy is controlling. You are not in a committed relationship with anyone. Even if you were just talking to someone doesn't mean your cheating.... (read in full...)

I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!

Q.   I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...

A.   7 January 2014: It sounds like you don't trust her in what she is doing and tell you. It is clear your communication has broken down. Have you considered counselling? Relationships are hard. I feel for you. I feel you are really trying to reach out to her a... (read in full...)

I'm going for a physical and am a little embarrassed that doctor will see I am bald "down there"!!

Q.   I'm a 41 year old male. I have a Dr. appointment coming up in a few weeks for a full physical (haven't had one of those in quite awhile). I've been doing a full pubic hair shave for the last couple of months. I'm feeling a bit embarrassed that my ...

A.   5 January 2014: My girlfriend's father in law is a doctor. One night we were sitting around discussing work....my girlfriend works in a spa. Her father in law stated that is hasn't seen so many featherless birds (females) and a clean deck for viewing (males). ... (read in full...)

He has been sleeping with my best friend but wants another chance!

Q.   My boyfriend who is18 slept with my best friend during our entire one year relationship . He says that he is sorry and doesn't know why he did it bit wants me to give him another chance...

A.   5 January 2014: These are great lessons to learn early on. Both of them are not trustworthy to have in your life. Move on, look Great! and enjoy a new happier life without them. You deserve it! ... (read in full...)

My husband left me for my best friend. How is this all going to work out for us?

Q.   OK, so here's my situation... it's a bit long, but still. My husband left me for my best friend the day after Boxing Day, and I found out because there was a photo of her in a bikini and him topless cuddling up to her in the snow in her garden saved ...

A.   5 January 2014: Has your husband told you that he is leaving? Did he tell you who he is with? Have you talked to your best friend? Have you heard from her? What about her husband? You need to seek legal advice. A lawyer is the best person to get the ball rol... (read in full...)

I love a woman who is 8 years older than me but I don't know if I want to marry her and she's pushing for it

Q.   Hello. I am a 39 year old man from Ireland. 4 years ago I started seeing a single mum who has three kids. The lady is 8 years older than me and had just come out of a bad relationship. Things were fine in the beginning and we managed to open up to...

A.   4 January 2014: Wow! Thank God for those miscarriages. You have no idea what you want. And that's ok....but in fairness to this lady you need to let her go. If she is not ALL you want then why are you wasting her (and your) time. She is trying to have a b... (read in full...)

I'm excited and proud to be married, he hasn't told anyone

Q.   I just got married after dating for 5 years. Due to having minor kids my divorce decree said I couldn't cohabit with anyone. My new husband understood that and supported me in getting married. It was a lovely short ceremony at his (now our) home ...

A.   4 January 2014: I find it a bit odd that he hasn't told anyone BUT maybe his sisters do not have a close relationship. If I were to get married my whole family minus my 2 sisters would be invited. I'm not close to my 2 sisters but have a very close relationship ... (read in full...)

I been burned being the nice guy again!

Q.   Hi, just wondering ladies, what you think this means, been seeing some one for about two months, I thought every thing was going great, went out on her birthday, had a great time, then two days later had surgery on my leg, didn't hear from her for ...

A.   3 January 2014: Don't waste your time on this gal. She has wasted enough of your time. She has issues that she hasn't dealt with. To not contact a person who you care for, a friend, or partner after having surgery tells me she really doesn't care for you. Find ... (read in full...)

She wont say she loves me!

Q.   Hello, ive been with my girl friend for years, we have broken up before, after 7 years, cause she never said she loved me, we got back together, she said it once, now a year an half later still doesn't say it, we get along real good, I say it once ...

A.   3 January 2014: You are upset because your girlfriend doesn't say she loves you? Yet, you have a really good relationship. You need to tell her that it is important to you to hear those little words "I love you" from her. Ask her what her issue is. Maybe so... (read in full...)

I shouldn't have asked to see pictures of my boyfriend's ex

Q.   Why am I so angry at him? Is not his fault is it? So I asked my boyfriend about his ex and he told me everything about her and he asked if I wanted to see a picture of her and I said yeah sure but I bet she's not prettier than me and he said...

A.   2 January 2014: Get over it! You are his girlfriend not her....you are the one in control of who you are, what you look like and more importantly your attitude. Stop looking at her. Good Luck!... (read in full...)

Husband said he was just looking for friends, but I'm suspicious

Q.   A little background of my situation. I have been married for almost 6 years. After about a year of happy marriage I found my husband talking with and exchanging nude pictures online. I confronted him and he apologized and promised it would never ...

A.   2 January 2014: Your husband clearly does not love you.....He is gay and is in the wrong relationship. You need to collect yourself and make a move. He clearly is using you and has been for years in a world of husband and wife when he clearly is not interested. ... (read in full...)

Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!

Q.   Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...

A.   2 January 2014: Are you desperate? I'm female and I would no more expect my male partner to pay all the time! That is not a equal relationship. Who are you dating? The princess of Canada? It comes down to two choices.....your CHOICE....you keep payin... (read in full...)

Cheater Cheater!!!

Q.   My husband bought another woman clothing and jewelry for Christmas I found the receipt in his truck, I know he will deny it, should I ask him about it or leave it alone? ...

