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writes:Hi everyone. This is really embaressing. My guy wants me to deep throat him but he's too big! I literally just choke and have to stop and go back to just normal oral. Will the gagging go away with practise or is he doomed to never be satisfied?
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reader, happy140  +, writes (22 July 2012):
 Men are very visual. The thing about deep throat (how lucky I am to have my wife!!) is seeing your woman take your entire cock. If its watching you gag ( I have NEVER-EVER NEVER had a male friend tell me that thats what they like about deep throating, watching their woman vomit and gag while going down on them--maybe some small population of men like that but Iv'e never met one) Its not just the fact it’s a blowjob its the work and talent you know she put in to be able to do it. You can try some ambursol (tooth pain medication, over the counter and swallow it after gargling slightly with it-numbs the back of the throat) as it works well. It is great visual stimulation. No we don’t need it but we don’t need orgasm’s ether, we just like and want them. Like the previous poster said use the hand trick. Using your hand you can leave a few inches or less and using your hand to cover them up while your tongue is doing something to distraught him from realizing what your doing. As for porn these woman have been practicing for a long time an know some secrets we don’t. Unless he has your head in a vise and refuses to let go he is not forcing you to do anything. Your choosing to do it. If he is making you feel uncomfortable that’s another thing, don’t let him do that! Let him know how hard it is and how you really want to do it for his pleasure but he needs to help you by being understanding. We are not all dicks, we just have one and can be talked to. You by stroking his ego have all the power. Honey your just so big and thick, I want too, I want to practice, Saying things that stroke his penis ego go along way, I’m not saying lie to him by any means. Anything you say about his size would be the truth as it is too big for you to do that be his size 1 inch or a foot. Yes in time things get easier.
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reader, x.BrokenxHearts.x +, writes (16 July 2012):
 I have only just mastered deep throat, it takes time and practice hun but before that I just took him my mouth as far as I could and used my hand for the rest as he is big! But you just need to relax your throat thats all and the gag reflex will eventually stop just ask him not to push your head down or anything!
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (16 July 2012):
 If it's uncomfortable then he doesn't have the right to make you do it. You can 'train' your gag reflex over time e.g. with a banana by gradually inserting it a little further every time, if you choose to, but he can't make you if you don't. It's up to you whether you want to practice for him or not. If he's a good deserving boyfriend then it might be a nice treat, but there shouldn't be any pressure =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2012): I'm going to start by pointing out that the three "two much porn" statements came from women, who can't actually say for certain whether or not there is a pleasurable difference between deepthroat and other actions during oral sex. I first had deepthroat many years ago from my first high school girlfriend. This was well before I had started watching any porn! I just thought it was normal and realized later it was special when my next girlfriend couldn't do it.Deepthroat can be very stimulating, and it is something I rather enjoy. I've had girls who can do it and others who can't. And when a girl can do it, it's wonderful! To me it's the best feeling during oral, and I'm figuring your boyfriend feels the same as me.But... I never expect a girl to be able to do it. A girl's inability to perform deepthroat has never been an issue. Yes, I would like it, but as DoubleM stated: the most important parts are enthusiasm, effort, and of course: attraction. I'm sure your boyfriend will enjoy any oral sex you give him as long as you're trying. And if you want to learn to deepthroat, good for you! Your boyfriend would probably be very happy. But he will not, as you say, "never be satisfied" if you can't do it.Just do what you're comfortable with. If it's too difficult and makes you feel very uncomfortable, don't sweat it. If it's something you want to try, then go for it. But in the end, a good boyfriend will respect you either way.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 July 2012):
 While I must assert that a couple of deep plunges during a blow job are very stimulating, I'll agree that good oral does not require deep-throating. I won't estimate how many great blow jobs I've experienced in my lifetime, dating back to the late 1960s, but very few involved deep-throating. What has always mattered to me, as a man, is a willing attitude, enthusiasm, energy and above all, no stopping during the climax.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 July 2012):
 I third the too much porn thing. Deep throating is not necessary and the vast majority of women choke or gag on it (I thought that was the point of it most of the time).
You are under no obligation to hurt yourself to get him off, where is his empathy that he could even THINK of asking you to?
Use your hands and just put the top in your mouth. If that's not enough for him, then just stop doing it.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 July 2012):
 I agree with HoneyPie...your guy is watching too much porn. There is no need to deep throat it to pleasure him except for the fact that he has that visual image in his head and thinks that is what you should do. Don't try to stuff it down your throat and gag on it. I am sure gagging is part of the allure he has for it, but there is no need to put you through that. You can always have him read these responses to help you out.
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reader, IamJess +, writes (15 July 2012):
 Not everyone can actually do that, and if its that big he's kind of asking for you to do something that needs to be tried out and practised it won't just happen.
Do what you feel comfortable with, you can satisfy him with other things, you don't need to deep throat him.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 July 2012):
 Your guy has been watching too many porn. He doesn't really need to DEEP throat you to be satisfied. He just WANTS it.
Use your hand as well as your mouth and there is not much need to try and stuff it down your throat, but yes the more you practice the more used to it you would get.
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