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Should we go seek counseling or it just makes no sense ? I found out he was cheating while I was pregnant

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Question - (10 July 2013) 3 Answers - (Newest, 14 July 2013)
A female Trinidad and Tobago age 36-40, anonymous writes:

how to deal with this situation ...had a baby for the man that i love dearly on October 1st of last year we were going through alot of problems which i had already made up my mind to deal with whatever problems we may encounter during our life together .

now to me a new chapter in our life had opened we had a big responsibility our first child together so we had to make certain adjustments for her in terms of making the right decisions.At the end of it all we had to be mature about everything because she would be looking up to us WE HAD BE READY FOR parenthood.

now i had a problem with him and adjustments plus during my pregnancy i needed him the most for comfort, financially, morally emotionally i just was so depressed and stressed during and a little while after pregnancy and i found that he was not there for me at all.

so earlier this year he started to work with his previous employer i didn't mind at all because we had our Daughter to to see about to i have to sacrifice but instead he was not coming to see us at all i use to be crying because i missed him to only find out that he was having sex with one of his co workers who is also pregnant but he claims that the child is not his really? who will do such a devilish act of having sex with someone else's pregnant girlfriend i totally don't believe him nevertheless i sort of moved on myself but it don't feel right i feel like am in a place where am not suppose to be the guy is really loving and what not but i believe i the should be with my daughter's bring her up in a family oriented environment something that i never had should we seek counseling?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2013):

thanks for the advice it was really helpful it open my mind about the situation but am yet to make my decision will think long hard

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A female reader, Brokenv Canada +, writes (12 July 2013):

The comment you stated "the child is not his really" is suspicious. He should of stated "this baby is NOT mine!" End of story.

I think you need to get counseling. That is a huge commitment and to prolong the agony of being with someone who you think is lying to you. You need to be honest with yourself, you know he is lying.

Lean on family or friends to get you through this. Make some healthy plans and choices.

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A male reader, DV1 United States +, writes (11 July 2013):

DV1 agony auntHe cheated, and is probably lying about a lot more than that. Just sayin'.

Time to dump his ass.

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