A.   2 January 2014: Before you get the idea he is cheating....do you know for a fact he didn't buy the clothes for his sister, mother, niece or female cousin. I would be doing a little investigating to find out more information. Good Luck to you!... (read in full...)

Was I being manipulated?

Q.   Hi, I just want to ask for some ideas about something that happened last year. It was one of the most shameful episodes of my life but am haunted by a question about it. I was really depressed over 'unrequited feelings'to do with a guy and ended ...

A.   1 January 2014: Happy NEW YEAR. We all make mistakes in our past. That is why it is called our past. We learn, we grow. We learn some hard lesson that we will not repeat (hopefully) again. No matter what age we are at we want to be loved, liked, wanted, ... (read in full...)

Does it sound like she feels more secure in long-distance relationships?

Q.   I'm 51 she is 55. The other day, sitting on her couch Very close together side by side. I looked at her and told her for the first time I loved her. Without looking at me, looking forward she said I know.... I asked if she loved me... She turn ...

A.   27 December 2013: Sorry to say this but you need to realize that she does not love you......she likes you ALOT. Big difference. You need to make 2014 yours. You need to let her go and find someone who is going to love you and want you. Huge difference than lik... (read in full...)

I want to be proactive about ending this relationship, but how?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend 18 months. He has let me down over money, flirting and not taking enough responsibility. He is not a bad person but I met him when I was at a low point after divorce and we dont have much in common. I feel I have put a ...

A.   25 December 2013: Everyone hurts in a break up. You need to tell him the truth. Then cut off all contact with him. He doesn't need to be reminded of you with conversation, email, text, I think you get my point. Breaking up is never easy to do.....Good Luck!... (read in full...)

He left when they were babies, and now wants to be "dad"!

Q.   I live in (MOD NOTE: City was deleted for privacy) Florida and have 3 daughters; twins [non-identical] aged 23 and a 19-year-old daughter who is their half-sister born to my husband (the twins' stepdad). The twins were born in 1989, and the father ...

A.   24 December 2013: Your daughters our 23....it means they are adults. They deserve the right to know. I'm actually in the same place as you. Only my daughter is 4. She hasn't seen her biological dad in about a year and a half. She doesn't ask about him or say a ... (read in full...)

My husband has told me he is gay!

Q.   Last night my husband admitted to me he was gay. He said he didn't want to have these feelings and won't follow up on them, he wants to stay married to me and have sex with me. He said he does like women, but only certain select women, has never had ...

A.   24 December 2013: Ok I'm confused.....he tells you he is gay but he isn't really??!?? I think your husband is telling what he is buidling for his future. You can't change who you are. I think you need to get some serious help. He needs counselling to f... (read in full...)

I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!

Q.   I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...

A.   24 December 2013: I'm glad you had that conversation. She gave you an answer. You may not believe her but it may also be the truth. She is telling you that she wants you, she wants a physical relationship. It is now up to you. You have to make a decision. What ... (read in full...)

His ex wife wants him back!

Q.   Well hello I really need some help... I been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and he has two kids with his ex wife... Things have been great with us and he has been there for me through everything... I love his children too... The day w...

A.   22 December 2013: I'm sorry to say this but I would ask him to leave now. He told you a date that he is leaving. Tell him he has wasted your time long enough and you don't want to waste your time anymore. Respect yourself and love yourself enough to not be treated ... (read in full...)

I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!

Q.   I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...

A.   21 December 2013: Did something happen for her that changed? Like a trauma of some sort? I think you are a sweet man who doesn't want to see the possiblility of this being an affair. You need to sit with your wife and lay out the facts with her. Tell her you ... (read in full...)

Would you romantically date a co worker even if it was against employer policy?

Q.   I work at a school where most of the teachers are female and many are single. As a single male I'm attracted to a few of them but I never show interest or do or say anything to alert them to my interest. 1 of these teachers has invited me to her h...

A.   20 December 2013: I dated a co worker once. It was a 3 year relationship. When he broke up with me it broke my heart. I had to see him at work and at times work with him. It was torture. In saying that, It was one of my best relationships. It has been two ... (read in full...)

I can't help feeling something happened, but she says it didn't!

Q.   I have been married for a little over 6 years. We have had our share of problems but nothing major then about 2 years ago we just stopped having sex . My wife claimed that she just wasn't in the mood, this went on for about a year and a half. I was ...

A.   20 December 2013: You haven't had sex with your wife in 2 years? That tells me there alone something is going on. Where is she getting her "fix"? Where you active before this? It is hard to tell you that she is sleeping with this guy as I would need more of ... (read in full...)

He wants to go "no contact" after our breakup but the pain is unbearable for me

Q.   hello, I need some advise. I am in the in the mids of breaking up with my bf with whom I am with for 4 years. Is there anyone there who could help me lessen the pain a bit? I have read everywhere that the no contact rule should be applied but I do...

A.   16 December 2013: God I know the pain. The no contact rule is the best rule to move on. I haven't seen the guy I truly love in almost 2 years. I still miss and hunger for him. At the begining I was paralized with my heart ache. To this day I could not trust ... (read in full...)

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