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writes:Hi,I'm dating this guy for 2 months now..I'm going to visit his city next week,and I'l be staying in a hotel and I think he would stay with me..but I don't know if we should stay together!obviously we wouldn't have sex its way too soon BUT should I tell him he should go at night or let him stay in the room and do fun things like watch a movie etc? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 July 2013):
 an invitation by a woman to a man to stay in a hotel room ALONE with her... REEKS of a sexual invitation.
do not ask him unless you are ready to consummate the relationship sexually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2013): iAmHereToHelpYou has it right, for the majority of guys. I don't know you and your man. There are some couples/cultures where it is implied that sex would NOT result from such a liberty as sharing a motel room...If you don't want to have sex with him yet, I would say that you would love to cuddle/spend the night with him, but specify that you aren't ready for sex. If he's a respectful man, you may mack out a bit, but he won't push the sex issue. If he does...welp, out he goes!My own sweet man handled this situation really well...the night he asked me to be exclusive, we were making out until 3 AM on his bed and he asked me to stay...even loaned me a pair of his PJs and a toothbrush, and just cuddled me all night long. It was divine, and no sexytimes had to happen just yet. Sleepovers with your S/O that you haven't "gone there" with can be super fun :) It's all so new, and titillating, and delicious! I would try to stay in the room with him unless you have serious misgivings...that's part of the fun of being in the same city. Whyever not?
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (4 July 2013):
You are seriously asking this question. You are mature enough to know where this is going to lead to.
Did you have a conversation with him telling him you are not ready to have sex? Did you tell him what your expectations are? Did he tell you what his expectations are?
Maybe have this conversation so you are better prepared for that weekend.
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